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Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse * 1
    #25957992 - 04/26/19 11:14 PM (4 years, 8 months ago)

Is there anyone out there who has any advice for someone who’s partner was the victim of abuse.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #25958399 - 04/27/19 07:23 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

I would attempt mdma therapy.
just roll together in a comfortable chill place and talk about life
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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #2] * 1
    #25958510 - 04/27/19 09:04 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

Depends on the nature of the psychological issues it has caused, but EMDR comes to mind.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: koraks] * 2
    #25958586 - 04/27/19 10:09 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

I need more information to properly guide you in the right direction.

Does your partner admit to the abuse?
What types of child abuse was it?
Has your partner ever been clinically treated for the abuse?
Does your partner have a mental health diagnosis?

I would also need to know if your partner is male or female and around what age they currently are.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #25958607 - 04/27/19 10:20 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

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Anonymous #1 said:
Is there anyone out there who has any advice for someone who’s partner was the victim of abuse.



I've been there. Be strong. Hardest path I ever walked.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #25959582 - 04/27/19 08:53 PM (4 years, 8 months ago)

A good therapist would do wonders.

If no therapist, perhaps microdosing psychedelics and keeping a journal would be a good idea.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 2
    #25959931 - 04/28/19 12:40 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

I've also heard good things about emdr based therapy.

I have seen anger and pain from childhood lead to such bad problems.... It is painful to even think about.

One thing that I believe is of great importance.... The abused must strive to forgive the abuser.... No matter if they're sorry or not.  Harbouring anger and resentment only leads to continued pain, and many times to the attempted masking of that pain with unhealthy and sometimes life ruining means....

So one thing you can do is encourage your partner to forgive, let it go


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 2
    #25960114 - 04/28/19 05:40 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

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A good therapist would do wonders.

If no therapist, perhaps microdosing psychedelics and keeping a journal would be a good idea.




depending on the results from the child abuse, microdosing could make the ptsd worse.

my baby daddy was horribly abused in a cult as a child which then led to CPTSD, personality disorder diagnosis, mood diagnosis.

because he literally is the poster child for "sadness leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to the dark side"

when i microdose with him, i see the succubus that is attached to him in the corners of the ceilings crawling around just feeding off of him.  he feels better but then some how the fear and anger always wins and he spirals out of control after like 3 or 4 hours.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Jewstress] * 1
    #25961543 - 04/28/19 10:23 PM (4 years, 8 months ago)

I don't advise microdosing without guidance.

It's just as easy to get sucked into a dark loop as it is to find the light.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #25961553 - 04/28/19 10:30 PM (4 years, 8 months ago)

It's beyond my ability apparently. You need to be a particularly strong person with your own stable ground and support system. Sometimes that's not enough.



Dealt with it in my family, my ex fiance, and my most recent long term partner. You can help them help themselves but you can't do it for them and you can't fix them.


More info would be necessary for more advice. Their state of mind, stability, and functionality are crucial to understanding the situation.

My mom and both exes were all very different women and the necessity for immediate action depended on a lot and changed over the years.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: CookieCrumbs] * 1
    #25961638 - 04/28/19 11:28 PM (4 years, 8 months ago)

Cookiecrumbs is accurate af


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Jewstress] * 2
    #25962003 - 04/29/19 07:23 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

I suffered from C-ptsd due to extreme childhood abuse. Relationships and establishing trust have always been a challenge for me. In order to heal and get better, I've had to make a solid commitment to myself. DBT, EMDR, & exposure therapy have helped me heal, learn coping mechanisms, & reduce triggers. During the time most of my healing was done, I stayed celibate for nearly 3 years (& also took a course for women on healthy relationships & boundaries) which was very insightful. Pyschadellic use has also been helpful, & I even found a counsellor who is supportive of this.

