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Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration?
#28129066 - 01/07/23 10:05 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Jacking off isn't really doing it for me anymore
Just feel really pent up right now. Like I need somewhere I can put this energy into.
Been thinking about hitting up my ex for a booty call, but I know I can't do anything long term with her.
Like I feel I should do SOMETHING but I don't know what. And I feel like I have been batting a thousand trying to meet new women. I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28129993 - 01/07/23 11:13 PM (1 year, 20 days ago) |
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Hikeadellic said: Jacking off isn't really doing it for me anymore
Just feel really pent up right now. Like I need somewhere I can put this energy into.
Been thinking about hitting up my ex for a booty call, but I know I can't do anything long term with her.
Like I feel I should do SOMETHING but I don't know what. And I feel like I have been batting a thousand trying to meet new women. I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
Same I hit the gym to get rid of the pent up sexual energy.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28130032 - 01/07/23 11:50 PM (1 year, 20 days ago) |
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Gym's a good idea.
Hikeadelic, would you consider a strip club? I know a private dance helps me on occassion when i need it.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28131617 - 01/09/23 12:24 AM (1 year, 19 days ago) |
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Hikeadellic said: ... I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
Like.. You're not sure what the next step is with these people? Or you're not finding anyone you want to pursue further? Or there's something that you have to fix within yourself to allow yourself to move forward?
Sexual frustration means.. you desire sex. Which is pretty natural. So what's actually going on?
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Lynnch] 1
#28131709 - 01/09/23 04:46 AM (1 year, 19 days ago) |
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I can give myself really high level orgasms without doing anything weird. I feel like this is at least mostly normal for most guys I think. If that's the case and you haven't stopped masturbating then maybe you're desiring companionship not just pussy.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 2
#28132926 - 01/09/23 08:49 PM (1 year, 18 days ago) |
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Start a journal, analyze your dreams. Consider what has stopped you from having a satisfying long term relationship in the past and how that is still acting on your thought patterns today. Perhaps you could restart an old hobby that made you happy before, but you stopped doing it because something painful happened and you feel a return would mean humiliation or failure. Listening to calm music for a while can help to alleviate your anger while thinking about these things. Grateful Dead and Jefferson Airplane are your friends. Otherwise, scribbling on paper with a pencil or paintbrush might shine a light on trapped memories.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 5
#28135912 - 01/11/23 07:56 PM (1 year, 16 days ago) |
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If I had a dollar for every girl that ever found me unattractive...
They'd eventually start finding me attractive.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: doolhoofd]
#28140493 - 01/15/23 12:20 AM (1 year, 13 days ago) |
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Being attracted to men for me is more intellectual and emotional then physical. I have been with physically beautiful men, greek gods. To where I feel insecure because they are so physically attractive. And men that my friends would ask me why. But I had such a great connection with them that it was amazing. I have been attracted to men because I can talk to them, they are smart. I love that. I know it is unique because that is the feedback I receive from others about my choice in men. I don't have any regrets. I have some opinions on my experiences but overall they were all good. Honestly the best looking men were my worst experiences. With the exception of one. Confidence is a turn on
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28149966 - 01/21/23 03:34 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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I definitely know sexual frustration. I'm 39 and have social anxiety. I find conversations with people I know difficult. Strangers are completely unapproachable let alone beautiful women. I find my mind filled with sexual fantasy desperation oozing from my thoughts. So night after night Hans and Palmala do there thing.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28151375 - 01/22/23 01:14 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I used to feel like that a lot in my 20's. I used train and run marathons and that seemed to help somewhat. I read a book about sex addiction and it was eye opening. cant remember what it was called. Anyway not saying youre a sex addict but it might be interesting to look into. I go to the gym a lot and I think that might be a good suggestion because not only does it give you an outlet, you might also meet someone there. Ive hooked up a few times that way. Theres a girl who keeps chatting me up in the sauna lately and if she keeps fucking around shes going to find it out.
all the best man.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151401 - 01/22/23 01:45 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I know men always say it’s easier for women. Obviously not for me. When im at the gym i do quick hellos but im pretty focused.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151408 - 01/22/23 01:51 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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either way its a healthier alternative to staying home and jacking off all day. I find that if i dont jack off I just have a better time in general. I feel like im more creative and more athletic. maybe its chemical maybe its in my head. I also feel like if I have a lot of sexual energy it makes me want to go out more which is probably healthy for me. (within reason) I tend to get laid more when I go out and feel better about myself. Things spiral up or down for me.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151409 - 01/22/23 01:52 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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That’s probably my issue. I go to work, gym & home. I don’t go anywhere much.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151413 - 01/22/23 01:57 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Theres always tinder. It seems shallow but ive met some really rad women on there. several of which remain very close friends despite the relationship not working out. All work and no play makes jack something something...
i forced myself out tonight to a metal show i didnt really care about but i knew i should get out and I did meet a friend of a friend who was crazy cute and seemed to be single. Next time i see her it will be easier chat her up like "yeah hey we met at that metal show" at least thats how the cartoon in my head always goes.
