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Seriously Thank you I just need to get out there Try to flirt lol Assert myself more
P.S. I appreciate the comments SO much It's extremely frustrating and causes me to not try.
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Glacia



Registered: 02/28/19
Posts: 224
Loc: The Winterless North
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Tinder. Hinge or Bumble if you want romance.
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Re: Ideas to find a lover. [Re: Glacia]
#28175536 - 02/06/23 10:28 PM (11 months, 14 days ago) |
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Glacia said: Tinder. Hinge or Bumble if you want romance.
I'm not looking to fall in love But I need to respect, like them so I can be attracted & trust them to have great sex
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Jewstress
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Registered: 03/21/19
Posts: 5,402
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Anonymous #1 said: I have decided I need to meet someone. I don't know how. I don't know where to go. I live in a small rural area. I am not a drinker, so I don't frequent bars. Where and how do I meet someone? I don't need to fall in love, but I need a connection so I can have good, intimate sex. I don't want a one night stand, I want a consistent partner. I dont' think I am unattractive. I have never been told I am or had difficulty. Now I am very isolated. But I am losing my damn mind... I cant keep going on like this. Where do you meet people? How? Ideas please
Hi I’m heather. I’m empathize with this sentiment and unless forced, wrangled, or missing my kids too much I live the same way with same desires.
Only issue is I’m just the girl with the laptop, the citizen soldier, and I don’t wanna drag just anyone into my life either now because of that.
But don’t worry I’m still laughing up at all Of you from Hell
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Jewstress
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Registered: 03/21/19
Posts: 5,402
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Anonymous #1 said: I know I am attractive. Level of my attraction is based on someone elses personal preference. I just think its arrogant to say I am. I have never had problems in that area. I will check out youtube. I am just soooooo frustrated. I am sure ai could go have a one night stand.. but I crave intimacy and a partner I can trust to have a good sexual experience.
AI is good at those only these days Hearth work is key
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Re: Ideas to find a lover. [Re: Jewstress]
#28176859 - 02/07/23 09:38 PM (11 months, 13 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I have decided I need to meet someone. I don't know how. I don't know where to go. I live in a small rural area. I am not a drinker, so I don't frequent bars. Where and how do I meet someone? I don't need to fall in love, but I need a connection so I can have good, intimate sex. I don't want a one night stand, I want a consistent partner. I dont' think I am unattractive. I have never been told I am or had difficulty. Now I am very isolated. But I am losing my damn mind... I cant keep going on like this. Where do you meet people? How? Ideas please
Hi I’m heather. I’m empathize with this sentiment and unless forced, wrangled, or missing my kids too much I live the same way with same desires.
Only issue is I’m just the girl with the laptop, the citizen soldier, and I don’t wanna drag just anyone into my life either now because of that.
But don’t worry I’m still laughing up at all Of you from Hell
THANK YOU!!! I often feel like it is just me as all my peers are searching for true love or one night stands. Thank you... I appreciate your comment. I cannot begin to describe how frustrated I am, sexually and emotionally.. I mean by lack of intimacy, an emotional and physical. I have the same issue with the laptop... I dont meet people in person . And I am finding that online I am either to trusting or not at all which inhibits me from moving past a hello how are you stage. And I hate the fucking dick pics... that is so weird to me.. I dont even know you but I know your dick... I'll pass LOL
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Find board game clubs. Maybe look into cosplay.
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Interesting. That may be an adventure. Thank you
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Anonymous #1 said: Interesting. That may be an adventure. Thank you
You're welcome. Don't be afraid to pick up someone (legal) far younger than you. It's often very appreciated and it'll bring in a certain dynamism and uncomplicated perspective.
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You're welcome. Don't be afraid to pick up someone (legal) far younger than you. It's often very appreciated and it'll bring in a certain dynamism and uncomplicated perspective.
I have never successfully dated anyone a lot younger. I dated an attorney that was probably 15 years younger then me. I liked him but not as much as he liked me so I cut it off. Sexually... wow.. it was awesome. And it was fun. Other than work, I didn't have much in common with him. I had grown adult children and he had no kids. But to be fair.. I didn't give it much of a chance. He had asked me to move with him and it was way to fast for me and I slowly backed away. What age gap is a good age gap? I have gotten hit on by younger men, older, men my age. I am not opposed. What is a good age gap? It feels like it would depend on the person. I cant see myself with someone younger then 30.. I turn 50 in 3 months.
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What age gap is a good age gap? I have gotten hit on by younger men, older, men my age. I am not opposed.
Well you're currently looking more for something 'intimate' than 'romantic', no? So it doesn't have to be a full-blown relationship so much as someone you can just kind of feel comfortable with and talk to. For something like that the tolerances are probably a bit wider because you don't need to commit to the fullest extent. Since this is a drug forum, I gotta ask. How do drugs factor into your shtick? Because that too seems like something to think about.
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I think a 32-35yo would be quite happy to lavish some attention on you and get something of an alternative perspective in return.
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What age gap is a good age gap? I have gotten hit on by younger men, older, men my age. I am not opposed.
Well you're currently looking more for something 'intimate' than 'romantic', no? So it doesn't have to be a full-blown relationship so much as someone you can just kind of feel comfortable with and talk to. For something like that the tolerances are probably a bit wider because you don't need to commit to the fullest extent. Since this is a drug forum, I gotta ask. How do drugs factor into your shtick? Because that too seems like something to think about.
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I think a 32-35yo would be quite happy to lavish some attention on you and get something of an alternative perspective in return.
Maybe I need to change my perspective on it?
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My insecurities tend to rise up some with younger men. I recognize as something I need to address. I think I compare myself what I looked like at their age to now. And I don't look bad now... I just looked better then. I understand its a me problem. BUT it does keep me away
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Yeah that makes a lot of sense to me, but that is also sort of part of why I suggested it to begin with. When you get with someone like that and push through the feeling the pay-off sense of continuous reaffirmation may (can't say will, but may) be very much a massive contributor towards a more pleasant mindstate and sex life. I've slept with people 30 years my senior before and while they weren't as good looking as I (arrogant to point out but w/e) their sheer appreciation and experience made it worth it. Conversely I used to be with someone 12 years younger and that too was just great. Age gaps have their pitfalls but for a hard reset they can be invaluable.
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Anonymous #2 said: Yeah that makes a lot of sense to me, but that is also sort of part of why I suggested it to begin with. When you get with someone like that and push through the feeling the pay-off sense of continuous reaffirmation may (can't say will, but may) be very much a massive contributor towards a more pleasant mindstate and sex life. I've slept with people 30 years my senior before and while they weren't as good looking as I (arrogant to point out but w/e) their sheer appreciation and experience made it worth it. Conversely I used to be with someone 12 years younger and that too was just great. Age gaps have their pitfalls but for a hard reset they can be invaluable.
I dated this attorney who was 30-32 never married and no kids. I was divorced and had three adult children. I resisted going out with him for awhile.. 18 months. Then one weekend I was alone in the city and called him up and asked him to go dancing with me. It was SO much fun. I always had a great time with him. But he made me insecure. Not by anything he did... he was a gentleman. I knew him from work and we worked out at the same gym. And his body.. OH MY GOD... and I looked good. But I would get in my head, I was 46, had three kids, blah blah. Had he even been with someone like me before? And he used to tell me I intimidated him and that he loved my confidence. But I still didnt get it. Its kinda embarassing to even admit to. I was ... dumb
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            Oh... GOD OP. I think... I think we are onto something here oh my lord.
      