There are times in my life I simply haven't been capable of having a healthy relationship. When I've been in one, I need a partner who I can trust with EVERY fiber of my being - my hyper alert brain picks up on ANY little white lie & once trust is violated it's hard to reestablish. I need someone who is compassionate and understanding when I'm triggered and not at my best, who knows when to draw a line & ask for space when needed, who will hold me accountable, & call me on my BS (with compassion). 

It's not easy being with someone who suffered a lot of childhood abuse, but they can make some of the most honest, fun, & comitted partners you will ever find. But you gotta understand that when someone's own parents fail to love & protect them, it's a huge struggle to accept love from anyone else.... so patience and trust or huge. Do not do anything to violate that trust.  And if things take a turn for the unhealthy, you need to take care of yourself first & get out. You can't help someone who isn't willing to help themselves.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #25963838 - 04/30/19 05:13 AM (4 years, 8 months ago)

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Is there anyone out there who has any advice for someone who’s partner was the victim of abuse.






Patience, acceptance.  Work on building trust; small things first.  If you're going to be somewhere, be there and on time.  If you say you're going to do something, do it, don't procrastinate.


Work together on chores.  Exercise together.  Cook together.  Be mindful of the word-choices you use; changing one word can make the difference in the actual meaning and perception of the statement/question you are making.  Don't raise your voice.  Don't talk over them.  Don't impose; respectfully make your points/case in times of disagreement, and acknowledge that NOT agreeing is perfectly acceptable as well.  Make concessions when it is fitting, but always try to compromise first.



Patience.  Patience.  Patience.  Patience.




It can be very difficult, trying, and frustrating.

Patience.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #27537654 - 11/10/21 10:00 AM (2 years, 2 months ago)

I do not have such experience, but my friends had such problems, you need to immediately contact the special appropriate bodies for social protection


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #27766002 - 05/06/22 01:32 PM (1 year, 8 months ago)

The one thing I can say is check in with them when you want to be intimate. It can be easy for victims of sexual abuse to slip ‘out of it’ back into flashbacks and it can turn fine sex into a threatening-feeling experience.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28142378 - 01/16/23 06:55 AM (1 year, 12 days ago)

"Each person is different, and so is abuse. And the reaction to it and the consequences will also be different, so it's very hard to advise something without knowing the whole situation.
But if you see that the person needs help, it will always be a good and winning idea to help them to get help. A good therapist can help. I study social work, and we learn how to interact and how to help people with different issues. But we're not psychologists, so we can help that person to find a good specialist. Some time ago, I wrote about child abuse, and it's a very serious issue. This site https://supremestudy.com/essay-examples/child-abuse/ actually provided me with child abuse essay examples which helped me to finish writing because I had a lot of info and could decide on what to focus on. And I also talked with professionals, and they also said that if you have no such experience, and will try to help, then you can also harm, so it's better to do everything with professional help."


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: ThomasParedes] * 4
    #28142845 - 01/16/23 01:00 PM (1 year, 12 days ago)

I honestly think this is something best handled by a professional.  Beyond encouraging professional help, and being supportive within that context, I think a partner can only offer patience and support.  Now that you are aware of the vulnerability you have a duty to never use the information as provocation during a dispute...


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Mojo] * 1
    #28143565 - 01/16/23 07:46 PM (1 year, 11 days ago)

If your partner is not ready to see someone, you can go see someone and learn how to support your partner.

Encourage them to get professional help.


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Re: Healthy ideas/ways to heal for people affected by child abuse [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #28146113 - 01/18/23 03:19 PM (1 year, 10 days ago)

i've been severely abused as a child in many ways, but have gotten over almost all of it, except of course the absence of good experiences that should have been.

She is lost in the wilderness.

The best you ca do is help her find her way.

Don't let a psychiatrist give her a daily medication for an indefinite period, that will only help Roche and Pfizer but not her or you.

She has a mental problem, life messed her up, and she has to solve it mentally. You can be helpful with that.

This is too personal and sensitve material to write publically, if you wish to discuss in private in more specific detail, throw me a PM, i'm an admin so accountable to the community.


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