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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152040 - 01/22/23 11:44 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Hahahaha nice that's the same exact words my friend uses. I certainly had a low feeling of self worth back then.
And glad to be on the right path
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28152256 - 01/22/23 01:51 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28152429 - 01/22/23 03:44 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous #2 said: 3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
Going to have to do some introspection and examine your values; this is unfortunate part of life where sometimes values are at odds; if you value one more then the other then the choice is easy. When the choice isn't easy, difficult conversations must be had or bad outcomes will be worse. Have you opened this conversation with him recently?
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Roflspammer]
#28152570 - 01/22/23 05:55 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Roflspammer said:
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Anonymous #2 said: 3 years ago I told my partner if I am not sexually satisfied I will go elsewhere. Partner doesn’t want anything but intercourse. My body doesn’t work that way & they last less then 60 seconds. 3 years… I hoped theyd see a doctor or attempt to fix it. I read masturbation helps. They said they don’t even do that. I’m ready to find a sexual partner and I hate that my sexual needs are not important to them I also hate the idea of going elsewhere I understand your frustration Fucking miserable but love them as a person Bullshit
Going to have to do some introspection and examine your values; this is unfortunate part of life where sometimes values are at odds; if you value one more then the other then the choice is easy. When the choice isn't easy, difficult conversations must be had or bad outcomes will be worse. Have you opened this conversation with him recently?
He won’t talk. Or says I can’t make you orgasm. But he used to. And he doesn’t try. Literally nothing. We start to get intimate and he goes straight for intercourse. I tried slowing him down & then pointed out he wasn’t even touching me. So he rubbed my arm Are you kidding He’s always been the type of guy that your just a hole I got sick of it. It’s degrading We split I was with other men and wow… WOW It was awesome He stepped it up BIG time We reconciled He got sober & everything stopped Including how things work Extremely depressing I’m not unattractive and he knows this But I want it to be him I can’t force him to try Here i am
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152648 - 01/22/23 06:40 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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Why do you want to be him? Not that you have do answer. But I spent a long time telling people all the great things about my wife while burying the negatives. And it's hard to get the right advice when you don't share enough or refuse to look.
Or go buy a big fuck off vibrator and rubber dick and show him what you like
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28152659 - 01/22/23 06:49 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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tough spot. sex is kindof a big deal. id have a hard time being with someone who had boring vanilla sex. decisions decisions.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28152936 - 01/22/23 09:57 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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He is my best friend, if I was in trouble I would call him. We are raising our grandchildren together. We didn’t see that coming Maybe because I don’t know if I can be with someone else I’ve been with him so long & I don’t want to hurt the kids Were good friends We never fight
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28152940 - 01/22/23 09:58 PM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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That depressed me
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28154729 - 01/23/23 10:12 PM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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That sounds really tough. My ex had hooks in me deep places I never thought she could twist. But after it ended I knew it was the right thing. Even though reconciliation would have been much easier.
That sex sounds aweful. I have a friend like that. He was mad at his gf cuz she was upset he doesnt try to get her off. And he says what do you mean I've been hanging you for hours.
He's a selfish child though. Being friends and not fighting are not the same as being in a happy relationship.
I always said I won't stay together for the kids. Able to provide a better home without the mother anyway.
I would often throw a hate fuck at her. Though the opportunity didn't really come up much.
To me something is broken. Just reading about the way he fucks is making me feel used and worthless.
Sees its such a powerful weapon in a disfunctional relationship.
I wish I could hug you
Introspection and communication are the only way forward.
Remember easy doesn't mean happy.
Also sorry I'm making some assumptions but reading this brings back lots of shitty memories.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28154762 - 01/23/23 10:55 PM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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Abombs said: That sounds really tough. My ex had hooks in me deep places I never thought she could twist. But after it ended I knew it was the right thing. Even though reconciliation would have been much easier.
That sex sounds aweful. I have a friend like that. He was mad at his gf cuz she was upset he doesnt try to get her off. And he says what do you mean I've been hanging you for hours.
He's a selfish child though. Being friends and not fighting are not the same as being in a happy relationship.
I always said I won't stay together for the kids. Able to provide a better home without the mother anyway.
I would often throw a hate fuck at her. Though the opportunity didn't really come up much.
To me something is broken. Just reading about the way he fucks is making me feel used and worthless.
