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Hikeadellic
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Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration?
#28129066 - 01/07/23 10:05 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Jacking off isn't really doing it for me anymore
Just feel really pent up right now. Like I need somewhere I can put this energy into.
Been thinking about hitting up my ex for a booty call, but I know I can't do anything long term with her.
Like I feel I should do SOMETHING but I don't know what. And I feel like I have been batting a thousand trying to meet new women. I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28129993 - 01/07/23 11:13 PM (1 year, 20 days ago) |
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Hikeadellic said: Jacking off isn't really doing it for me anymore
Just feel really pent up right now. Like I need somewhere I can put this energy into.
Been thinking about hitting up my ex for a booty call, but I know I can't do anything long term with her.
Like I feel I should do SOMETHING but I don't know what. And I feel like I have been batting a thousand trying to meet new women. I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
Same I hit the gym to get rid of the pent up sexual energy.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28130032 - 01/07/23 11:50 PM (1 year, 20 days ago) |
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Gym's a good idea.
Hikeadelic, would you consider a strip club? I know a private dance helps me on occassion when i need it.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic]
#28131617 - 01/09/23 12:24 AM (1 year, 19 days ago) |
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Hikeadellic said: ... I go out and meet new people regularly but its like something isn't clicking
Like.. You're not sure what the next step is with these people? Or you're not finding anyone you want to pursue further? Or there's something that you have to fix within yourself to allow yourself to move forward?
Sexual frustration means.. you desire sex. Which is pretty natural. So what's actually going on?
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Lynnch] 1
#28131709 - 01/09/23 04:46 AM (1 year, 19 days ago) |
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I can give myself really high level orgasms without doing anything weird. I feel like this is at least mostly normal for most guys I think. If that's the case and you haven't stopped masturbating then maybe you're desiring companionship not just pussy.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 2
#28132926 - 01/09/23 08:49 PM (1 year, 18 days ago) |
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Start a journal, analyze your dreams. Consider what has stopped you from having a satisfying long term relationship in the past and how that is still acting on your thought patterns today. Perhaps you could restart an old hobby that made you happy before, but you stopped doing it because something painful happened and you feel a return would mean humiliation or failure. Listening to calm music for a while can help to alleviate your anger while thinking about these things. Grateful Dead and Jefferson Airplane are your friends. Otherwise, scribbling on paper with a pencil or paintbrush might shine a light on trapped memories.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Hikeadellic] 5
#28135912 - 01/11/23 07:56 PM (1 year, 16 days ago) |
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If I had a dollar for every girl that ever found me unattractive...
They'd eventually start finding me attractive.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: doolhoofd]
#28140493 - 01/15/23 12:20 AM (1 year, 13 days ago) |
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Being attracted to men for me is more intellectual and emotional then physical. I have been with physically beautiful men, greek gods. To where I feel insecure because they are so physically attractive. And men that my friends would ask me why. But I had such a great connection with them that it was amazing. I have been attracted to men because I can talk to them, they are smart. I love that. I know it is unique because that is the feedback I receive from others about my choice in men. I don't have any regrets. I have some opinions on my experiences but overall they were all good. Honestly the best looking men were my worst experiences. With the exception of one. Confidence is a turn on
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28149966 - 01/21/23 03:34 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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I definitely know sexual frustration. I'm 39 and have social anxiety. I find conversations with people I know difficult. Strangers are completely unapproachable let alone beautiful women. I find my mind filled with sexual fantasy desperation oozing from my thoughts. So night after night Hans and Palmala do there thing.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28151375 - 01/22/23 01:14 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I used to feel like that a lot in my 20's. I used train and run marathons and that seemed to help somewhat. I read a book about sex addiction and it was eye opening. cant remember what it was called. Anyway not saying youre a sex addict but it might be interesting to look into. I go to the gym a lot and I think that might be a good suggestion because not only does it give you an outlet, you might also meet someone there. Ive hooked up a few times that way. Theres a girl who keeps chatting me up in the sauna lately and if she keeps fucking around shes going to find it out.
all the best man.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151401 - 01/22/23 01:45 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I know men always say itβs easier for women. Obviously not for me. When im at the gym i do quick hellos but im pretty focused.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151408 - 01/22/23 01:51 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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either way its a healthier alternative to staying home and jacking off all day. I find that if i dont jack off I just have a better time in general. I feel like im more creative and more athletic. maybe its chemical maybe its in my head. I also feel like if I have a lot of sexual energy it makes me want to go out more which is probably healthy for me. (within reason) I tend to get laid more when I go out and feel better about myself. Things spiral up or down for me.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151409 - 01/22/23 01:52 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Thatβs probably my issue. I go to work, gym & home. I donβt go anywhere much.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151413 - 01/22/23 01:57 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Theres always tinder. It seems shallow but ive met some really rad women on there. several of which remain very close friends despite the relationship not working out. All work and no play makes jack something something...
i forced myself out tonight to a metal show i didnt really care about but i knew i should get out and I did meet a friend of a friend who was crazy cute and seemed to be single. Next time i see her it will be easier chat her up like "yeah hey we met at that metal show" at least thats how the cartoon in my head always goes.
I dont know why im acting like i know what im talking about ive been single for fucking ever.
Edited by BeefSupremeJr (01/22/23 01:58 AM)
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151415 - 01/22/23 01:59 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I live in a rural isolated area so apps donβt work. I donβt do bars. Or socialize. Ill find something I want to do & ask my ex husband to go with me. We donβt have Sex.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: loladoreen]
#28151420 - 01/22/23 02:05 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Im also in a rural area(s) so i swipe out on tinder pretty quick. a long while back i realized that it wasnt the 'not getting what i want' that was hurting me but the 'wanting what im not getting'. easier said than done but ive started to get the hang of it. solitude is like a bad drug. At first it sucks but then you get used to it. Then when you dont want it anymore its hard to be rid of because its just what you do to feel normal.
Edited by BeefSupremeJr (01/22/23 02:06 AM)
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151424 - 01/22/23 02:08 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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hence my issue isnt meeting people or attracting people, my issue is that i tend to nuke it before it can threaten my independence. i complain about being lonely and then nuke everyone that tries to get too close.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151470 - 01/22/23 03:26 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I think that's most humans, there is probably some evolutionary advantage to it.
I find channeling my angst into taking dick pics seems to be the best working solution I've come up with so far.
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: jack_straw2208]
#28151515 - 01/22/23 04:54 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I know the benifits of exercise. I've been addicted to a lot of things and exercise and fitness was one. I thought if I built an impressive body I would be able to impress women with raw physical power. Not that I needed to. I was married. I was really just trying to get my wife's attention.
She was like alot of women. And liked to comment out loud about things she likes. A hot actor usually or some random person showing some skill. Like skateboarding. Id often hear from the passenger seat oh my God thats so hot.
That would be fine if any positive statement was ever directed at me. I mean If my wife has nothing nice to say to me then what could my actual worth be. I must be quite unimpressive for her to never reciprocate the things I say her to.
When we first got together her compliments came easy. So I knew she was capable.
But 3 years into her alcoholism had changed things. And it would be another 4 years of heavy drinking before a change presented itself.
Though the relationship festered for another 5 past that.
Just ramblings from a broken person from a broken marriage to a broken woman .
Recovery has been slow
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Re: Any advice on how to deal with sexual frustration? [Re: Abombs]
#28151673 - 01/22/23 08:11 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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hope you realize ar this point your self worth doesnt come from another person. your ex wife sounds like a bummer. no offense. but when you realize that youre rad alone, you wont have a problem gettting laid.
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