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If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? 1
#28307629 - 05/05/23 10:36 AM (8 months, 20 days ago) |
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I ask because I've just entered my mid 30s and just want to know what to expect in the future.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28307639 - 05/05/23 10:42 AM (8 months, 20 days ago) |
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I ask the question presuming that those that answer have a partner. That was an oversight on my behalf. For those that do not fall within my presumption, I still invite you to reply to the initial question.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#28307648 - 05/05/23 10:48 AM (8 months, 20 days ago) |
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Usually between twice and five times a day, doubled when I got to my 50's
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#28308251 - 05/05/23 08:34 PM (8 months, 19 days ago) |
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How did you find the time to type your response?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: pslyke] 1
#28308372 - 05/05/23 10:29 PM (8 months, 19 days ago) |
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Gotta hydrate on the hour
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28313834 - 05/10/23 07:42 AM (8 months, 15 days ago) |
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Women have a increase in 40's. Every man I know decreases. Dramatically Other problems start up
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3] 4
#28315051 - 05/10/23 11:38 PM (8 months, 14 days ago) |
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Maybe once or twice a week.
We both work and have a kid, and a bunch of responsibilities. I don’t think it’s the physical part keeping us from fucking, so much as not having a ton of moments to let loose. I would recommend staying in shape, eating healthier than not, and being in a functional relationship to maximize your odds of fucking regularly though.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: ManianFH] 4
#28336616 - 05/27/23 07:54 AM (7 months, 29 days ago) |
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In my late 40's I had a girlfriend whose back was broken in two places. We had to have sex every day because the endorphins gave her one hour pain free. Had to start ordering Cialis just in case. After 6 months it started seeming more like a job than a thrill.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28340459 - 05/30/23 10:05 AM (7 months, 26 days ago) |
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That sounds amazing for her and not so amazing for you. I used to use orgasm to reduce pain. I used exercise too. People thought I was crazy I would barely be able to move but went to the gym. It worked.. it was a successful pain reliever.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28441120 - 08/20/23 09:25 PM (5 months, 5 days ago) |
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I'm 43F. I'm probably not a good general example, but sex stabilized recently since we moved to Seattle. Now, generally, in a week: once vaginal with one guy and twice anally with the younger guy. I don"t suck dicks because they're disgusting. Hey, in Fla it was much worse.
But now I slack off all day & night.
Before you criticize me: I work 10 minutes/day, every other day.
Well?
Huh?
Well?
...OKAY, THEN!
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Jess_Fukket]
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#28441235 - 08/21/23 02:40 AM (5 months, 5 days ago) |
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Just a few times a month
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Citizen X] 2
#28441254 - 08/21/23 04:33 AM (5 months, 5 days ago) |
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Both of us work full-time and I do nights so it differs week to week. At least once a week upto 3 times a week. Once you get to 40 there's more to a relationship than just sex but you'll figure that out as you age
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1] 3
#28441950 - 08/21/23 03:58 PM (5 months, 5 days ago) |
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I am 50 and my partner is 48. My sex drive went through the roof. I mean crazy high!! Highest my sex drive has ever been in my life. It was pretty wild from 45 to current. He has no sex drive at all... nothing. We have really shitty sex once about every three months
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#28442894 - 08/22/23 02:46 PM (5 months, 4 days ago) |
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I come from physically-strong and long-lived people. I have generally maintained all of my routines, since early adulthood, and have never experienced any declines, in any dept, prior to middle age. I think people are breaking down from the desk chair or not listening to their body if subjected to high wear.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28442929 - 08/22/23 03:13 PM (5 months, 4 days ago) |
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My partner has a physical construction job. He got sober and lost all his sex drive
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#28442952 - 08/22/23 03:42 PM (5 months, 4 days ago) |
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Sober from alcohol or certain drugs?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28443896 - 08/23/23 01:46 PM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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Alcohol. Only time he does it now is if he uses shrooms, which so far has been once every 18 months. sucks...
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28443934 - 08/23/23 02:14 PM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said: Alcohol. Only time he does it now is if he uses shrooms, which so far has been once every 18 months. sucks...
