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Re: Men and emotional support [Re: ashfiken] 1
#28098134 - 12/15/22 12:14 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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ashfiken said:
The non-single ones have a husband, w the same trepidation in mind as the single ones. Which makes it basically impossible to carry on such friendships, let alone cultivate them.
Based on the belief that men only want one thing - sex?
Isn't that horrendously inhumane - to think about males in such a simplistic inaccurate way?
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ashfiken said:
Hell if a man told my wife he just wanted to be friends I'd tell him to get fucked
Doesn't this reaction make you feel a like a female slave owner?
Your gal isn't allowed to have close relationships with men other than you?
Doesn't that level of insecurity make you feel lame and emasculated? Wow
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ashfiken
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It doesn't make ME feel any kind of way bc I realize it's a reaction to the experience I've had in this culture. Yes its absolutely limiting and inhumane and not realistic to think of men in this one dimensional fashion. Unfortunately our social web is sick with ego serving agenda chasing humans, ingeneral, men and women alike. Making trusting relationships becomes extensively more difficult. I am actually one that accepts the male friends my wife has had, from the past, and give her room to make her own decisions considering such. But some random new guy that just approaches her, yeah as bad as it is, I'm automatically sus. It's the day and age man
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Re: Men and emotional support [Re: ashfiken]
#28098486 - 12/15/22 09:46 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I'm a dude and I honestly think it kinda blows that society says we are "weak" or whatever should I choose to open up. I am after all a living breathing soul with desires and emotions. @ashfiken... I hear you man. Me personally I wouldn't even attempt to seek out a friendship with a married person because I know they are "one"and whatever secret I decided to tell would be shared with the spouse. Plus just like I have no idea what it's like to be married I suspect a married person won't understand what's it like to be forever single so I don't really know what we'd talk about anyways.
But yeah honestly not "opening up" and really letting my family know how I feel is one of the main reasons why I'm in the mess I'm in
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Re: Men and emotional support [Re: weirdguy32]
#28098497 - 12/15/22 09:51 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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weirdguy32 said: I'm a dude and I honestly think it kinda blows that society says we are "weak" or whatever should I choose to open up. I am after all a living breathing soul with desires and emotions. @ashfiken... I hear you man. Me personally I wouldn't even attempt to seek out a friendship with a married person because I know they are "one"and whatever secret I decided to tell would be shared with the spouse. Plus just like I have no idea what it's like to be married I suspect a married person won't understand what's it like to be forever single so I don't really know what we'd talk about anyways.
But yeah honestly not "opening up" and really letting my family know how I feel is one of the main reasons why I'm in the mess I'm in
Yeah and missing that opening up is a huge emotional gap, tht should be easily filled via sound relationships. A marriage is the perfect place to be vulnerable ND open up and appear "weak" we are all vulnerable and being able to share that is a very nice thing. And yah what you say bout secrets ND that is very true. Hell my wife's friend sent her a sex video yesterday of herself, and being married, we watched it together ND that's just one recent example of many where my wife shares things from ppl that normally I'd be 100% ignorant of
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Re: Men and emotional support [Re: ashfiken]
#28152860 - 01/22/23 09:02 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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I think the offer to be there is important. Because you never know if your going to be the one they end up spilling it all to.
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