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Anonymous #1

Coworker/friend was violated
    #28185295 - 02/13/23 10:49 AM (11 months, 8 days ago)

So as my title says, my coworker was violated by someone.
We’ve grown to become good friends.  We work in the service industry and the person who violated her works across the street at another restaurant.  Don’t know what to do.  She is vehement that I do nothing.  I drove her home yesterday and the guy who did this saw us leave and texted her which brought this story to light.  She wouldn’t say what he did, except that he was grossly inappropriate with her. 

We work on a busy street with a clientele of young professionals, I’d say the predominant demographic is 25-35 year olds, and this guy works security at the other job.  She suggested she’s seen him do other things to another girl too that were sus. 

Idk what to do.  I don’t think this guy should be at that position because he’s a predator and probably taking advantage of drunk girls regularly.  Also did something to my coworker tho she wouldn’t exactly what and threw that on me when I got mad saying “you don’t even know what he did so you can’t say anything,” but she clearly implied he went too far sexually. 

Shit is crazy to me.  On one level I want to respect her wishes because she told me that in confidence.  On another level, that guy needs to get handled asap.


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Anonymous #2

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28185363 - 02/13/23 11:31 AM (11 months, 8 days ago)

Sounds like the bar right off of venice beach where the social networks are. It's like a vampire hangout how they be getting raped out of it. Cops just watch and beat off.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28185475 - 02/13/23 01:02 PM (11 months, 8 days ago)

It’s sickening.  Other people at my restaurant know about it as well and no one has done anything.  This happened a month ago.  She said she will handle it when she wants to and leave it at that but it seems to me nothing is being done. 

Both restaurants are longstanding businesses on the block and have a good relationship with each outside of this incident and I think it’s crazy that nothings being done.  I feel like I’d be out of line bringing this to light but I also think someone has to if she won’t because he’s still working there and probably preying on other girls.


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Anonymous #3

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #28185795 - 02/13/23 04:47 PM (11 months, 7 days ago)

So set him up, have some hottie pretend to get drunk and see what happens,record, involve the pigs, whatever but just remember it's better to regret what you did in this situation than to regret what you didn't do.


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Anonymous #4

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #28185860 - 02/13/23 05:16 PM (11 months, 7 days ago)

Jump the shit out of him and tell him it's for being a creep in general terms. She wants something done about it, she just doesn't want it coming back to her.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #28186235 - 02/13/23 08:59 PM (11 months, 7 days ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #3 said:
So set him up, have some hottie pretend to get drunk and see what happens,record, involve the pigs, whatever but just remember it's better to regret what you did in this situation than to regret what you didn't do.



Good stuff

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Anonymous #4 said:
Jump the shit out of him and tell him it's for being a creep in general terms. She wants something done about it, she just doesn't want it coming back to her.



True.


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Anonymous #5

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28186481 - 02/14/23 12:21 AM (11 months, 7 days ago)

So you should definitely fuck up his car right away. Then you could encourage her to go to the police sure. They might have her sit in a room with a detective and have her call him try to get him to talk about it. If he admitted to something they might prosecute or and then he at least be a known sex offender. Do not expect real justice though. If you go that route, first you get his full name, birth date, address, license plate number.

The only way for there to be real justice in this situation is if everyone involved came out better than before it happened. There is an opportunity for healing. There are no systems for it most places outside of Canada. He should want to be in debt to her, he should want to not be a piece of shit. Getting him to see the light will be the expensive part. If you can kidnap him and hold him captive while forcing him into several sessions of intensive therapies every week without getting caught I'd say that's the best option. Bonus points if you can make him cry and beg for his life. Get creative, have fun with it. Remember that you are making the world a better place and it is OK to smile :smile:


Edited by Anonymous (02/14/23 08:50 PM)


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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #5]
    #28193603 - 02/18/23 08:04 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

To give something of an update and just express myself to someone, she hasn’t talked to me since she told me that story last Sunday.  Today was the first day I saw her and she avoided me the entire time we were together.  Not one word spoken between us. 

I was hoping she’d be cordial with me today and I could maybe get her to tell me exactly what he did to her, but she did her best to not make eye contact with me so I let it be like that.

Reason I want to know exactly what he did is because when we were going back and forth last week she kinda threw it at me like, “you can’t even say what he did to me therefore you shouldn’t do anything in this situation.”  It’s clear to me he did something but it’s true that I don’t know what.

I plan on checking his place out tomorrow to get a feel for the scene and to get some type of inspiration for my alibi as to why I act like I do when I do so as to not use her in it but it seems like I’m going to be putting a target on my back when I do this and I don’t know if I have anyone covering me.  Our restaurant managements are close n I’m gonna be starting shit w one of their employees. 

