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When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife?
#28050317 - 11/14/22 09:38 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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We've been dating for a month and a half.
I was thinking around the 6 month mark, maybe sooner depending on how our relationship develops.
He is willing to divorce her now he told me, however, it's almost Christmas and we just started dating so I'm a little uncomfortable with it right now. What if we go horribly wrong before the end of the year and his coparenting relationship with her gets completely ruined because of me? He's left feeling like shit. Idk, I would feel bad. At the same time, he told me I deserve to be happy(as does he) and he is ready when I am.
Why hasn't he divorced her long time ago? They have a 2 year old together and I think he just knows it's going to be messy and doesn't want to deal with it alone.
Questions? Thoughts?
I knew they were separated when we started dating. He sleeps on the couch when he stays overnight at the house to give some perspective.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050332 - 11/14/22 09:51 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The question was when, not if.
And he left the decision of when practically entirely in my hands.. sure sounds like I'm a sidechick lmfao.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050338 - 11/14/22 09:57 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050340 - 11/14/22 09:58 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Just because someone's marriage didn't work out doesn't make the man bogus or not genuine. He is genuine to me, that's all I care about and I know exactly why him and his wife aren't working out romantically. Sure, I might be missing her side of the story, but I can already sort of see her side just from knowing how he is so far.. some people aren't meant to be together.
Doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be happy.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? *DELETED* [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
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I'm trash? Lmao says the loser who chooses to be anonymous because their intentions are disgusting and they know it.
It's pretty obvious who you are.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050360 - 11/14/22 10:07 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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So you're not anonymous? Weird. Sure looks like it.
Here comes the bullshit spewed warning me of stuff that never happens. In fact I've proven everyone wrong over and over and over and over.
If you're not going to answer the OP of when I should make this decision, then kindly fuck off.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050369 - 11/14/22 10:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fystbofahs said: I hope you're right, to answer your question, asap. Time is ticking. 
This post is a little bit off-topic, but I'm starting to realize humans aren't supposed to be monogamous. Have fun
Yeah so probably the new year then. I know it has nothing to do with me, but technically it does and I would have to be supportive. So I'm not really ready to deal with that yet myself.
I agree, I was in an open relationship for 8 years. I actually just got out of that relationship a month and half ago lol it was a total of 9 years though.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
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Lol phish head, how the hell can you be condescending to anyone when your taste in music is as abysmal as yours?
Quit your job and go follow them you dork.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050382 - 11/14/22 10:14 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fystbofahs said: lol fuck them. seriously, good luck

Honestly, if it doesn't work out, it's just another life experience learned, but it's very real so far and I've heeded previous advice of slowing things down because it's moving quite quickly.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050386 - 11/14/22 10:15 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Melt harder
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Don't forget to fuck yourself, honey!
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050409 - 11/14/22 10:24 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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jack_straw2208 said: Don't forget to fuck yourself, honey!
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050416 - 11/14/22 10:27 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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How long have they been separated?
I dunno, it's a complicated legal issue, with a kid.. I don't think it should be on you to make that decision.
The question is how long before it's a problem to you?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050421 - 11/14/22 10:29 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fystbofahs said: I hope you're right, to answer your question, asap. Time is ticking. 
This post is a little bit off-topic, but I'm starting to realize humans aren't supposed to be monogamous. Have fun
Yeah so probably the new year then. I know it has nothing to do with me, but technically it does and I would have to be supportive. So I'm not really ready to deal with that yet myself.
I agree, I was in an open relationship for 8 years. I actually just got out of that relationship a month and half ago lol it was a total of 9 years though.
Same here. 10 yrs for me. It's so hard to start over.. If you have that mind frame, it could work.
I feel like I didn't have a choice. It really wasn't working out with my ex. I was extremely unhappy and unmotivated in life. Not because of the open relationship, but because we just grew apart. Our standards of living, goals etc. It became quite toxic the last year. We are still friends and have a dog together which we share. So at least it ended peacefully.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Lynnch]
#28050439 - 11/14/22 10:39 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: How long have they been separated?
I dunno, it's a complicated legal issue, with a kid.. I don't think it should be on you to make that decision.
The question is how long before it's a problem to you?
