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loladoreen


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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: koraks]
#28153931 - 01/23/23 02:10 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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No, I am down to get my hair pulled and my ass slapped.... Definetely.  Submission, not really. BUT I have also never tried it. It feels degrading to me. So again, I have zero experience. Thank you for your reply.
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koraks
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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: loladoreen]
#28153958 - 01/23/23 02:25 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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loladoreen said: No, I am down to get my hair pulled and my ass slapped.... Definetely. 
Well, there's a start 
Just experiment if/when you run into someone who's into BDSM and you feel genuinely and truly safe with. It's how most/all of us learned - and still learn! Nobody can tell you what's hidden in the murky depths of your mind. There's no obligation to start digging there, but if you do (and heck, why not), you might find some really fun stuff. And some really confrontational stuff as well, and perhaps some hard times. It doesn't come for free, usually.
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loladoreen


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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: koraks]
#28153976 - 01/23/23 02:37 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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I don't know anyone. I know it became trendy after 50 shades. I saw a BDSM show in a underground club downtown a few years back. It was ok with it all except I was not into him hanging by his skin. By ok I mean what I am ok with doing myself. I would not do that. It would be fun to explore.. who would not want to explore, right. It's kinda the point to find out what you like. Thank you
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koraks
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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: loladoreen]
#28153989 - 01/23/23 02:45 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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Oh, you'll run into someone sooner or later. Consider it like acid - it'll find you.
Shows/demonstrations can be fun. Some are more genuine than others.
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loladoreen said: It was ok with it all except I was not into him hanging by his skin.
I'm not into that either. Needles are OK; we play with those sometimes. They have a nice fear factor to them, and they're visually appealing. But that's about as far as I'm willing to go in terms of breaking skin.
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loladoreen


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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: koraks]
#28153997 - 01/23/23 02:48 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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I have a friend that showed me what he is into. I can't remember the name for it. But he ties them with rope. Everywhere, like rope as a bra, or on the hands and ankles, etc. And there is skill with it, he is able to do it and leave no marks. He asked if I wanted to try, but he is my friend and if felt sexual. I dont know .. didn't want to be sexual with him. One of those moments I regret because I got awkward.
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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: Abombs]
#28154019 - 01/23/23 02:59 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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Abombs said: I understand all the different dynamics of'kink'
But I'm trying to see what people feel of the challenge of being in that sub role. Not necessarily the pain but a experience that is difficult to endure
I'm having a hard time understanding exactly what you're asking, but I'll do my best to explain what it's like from my perspective, but since I am a masochist I will be touching on pain a little more.
I will start by saying that we all have different ideas about what is difficult to endure. There is a freedom in willing handling over your power to a trusted individual for whatever scene or rules or or situation that is unique to each dynamics, regardless of what particular kinks you and your partner(s) are into.
When applied during a scene, pain doesn't really feel like pain. Pain feels like pleasure and actually helps me to feel very relaxed. With the relaxation, dopamine release, and sensory variation, pain also amplifies other pleasurable sensations.
Some scenes are pre-negotiated to be lighter or less intense, and others are geared towards pushing limits, which can certainly feel challenging and there is a lot of excitement and anticipation that leads up to a scene for me, so the heavier scenes where a partner and I are pushing limits, I think the excitement and fear increases, which adds to the experience in a positive way. I will emphasize that trust is vital for all parties involved with this sort of play for scenes to be safe and enjoyable, so having that sort of trust in someone is a huge turn on in itself.
Does that make sense?
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koraks
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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: loladoreen]
#28154069 - 01/23/23 03:24 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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loladoreen said: I have a friend that showed me what he is into. I can't remember the name for it. But he ties them with rope. Everywhere, like rope as a bra, or on the hands and ankles, etc. And there is skill with it, he is able to do it and leave no marks. He asked if I wanted to try, but he is my friend and if felt sexual. I dont know .. didn't want to be sexual with him. One of those moments I regret because I got awkward.
Shibari. It's sexual for some, not for all. I'd feel uncomfortable doing that with a friend, too. It's an art form in a way, and a sort of meditation I'd say. Btw not something I'm actively involved in. Bondage, yes - but the more functional kind mostly. Aesthetic bondage once in a blue moon for photography.
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loladoreen


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Re: BDSM - Any other kinksters active in the community? Also AMA [Re: koraks]
#28154086 - 01/23/23 03:34 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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It was pretty cool. He had a book on it. And showed me photos. It was intriguing. I feel so vanilla after reading these posts. I look forward to having a partner I trust enough to explore my sexuality.
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