At this point I don’t even know if she’d have my back when shit hits the fan.  Even tho I don’t know, I would be shocked if she didn’t have my back and at least told her story to our management if it got to the point where they were going to reprimand me at work.

I’m not too clever of a person nor do I have a great network to help me with something like this so doing this job without coming off as the aggressor seems next to impossible, also considering there’s cameras everywhere. 

I think I’m willing to risk whatever the consequences are because this hasn’t left me since she told me.  Everyday I have a sense of rage throughout the day and a desire to do something.  Not knowing definitively gives me some sense of doubt, as if maybe I am overreacting.  The writing seems to be on the wall tho and I also feel like I’d be in denial/choosing to do nothing by entertaining that doubt. 

I would love to know if he’s still texting her.  I have no reason to believe he stopped but knowing that would urge me to break his face asap.  It just sucks she completely tuned me out of her life after bringing me that far into it with that story. 

Idk, perspectives would be appreciated.


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Anonymous #6

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #28193609 - 02/18/23 08:08 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Never risk your dignity over a woman’s word

Without evidence you should just move on...


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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #6]
    #28193627 - 02/18/23 08:23 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Yes that sounds like excellent advice, but the writing is on the wall.  The people at my restaurant often hang out there and she  was one of them that would often hang out there.  She won’t go there anymore.  When I took her home last week, we walked past that restaurant and the dude in question was outside and saw us.  He texted her saying, “you funny.”  She showed me another text he sent before that and the way he talks to her suggests to me he’s a pos and doesn’t respect her. 

I’ve known her for years and I believe there’s no reason why she’d make this up and act like this with me now. The only thing that makes sense to me is that he did violate her.


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Anonymous #6

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28193638 - 02/18/23 08:27 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Doesn’t have to be made up, some people perceive things as an insult, clearly she thinks it’s bad enough to share with you but not bad enough to give full detail.

Maybe she knows it was insignificant or no big deal but just wants a moment to feel like it was by sharing it with you.

If he committed a crime encourage her to go to the police, if she doesn’t I would assume she doesn’t think it was a crime and therefor is being blown out of proportion.


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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #6]
    #28193713 - 02/18/23 09:04 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Thanks for replying. You might be right.  I hope this is all blown out of proportion.  If it’s not tho, cops probably aren’t going to be helpful considering this happened a month ago.  Either way, I have to communicate w her and go from there.


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Anonymous #7

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #6]
    #28193720 - 02/18/23 09:12 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

A lot of women choose not to go to the police because it's unlikely anything will happen anyways.

All a defense attorney has to do is rattle her well enough while she is reliving this traumatic event in front of a room full of people that one member of a jury isn't 100% convinced this guy did what she says he did.

I am friends with a sexual assault nurse examiner. She said that in her training, she learned a mere 1% of the cases she completes will  be prosecuted.

OP, have you considered that she told you because she needed a friend, but she won't give you further details because she's afraid you're going to make a bad situation worse for her?

Perhaps she does not want to be repeatedly re-traumatized by telling her story again and again to you, the police and then possibly a courtroom full of people?

Maybe she does not want to go through all of that for nothing?


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Anonymous #6

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #28193727 - 02/18/23 09:19 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Another very plausible scenario
Good outlook!


Sometimes the saving a woman needs is the listening ear and a shoulder to lean on.

Save this kind of energy for a defensive occasion, otherwise your crusade appears to be offensive and you will find yourself doing something you regret.




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Anonymous #1

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #7] * 1
    #28193746 - 02/18/23 09:30 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #7 said:
A lot of women choose not to go to the police because it's unlikely anything will happen anyways.

All a defense attorney has to do is rattle her well enough while she is reliving this traumatic event in front of a room full of people that one member of a jury isn't 100% convinced this guy did what she says he did.

I am friends with a sexual assault nurse examiner. She said that in her training, she learned a mere 1% of the cases she completes will  be prosecuted.

OP, have you considered that she told you because she needed a friend, but she won't give you further details because she's afraid you're going to make a bad situation worse for her?

Perhaps she does not want to be repeatedly re-traumatized by telling her story again and again to you, the police and then possibly a courtroom full of people?

Maybe she does not want to go through all of that for nothing?



Yea I get where you’re coming from but don’t you think it could also be traumatic having the guy who did violate you being literally a few steps away from you on any given day because you work right next to one another?  She could look out the window and see her attacker at any given time during her shift or when she’s hanging out not working.  He comes in to our restaurant too.  Like the dude can probably sees her leave every night.  Or the fact he still texts her.  All that isn’t traumatic? 