Slip him some viagra or find yourself a younger stud
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28444290 - 08/23/23 07:03 PM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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Depending on how your body processes alcohol, it is sexually inflaming, imo.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28446104 - 08/25/23 06:54 AM (5 months, 1 day ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said: I am 50 and my partner is 48. My sex drive went through the roof. I mean crazy high!! Highest my sex drive has ever been in my life. It was pretty wild from 45 to current. He has no sex drive at all... nothing. We have really shitty sex once about every three months
In my personal life, I've been seeing this becoming fairly common. I don't condone cheating. A healthy relationship should be able to talk about these things. It sounds so hard to talk about then tell your partner you need more sex. If they're not willing to provide it then you two need to come to an agreement on how to satisfy this urge. Cheating isn't sleeping with someone that isn't your partner. Cheating is deceiving your partner. If partners discuss these things and agree, there is no deception. If no one agrees then separate, you're not meant for each other.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28446474 - 08/25/23 01:54 PM (5 months, 1 day ago) |
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YES when we got back together I told him I will not be sexless again and I will go get my needs met if I need to. I haven't.... but he knows. He gets it.. we have been here before.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28446530 - 08/25/23 02:54 PM (5 months, 1 day ago) |
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One FOF hid liquor bottles in my couch, went legally blind, and had two heart attacks in one day, at my house. He had some kind of common decency, but remained highly gullible and had a lot of work to do at 'adulting'.
Does your partner like it when you set terms and try to take care of his health? Some people feel like you're a protector, like you're their conscience, saving their life. They don't even feel like they exist, without some significant other, by whom the sun rises and sets.
Others consider it nagging.
Which one of you was typically the life of the party, during the better times?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28446573 - 08/25/23 03:33 PM (5 months, 1 day ago) |
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He gets angry and feels I am controlling him or telling him what to do if I suggest a physical.
Alcohol with him was a nightmare.... so bad...
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28446725 - 08/25/23 06:34 PM (5 months, 1 day ago) |
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He is legally or financially trapped?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008] 1
#28446876 - 08/25/23 09:51 PM (5 months, 21 hours ago) |
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I think it is sad to suggest the only reason one remains in a relationship is for legal or financial reasons. Relationships, and the emotions they often provoke are generally far more complex.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: pslyke]
#28447464 - 08/26/23 01:54 PM (5 months, 5 hours ago) |
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I think it is sad
Learn from the mistakes of others, many of whom are putting subtleties on the backburner in relationships of convenience.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: pslyke]
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pslyke said: Relationships, and the emotions they often provoke are generally far more complex.
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He had his arm broken by a female who later bore him a child. They are still together, on his disability.
He gets pissed (as severely as is possible for his mld mannered ways), when his boys are shown pellet guns and firecrackers.
On a primal level, there's def a form of polarity.
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#28449803 - 08/28/23 12:04 PM (4 months, 29 days ago) |
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He is not legally or financially trapped.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
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we have been here before.
Either you both thrive on negativity, or you are both getting something beneficial out of the arrangement. It's not for me to tell you what that is. But, most people say the same two or three things.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28449828 - 08/28/23 12:22 PM (4 months, 29 days ago) |
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We both understand why we are here.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28450678 - 08/29/23 01:59 AM (4 months, 28 days ago) |
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Varies from a couple of times a week to a few times a month. It's a seasonal thing for me, mostly. Summer is frisky, winter is cocooning time. We've been together for 10 years and we seem to manage to keep things interesting and rewarding for both of us.
My sex drive is most definitely way less than it used to be 10 or 20 years ago. I don't lament it, though. What's left is all the more rewarding, balanced, interesting and overall wholesome.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Brian Jones]
#28451584 - 08/29/23 07:49 PM (4 months, 27 days ago) |
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Brian Jones said: In my late 40's I had a girlfriend whose back was broken in two places. We had to have sex every day because the endorphins gave her one hour pain free. Had to start ordering Cialis just in case. After 6 months it started seeming more like a job than a thrill.

How could she have sex with a broken back? Wouldnt that make it worse?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Joh.Ke]
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Buy her a rose... she can do it herself so you can have a break 🤣 It shouldn't feel like a job.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Joh.Ke]
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Brian Jones said: In my late 40's I had a girlfriend whose back was broken in two places. We had to have sex every day because the endorphins gave her one hour pain free. Had to start ordering Cialis just in case. After 6 months it started seeming more like a job than a thrill.