They've been separated for almost 2 years. He told me once his wife got pregnant, this other chick randomly came into his life, he fell inlove with her and realized he definitely didn't want to be with his wife anymore and it was never going to work out. That chick left him though early this year and he was heartbroken. Her lifestyle was to travel the world constantly and it wasn't realistic for him. They didn't know it wouldn't work out because it was during covid and well travel wasn't really around that time. Also, they had their own sets of issues together he said.
I feel like I would start feeling it's an issue in the new year. Just because my friends and family are already starting to question me why he is still married which is why I talked to him about it and got his take.
I don't necessarily think I have the right to make the decision either, I'm all about compromising with him, but it's refreshing to know that he is excited to do it when it feels right and he cares about what I think about it.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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Lynnch said: How long have they been separated?
I dunno, it's a complicated legal issue, with a kid.. I don't think it should be on you to make that decision.
The question is how long before it's a problem to you?
They've been separated for almost 2 years. He told me once his wife got pregnant, this other chick randomly came into his life, he fell inlove with her and realized he definitely didn't want to be with his wife anymore and it was never going to work out. That chick left him though early this year and he was heartbroken. Her lifestyle was to travel the world constantly and it wasn't realistic for him. They didn't know it wouldn't work out because it was during covid and well travel wasn't really around that time. Also, they had their own sets of issues together he said.
I feel like I would start feeling it's an issue in the new year. Just because my friends and family are already starting to question me why he is still married which is why I talked to him about it and got his take.
I don't necessarily think I have the right to make the decision either, I'm all about compromising with him, but it's refreshing to know that he is excited to do it when it feels right and he cares about what I think about it.
Wow. I guess you were doing the right thing. Especially for the kid the kid is going to know it was totally right for the father to divorce the mom to go out with you. While you have several other boyfriends. And of course you'll teach the kid how to grow up strong and independent to stick up for himself to let someone grope him just because you know he has been friends with that person's GF for like years and years.
Totally I think like 100% of the time and all situations 100% of the situations 100% of the time you do the right thing r3v.gurl as long as the other guys down with it it is always 100% the right thing to do in the right situation 100% of the time.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Except I don't have several other boyfriends and we are already going out.
So I think it's safe to say everything you've said and shared in that post is easily voided as false crap and should be disregarded as such.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28051611 - 11/14/22 08:24 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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How's your self-sustainability going?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB]
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It's not, I broke up with that boyfriend I was doing that with and gave him the property the project was on.
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r3volution.gurl said: Except I don't have several other boyfriends and we are already going out.
So I think it's safe to say everything you've said and shared in that post is easily voided as false crap and should be disregarded as such.
It's false crap? So repeat things you said is false crap it should be disregarded? You didn't say that you had several partners? You didn't say you had several partners and one of them was a person who was married who had a kid but was willing to leave this person he wasn't happy with her anyway? Yeah I know I'm sure it's false crap because you said it 10,000 times. Even though now you are saying you are totally happy with this one person except.....
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r3volution.gurl said: It's not, I broke up with that boyfriend I was doing that with and gave him the property the project was on.
There goes your self-sustainability. Too bad about that too you know what I mean? If you're having sex with someone for money and they're going to give you a house and a property of the project was on and then you stop having sex with them and now you don't have the house anymore I guess it's not self-sustainable was it?
Self-sustainable means self-sustainable. It doesn't mean you have sex with people for money and then say when you break up with that person you don't have that "self-sustainable" project anymore.
It is amazing to me the things you say that I could actually quote you saying that a person can repeat that you will say "is totally utterly bullshit crap that you are repeating." Then you ask people for tons of advice and they give it to you and then you get constantly mad about it.
Well good luck with your non-open relationship only one boyfriend self-sustainable totally on your own not having sex with someone for their money self-dependent lifestyle of confidence and Independence in the most self-sustainable way possible. I wouldn't want to spit on any false garbage crap. God forbid
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Yep
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Nothing good to say say nothing.
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You got out of a 9 year relationship and started another right away with a guy who's not really available?
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r3volution.gurl said: We've been dating for a month and a half.
I was thinking around the 6 month mark, maybe sooner depending on how our relationship develops.