She told other people already.  I’m maybe the 4th person at my work who knows.  Nobody is doing anything about this.  I don’t feel like I can even talk to them about it because she told me t not tell anyone.  People still hang out there and they still invite her knowing that happened and she won’t go because of it. 

Doing nothing does nothing for her.  Doing nothing also does a disservice to whoever he violates next.  The op details the block we work on and the clientele we get.  He could be violating wasted girls damn near every night. 

As of now I don’t know, but if it is anywhere around what I’m thinking, doing nothing is pretty much being complicit with evil.


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Anonymous #8

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28193766 - 02/18/23 09:39 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

THANK YOU
We need people like you
Unfortunately I believe women are to accustomed to this. And sometimes we don't realize how wrong it is because it happens so frequently UNTIL someone says that is not ok
Id make a police report


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Anonymous #8

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #6]
    #28193774 - 02/18/23 09:41 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #6 said:
Never risk your dignity over a woman’s word

Without evidence you should just move on...




What a disturbing comment


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Anonymous #8

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #28193775 - 02/18/23 09:42 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #7 said:
A lot of women choose not to go to the police because it's unlikely anything will happen anyways.

All a defense attorney has to do is rattle her well enough while she is reliving this traumatic event in front of a room full of people that one member of a jury isn't 100% convinced this guy did what she says he did.

I am friends with a sexual assault nurse examiner. She said that in her training, she learned a mere 1% of the cases she completes will  be prosecuted.

OP, have you considered that she told you because she needed a friend, but she won't give you further details because she's afraid you're going to make a bad situation worse for her?

Perhaps she does not want to be repeatedly re-traumatized by telling her story again and again to you, the police and then possibly a courtroom full of people?

Maybe she does not want to go through all of that for nothing?




FACTS


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Anonymous #8

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28193780 - 02/18/23 09:44 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:
Quote:

Anonymous #7 said:
A lot of women choose not to go to the police because it's unlikely anything will happen anyways.

All a defense attorney has to do is rattle her well enough while she is reliving this traumatic event in front of a room full of people that one member of a jury isn't 100% convinced this guy did what she says he did.

I am friends with a sexual assault nurse examiner. She said that in her training, she learned a mere 1% of the cases she completes will  be prosecuted.

OP, have you considered that she told you because she needed a friend, but she won't give you further details because she's afraid you're going to make a bad situation worse for her?

Perhaps she does not want to be repeatedly re-traumatized by telling her story again and again to you, the police and then possibly a courtroom full of people?

Maybe she does not want to go through all of that for nothing?



Yea I get where you’re coming from but don’t you think it could also be traumatic having the guy who did violate you being literally a few steps away from you on any given day because you work right next to one another?  She could look out the window and see her attacker at any given time during her shift or when she’s hanging out not working.  He comes in to our restaurant too.  Like the dude can probably sees her leave every night.  Or the fact he still texts her.  All that isn’t traumatic? 

She told other people already.  I’m maybe the 4th person at my work who knows.  Nobody is doing anything about this.  I don’t feel like I can even talk to them about it because she told me t not tell anyone.  People still hang out there and they still invite her knowing that happened and she won’t go because of it. 

Doing nothing does nothing for her.  Doing nothing also does a disservice to whoever he violates next.  The op details the block we work on and the clientele we get.  He could be violating wasted girls damn near every night. 

As of now I don’t know, but if it is anywhere around what I’m thinking, doing nothing is pretty much being complicit with evil.




Your a good person. And there are a lot people that are like you.
Don't put yourself in the way of getting criminal charges.
What your doing... can literally save a life. Being violated haunts you and many end up in addiction, or dead. And he wont stop unless stopped in fact he will get bolder and bolder


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Anonymous #6

Re: Coworker/friend was violated [Re: Anonymous #8] * 1
    #28193787 - 02/18/23 09:48 PM (11 months, 2 days ago)

That’s rude.

I have known two men in my life who were sent to jail wrongfully by women lying, I have seen even more who ended up in jail trying to defend a woman's honor based on misunderstandings/exaggerations and I have even seen one man die after being pushed to “defend” his woman physically against a lunatic.

If a crime was committed, encourage her to go to the law, you do not even know if a crime was committed or what the offense was.

He could have just said something inappropriate or hugged her when he thought it was ok and she thought it wasn’t.

Don’t assume guilt, don’t encourage a witch hunt, don’t make her problem worse.


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