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Delyrium
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Help... I'm falling into a depression
#2808482 - 06/19/04 09:05 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hey everyone - I've been gone for awhile due to a 2 week trip with my man out in Utah and the day I got back off the plane at 6:30am I had to drive to VT (6 hour drive) at 3pm. I had to move all my stuff in that night and then I started work the next day at 9am.
So here's the problem - I LOVE my job (that's not the problem) but I fucking hate living here. It's a beautiful place but my roommate is a fuckin creepy mid-life crisis loser and I haven't met anyone here that I could see myself really being friends with yet.
I have been crying just about every night since I've moved here.
My roommate calls me a hermit b/c I just lock myself in my room after work and go to sleep.
I get woken in the middle of the night b/c he throws parties with people pluging in eletric guitars and not knowing how to play them, people slamming doors, yelling, etc...
mind you - this guy is in his early to mid thirties and is divorced - has 3 kids - used to run an escort website service - works at a fuckin video game shop - is an alcoholic (he actually kinda brags about how he gets drunk, goes climbing w/o any tools and then falls while reaching for a flask and breaks his fingers and foot... wtf).
So ya - having to deal with him really sucks. He's so "me me me" - you can't get a word in when talking to him. It's all a fucking monologue.
Okay so I'm depressed. I am bored here and lonely - very lonely. It's not even like I can't meet new people - it's more like - I want my boyfriend and my old friends - not someone new. Ya know?
This sucks... anyone else have this kind of problem? Am I weird for not wanted to interact with my wacko roommate? He creeps me out and is so fucking rude about these parties - he fucking has them on weekday nights when I have to get up at 7:30am.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808539 - 06/19/04 10:11 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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well thats part of life...you have to meet new people in matter where you go. oh yeah one thing that i find is really good is to try seeing things from their point of view, it will help you understand them better and maybe you'll grow to like them, who knows?
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808540 - 06/19/04 10:12 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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You're not weird. Sounds like you just need to move out. Find a roommate you can relate to ! How'd ya find that loser anyway?
It's good that you're there so you may better appreciate your real friends but it won't last long. You're a smart girl and you'll take care of yourself as needed. Have faith in yourself! I believe in ya
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808605 - 06/19/04 10:48 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah, it sounds like you just need a change of venue. Save up your money and move out, and you'll have that to look forward to. It will become a goal, and a light at the end of the tunnel -- humans love having goals to work on, and bright futures to look forward to! As far as developing new friendships -- (I take it, you've moved to a new city?) -- develop an active social life outside of your house. This need not be an expensive ordeal involving club-hopping and the expenditure of large sums of money -- remember you're trying to save up money to move out -- this just needs to be something to get you out of the house; where you can meet new people with similar interests; and maybe develop some hobbies and/or avocations. Volunteer at a local museum, or somewhere else that interests you. Take some adult continuing ed. classes. Join a club. There are all kinds of low cost ways to meet people with similar interests, which cost very little... You may feel that you don't have the time and energy to expend in such a way, and if you keep living like you are, then you're right, you won't. However, if you do expend a little energy after work, and away from the house, I think you'll find that your mental state will change; you'll become less depressed; and actually gain an energy surplus! If you're active and happy, then you'll have all the energy you need -- especially, if your young. Hope that helps... PS: Don't use recreational drugs regularly to fight depression. That hardly ever works out well. Instead, keep the drugs for the occasional enjoyment and augmentation of a life, which is already good, because you fixed the foundation, not suppressed the symptoms through self-medication. Addendum after re-read... PPS: As far as the separation anxiety/dysphoria element of this goes: Start looking forward, not backwards! You're life is what YOU make of it, as an ongoing adventure. people will come and go, that's the nature of the beast. It's not up to others to fix your life. It's up to you!
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808608 - 06/19/04 10:50 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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I don't have a lot of friends either, but my wife and kids are all I need...
don't worry you'll be fine, you got one piece of the puzzle already, "I love my job", most people cant say that...
don't get down the rest will come in time if you let it. If you let people/things/life in general get you down it will kick you around and not let you up...stay strong
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Delyrium
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: goobler]
#2808657 - 06/19/04 11:15 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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thanks everyone. i just called an animal shelter to volunteer at on saturdays. i'm going to join a rock climbing class and yoga class.
i was talking to my 10th grade teacher and apparently he says that a lot of the people i graduated had the same problem as me when having to go to college.
i dont have to worry about the drugs - i left my hash at home and only have 2 pills of codiene here that i haven't taken yet.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808670 - 06/19/04 11:22 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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I love working for animal shelters. I got 50 hours of community service once and fell in love with so many animals I ended up like putting in 150 hours of time in a couple months.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2808683 - 06/19/04 11:41 AM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
Delyrium said: i just called an animal shelter to volunteer at on saturdays. i'm going to join a rock climbing class and yoga class.
Fun!
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Delyrium
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Papaver]
#2809276 - 06/19/04 05:23 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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ya i just found out some fucked up shit...
last night not only were they making a shitload of noise and drinking but a few were on speed, E and shrooms. Now honestly, if you do that shit, you don't get all loud and wild in a condo where your neighbor can hear the sound of you taking a piss.
I'm kinda nervous that someone will call the cops - i don't need to get in trouble for shit i'm not doing.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2809304 - 06/19/04 05:35 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've been critically depressed for about 6 years now and i don't even know why. Enjoy the fact that you've pinpointed the source to someone other than yourself.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2809385 - 06/19/04 06:13 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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I can't add much to the already excellent advice given here, so here's some good vibes headin' your way for ya!
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2809563 - 06/19/04 07:41 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Delyrium
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Le_Canard]
#2809693 - 06/19/04 08:35 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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thanks - much love to you all.
i called a few rentals. i'm going to see a place tomorrow - more downtown. i also am waiting to hear back on a sublet downtown where i have to babysit a cat. i would kinda like that - ya know - have a buddy with me. hm.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2809704 - 06/19/04 08:38 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Sorry you're having such a hard time. I definitely have it easy compared to you. I have no problems but boredom and loneliness, you;ve got way more shit to deal with than that
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Delyrium
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: RedNucleus]
#2811524 - 06/20/04 04:44 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Okay good news!! I'M OUTTA HERE!!!!! Yep!! I went to look at a new place today. It's a big, old house right next to the college campus. It's old... for sure. I think the room is on a slant. However I'll be living with 4 other people - 2 guys and 2 girls all around my age. They aren't too wild and they have this thing called RESPECT.
So ya - I think my current roommate overheard me saying that he's nuts and shit to a friend - but I hope not. I'm planning a stealth move-out this weekend. I'm gonna leave him a note with all the keys and shit and let him keep the rest of the month's rent. He scares me in the fact that he acts like he's in the Vermont Mafia so I'm not letting him know where I'll be or anything. Ahhh... thank god. I feel happier already!
O and I already made a friend just by checking out this place. So it's a good sign!!
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2811554 - 06/20/04 04:59 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Thought you were more of a dog person.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2811557 - 06/20/04 05:01 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Vermont Mafiosos. Do they go around stealing truck loads of Vermont Teddies and Ben & Jerries Ice Cream?
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2811676 - 06/20/04 06:10 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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It's quite simple del.
Kill the man.
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: Delyrium]
#2811678 - 06/20/04 06:11 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Or wait, why don't you just get out of that shithole called the eastcoast?
Come out west!
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Re: Help... I'm falling into a depression [Re: goobler]
#2811953 - 06/20/04 08:11 PM (19 years, 9 months ago) |
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Goobler I am going to use this one also. Del........XO XO
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