How could she have sex with a broken back? Wouldnt that make it worse?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28452399 - 08/30/23 12:57 PM (4 months, 27 days ago) |
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durian_2008 said: Either you both thrive on negativity, or you are both getting something beneficial out of the arrangement. It's not for me to tell you what that is. But, most people say the same two or three things.
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Anonymous #3 said: We both understand why we are here.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008] 4
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Here’s my experience. I’m sharing because for me, and most of my partners over the years, contrary to popular opinion sex keeps getting better.
I’m a 60 y.o. male, gf is 53. When we are together we have sex four to eight times a day. Plain vanilla P in V and oral in long sessions. She cums a lot. I cum once or twice a day usually orally, which she loves.
The least sexy time is when we go to bed for sleep at around 10pm. After that we will spontaneously wake up together around 2 and screw for half an hour or more. Again at sunrise, and again when one of us tries to get out of bed. That little goodbye or a single kiss is the spark to start it all again. And again, all throughout the day. When we have days together it takes effort to leave home. Thank the gods for frozen meals and microwaves.
I’m in okay shape, not great. Tall and thin with a little extra and a penis no one would notice. She is fit and incredibly beautiful to me but not everyone’s cup of tea. I’ve been dating for seven years, she for three. While I’ve had bouts of hot sex with other women, it usually fades in a few days or weeks as does the relationship. She has never had anything like this, or been with anyone as sex positive as me.
We are not practicing Tantra but it’s very much the experience tantricas describe. Intensely energetic, whole body orgasms, bodies and souls fully enmeshed. Hot, fun, and more please.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #6]
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58 Years old. I love sex. Wife doesn't. She says it's painful. When we were dating the sex was OK. Several times a week. Later in our marriage we settled into sex in the same position once per month. It began feeling a bit rapey. I am fit and reasonable attractive for my age. A couple times I couldn't finish. But I can maintain a VERY strong erection for hours masturbating.
Now we don't have sex at all. Feels too rapey to me. I feel cheated and lied to. I wish I had other options, but ... No sex ever again? How did I get to this point?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
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Anonymous #7 said: 58 Years old. I love sex. Wife doesn't. She says it's painful. When we were dating the sex was OK. Several times a week. Later in our marriage we settled into sex in the same position once per month. It began feeling a bit rapey. I am fit and reasonable attractive for my age. A couple times I couldn't finish. But I can maintain a VERY strong erection for hours masturbating.
Now we don't have sex at all. Feels too rapey to me. I feel cheated and lied to. I wish I had other options, but ... No sex ever again? How did I get to this point?
If it's painful when it wasn't before has she had a check-up to find out why? I don't get why you feel cheated and lied to, unless you have reason to believe she is lying about it being painful. Sounds miserable for both of you!
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Rache2020]
#28464813 - 09/10/23 09:56 PM (4 months, 15 days ago) |
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Sometimes it's painful when it showed inside. Sometimes you just have to take it though. And like pretend you enjoy it but you still have to take it. It's part of a partnership in a relationship. Then later if you disagree with the sexual conduct and you just don't do it again with the pain. But you know In the Heat of the Moment when it's being shoved inside the other person wants pleasure so you just sort of have to go along with it even if it hurts really bad. Then later on if you don't want it shoved inside like that anymore you just say that. But the present moment you just take it and enjoy it.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Rache2020]
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If it's painful when it wasn't before has she had a check-up to find out why? I don't get why you feel cheated and lied to, unless you have reason to believe she is lying about it being painful. Sounds miserable for both of you!
I think it's painful because we only had sex once per month. Relationships are complicated. I don't necessarily think she was lying about the pain.
But marriage is in part a sexual contract. Why enter into it if you aren't into the sex. It's like if a lesbian marries a straight man to fit in to society. I think she was prepared to continue, but I'm not prepared to have sex with an unwilling partner.
What was she deceptive about? Blowjobs stopped when we married, She doesn't like the music she pretended to like. She stopped wearing the wedding ring. I asked her if she wants it re-sized. she said "no" (perhaps this is a red flag?)
