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Anonymous #1
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23 and counting
#28109330 - 12/22/22 10:15 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I left high school in 2017. Last 5 years were made of episodes of deep depression where I could barely leave my house. My room was a real dump, bottles of urine, alcohol, cigarette butts everywhere, dirty clothes. I slept in fetal position in a corner of my bed that I tried to keep somewhat clean. 3 months ago i visited my brother for 2 weeks and when i came back my father had cleaned my room. Since then I have managed to maintain and make my room...a room. This had a huge impact on my mental health. But, all those lost years, 4 years of total unsociability, of depravity, it made me very little confident in myself and extremely ashamed. How do I explain to the people I'm going to meet what happened to me? It blocks me terribly, a question that terrifies me, paralyzes me is: what do you do for a living?. I'm afraid of getting back to my depressive cycle and need help. How to start your adult life at 23?
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Anonymous #2
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Bro you are still young. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Just live life one step at a time.
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Anonymous #3
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: a question that terrifies me, paralyzes me is: what do you do for a living?
Relax! You're only 23, you have your whole life ahead of you!
https://www.successlifelounge.com/28-comics-about-everyday-life-from-sobering-mirror/2/ 
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Anonymous #4
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No one gives a shit what you did with your time prior to age 30 as long as you don't have kids. Out of your entire life your 20s is the most socially acceptable time of your life you're allowed to waste. No one cares how far a 23 year old has made it unless they're offering cash. You are a lil baby boy. You're barely a man. Stop worrying like one.
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Anonymous #5
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My dude, I've restarted my life at least 5 times. Spread wings to fly, crash and burn, wind up living with a family member, try again.. that's just life for ya. Everyone has their struggles, so you shouldn't be ashamed. You're lucky, you've gained a little bit of wisdom now. Now you know that pissing in bottles in your room doesn't get you anywhere, it's time for something new.
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Anonymous #6
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Dude I was totally there - about same age too. Life took me to places and then got me back to similar "down". I am about 40 and pretty much starting life again. At 40, it's a bit tougher to start, one of the things being that I can't aim for very much.
LOL, when I was 23 and starting over, I thought I could get athletic enough to dunk a basketball and have a sixpack. At 40, I seriously doubt my slightly arthritic knees are going to get me there. Also I am really fat and my skin will sag (hopefully I could afford plastic surgery to pick it up a bit). So, I can forget about a "ripped" body
Anyway, I am just telling you about myself to let you know I've been there, I've also been where you want to go and I am now "there" again, with even worse starting position - AND IT'S ALL GOOD!
I am talking to a therapist. She's 80, world-renown professor. First thing I asked her is if I have any chance because I heard that people shape up their personality at 14... And I am 40...
She said that despite all her progress and overall age, she's still learning new things and changing the way she feels about things and feels about as stupid as when she started.
You have a lot of time. You have a lot of potential. Take it at your own pace, don't sweat it - it's your life, don't feel like a race.
Talk to a professional to learn how to process those feelings. They are just feelings, not facts about your "real" progress or worth or "correct/incorrect" direction.
Lots of love from me to you!!
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