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Dancing with Bears
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I lost everything
#28170690 - 02/03/23 11:57 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Ive lived with my wife and three kids in a little trailer in the bottom end of Louisiana. Ive spent the last 6 years building a gourmet mushroom farm. Ive loved every minute of it. I get to see my kids, I get to make a living from that which was my favorite past time. Ive had it made.
Then dickhead came along. Im 32 and my wife is 30, and weve been together since we were teenagers. 13-14 years or something. Well she met some guy, and he's this 6'4" Aquaman lookin dude. Chiseled abs, long flowing hair... Dude is a lady killer. Well she started fuckin around with him behind my back at first, but I knew. Everyone know. She would be gone all night and come home wreaking of liquor and shame. I knew it was only a matter of time. She tells me she wants to start seeing other people (little late now), which I really had no interest in at all, but I cant stop her. Dude started showing up to the house... I dunno man... I had nowhere else to go. No friends, no job outside of the farm, nothing.
I cant keep telling the story, so im just gonna skip to the end. One day dickhead is over, and i say something snarky to the guy... I might have called him a bitch, or looser, or some shit like that. He pummeled me. I didnt stand a chance. Beat the ever loving shit out of me... I just got up and left... That was a week ago. Ive been homeless for a week. I dont have my farm any more, or any other useful skills. I havnt seen my beautiful kids, or my wife. She hardly responds to texts. I dont know what to do. I lost my farm yall. I probably spent $50,000 building it. At our best we were pushing 250lbs of blues, lions mane, trumpets, and pearls. I lost my home. I lost my wife. All I have is a minicooper to call home, and its got about 50 miles left in the tank. I dont know what to do. I wanna die. I cant take the pain. somebody help me.
Im at the library right now. I dont even know the next time im going to have access to the internet. Ill try to come back. Somebody tell me im going to be okay. Somebody tell me there is light at the end of the tunnel. Something. Anyone. Help me.
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The Mycologist
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Damn man. I think you may need to get the law involved. You had shit effectively stolen from you.
I hope it works out sooner rather than later.
Good Luck
Mush Love.
-------------------- "That you are here—that life exists, and identity; That the powerful play goes on, and you will contribute a verse.” ― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

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CHeifM4sterDiezL
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Registered: 07/28/10
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Did you call the police and report the domestic battery? You should file a restraining order againt the man who assulted you and for the domestic abuse and trespass him from your property. You absolutely still have residency and possession of your property and are free go back home and report any damage or whatever but you need to get the polive involved this is not right.
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Sugabearcrisp
Not Your Average Bear



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Dude that fucking sucks but you will get through it. 
You didn't lose your farm, kids or house, those things are 50% yours legally and morally.
Go to the police and report the assualt. Tell them you want to go back to your house but are scared of him. Consider getting a restraining order against him.
Return to your home. File for divorce. Go through it and take care of your children.
Document the adultery. In lousiania you can file for divorce because of adultery and the court will consider this in awarding custody and alomony.
Take your life back, you can do it
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DreamStoneLFOD


