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LogicaL Chaos
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Would you ever get married? (Poll)
#28321339 - 05/16/23 03:26 AM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28321487 - 05/16/23 06:16 AM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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Marriage as we know it is largely a Christian ceremony. The US is over 60% Christian. I wouldn't say all Christian marriages are successful but at the same time if over 60% is Christian, and just over 40% of all marriages fail, assuming an even distribution of marriage you only slightly overlap in to the Christian population.
Divorce rate statistics are also skewed by those who have multiple divorces(although a small sample size I'm sure). It's kind of like that person who seems to "get dates" but can't hold anyone down yet they somehow think their advice on dating is worth more than dog shit. That's the kind of person that statistically and in conversation skews marriage.
IMHO, no real marriage fails. The only kind of situation where a marriage ends justifiably(before God) is like if their kid dies and they're both too fucked in the head after to be around people. The entire idea behind marriage is commitment and if divorce is on the table at all then it was never a real marriage.
All that being said, I've never wanted to get married. One, because in Canada under the law if you've been residing with someone for long enough you are considered a common-law partner and it's nearly identical to marriage aside from maybe emergency and end of life things. So I've never seen much of an appeal. I've also never considered myself Christian. To me, how could I do something so Christian and not prostrate before not just that God but that religious expression? I've never been baptized. These things mean something to me. But, I've warmed to the idea. Not for any reason but because I like calling my woman my wife and I know it would make her happy. I've already made my commitment to her before God in my own way(I'd be polytheist at best) so the whole thing means nothing to me aside from wanting her to take my name, which she wants as well because both our kids have my name on account if this being planned out long in advance.
The only other thing I'd add is that the quality of woman has diminished with time. Apparently the world wants the butch woman but there's an issue with being a man? Millions and millions of alpha "boss bitches" out there these days, and most divorces are initiated by women. Hmm. Perhaps the legal system is skewed in a way that unfairly incentivizes some people to go through the process. And what we know about how manipulative the government is.. lmao. Ah, oh well. I know this will go over heads. Commitment bad.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28321752 - 05/16/23 09:51 AM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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https://youtu.be/ALZQu9x96Jg
This sums it up pretty well.
The data from a Shroomery poll is likely going to be skewed and not normative as the Shroomery is full of people who are likely 2 standard deviations away from the "normal" citizen. I suspect more people are going to not want to get married in this forum than the average.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28321769 - 05/16/23 10:07 AM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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I loved being married... until I didn't. And I completely view marriage differently now. I dont think we belong to anyone. BUT I still romanticize the idea of spending my life with someone and being in love. I am conflicted. I am not even sure if I believe in monogamy anymore. But on the other side.. I also know I could be faithful to someone if I was sexually satisfied in the marriage. I am all over the place.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2] 2
#28321802 - 05/16/23 10:32 AM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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Only if there are significant financial benefits, but that is unlikely.
Only real purpose of marriage that I see is for certain "Family" tax breaks, or for getting citizenship or whatever. Unfortunately, those are normally designed for extremely unequal marriages, like those popularized in Americana, with a husband that brings home the pay and a wife that sits at home.
For the majority of poorer and non-white households, the wife worked too, and was taxed appropriately. Marriage laws were not meant to upset this stream of tax revenue.
I'm not really trying to be in that unequal marriage, though. I think it's a bit weird. I'd rather be in a relationship with a person, not someone that the local youth pastor has been grooming for the role since age 10.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] 1
#28322008 - 05/16/23 01:38 PM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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Marriage can be good. But having done it I see no need to do it again. Though it wouldnt be a deal breaker if I met someone who really wanted to and she was worth it.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#28322050 - 05/16/23 02:28 PM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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What does STAL mean?
I really like that video Roflspammer posted. Good stuff there.
Never been married, and chances are increasing each year that I will never be married. I don't want kids nor do i want to be a stepfather which really hinders my chances too. I deeply want to be married, to love and be loved, but it's been 5 years since i've even touched a woman. Pretty close to literally; i've kissed two women one of whom was my last ex, sex twice both times with the ex, and attempted sex with another but we were too drunk and coked up to really function. Part of the extended time alone was (similar to an idea in the video) due to me wanting to better myself so i was more ready/worthy of being marriage material. But i have long since accepted that i may never be married or even grow old with someone and that sucks. Regardless i'm going to make the most of my life while i'm here, and have fun and work hard and be the best person i can to those around me.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28322125 - 05/16/23 03:32 PM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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Am married, have been for some time, but the meaning of "marriage" to us is mutable day to day. Because fuck everybody else's definitions and expectations of marriage, our union is our business to conduct as we see fit. Divorce isn't failure of marriage IMHO, that's like saying death is a failure of life.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: stubb] 1
#28322135 - 05/16/23 03:40 PM (8 months, 9 days ago) |
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I just can't voluntarily involve legal contracts in my life. I've made it 42 years no point to change that now.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: seldom seen] 1
#28322363 - 05/16/23 07:27 PM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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My experience of growing up with divorced parents really made me not like marriage. I never grew up remembering them being married.
