Over the past maybe 7 years I’ve been dealing with my family lying to me about various things. By family, I primarily mean my brother, but I believe my mom and sister and aunt are covering for him.
This is a hard story for me to convey because no one has had my back. I’m only going to speak on the most recent events at the moment. My aunt to an extent has had my back, but she won’t fully turn on my brother. I say this because we were recently talking on the phone and I was talking about my brother and how I hoped he was happy/successful even though we don’t talk anymore. She responded with something along the lines of, “why do you wish that for him when he doesn’t wish that for you?” This was around Christmas time and I was beyond all this drama because my life is good and I kinda feel bad for him because he’s kind of a schmuck of a person. He doesn’t have much money working a job a he doesn’t enjoy and has been chasing a dream of being a comedian/performer for about a decade with nothing to show for it.
An old friend reappeared in my life and started saying disrespectful things to me. I told him he was being disrespectful, and he turned around and went on tirade calling me an angry person. He said he got phone calls about me and said he even got one from someone in my own bloodline. This wasn't even a close friend of mine so I'd be willing to bet money my brother contacted other friends as well. Pretty much all of the friends I grew up with no longer have a relationship with me. That's fine with me because people change, particularly I changed, but this makes me wonder how many people he contacted.
This isn’t the first person that I think my brother has reached out to about me. I truly believe he’s been trying to sabotage my life/reputation for years. I told this old friend that I’d appreciate if he expanded on what he was talking about and he never responded.
Then I went back to my aunt and told her the story. I asked her to tell me what she knows. She said she has no idea who could have called my friend and said things about me. She said she couldn’t even guess. That’s obviously bs to me.
That phone call wasn’t the first time she eluded to my brother wishing ill upon me. She has said other things about him not being good to me, but never actually said what she meant. She’d follow up with something like, “you already know so why do I need to tell you?”
I included my mom and sister in my opening statement because this scenario has been happening for years, with the only changes being the characters. My mom and sister have been involved in situations similar to what has been described above for years as well.
I’m pretty certain my brother is going to lie to me if I bring it up to him. I don’t expect this old friend to respond if I follow up with asking him to elaborate on what he said, and I think he wants me to reach out to him again so he can have that power over me.
At the end of the day I’m going to move on because I don’t want to let this garbage bring me down, but it kinda hurts that this came up. I was beyond all this for awhile now, but this situation echoed other situations that happened over the years and I don’t think I should just let this go anymore.
I bought him some things for Christmas, he bought things for everyone but me. I feel kinda foolish for that. I genuinely wish well for people and forget that not everyone wishes me well. I think I’m going to cut off my family entirely. What do you think?
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Blood doesn't immediately mean you're obligated to give loyalty. Respect is earned, love is an action, and you can choose who remains in your life. These people sound bizarre and bitter, to be frank.
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