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Keep your head up. Do whatever you can from your heart and soul. Definitely get help in your town or city. Go to a courthouse and tell them you need help to see your children safely. Be safe, be honest and know that you can be O.K.
I hope you rise above 🤘☮️🤘
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Thomas Envisio
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Registered: 12/28/22
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Okay. Let's try something new. Take twenty deep, slow breaths.
Return to the farm. Ask for a discussion with your wife first. If necessary, be willing to foresee this not being an option, and having to talk to her fling/partner/alternate and her. Talk it out, and figure out which options you have. That means sitting down with one another. It means getting a pen and paper out. Also get any paperwork you can regarding your personal property/gear/products. If you need a place to stay and money, the farm seems like a good option.
Some of what you've described seems more of an emotional and mental difficulty than a financial or physical difficulty. It seems like maybe you've got a few rough days/weeks/etc ahead, and that is common rather than rare. When you feel devastated, music can help. Personally, I'd try to stay super sober for the next week. If you can't calm down no matter what you try, go to a doctor who can prescribe 5mg of Diazepam.
Have a look at Dr. Andrew Weil's instructions on Youtube for breathing. This technique can literally get you high and calm, similar to a puff of nitrous.
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spirit_shadow
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How did you lose the farm? Is everything in your name? Fuck that shit. The right answer is probably get the law involved.....the answer that will make you feel the best is wait until the motherfucker is drunk then jump his ass with a baseball bat.
-------------------- I'm so old school I don't even know what old school means.....(this account is automated, all posts related to illegal activities or advice thereof are strictly from numerous online sites and are for informational purposes only)- Circa 2011 Ban lotto
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spirit_shadow
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Take this....you will need it on your journey.
-------------------- I'm so old school I don't even know what old school means.....(this account is automated, all posts related to illegal activities or advice thereof are strictly from numerous online sites and are for informational purposes only)- Circa 2011 Ban lotto
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Anahata


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Get your wife caught drinking and driveing.
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Thomas Envisio
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spirit_shadow said: How did you lose the farm? Is everything in your name? Fuck that shit. The right answer is probably get the law involved.....the answer that will make you feel the best is wait until the motherfucker is drunk then jump his ass with a baseball bat.
Hi! Just a bit of feedback here to spirit_shadow...Nothing intense. Violence won't settle this particular issue. He's likely to end up in jail or prison or dead. Violence is not typically the right answer for most of life's issues. Having written this, I do recognize self defense is absolutely essential, and sometimes offense is also essential.
Also, to the original poster, I should have added something. Timing is going to be important here. Take every step today carefully and calmly. You may not want to rush back to the farm for a couple of days or longer. You'll have to decide the ideal time (just after lunch?), and what would not be a good time. Also, if you've been assaulted and you were not the aggressor in terms of violence, you might be able to return to the farm and destroy the blueberries and anything else that's important to clean up. All three of you are in a precarious situation, and all three of you should realize this, from my perspective.
I'd take the most helpful steps, rather than bending into hate and excess.
Edited by Thomas Envisio (02/03/23 01:44 PM)
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CHeifM4sterDiezL
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I would go back to your house and tell your wife it's over and to go drag her ass because they guy isnt welcome in your house after he assaulted you record it and put it on blast laying out all the reasons and that you now have to break it to the kids that your getting a divorce because mom cheated because she doesnt love the family and the man violently assulted you. if they try to do anything call the cops and tell them everything. It's your house and your property.
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spirit_shadow
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Thomas Envisio said:
