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I'm getting old and have never had romance etc
#28061023 - 11/20/22 01:14 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Hey guys. I don't think any of you know me that well, but I am a 20 year old woman/girl and I've never had a boyfriend. In real life, that is. As I age I'm starting to wonder if love just isn't for me. I've also never had sex, it really sucks and it's so unfair. I just wanna cry at how unfair life is ;-; I thought I was cute and why don't guys like me?! I had one guy recently tell me I was smoking hot but then why don't I have a bf? I'm starting to get old and really worried that I won't get a bf ever. I'm really annoyed that I've never had sex.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28061037 - 11/20/22 01:35 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Why don't you ask that guy who called you hot on a date?
Maybe you are intimidating and have to shoot more shots.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28061142 - 11/20/22 05:31 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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At 20 you still have many decades ahead of you. Being virgin at 20 is not that uncommon. Don't feel like you are being left behind. As Anon#2 said, you could ask the guy who called you hot on a date (yes, it is usually the guy who asks the girl on a date but that is not always the case). See, guys can be insecure and feel intimidated by a hot girl. Especially if this guy hasn't dated much or at all. It is easy for a guy to think a hot girl is out of his league. Do yourself a favor, plan something to go out with this guy. If it doesn't work there are many more out there. Dating can also be a learning process and you may need some practice.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28061148 - 11/20/22 05:38 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Try tinder
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28061811 - 11/20/22 02:19 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: Hey guys. I don't think any of you know me that well, but I am a 20 year old woman/girl and I've never had a boyfriend. In real life, that is. As I age I'm starting to wonder if love just isn't for me. I've also never had sex, it really sucks and it's so unfair. I just wanna cry at how unfair life is ;-; I thought I was cute and why don't guys like me?! I had one guy recently tell me I was smoking hot but then why don't I have a bf? I'm starting to get old and really worried that I won't get a bf ever. I'm really annoyed that I've never had sex.
You're only 20, get out there and shoot your shot. Believe in yourself. You're beautiful, no matter what. Also, I've been single like 12 years and I'm happy as fuck. I'm not a virgin but sex and relationships aren't the key to happiness. Just do what makes you happy. If someone is meant for you, they will fall into your life. Remember, trust the process.
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Anonymous #1 said: Hey guys. I don't think any of you know me that well, but I am a 20 year old woman/girl and I've never had a boyfriend. In real life, that is. As I age I'm starting to wonder if love just isn't for me. I've also never had sex, it really sucks and it's so unfair. I just wanna cry at how unfair life is ;-; I thought I was cute and why don't guys like me?! I had one guy recently tell me I was smoking hot but then why don't I have a bf? I'm starting to get old and really worried that I won't get a bf ever. I'm really annoyed that I've never had sex.

Too many commas and periods for a 20yo
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Ice9]
#28062487 - 11/20/22 10:20 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I like proper grammar bro.
Thanks for your advice guys, the guy who called me hot was my Tinder date, yeah he only wanted sex. So I was out.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28062511 - 11/20/22 10:47 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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20's not that old. Its definitely not too late for it.
Why do you think no guys have hit on you? Your appearance? Your personality? Have you ever kissed a guy at all?
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28062689 - 11/21/22 03:28 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Oftentimes, if a girl is not intellectually stimulating, sex is the only thing that can bring her and her date together. For instance, a lot of Christian guys these days would love to go to Sunday school with you.
Go to Sunday school with him and be his partner in trying to be a true Christian. Then talk to him about how it makes him feel when his efforts to be true to the text are confounded by traditions. Act sorry. Then suck his dick.
This is a guaranteed plan for an excellent life together, if you seek Jesus with all your heart together. Most probably, you'll make lasting memories while you realize that demons don't exist and that Christianity is a sham. Then you can help him get rich while you use your intellect to make lots of money.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Hartford]
#28062724 - 11/21/22 04:18 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Hartford said: Oftentimes, if a girl is not intellectually stimulating, sex is the only thing that can bring her and her date together. For instance, a lot of Christian guys these days would love to go to Sunday school with you.
Go to Sunday school with him and be his partner in trying to be a true Christian. Then talk to him about how it makes him feel when his efforts to be true to the text are confounded by traditions. Act sorry. Then suck his dick.
This is a guaranteed plan for an excellent life together, if you seek Jesus with all your heart together. Most probably, you'll make lasting memories while you realize that demons don't exist and that Christianity is a sham. Then you can help him get rich while you use your intellect to make lots of money.
Wow, just wow.
But seriously for the OP: What do you want out of a relationship. Finding someone to have sex with is easy, it looks like you don't want just that though, and that's fine.
Understand what it is you are looking for and go out there looking for it.
From personal experience casual sex doesn't have to be emotionless, I've had great emotional connection with casual partners. I've never even had fun without it. But emotional connection doesn't have to be take a lot of time to grow or be long term, it just requires empathy and respect between the two people sharing a moment. I'm not saying you should go out there and find you some casual sex, but think about what it is you are wanting.