I dont know why im acting like i know what im talking about ive been single for fucking ever.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151415 - 01/22/23 01:59 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I live in a rural isolated area so apps don’t work. I don’t do bars. Or socialize. Ill find something I want to do & ask my ex husband to go with me. We don’t have Sex.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151420 - 01/22/23 02:05 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Im also in a rural area(s) so i swipe out on tinder pretty quick. a long while back i realized that it wasnt the 'not getting what i want' that was hurting me but the 'wanting what im not getting'. easier said than done but ive started to get the hang of it. solitude is like a bad drug. At first it sucks but then you get used to it. Then when you dont want it anymore its hard to be rid of because its just what you do to feel normal.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151424 - 01/22/23 02:08 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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hence my issue isnt meeting people or attracting people, my issue is that i tend to nuke it before it can threaten my independence. i complain about being lonely and then nuke everyone that tries to get too close.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151470 - 01/22/23 03:26 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I think that's most humans, there is probably some evolutionary advantage to it.
I find channeling my angst into taking dick pics seems to be the best working solution I've come up with so far.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: jack_straw2208]
#28151515 - 01/22/23 04:54 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I know the benifits of exercise. I've been addicted to a lot of things and exercise and fitness was one. I thought if I built an impressive body I would be able to impress women with raw physical power. Not that I needed to. I was married. I was really just trying to get my wife's attention.
She was like alot of women. And liked to comment out loud about things she likes. A hot actor usually or some random person showing some skill. Like skateboarding. Id often hear from the passenger seat oh my God thats so hot.
That would be fine if any positive statement was ever directed at me. I mean If my wife has nothing nice to say to me then what could my actual worth be. I must be quite unimpressive for her to never reciprocate the things I say her to.
When we first got together her compliments came easy. So I knew she was capable.
But 3 years into her alcoholism had changed things. And it would be another 4 years of heavy drinking before a change presented itself.
Though the relationship festered for another 5 past that.
Just ramblings from a broken person from a broken marriage to a broken woman .
Recovery has been slow
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28151673 - 01/22/23 08:11 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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hope you realize ar this point your self worth doesnt come from another person. your ex wife sounds like a bummer. no offense. but when you realize that youre rad alone, you wont have a problem gettting laid.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152040 - 01/22/23 11:44 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Hahahaha nice that's the same exact words my friend uses. I certainly had a low feeling of self worth back then.
And glad to be on the right path
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28152256 - 01/22/23 01:51 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28152429 - 01/22/23 03:44 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous #2 said: 3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
Going to have to do some introspection and examine your values; this is unfortunate part of life where sometimes values are at odds; if you value one more then the other then the choice is easy. When the choice isn't easy, difficult conversations must be had or bad outcomes will be worse. Have you opened this conversation with him recently?
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Roflspammer]
#28152570 - 01/22/23 05:55 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous #2 said: 3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
Going to have to do some introspection and examine your values; this is unfortunate part of life where sometimes values are at odds; if you value one more then the other then the choice is easy. When the choice isn't easy, difficult conversations must be had or bad outcomes will be worse. Have you opened this conversation with him recently?
He won’t talk. Or says I can’t make you orgasm. But he used to. And he doesn’t try. Literally nothing. We start to get intimate and he goes straight for intercourse. I tried slowing him down & then pointed out he wasn’t even touching me. So he rubbed my arm Are you kidding He’s always been the type of guy that your just a hole I got sick of it. It’s degrading We split I was with other men and wow… WOW It was awesome He stepped it up BIG time We reconciled He got sober & everything stopped Including how things work Extremely depressing I’m not unattractive and he knows this But I want it to be him I can’t force him to try Here i am
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152648 - 01/22/23 06:40 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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Why do you want to be him? Not that you have do answer. But I spent a long time telling people all the great things about my wife while burying the negatives. And it's hard to get the right advice when you don't share enough or refuse to look.