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spirit_shadow said: How did you lose the farm? Is everything in your name? Fuck that shit. The right answer is probably get the law involved.....the answer that will make you feel the best is wait until the motherfucker is drunk then jump his ass with a baseball bat.
Hi! Just a bit of feedback here to spirit_shadow...Nothing intense. Violence won't settle this particular issue. He's likely to end up in jail or prison or dead. Violence is not typically the right answer for most of life's issues. Having written this, I do recognize self defense is absolutely essential, and sometimes offense is also essential.
Also, to the original poster, I should have added something. Timing is going to be important here. Take every step today carefully and calmly. You may not want to rush back to the farm for a couple of days or longer. You'll have to decide the ideal time (just after lunch?), and what would not be a good time. Also, if you've been assaulted and you were not the aggressor in terms of violence, you might be able to return to the farm and destroy the blueberries and anything else that's important to clean up. All three of you are in a precarious situation, and all three of you should realize this, from my perspective.
I'd take the most helpful steps, rather than bending into hate and excess.
Oh I agreed with everyone that said take the legal route is probably your best option lol.....but do you want your shit back or do you want to feel better?.....personally I'd pick both. I'd take the legal route first then catch the guy maybe a couple years later once everyone forgot about everything for no other reason than to feel better 
Edit: I've had multiple people tell me punching someone won't make you feel better....I found out that is not true at least for me. I'd do it again. If someone deserves it you won't feel bad.
Edited by spirit_shadow (02/03/23 02:12 PM)
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THT
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Louisiana's pretty close to Texas and he's in your home uninvited: are you sure you can't legally just shoot him in your home? 
Seriously though, listen to what people here are saying and take the legal route. If you did some funny shit you would be the only suspect and you don't wanna leave your kids with your former bitch and that guy while you rot in a cage.
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theRealrollforever
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Quote:
spirit_shadow said:
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Thomas Envisio said:
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spirit_shadow said: How did you lose the farm? Is everything in your name? Fuck that shit. The right answer is probably get the law involved.....the answer that will make you feel the best is wait until the motherfucker is drunk then jump his ass with a baseball bat.
Hi! Just a bit of feedback here to spirit_shadow...Nothing intense. Violence won't settle this particular issue. He's likely to end up in jail or prison or dead. Violence is not typically the right answer for most of life's issues. Having written this, I do recognize self defense is absolutely essential, and sometimes offense is also essential.
Also, to the original poster, I should have added something. Timing is going to be important here. Take every step today carefully and calmly. You may not want to rush back to the farm for a couple of days or longer. You'll have to decide the ideal time (just after lunch?), and what would not be a good time. Also, if you've been assaulted and you were not the aggressor in terms of violence, you might be able to return to the farm and destroy the blueberries and anything else that's important to clean up. All three of you are in a precarious situation, and all three of you should realize this, from my perspective.
I'd take the most helpful steps, rather than bending into hate and excess.
Oh I agreed with everyone that said take the legal route is probably your best option lol.....but do you want your shit back or do you want to feel better?.....personally I'd pick both. I'd take the legal route first then catch the guy maybe a couple years later once everyone forgot about everything for no other reason than to feel better 
Edit: I've had multiple people tell me punching someone won't make you feel better....I found out that is not true at least for me. I'd do it again. If someone deserves it you won't feel bad.
people have been exacting revenge for basically the entirety of our existence (I'd imagine) and people really wanna pretend retribution isn't something that feels good? I think there's a reason why revenge is a thing, it absolutely feels good when it goes your way.
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sunshine said: The order has to be secret and no one is sure.
Edited by theRealrollforever (02/03/23 02:59 PM)
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trees