Also love is great, I highly recommend it, but if you've never had it you may not be able to recognise it. Find someone you like and hang out with them, see what happens, it doesn't have to be permanent. Love takes practice.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #4]
#28064353 - 11/22/22 06:41 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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"Love takes practice."
Buddy I've had one relationship and I've been with her for over a decade.
OP. My best relationship and dating advice is to never take relationship or dating advice from anyone. People are too different and circumstances are too different to give advice that will work at a time when "reading the room" and using confidence is what needs to happen. 20 years old is basically a baby still. Just because your friends are whores that doesn't mean it's not completely acceptable and normal to not have a partner by now. It'll happen when it happens. If that's not soon enough then find ways to seem like you're "available" from a distance without seeming like a hoe. I had sex for the first time at your age and I remember feeling like the wait was right.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Hartford]
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Hartford said: Oftentimes, if a girl is not intellectually stimulating, sex is the only thing that can bring her and her date together. For instance, a lot of Christian guys these days would love to go to Sunday school with you.
Go to Sunday school with him and be his partner in trying to be a true Christian. Then talk to him about how it makes him feel when his efforts to be true to the text are confounded by traditions. Act sorry. Then suck his dick.
This is a guaranteed plan for an excellent life together, if you seek Jesus with all your heart together. Most probably, you'll make lasting memories while you realize that demons don't exist and that Christianity is a sham. Then you can help him get rich while you use your intellect to make lots of money.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: CapSlinger]
#28070954 - 11/27/22 12:19 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Lol 20 years is not even remotely getting old
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #4]
#28071374 - 11/27/22 10:47 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: Wow, just wow.
But seriously for the OP: What do you want out of a relationship. Finding someone to have sex with is easy, it looks like you don't want just that though, and that's fine.
Understand what it is you are looking for and go out there looking for it.
From personal experience casual sex doesn't have to be emotionless, I've had great emotional connection with casual partners. I've never even had fun without it. But emotional connection doesn't have to be take a lot of time to grow or be long term, it just requires empathy and respect between the two people sharing a moment. I'm not saying you should go out there and find you some casual sex, but think about what it is you are wanting.
Also love is great, I highly recommend it, but if you've never had it you may not be able to recognise it. Find someone you like and hang out with them, see what happens, it doesn't have to be permanent. Love takes practice.
There must be a glitch in the anon system. When people reply it is saying who they responded to above the post instead of anon 1, 2, 3 or whatever. It's saying OP (anon1) is hartford pretending to be a girl
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #6]
#28081048 - 12/03/22 09:34 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Hartford (OP/anon 1), why did you abandon your thread? I thought you enjoyed pretending to be a 20 yr old girl acting like you don't know why men don't like you Sounds about like you...
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#28081091 - 12/03/22 09:59 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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It legitimately wasn't me that posted this.
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#28082582 - 12/04/22 07:14 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #6 said: Hartford (OP/anon 1), why did you abandon your thread? I thought you enjoyed pretending to be a 20 yr old girl acting like you don't know why men don't like you Sounds about like you...
If you're going to take a shot at someone the least you could do is man up and not go anonymous...
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28082649 - 12/04/22 08:04 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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You're still really young. It'll happen, it's only human. I'll give the same advice that I give to guys: make your interest known. More female specific but goes for guys too, put yourself out there. I once did an experiment where I uploaded the ugliest picture of a friend on a dating site. She had the flu and her face was puffy and leaking. I used terrible grammar and made this profile sound like a total idiot. Regardless, her inbox was absolutely flooded with messages. The point is, it doesn't matter how beautiful or not beautiful you are, put yourself out there and guys will come. You'll have to weed through the weirdos, sure, but it's as simple as putting yourself out there.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28105769 - 12/20/22 09:59 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I have had a lot of men tell me I intimidate them and it used to hurt my feelings. And they said that was why they did not ask me out, etc. BUT do not change who you are to appear less intimidating. Just recognize that perhaps you need to be more assertive. I am only speaking from my own experience, your experience will be your own. Perhaps be more assertive, challenge some of your personal views and beliefs. Become sexual for yourself, make your appearance attractive to you. If you dont feel attractive that will resonate with others. Be confident in yourself and others will be attracted to that. And if they are intimidated.. do you really want a man that is intimidated by you? I do not. THOUGH... I did end up dating a man that said he didnt ask me out because he was intimidated by me and it was great. Be true to yourself and ask yourself some questions and be honest and challenge your responses.
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#28113527 - 12/26/22 11:29 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Thank you guys.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28113858 - 12/27/22 10:24 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Seriously Make it sensual for yourself and believe you are sexy. Confidence radiates from people. I was in a sexless marriage and assumed it was me me me. Once I made changes.. I have never had to try, I have never been rejected. I found out I was attractive and very attractive to some. I even did some modeling.. it was only one thing.. BUT after years of thinking I was so unattractive because I had a sexless marriage. EVERYONE is attractive to someone. Your more attractive when you believe it. It is all you. Dress how you find sexy. Fix your hair to what you find attractive. etc etc
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: CapSlinger]
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Hartford said: Oftentimes, if a girl is not intellectually stimulating, sex is the only thing that can bring her and her date together. For instance, a lot of Christian guys these days would love to go to Sunday school with you.
