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ScoutingEagle
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Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread?
#28080989 - 12/03/22 08:48 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? My wife just told me she wants to be in an open relationship and I'm looking for activity partners that might lead to more. I'm in Indiana
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DharmaForKarma
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle] 1
#28082688 - 12/04/22 08:58 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Probably not here. Look up local polyamory groups. I notice Polyamory Indiana on Facebook. Check meetup, reddit, etc. for info on groups in your area. You may be surprised at the depth of the local poly community. If you are interested in a dating app check out OKCupid. Non-monogamous options are well supported.
I am not practicing any form of poly though through dating I’ve met quite a few poly folks. Many have loved to talk about it, share, teach. It’s a fascinating lifestyle with many facets, and can be very satisfying if it works for you.
If you don’t mind discussing it, how are you feeling about this new dimension in your relationship?
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: DharmaForKarma]
#28083333 - 12/04/22 02:33 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Pics.
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ScoutingEagle
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: BikerB]
#28083816 - 12/04/22 07:09 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Well, I can't really be mad about it. I told her before we got married that she is it, not getting married again, not getting a divorce. Kinda the best option since we have a child and still plan on another. She is 14yrs younger than I am so I kinda feel like I'm stealing her 20's. Plus, as soon as we got done talking about it, she opened up and was way more receptive and open about what's on her mind.
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thelanzii

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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28085747 - 12/06/22 08:21 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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its better than cheating
opens up a higher possibility of diseases
could bring out more fantasies and openness during sex
there are probably local groups, reddit, apps, forums for swinger-type stuff
I have thought about open relationships and have always had conflicting thoughts when analyzing all of the angles
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle] 2
#28093296 - 12/11/22 12:07 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Are you seeking "activity partners" for both of you, or just her? Have you discussed if this will only be sex, or will emotional relationships be allowed?
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ScoutingEagle said:
I told her before we got married that she is it, not getting married again, not getting a divorce.
Although the "You are the only one for me, forever" is the romantic fairytale we've all been raised with, I've recently learned how it can damage bonds and relationships. This can foster a feeling of dependence and being smothered. For many people it's a turn off, even if they won't admit it. It can be a form of codependency.
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loladoreen


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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28107513 - 12/21/22 03:23 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Find a swingers club. If you are up To travel theres some im Cancun, Jamaica & every major city
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10ftTall
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: loladoreen]
#28107532 - 12/21/22 03:34 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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That poor woman. She told you she wanted to open the relationship up and you came to the shroomery 😳
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: 10ftTall]
#28114350 - 12/27/22 06:02 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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10ftTall said: That poor woman. She told you she wanted to open the relationship up and you came to the shroomery 😳
Yeah what he said
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DharmaForKarma
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: Jewstress] 1
#28114394 - 12/27/22 06:35 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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See the second post.

“I can’t really be mad about it” is not exactly a wholehearted embrace.
It’s been a minute now. How is it sitting with you? Any new developments?
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: DharmaForKarma]
#28114960 - 12/28/22 10:36 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I know it is challenging when I asked my ex husband for one ..he struggled with it. It is not a form of rejection. I would of always chosen him over anyone.
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Thor
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28115099 - 12/28/22 12:46 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Moving to an open relationship is no small step.
It would be best if you had a serious discussion about what each of you wants, and your limits and you both have to have a very open and honest relationship based on brutal honesty, otherwise, this often fails.
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: Thor]
#28149995 - 01/21/23 04:24 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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In word of caution. If it truly is what you want that's great. My now ex wife and I played around with swinging and later polyamory. We made some swinger friends locals we had a few fun times with. And a swinger party we attended with the same couple.
But with her addiction issues sex became another thing she fiended for. Not in a bang every one in town Way but she had a guy on the side that I new a clean cut person that was not intimidating.
But as she started spending more and more time there away from her husband and children things quickly got worse. Every time I would voice my concern bit it became me being a wrong asshole. Mirroring her alcohol addiction 5 years prior. And the current cannabis abuse.
Finally after a few months I couldn't take it anymore I told her how it made me feel and how how it started to hurt.
The next evening she climbed into bed with me and ran her hands up and down my body and breathed in my ear.
I shivered uncontrollably and all I could say was your doing in wrong.
We went to bed in silence that night.
The next morning I slept in. A treat for a shift worker.
The house was silent.
Where are the kids? At my parents. Oh cool day to our selves or what.? I want a divorce! She said calmly.
What why? I was in shock the world started to spin everything turned white. I lay down to catch my breath. Why? I've had enough.!
It was fair. We were both broken when we met and we broke each other more over the next 12 years.
She got the baby blues and started drinking. I kept going to work and lost my give a fuck at home.
My story is cautionary not that thrre is anything wrong with non monagamy but that it can finish off a relationship
I enjoyed swinging. Never felt jealous or inadequate my most confident time was probably during our swinging being able to service multiple women makes you feel amazing. And having a partner that is like minded seemed like a great thing.
Make sure your both on the same page and willing to listen to each other's feelings. Mine had said all her jealousy was gone. Being a jealous crazy bitch previously it was hard to imagine. But it seemed to be true and I stopped thinking about it.
But what she really meant when she said her jealousy was gone was I'm leaving you soon and don't care anymore.
After spending quite a while by myself thinking then finally telling family and friend. I was glad it was happening and resentful such a fukced up situation carried on for so long.
Edited by Abombs (01/21/23 04:25 AM)
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Mojo
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28195745 - 02/20/23 08:38 AM (11 months, 1 day ago) |
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I recommend joining a polyamory forum.
Polyamory.com, r/polyamory ect... Make sure you read the user guidelines thoroughly.
The book "Opening Up" is a good resource for people just beginning a journey into Polyamory.
You called her your wife so I assume you are married. I generally encourage people to end their marriage contract before venturing into ENM. It is a really great time to re-evaluate the relationship. Marriage is a monogamous institution so its a bit contradictory anyway.
I have been on the poly forums for a while and see a significant number of married women use poly as a guise to monkey branch into a new monogamous relationship with someone else. A significant number of marriages end in the ENM world so it is worth considering a divorce while you are still on good terms. Don't think you are immune.
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: Mojo]
#28195885 - 02/20/23 10:39 AM (11 months, 1 day ago) |
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There are a million swinger sites
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle] 1
#28197251 - 02/21/23 10:13 AM (11 months, 8 hours ago) |
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No your wife told you she's been cheating on you and wants to justify it after the fact. 
Mojo put it very well.
Edited by Anonymous (02/21/23 10:14 AM)
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ScoutingEagle
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28197279 - 02/21/23 10:34 AM (11 months, 7 hours ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #2 said: No your wife told you she's been cheating on you and wants to justify it after the fact. 
Mojo put it very well.
We are divorced now😜
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28197393 - 02/21/23 12:08 PM (11 months, 6 hours ago) |
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Now you can go be a unicorn at a sex club/swinger club!!!
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28197395 - 02/21/23 12:08 PM (11 months, 6 hours ago) |
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I am sorry you are now divorced
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Re: Is there a Dating or open relationship forum/thread? [Re: ScoutingEagle]
#28197499 - 02/21/23 01:34 PM (11 months, 4 hours ago) |
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Quote:
ScoutingEagle said:
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Anonymous #2 said: No your wife told you she's been cheating on you and wants to justify it after the fact. 
Mojo put it very well.
We are divorced now😜
Because of the proposition or because I ended up being right?
Either way, based.
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