So thats always been my normal. I am 30 now. I was really busy and deployed all the time during my 20s and it was really difficult to have a good relationship.
The majority of the marriages I saw people enter into while i was in the military were these fake yuppie marriages I cant really think of a better way to describe it.
Most of them are divorced now so they had to reenlist because they were broke from the divorce.
The others who got married and are still married will probably be divorced soon but i think fear keeps it from happening. Also i think that same fear is why they will reenlist.
People I know back home who got married are in like the exact same situation my parents are were in. Divorced and have to trade their kids off every other weekend.
I feel like a dodge a massive bullet and it was wise to not get married.
I do however long for a real relationship.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28322407 - 05/16/23 08:04 PM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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I read this and thought... that is so beautiful. " I deeply want to be married, to love and be loved,"
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28322688 - 05/17/23 01:25 AM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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Weddings make me uncomfortable A legal contract defining love is odd My friend is getting married to a girl whose last relationship ended because she gave the other guy the marriage ultimatum
It's a social norm that I am not fond of but I feel like many women have a fairy tale view about it
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28322691 - 05/17/23 01:29 AM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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I don't like the idea of spending thousands if not tens of thousands to cater to family and friends, because the idea to me is that I'd rather spend that money solely on enjoying my time with the partner I decided to marry.
That's one big reason I don't want to get married, at least not traditionally, plus the idea of forever in a relationship is cloudy or unexperienced to me. After several joyful years together, some times people grow apart as I experienced late last year.
Nor do I like the idea of halving peoples assets in marriage.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28322693 - 05/17/23 01:31 AM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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What does being married have to do with love and being loved?
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: thelanzii] 2
#28323412 - 05/17/23 02:17 PM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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thelanzii said: What does being married have to do with love and being loved?
Well you certainly don't get married because it's a good business decision What is marriage for if not for love? You don't need to get married if you're in love, but does it not sound different to you if you tell someone "we've been dating for X years" vs "we've been married for X years?" It is clear though that you and i are on opposite ends of the spectrum regarding marriage.
And i suppose if you want to split hairs, i don't think being legally married (ie. recognized by the state or country) is important, but having a ceremony/celebration of some form to join two people in the abstract of "marriage" is highly important. Utmost importance really.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #4]
#28323477 - 05/17/23 03:04 PM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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It sounds different because of the social norms surrounding marriage.
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And i suppose if you want to split hairs, i don't think being legally married (ie. recognized by the state or country) is important, but having a ceremony/celebration of some form to join two people in the abstract of "marriage" is highly important. Utmost importance really
I agree to an extent. I also have read the statistics and see how many people regret and are bitter about their failed marriage that it makes me skeptical.
I'm also not the kind of person to jump into marriage like many do these days.
I picture my marriage if I decide to go that route, escaping away to a place me and her both value and it being between us.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #4] 1
#28323478 - 05/17/23 03:05 PM (8 months, 8 days ago) |
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I think the ceremony is the least important thing, spending thousands to buy others food and covering their tab? Screw that!
A cheap ceremony sure, but nothing in the realm of more than $2000. I've seen people have beautiful affordable beach weddings without the ludicrous bill that tradition asks for. The average price of a marriage is tens of thousands, and for what! To feed and fill guests with drinks?
If I was a fiance and my partner started telling me they wanted to spend our savings feeding others, I'd be outta there. I'd want to spend it on valuable time together, to have a greater honeymoon, to maybe have savings left over.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
#28324284 - 05/18/23 02:27 AM (8 months, 7 days ago) |
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Some great responses here 
Annon #4, STAL is a reference to SirTokesALot, a member who would always answer polls with an option that wasnt listed. Its an old Shroomery tradition for Polls.
https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/23589576#23589576
I put never been married & undecided. I think I would have to meet a really amazing woman (celebrity?!) to marry her.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28324510 - 05/18/23 08:16 AM (8 months, 7 days ago) |
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You do not want to marry a celebrity.
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LogicaL Chaos
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos]
#28324753 - 05/18/23 12:39 PM (8 months, 7 days ago) |
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How come? Have married one before?
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