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Yeah that dude did something that warrants lethal retaliation, at the time of the beating of course, now its too late.
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morrowasted
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Dancing with Bears said: Ive lived with my wife and three kids in a little trailer in the bottom end of Louisiana. Ive spent the last 6 years building a gourmet mushroom farm. Ive loved every minute of it. I get to see my kids, I get to make a living from that which was my favorite past time. Ive had it made.
Then dickhead came along. Im 32 and my wife is 30, and weve been together since we were teenagers. 13-14 years or something. Well she met some guy, and he's this 6'4" Aquaman lookin dude. Chiseled abs, long flowing hair... Dude is a lady killer. Well she started fuckin around with him behind my back at first, but I knew. Everyone know. She would be gone all night and come home wreaking of liquor and shame. I knew it was only a matter of time. She tells me she wants to start seeing other people (little late now), which I really had no interest in at all, but I cant stop her. Dude started showing up to the house... I dunno man... I had nowhere else to go. No friends, no job outside of the farm, nothing.
I cant keep telling the story, so im just gonna skip to the end. One day dickhead is over, and i say something snarky to the guy... I might have called him a bitch, or looser, or some shit like that. He pummeled me. I didnt stand a chance. Beat the ever loving shit out of me... I just got up and left... That was a week ago. Ive been homeless for a week. I dont have my farm any more, or any other useful skills. I havnt seen my beautiful kids, or my wife. She hardly responds to texts. I dont know what to do. I lost my farm yall. I probably spent $50,000 building it. At our best we were pushing 250lbs of blues, lions mane, trumpets, and pearls. I lost my home. I lost my wife. All I have is a minicooper to call home, and its got about 50 miles left in the tank. I dont know what to do. I wanna die. I cant take the pain. somebody help me.
Im at the library right now. I dont even know the next time im going to have access to the internet. Ill try to come back. Somebody tell me im going to be okay. Somebody tell me there is light at the end of the tunnel. Something. Anyone. Help me.
Wtf???
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Shroomslip
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I can go a lot more in depth for you later if you want. But I ended up homeless, no help from anyone, no friends or family, on probation straight out of jail.
I started in a homeless shelter with no idea how I was going to get a job, or pay my probation fees or any of it.
I've been on my own for years now. I have the best car I've ever had in my life by a milestone,I have a stable job and a stable life for the most part.
It took a long time and you have to be patient and never stop working towards what you want, but you can rebuild.
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With my face against the floor I can’t see who knocked me out of the way. I don’t want to get back up but I have to so it might as well be today. Nothing appeals to me no one feels like me, I’m too busy being calm to disappear. I’m in no shape to be alone contrary to the shit that you might hear. You can't wake up, this is not a dream. You're part of a machine, you are not a human being With your face all made up, living on a screen. Low on self esteem, so you run on gasoline
Edited by Shroomslip (02/03/23 05:00 PM)
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spirit_shadow
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theRealrollforever said: Quote:
spirit_shadow said:
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Thomas Envisio said:
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spirit_shadow said: How did you lose the farm? Is everything in your name? Fuck that shit. The right answer is probably get the law involved.....the answer that will make you feel the best is wait until the motherfucker is drunk then jump his ass with a baseball bat.
Hi! Just a bit of feedback here to spirit_shadow...Nothing intense. Violence won't settle this particular issue. He's likely to end up in jail or prison or dead. Violence is not typically the right answer for most of life's issues. Having written this, I do recognize self defense is absolutely essential, and sometimes offense is also essential.
Also, to the original poster, I should have added something. Timing is going to be important here. Take every step today carefully and calmly. You may not want to rush back to the farm for a couple of days or longer. You'll have to decide the ideal time (just after lunch?), and what would not be a good time. Also, if you've been assaulted and you were not the aggressor in terms of violence, you might be able to return to the farm and destroy the blueberries and anything else that's important to clean up. All three of you are in a precarious situation, and all three of you should realize this, from my perspective.
I'd take the most helpful steps, rather than bending into hate and excess.
Oh I agreed with everyone that said take the legal route is probably your best option lol.....but do you want your shit back or do you want to feel better?.....personally I'd pick both. I'd take the legal route first then catch the guy maybe a couple years later once everyone forgot about everything for no other reason than to feel better 
Edit: I've had multiple people tell me punching someone won't make you feel better....I found out that is not true at least for me. I'd do it again. If someone deserves it you won't feel bad.
people have been exacting revenge for basically the entirety of our existence (I'd imagine) and people really wanna pretend retribution isn't something that feels good? I think there's a reason why revenge is a thing, it absolutely feels good when it goes your way.
Things go your way if you take your time and plan properly.
-------------------- I'm so old school I don't even know what old school means.....(this account is automated, all posts related to illegal activities or advice thereof are strictly from numerous online sites and are for informational purposes only)- Circa 2011 Ban lotto
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Tripsurfer
Bring Back Asante!



Registered: 08/01/12
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What?
He is living in your house right now?
Who owns that property?
Man, Aquaman looking fuckers are the worst
-------------------- Ach en wee ben ik de klos, met mijn boog schoot ik een albatros... A philosopher is a person who knows less and less about more and more, until he knows nothing about everything.

Edited by Tripsurfer (02/04/23 08:21 AM)
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CHeifM4sterDiezL
Chief Globerts

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People say I look like aquaman all the time since that guy came on the scene but sadly I'm not 6'4 or an asshole
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