But anyway I love her very much. She is an excellent life partner for me. I can deal with the music issue. We just never listen to music together. No sex is really messing with my head though.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Rache2020]
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Anonymous #7 said: 58 Years old. I love sex. Wife doesn't. She says it's painful. When we were dating the sex was OK. Several times a week. Later in our marriage we settled into sex in the same position once per month. It began feeling a bit rapey. I am fit and reasonable attractive for my age. A couple times I couldn't finish. But I can maintain a VERY strong erection for hours masturbating.
Now we don't have sex at all. Feels too rapey to me. I feel cheated and lied to. I wish I had other options, but ... No sex ever again? How did I get to this point?
If it's painful when it wasn't before has she had a check-up to find out why? I don't get why you feel cheated and lied to, unless you have reason to believe she is lying about it being painful. Sounds miserable for both of you!
It can be painful because she is not aroused, experiencing hormonal changes but I would think she is not aroused. Espeacilly since she is not into it. If she isn't into it... yeah, it'll not feel good. Im sorry. I feel your sorrow. I have the same issue but with a man who has no sex drive and premature ejaculation.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
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If it's painful when it wasn't before has she had a check-up to find out why? I don't get why you feel cheated and lied to, unless you have reason to believe she is lying about it being painful. Sounds miserable for both of you!
I think it's painful because we only had sex once per month. Relationships are complicated. I don't necessarily think she was lying about the pain.
But marriage is in part a sexual contract. Why enter into it if you aren't into the sex. It's like if a lesbian marries a straight man to fit in to society. I think she was prepared to continue, but I'm not prepared to have sex with an unwilling partner.
What was she deceptive about? Blowjobs stopped when we married, She doesn't like the music she pretended to like. She stopped wearing the wedding ring. I asked her if she wants it re-sized. she said "no" (perhaps this is a red flag?)
But anyway I love her very much. She is an excellent life partner for me. I can deal with the music issue. We just never listen to music together. No sex is really messing with my head though.
But you said she was prepared to compromise and it's you saying no to sex now? I think you should urge her to see someone-it could be so many things, maybe she is depressed or suffering effects from menopause etc. I'm sure she can be helped to find sex less painful and more pleasurable. I understand you don't wanna sleep with someone you can tell isn't into it. It's hard to know without knowing more details like how long you been married etc. and if she's sought help for these issues before or not.
Seems like you two need to have a big talk about how you both really feel instead of carrying on like this. It's never going to get better otherwise. Wish you all the best.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Not bad advice. You defiantly need to talk to her. Counseling? Other partners? Work together to get this back? Find out what she has to say. What are her needs not being met? Tell her yours, etc.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28470855 - 09/16/23 08:59 AM (4 months, 10 days ago) |
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I have tried speaking with her about it. She completely shuts down. One word answers. She says she is OK with no sex.
She just is not a sexual person. never really was. I used to joke that she wants sex never and I want twice per day, so lets take the average and go with once per day.
I LOVE licking pussy, but I have never licked her. she pushes my head away.
Edited by Anonymous (09/16/23 09:43 AM)
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28470880 - 09/16/23 09:19 AM (4 months, 10 days ago) |
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#7 said: I have tried speaking with her about it. She completely shuts down. One word answers. She says she is OK with no sex.
She just is not a sexual person. never really was. I used to joke that she wants sex never and I want twice per day, so lets take the average and go with once per day.
I LOVE licking pussy, but I have never licked her. she pushes my head away.
Maybe someone else is giving it to her ?
Edited by Anonymous (09/17/23 04:18 AM)
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28470913 - 09/16/23 09:48 AM (4 months, 10 days ago) |
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Maybe someone else is giving it to her ?
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Anonymous #7 said: It's like if a lesbian marries a straight man to fit in to society.
Anon #5, please edit that name out of there. I don't know who that is, but it's not me.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28471387 - 09/16/23 05:05 PM (4 months, 10 days ago) |
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Anonymous #7 said: I have tried speaking with her about it. She completely shuts down. One word answers. She says she is OK with no sex.
She just is not a sexual person. never really was. I used to joke that she wants sex never and I want twice per day, so lets take the average and go with once per day.