Go to Sunday school with him and be his partner in trying to be a true Christian. Then talk to him about how it makes him feel when his efforts to be true to the text are confounded by traditions. Act sorry. Then suck his dick.
This is a guaranteed plan for an excellent life together, if you seek Jesus with all your heart together. Most probably, you'll make lasting memories while you realize that demons don't exist and that Christianity is a sham. Then you can help him get rich while you use your intellect to make lots of money.
truth
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28119513 - 12/31/22 11:53 PM (1 year, 27 days ago) |
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Wow I just saw this post after submitting my Trouble Developing Relationships post in this forum. As a 20 year old guy with not much experience or prospects, hang in there! I know firsthand how difficult it can be, especially feeling undesirable. As the others have said in this thread, you are most certainly beautiful, and perfect for someone. Try to keep a positive attitude, it really does help, one day your person will come!
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28121079 - 01/02/23 11:39 AM (1 year, 26 days ago) |
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No one is owed the comfort of another human being. No one is entitled to feel that way, yet we do. We cling on to it for dear life because it's what we want. It's what we perceive everyone else has. But the truth is we only see what we see. Lots of people feel the same as him, lots of people have what he wants and wish it went differently. See when you go out fishing, you could sit there all day and catch nothing. You could bring a friend and he catches something right away. Then all day. He's doing all the same things as you are, even trades you spots. He couldn't change how often he catches fish if he wanted to, anymore than you could magically conjure a fish onto your line. Everyone knows this about fishing. You either enjoy the time you spend with your line in the water or you don't fish at all. No one is owed a fish, no one is entitled to feel like they should be catching fish. You learn what you can and when the right moment comes you seize it. The best thing you can do when your friend is catching all the fish is mind your own business, and enjoy the time you have for yourself. Lord knows how tiring reeling in those fish can be. I could never tell someone something is okay when it isn't, but sometimes our feelings are invalid. Especially when they hold us back. Honest advice. Tell him to look for an older woman because his generation is largely retarded to relationship skills. She'll drain his balls better anyway
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28121099 - 01/02/23 11:56 AM (1 year, 26 days ago) |
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His feelings are very valid to me. I like your idea of an older woman!!!!! THANK YOU  I was so cautious responding but I really need ideas, opinions, etc so I can best discuss this with him. When or if he brings it up again I will make that suggestion. I sincerely appreciated your response.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28121241 - 01/02/23 02:00 PM (1 year, 26 days ago) |
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Anon 9, your son sounds like a great guy and I would probably like him as a person since I'm a man, however, I'm gonna guess he gets friend zoned a lot Unfortunately, a bad boy that a woman instinctively knows isn't good for her is what gets the panties moist. There are several ingrained patterns in both males and females that make it very hard to find a good/long lasting match. A woman desires to tame an un-tameable beast so she's left with choosing someone that doesn't rev her engine (a nice guy that will treat her right) or a bad boy who will give her the excitement and challenge she subconsciously wants but she will never feel secure and will always resent the thought that inside he's a "bad boy" even if he is treating her right
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #6]
#28121273 - 01/02/23 02:21 PM (1 year, 26 days ago) |
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That is what happens.. he is friends with them all. I never chased bad boys when I was younger. It wasn't until my first failed very serious relationship.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28121896 - 01/02/23 09:59 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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So i have a theory maybe? What if your son has trouble with making a giflfriend because his Mom is so attractive? Sorta like Freud in reverse?
It could also be hes more Asexual or not as sexually motivated as the average guy?
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
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I only mentioned that because I have not personally experienced that. Iām unsure if I am doing the right thing. Why i was so appreciative of the advice I received.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28121927 - 01/02/23 10:35 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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Yeah, Im not sure. If your relationship is good with your son, then that should be help out his no-GF situation. But i know from experience, interactions with lots of women really helps with finding love and romance.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28121945 - 01/02/23 10:58 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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I have a good relationship with him. I just want to be supportive, let him talk etc Hes shy around girls.
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#28121953 - 01/02/23 11:10 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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Yeah there ya go. If hes shy, hes gonna have a tough time. It will just take time and patience.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28121971 - 01/02/23 11:31 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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Thank you
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
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No problem
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28122197 - 01/03/23 07:10 AM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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Anonymous #9 said: His feelings are very valid to me.
You are mom. I am Dad. Kid falls off bike, mom hugs kid. Kid feels better but doesn't get back on the bike. Rewind. Mom isn't there. Kid falls off bike. Dad says, you're not bleeding get back on the bike. Kid doesn't feel better but he keeps playing.
Try to think like a dad if you want to advise him different, just like sometimes I need to apply thinking like a mom.
So it's not to say your feelings don't matter to the individual. But to a man feelings can be limiting. A man who spends too much time on his feelings is being feminine and being feminine doesn't get anyone girls.
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Re: I'm getting old and have never had romance etc [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28122321 - 01/03/23 09:26 AM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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Thank you
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