Or go buy a big fuck off vibrator and rubber dick and show him what you like
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28152659 - 01/22/23 06:49 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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tough spot. sex is kindof a big deal. id have a hard time being with someone who had boring vanilla sex. decisions decisions.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152936 - 01/22/23 09:57 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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He is my best friend, if I was in trouble I would call him. We are raising our grandchildren together. We didn’t see that coming Maybe because I don’t know if I can be with someone else I’ve been with him so long & I don’t want to hurt the kids Were good friends We never fight
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28152940 - 01/22/23 09:58 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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That depressed me
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28154729 - 01/23/23 10:12 PM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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That sounds really tough. My ex had hooks in me deep places I never thought she could twist. But after it ended I knew it was the right thing. Even though reconciliation would have been much easier.
That sex sounds aweful. I have a friend like that. He was mad at his gf cuz she was upset he doesnt try to get her off. And he says what do you mean I've been hanging you for hours.
He's a selfish child though. Being friends and not fighting are not the same as being in a happy relationship.
I always said I won't stay together for the kids. Able to provide a better home without the mother anyway.
I would often throw a hate fuck at her. Though the opportunity didn't really come up much.
To me something is broken. Just reading about the way he fucks is making me feel used and worthless.
Sees its such a powerful weapon in a disfunctional relationship.
I wish I could hug you
Introspection and communication are the only way forward.
Remember easy doesn't mean happy.
Also sorry I'm making some assumptions but reading this brings back lots of shitty memories.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28154762 - 01/23/23 10:55 PM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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Abombs said: That sounds really tough. My ex had hooks in me deep places I never thought she could twist. But after it ended I knew it was the right thing. Even though reconciliation would have been much easier.
That sex sounds aweful. I have a friend like that. He was mad at his gf cuz she was upset he doesnt try to get her off. And he says what do you mean I've been hanging you for hours.
He's a selfish child though. Being friends and not fighting are not the same as being in a happy relationship.
I always said I won't stay together for the kids. Able to provide a better home without the mother anyway.
I would often throw a hate fuck at her. Though the opportunity didn't really come up much.
To me something is broken. Just reading about the way he fucks is making me feel used and worthless.
Sees its such a powerful weapon in a disfunctional relationship.
I wish I could hug you
Introspection and communication are the only way forward.
Remember easy doesn't mean happy.
Also sorry I'm making some assumptions but reading this brings back lots of shitty memories.
Im crying… thank you It hurts BAD I don’t really talk about it. He was a good looking guy who is a womanizer. We first got together he was just fun. I overlooked a lot due to being busy, naive, young.. & idk why. He was fun & exciting & I did everything right & was boring lol Then it grew. My dad was a gentleman, my brothers are. I had been married previously and had never been cheated on or around men who weren’t gentlemen. When he cheated the first time I blamed myself. My self esteem plummeted. I didn’t value myself enough to see it was all him. He used to tell me EVERY man looks at a girls ass when they see them, every man only wants to fuck you, etc I believed something was wrong with me. I threw myself into work & my kids. When we divorced 20 years later. I found out I am attractive, not all men are like that. I had amazing sex. Then we started hooking up & it was good. Really good Then our grandson was born positive to drugs & cps was taking him & his 3 siblings He got the house in the divorce. My house was small. Our old house is big. We all moved in with him. And here I am I betrayed myself We get along good I have always done my own thing. He works & does sports. I always worked a lot. But now he’s an amazing grandfather I miss being in love I miss being desired I miss having an orgasm with another person It’s lonely I don’t have sex with him at all now- why? Literally why would I? I’m to busy to go Out of town My job I don’t really meet ppl to socialize with. I can’t . It’s not an option And the kids are young Idk what he does & I don’t care to much. Sorry for spilling
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28155367 - 01/24/23 11:32 AM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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No it's cool. It's a really hard position to be in. And it's taken years post divorce and self-destructive mushroom trips to digest that 12 years of disfunctional marriage and parenting. And only recently starting to dive deep into memories of my life.
Sharing a live of love with someone is my most cherished desire. And with realising how little love there was between us about 6 years into marriage and kids. I told her it was the booze or me. But we were never the same after.
She never drank again but that's when I found out the aweful things she says and does are just her. She didn't need to be drunk to treat me poorly. And sex was just one way she would tear me down I live in a town just big enough for everyone to know everything about anyone.