I LOVE licking pussy, but I have never licked her. she pushes my head away.
You gotta butter her up first Work on your foreplay skillz if yu want more action w her cat
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: oursoulsinmotion]
#28471862 - 09/17/23 04:04 AM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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oursoulsinmotion said: You gotta butter her up first Work on your foreplay skillz if yu want more action w her cat
That's great advice for a premarital teen sex thread. We have been married 25 years and I know her more than anyone else on earth.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28471868 - 09/17/23 04:20 AM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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Maybe someone else is giving it to her ?
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Anonymous #7 said: It's like if a lesbian marries a straight man to fit in to society.
Anon #5, please edit that name out of there. I don't know who that is, but it's not me. 
Sorted #7 when I quoted your post you must have been editing it. Maybe that's why it revealed your username 🤔
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28472345 - 09/17/23 11:24 AM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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Old acquaintances are signalling to me that they are available, in the form of an open relationship, where they are supposed to return to their family life, and I am supposed to be a third wheel.
Or, they sow their proverbial wild oats and want to settle down with me, somewhat worse for the wear. (One former party animal has gotten over cancer and kind of looks like a Caprisun got wrung out.)
If I wanted to be a pig...
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28472513 - 09/17/23 12:42 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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durian_2008 said: Old acquaintances are signalling to me that they are available, in the form of an open relationship, where they are supposed to return to their family life, and I am supposed to be a third wheel.
Or, they sow their proverbial wild oats and want to settle down with me, somewhat worse for the wear. (One former party animal has gotten over cancer and kind of looks like a Caprisun got wrung out.)
If I wanted to be a pig...
The fact you judge someone by there looks makes you look shallow. A wrung out Capri sun , really . You must be a oil painting.
What happened to loving someone for being themselves? Relationships are built on trust and love not sex and good looks .
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28472609 - 09/17/23 01:35 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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There are minor things I would change about myself, though I have actually remained pretty disciplined in terms of health and grooming. After years and years and years, the differences are cumulative and noticeable.
I feel disrespected in terms of someone not saving themselves and choosing me last. Though outward appearances are most certainly important to physical chemistry, I am extremely turned off when someone is coy or not putting out a comparable amount of effort in their respective roles, mentally.
When I can tell that someone is really working it at it, I am flattered or grateful, and I make it known.
People aren't expressing themselves, to get what they need and want. As though just neutrally talking is forceful dominance. Most people emotionally remain as that wallflower at the middleshcool dance for their entire lives and it feels like you're going to break someone inocent with the mind of a child, inside of a middle age body.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28472693 - 09/17/23 02:21 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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oursoulsinmotion said: You gotta butter her up first Work on your foreplay skillz if yu want more action w her cat
That's great advice for a premarital teen sex thread. We have been married 25 years and I know her more than anyone else on earth.
Nothing premarital teen sex about it. So why don't you turn her on mentally? Sex isn't always physical. Is she Asexual? Would she be agreeing to an open relationship where yu get to have sex w other ppl?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: oursoulsinmotion]
#28472705 - 09/17/23 02:30 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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As someone who is neither Islamist nor on the FLDS spectrum, I don't have a problem with what is loosely called patriarchal marriage (polygyny).
I am sympathetic to the point of not making someone do what is painful or repulsive. No shits given if I determine that she was wargaming it.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: oursoulsinmotion]
#28472722 - 09/17/23 02:49 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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As long as Durian broached the subject of religion... My wife is a very devout catholic with body issues and severe catholic sexual shame. We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone's business. I already mentioned she shuts down when I try to discuss sex.
Now if you can put yourself in this woman's head for a moment, and husband asks to have extramarital affairs. Do you all think it's a good idea? Because it has crossed my mind.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28472734 - 09/17/23 03:00 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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Depending on your religious (or secular) perspective, there is a marital 'duty'.
Nothing will change or happen or without everyone's mutual understanding.
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Do you all think it's a good idea?
I feel it is best to be up-front with my beliefs, without changing my whole rule system after some years. It is technically unethical to pledge monogamy and renege on the expectations you have set.
