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LogicaL Chaos said: Sounds like youre stuck!
Id recommend travelling to that bigger nearby city and dressing up sexy/beautiful then going to the grocery store and hopefully some attractive guys will check you out giving u a much needed confidence boost.
this doesn’t happen to people in their 50s lol
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LogicaL Chaos
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Nonsense! Ive seen some sexy 50 year old ladies before. Its all about making yourself look sexy and having the will and confidence to pull it off.
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LogicaL Chaos said: Nonsense! Ive seen some sexy 50 year old ladies before. Its all about making yourself look sexy and having the will and confidence to pull it off.

You don't need to look like a tenager or a supermodel. Women of all ages can be attractive. And for someone my age a more mature lady is sexier than the younger ones. Because we know the value of experience 😉.
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I you can't get out and don't want to use dating sites it will be very hard finding someone who desires you. What about going into one of those dating sites that have chatrooms? At least you could engage in some virtual flirting.
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Anonymous #3 said: Going to a gym three times a day is ridiculous bordering on mental illness.
My child just passed away and going to the gym became my mental health.
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Anonymous #2 said: I you can't get out and don't want to use dating sites it will be very hard finding someone who desires you. What about going into one of those dating sites that have chatrooms? At least you could engage in some virtual flirting.
I dont know anything about them. Please inform me
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That's I tough one. I also love in a small town. Much bigger than 950 though.
It's a small town and people talk and then you get no matches on tinder.
Also its hard to feel sexy or connect with the right kind of people when your confidence is in the dumps.
Building my confidence is my first goal. I believe that with healthy confidence the world is a different place.
Good luck
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I thinkI have confidence. I don't think I have confidence in my sexuality right now. Thank you it really is the confidence.. and I think being nonsexual for so long.. you dont feel like a desirable person.
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That's kinda where I'm at
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I am sorry. It rocks my self esteem in a very unhealthy way. hurts
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Anonymous #2 said: I you can't get out and don't want to use dating sites it will be very hard finding someone who desires you. What about going into one of those dating sites that have chatrooms? At least you could engage in some virtual flirting.
I dont know anything about them. Please inform me
Some sites like the adult friend finder has chatrooms. It can get out of control sometimes. Many people are nice, others can be rude or desperate to get in your pants.
Or you could consider and ad looking for a penpal using sites like Craigslist. But it also depends on whether you are open to an erotic pen pal.
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ashfiken
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Anonymous #1 said: I thinkI have confidence. I don't think I have confidence in my sexuality right now. Thank you it really is the confidence.. and I think being nonsexual for so long.. you dont feel like a desirable person.
You are the exact same person, "in the desirability sense", now that you have been since puberty. That kind of stuff doesn't change. Our minds however do fail us in a sense and can allow this rut to develop. Even with more acuity, when you are absolutely isolated, as can be. And obviously the past relationship shit you describe is not the healthiest environment to live around, in isolation, with things of this matter to regard. This main thing is your desirability has gone no where! You are and can and will always be able to be as alluring or sensual or attractive, if that is your aim and the field of play allows. I'd say when regarding age alone women start to become more than what I can be comfortably attracted to in any regard at prob 60+. When it comes to time passed in isolation and in an caustic environment not suited for one's own feelings of desire and wish to be desired, then we can spend alot of time thinking about how unwanted we are and such. But that is only what we do and say to ourselves.. not how the world would see us if we were free and flowing with the kinda energy it takes to desire and be desired.
-------------------- hmm... "I'm naked and fearless... And my fear is naked." "life isn't worth living without the threat of death" "I got my plans in a ziploc bag, let's see how unproductive we can be" "nobody lives their lives fully except for bull fighters" My Trade List
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Re: Unattractive [Re: ashfiken]
#28304244 - 05/02/23 10:34 PM (8 months, 22 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I thinkI have confidence. I don't think I have confidence in my sexuality right now. Thank you it really is the confidence.. and I think being nonsexual for so long.. you dont feel like a desirable person.
You are the exact same person, "in the desirability sense", now that you have been since puberty. That kind of stuff doesn't change. Our minds however do fail us in a sense and can allow this rut to develop. Even with more acuity, when you are absolutely isolated, as can be. And obviously the past relationship shit you describe is not the healthiest environment to live around, in isolation, with things of this matter to regard. This main thing is your desirability has gone no where! You are and can and will always be able to be as alluring or sensual or attractive, if that is your aim and the field of play allows. I'd say when regarding age alone women start to become more than what I can be comfortably attracted to in any regard at prob 60+. When it comes to time passed in isolation and in an caustic environment not suited for one's own feelings of desire and wish to be desired, then we can spend alot of time thinking about how unwanted we are and such. But that is only what we do and say to ourselves.. not how the world would see us if we were free and flowing with the kinda energy it takes to desire and be desired.
Thank you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I needed to hear that .
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Re: Unattractive [Re: ashfiken]
#28306117 - 05/04/23 09:12 AM (8 months, 21 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I thinkI have confidence. I don't think I have confidence in my sexuality right now. Thank you it really is the confidence.. and I think being nonsexual for so long.. you dont feel like a desirable person.
You are the exact same person, "in the desirability sense", now that you have been since puberty. That kind of stuff doesn't change. Our minds however do fail us in a sense and can allow this rut to develop. Even with more acuity, when you are absolutely isolated, as can be. And obviously the past relationship shit you describe is not the healthiest environment to live around, in isolation, with things of this matter to regard. This main thing is your desirability has gone no where! You are and can and will always be able to be as alluring or sensual or attractive, if that is your aim and the field of play allows. I'd say when regarding age alone women start to become more than what I can be comfortably attracted to in any regard at prob 60+. When it comes to time passed in isolation and in an caustic environment not suited for one's own feelings of desire and wish to be desired, then we can spend alot of time thinking about how unwanted we are and such. But that is only what we do and say to ourselves.. not how the world would see us if we were free and flowing with the kinda energy it takes to desire and be desired.
I thought about this all day yesterday. I think you are spot on. I keep thinking about it.... Internally I have changed. Externally I have less muscle but only something I would notice. Its isolation and insecurities...
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ashfiken
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Isolation often can leave us festering in our own insecurities and self guilt. Us monkeys(most of us) need interaction, if even just to shed light on perspectives aside from our own. Which, in turn, allows us to break free of any thoughts we may have convinced ourselves of in the absence of others.
-------------------- hmm... "I'm naked and fearless... And my fear is naked." "life isn't worth living without the threat of death" "I got my plans in a ziploc bag, let's see how unproductive we can be" "nobody lives their lives fully except for bull fighters" My Trade List
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LogicaL Chaos
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Re: Unattractive [Re: ashfiken]
#28306586 - 05/04/23 02:38 PM (8 months, 21 days ago) |
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Well said. Social isolation is really harmful to people. We are a social creature, especially some women need a lot of socializing to be mentally healthy.
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I am really feeling this. I have had some things happen in my personal life that changed my socializing. I am raising little children. I got them 3 years ago when they were 3 days old until now. I dont think I have hung out with a friend in 3 years. I am certainly busy.. but.. no me time at all.
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