I've been single for 2 years concentrating on parenting and work. And just recently starting talking to a nice girl. I usually struggle to converse with others but it's going well enough to be excited.
Sorry I've been doing frequent trips and started writing a book about my life and emotions keep gushing out.
This is your life if your grandson is safe then go and find love. One day he will understand.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28155368 - 01/24/23 11:34 AM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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Hey anonymous if you Want to chat in private shoot me message❤️
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr] 2
#28158927 - 01/26/23 07:32 PM (1 year, 1 day ago) |
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You're not alone my friend.
My wife left me out of blue in 2019 because she decided she was a lesbian after 12 years of marriage and 3 kids. I should have seen it coming due to no sexual interest for years but I just let my frustration and resentment build and tried to suffer through it. 4 years later I have been on 1 date. It's tough to have self confidence after being rejected for years and it may be even tougher to trust someone or trust yourself to not let yourself get hurt again. I have no advice, I'm going to start talk therapy again. I'm hoping that and some myco therapy will turn things around in my head. At 42 I need to live my life now. Good luck man, we will persevere!
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Bsubs]
#28160423 - 01/27/23 07:43 PM (1 year, 22 hours ago) |
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Ya I have a date coming up on Sunday first since the split.
The constant sexual rejection is a mindfuck.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28160427 - 01/27/23 07:43 PM (1 year, 22 hours ago) |
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Mine decided she was poly and started doing all the nice things to the other guys 😒
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28572236 - 12/06/23 11:37 PM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Strip club, definitely!
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: aswire]
#28572285 - 12/07/23 01:04 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Yay!
It definitely helps. Its not sex but its pretty close imo.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28572444 - 12/07/23 07:01 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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I would think a strip club would add to the frustration. Look but don't touch.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28572545 - 12/07/23 08:46 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Some clubs allow touching when you get a private dance. Depends on where you go, what state, local laws and the dancer's comfort level.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28572576 - 12/07/23 09:10 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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It could give him something to masterbate to later on. Might improved the effect…
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 1
#28572588 - 12/07/23 09:17 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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As a woman That would cause me more frustration.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen] 1
#28572599 - 12/07/23 09:26 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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That’s too bad… Honestly, having good jerk off material helps men…
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: aswire]
#28573539 - 12/07/23 09:28 PM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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aswire said: It could give him something to masterbate to later on. Might improved the effect…
100%! Makes it more "real" when its a recent memory.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen] 1
#28573559 - 12/07/23 09:41 PM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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loladoreen said: As a woman That would cause me more frustration.
As a man, I agree Strip clubs and lap dances are stupid and do not help Jerking it at home thinking about the lap dance seems even worse
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#28573765 - 12/08/23 12:40 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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My other avenue for sexual frustration is Chaturbate. Some of the shows I watch, especially multiple at the same time, are so intense, so erotic, so sexually satistifying to my eyes and ears, its almost like having sex.
Theres something about seeing a woman or couple (either Lesbian or straight) pleasure themselves or each other live that is so gratifying for me. Plus its free and you dont even need an account to log in to watch. Its wild
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28573945 - 12/08/23 06:52 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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loladoreen said: As a woman That would cause me more frustration.
As a man, I agree Strip clubs and lap dances are stupid and do not help Jerking it at home thinking about the lap dance seems even worse
That's completely my thoughts also.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28573947 - 12/08/23 06:54 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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I have a friend who made sooooo much money on chaturbate. Mived to only fans Typical girl next door, married and only does things alone ir with her husband occasionally She made a lot of money
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen] 2
#28573951 - 12/08/23 06:59 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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I remember sexual frustration. it was maddening in my 20s. and still a problem in my 30s. After my divorce I fucked around 100 different people in a span of like 5 years and I hated myself for it. Never really could fuck my fill because heres the thing.
you never really get enough of what doesnt satisfy you in the first place. Its like any other drug that way. I found out too late in life that (in general) its not the not getting what you want thats hurting you. its the wanting what youre not getting. The wanting. Thats the part you actually have some control over.
I learned late and hard about living with gratitude. It sounds cheese but its like anything else--strength, endurance, agility--it has to be trained and developed.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 1
#28573964 - 12/08/23 07:15 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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Wow Very valid point There seems to be no satisfaction when you do that. I'm not speaking from experience I honestly wish I would of been more promiscuous. But I am unsure if id be happy And probably not satisfied
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