Legally unsafe, depending on how you structure it.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28472742 - 09/17/23 03:10 PM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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I am very considerate of all the typical household things that come up, so that I can live in a comfortable, mental space.
All I am saying is that, depending on each of your respective options, it will not even occur to her, to act out alot of the irrational / irate mannerisms.
My answer to the church of Rome and townies is going to sound like Henry VIII, just short of capital punishment.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28473356 - 09/18/23 06:10 AM (4 months, 8 days ago) |
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28473529 - 09/18/23 09:41 AM (4 months, 8 days ago) |
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I know that alot of you have a problem with putting these concepts together; you're not used to hearing that it works any other way.
I'm supposed to say that I'm a romantic or an altruist, but all of these arguments are settled quietly, at the pheremonal or subconscious level, depending on the amount of leverage you carry.
We're not being enlightened, here; these are barnyard problems.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28473827 - 09/18/23 02:46 PM (4 months, 8 days ago) |
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I understand now. You are trying to climb the thread killers list. With a post count like that you have a hard road ahead. Good luck
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28477459 - 09/21/23 09:10 AM (4 months, 5 days ago) |
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Has she been sexually assaulted in her life?
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28477868 - 09/21/23 05:00 PM (4 months, 5 days ago) |
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Not really. a co-worker chased her around a bit, then he stopped aggression when she gave up and made it clear it was non-consensual. No penetration.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28477878 - 09/21/23 05:10 PM (4 months, 5 days ago) |
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Call me a jerk. I just don't see the subtlety.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28477887 - 09/21/23 05:20 PM (4 months, 5 days ago) |
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Please let me know what you mean by that comment in common English language. I agree the thread is not subtle. I don't believe I am obliged to provide you with subtlety.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28478230 - 09/21/23 11:31 PM (4 months, 4 days ago) |
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Not really. a co-worker chased her around a bit, then he stopped aggression when she gave up and made it clear it was non-consensual. No penetration.
Staffers are very liability averse, so never, ever schedule it that way.
How does she find herself in this situation.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28478236 - 09/21/23 11:41 PM (4 months, 4 days ago) |
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No offense to present company, per se.
I just do not philosophically see myself as a victim and do not believe in playing the victim.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#28498381 - 10/10/23 01:09 AM (3 months, 17 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I ask because I've just entered my mid 30s and just want to know what to expect in the future.
I'm 46, been married 22 years. Hit some dry patches when I wasn't taking care of myself and libido was low. Dropped some weight about 5 years ago and stay active now. She has always been fit but did not have strong drive in early years. We have sex pretty much everyday now unless one of us is sick. On weekends and vacas without kids we might engage 2 or 3 times a day. Once or twice a year we might have sex up to 5 times... seems like that is usually on a lazy Sunday.
I think a lot of it has to do with both partners taking care of themselves to keep feeling and being sexually attractive.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#28498618 - 10/10/23 09:15 AM (3 months, 17 days ago) |
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That's amazing dude! Something to aspire to.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#28498913 - 10/10/23 02:42 PM (3 months, 17 days ago) |
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As for the dry patches, I would say that younger people's problems are for the same reasons.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: pslyke]
#28499493 - 10/10/23 11:07 PM (3 months, 16 days ago) |
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pslyke said: That's amazing dude! Something to aspire to.
Lol no fucken joke. Thought I was doing good at 2x/week over here 
Actually still feel pretty good about that, I honestly don’t have the energy for 5x day shit anymore hehe
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: durian_2008]
#28499588 - 10/11/23 02:25 AM (3 months, 16 days ago) |
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As for the dry patches, I would say that younger people's problems are for the same reasons.
That's possible on my wife's side of things. When our kids were young she was frequently stressed and tired. Doesn't handle stress well. It showed up in the bedroom where she would have lack of energy or interest because she was burned out.
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#28502576 - 10/12/23 10:44 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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same as i always did. i just do it a lot better
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Re: If you're over the age of 40, how often do you have sex? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28512281 - 10/20/23 07:28 PM (3 months, 6 days ago) |
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at least once a month. it depends on me and my bf's schedule, our energy level, libido etc.
there's no pressure on each other to do anything, so it's quality when we do stuff. we're very affectionate otherwise.
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