Sees its such a powerful weapon in a disfunctional relationship.
I wish I could hug you
Introspection and communication are the only way forward.
Remember easy doesn't mean happy.
Also sorry I'm making some assumptions but reading this brings back lots of shitty memories.
Im crying… thank you It hurts BAD I don’t really talk about it. He was a good looking guy who is a womanizer. We first got together he was just fun. I overlooked a lot due to being busy, naive, young.. & idk why. He was fun & exciting & I did everything right & was boring lol Then it grew. My dad was a gentleman, my brothers are. I had been married previously and had never been cheated on or around men who weren’t gentlemen. When he cheated the first time I blamed myself. My self esteem plummeted. I didn’t value myself enough to see it was all him. He used to tell me EVERY man looks at a girls ass when they see them, every man only wants to fuck you, etc I believed something was wrong with me. I threw myself into work & my kids. When we divorced 20 years later. I found out I am attractive, not all men are like that. I had amazing sex. Then we started hooking up & it was good. Really good Then our grandson was born positive to drugs & cps was taking him & his 3 siblings He got the house in the divorce. My house was small. Our old house is big. We all moved in with him. And here I am I betrayed myself We get along good I have always done my own thing. He works & does sports. I always worked a lot. But now he’s an amazing grandfather I miss being in love I miss being desired I miss having an orgasm with another person It’s lonely I don’t have sex with him at all now- why? Literally why would I? I’m to busy to go Out of town My job I don’t really meet ppl to socialize with. I can’t . It’s not an option And the kids are young Idk what he does & I don’t care to much. Sorry for spilling
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28155367 - 01/24/23 11:32 AM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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No it's cool. It's a really hard position to be in. And it's taken years post divorce and self-destructive mushroom trips to digest that 12 years of disfunctional marriage and parenting. And only recently starting to dive deep into memories of my life.
Sharing a live of love with someone is my most cherished desire. And with realising how little love there was between us about 6 years into marriage and kids. I told her it was the booze or me. But we were never the same after.
She never drank again but that's when I found out the aweful things she says and does are just her. She didn't need to be drunk to treat me poorly. And sex was just one way she would tear me down I live in a town just big enough for everyone to know everything about anyone.
I've been single for 2 years concentrating on parenting and work. And just recently starting talking to a nice girl. I usually struggle to converse with others but it's going well enough to be excited.
Sorry I've been doing frequent trips and started writing a book about my life and emotions keep gushing out.
This is your life if your grandson is safe then go and find love. One day he will understand.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28155368 - 01/24/23 11:34 AM (1 year, 4 days ago) |
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Hey anonymous if you Want to chat in private shoot me message❤️
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr] 2
#28158927 - 01/26/23 07:32 PM (1 year, 1 day ago) |
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You're not alone my friend.
My wife left me out of blue in 2019 because she decided she was a lesbian after 12 years of marriage and 3 kids. I should have seen it coming due to no sexual interest for years but I just let my frustration and resentment build and tried to suffer through it. 4 years later I have been on 1 date. It's tough to have self confidence after being rejected for years and it may be even tougher to trust someone or trust yourself to not let yourself get hurt again. I have no advice, I'm going to start talk therapy again. I'm hoping that and some myco therapy will turn things around in my head. At 42 I need to live my life now. Good luck man, we will persevere!
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Bsubs]
#28160423 - 01/27/23 07:43 PM (1 year, 22 hours ago) |
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Ya I have a date coming up on Sunday first since the split.
The constant sexual rejection is a mindfuck.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28160427 - 01/27/23 07:43 PM (1 year, 22 hours ago) |
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Mine decided she was poly and started doing all the nice things to the other guys 😒
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28572236 - 12/06/23 11:37 PM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Strip club, definitely!
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: aswire]
#28572285 - 12/07/23 01:04 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Yay!
It definitely helps. Its not sex but its pretty close imo.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28572444 - 12/07/23 07:01 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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I would think a strip club would add to the frustration. Look but don't touch.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28572545 - 12/07/23 08:46 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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Some clubs allow touching when you get a private dance. Depends on where you go, what state, local laws and the dancer's comfort level.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28572576 - 12/07/23 09:10 AM (1 month, 21 days ago) |
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It could give him something to masterbate to later on. Might improved the effect…
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