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            Oh... GOD OP. I think... I think we are onto something here oh my lord.
       
isn't that horrible that I self sabotaged it It is true.. I did.
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I mean yes, of course it's horrible, but this isn't a "I missed out on marrying my highschool sweetheart because I didn't see their number written into my yearbook" (yes this is a shockingly common story) type of once in a lifetime type ultra dramatic type of missing out. You thought worse of yourself than you should've. You messed up a chance. That's bad. Yes. But now you know better.
Is it bad that an anonymous internet stranger had to tell you that? I mean. Maybe, but consider me simply a gift from the fungus.
On that note though, I gotta restate my question: What is your Thing, drug-wise? That'd influence where to look and how to look.
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Anonymous #2 said: I mean yes, of course it's horrible, but this isn't a "I missed out on marrying my highschool sweetheart because I didn't see their number written into my yearbook" (yes this is a shockingly common story) type of once in a lifetime type ultra dramatic type of missing out. You thought worse of yourself than you should've. You messed up a chance. That's bad. Yes. But now you know better.
Is it bad that an anonymous internet stranger had to tell you that? I mean. Maybe, but consider me simply a gift from the fungus.
On that note though, I gotta restate my question: What is your Thing, drug-wise? That'd influence where to look and how to look.
I didn't need anyone to tell me. I was aware. There was more to it. He wouldn't me to move away with him etc. I was not ready for that. I was just disapointed in myself for being insecure. i only use shrooms
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vandago


Registered: 07/07/04
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Anonymous #1 said: Interesting. That may be an adventure. Thank you
You're welcome. Don't be afraid to pick up someone (legal) far younger than you. It's often very appreciated and it'll bring in a certain dynamism and uncomplicated perspective.
I have never successfully dated anyone a lot younger. I dated an attorney that was probably 15 years younger then me. I liked him but not as much as he liked me so I cut it off. Sexually... wow.. it was awesome. And it was fun. Other than work, I didn't have much in common with him. I had grown adult children and he had no kids. But to be fair.. I didn't give it much of a chance. He had asked me to move with him and it was way to fast for me and I slowly backed away. What age gap is a good age gap? I have gotten hit on by younger men, older, men my age. I am not opposed. What is a good age gap? It feels like it would depend on the person. I cant see myself with someone younger then 30.. I turn 50 in 3 months.
I’m 13 years older than my lady, and it seems to work out right for the most part. It takes a lot of patience some days. But all relationships do.
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