He is willing to divorce her now he told me, however, it's almost Christmas and we just started dating so I'm a little uncomfortable with it right now. What if we go horribly wrong before the end of the year and his coparenting relationship with her gets completely ruined because of me? He's left feeling like shit. Idk, I would feel bad. At the same time, he told me I deserve to be happy(as does he) and he is ready when I am.
Why hasn't he divorced her long time ago? They have a 2 year old together and I think he just knows it's going to be messy and doesn't want to deal with it alone.
Questions? Thoughts?
I knew they were separated when we started dating. He sleeps on the couch when he stays overnight at the house to give some perspective.
Hi R3v,
Here's what I would say to any friend I knew personally if she was asking me for advice on this:
I think it's a red flag that he is putting this on you. He's saying he's "willing to do it now" but then expects you to make that decision for him, a decision that affects HIS ex-wife, and THEIR child? Divorcing his wife should be between him and his wife. Their co-parenting situation should not have anything to do with you, either. It's up to them to work out the best situation that benefits their child. Everything else should be secondary. I don't see how their co-parenting situation can be ruined "because of you."
Also, if they're separated and he wants a divorce, then I don't understand how things are ruined for him if he files for divorce soon and you two don't work out? If they are already not together, then why does it matter if he gets divorced without being partnered to you? Kind of makes it sound like he's just holding onto the marriage in case he can't lock down a different relationship.
For him to put choosing the timing on you looks like he's trying to lay the groundwork to blame you later on if things don't go well, or if things get messy, or if he has financial issues related to child support or other legal costs. "Well YOU told me to get divorced and now this *insert unfortunate drama* is unfolding."
Red flag.
Also, and this is no offense to you, but even if you are dating, this divorce isn't about you, so really if he wants the divorce I don't think it's your comfort he should be prioritizing when taking the timing into consideration, considering there is a child involved and he needs to consider co-parenting and whatnot. (If he was REFUSING to get divorced EVER but still wants to date you, then obviously your comfort would take precedence, but it sounds like that is not what is happening here.)
If he can't go through his own difficult situation independently and has to wait for a new girlfriend to make big decisions for him, then that is a red flag. Life is hard, relationships are hard, and it's normal to want support, but to drag your feet in sorting out your own affairs until someone comes along to pull the trigger for you shows a lack of personal accountability and responsibility. I can't help but wonder if that lack of accountability and responsibility is evident in other areas of his life as well?
Red. Flag.
I understand that he is telling you that what he is asking you to decide is "when" to get divorced, not "if" he's going to get divorced, but the fact that he wants to and hasn't already doesn't sound like he's as willing to get divorced as he makes if sound, or he would just rip the band-aid off and get it over with already instead of having his new girlfriend tell him "when" to file.
If you were a friend that I knew personally in real life asking me for advice on this, I would say "Tell him to figure it out for himself like an adult, get his affairs in order, and file for the divorce he says he wants like a grown-ass adult."
The only people who decide how messy this is going to be is him and his wife, and if he still sleeps over there and co-parents despite their separation, I'm not sure how officially filing for divorce is going to make things that much messier?
Either way, you do you, but make sure you've got your own finances and living situation squared away first and foremost so if his shit does get messy, his messy doesn't ruin your life somehow. (Also something I would tell any of my friends.)
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Imachavel, go back to the romper dude. Holy shit. You're like the master of twisting words, it's fucked up.
I've always had one boyfriend, who is now an ex. I've had multiple sexual partners. Had, past tense. I now have a new boyfriend. Singular boyfriend and 0 other sexual partners.
I was working on a self sustainability project on 12 acres of land with my ex boyfriend which I paid for majority of. He has no ability to pay me back for anything and I have no reason to want to continue the project at that location anymore so I GAVE it to him.
That's two easily identifiable false craps you shit out ignorantly like you always do. Stop being a weirdo or continue, I don't give a shit.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB]
#28052906 - 11/15/22 03:09 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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BikerB said: You got out of a 9 year relationship and started another right away with a guy who's not really available?
I did. Technically my 9 year relationship was pretty much over for months, I was just in denial honestly.
I was also planning on moving out of my exes anyways.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Patchouli_Savage]
#28052920 - 11/15/22 03:16 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks for taking the time Patchouli
Yeah I understand what you're saying completely and I know for a fact this man is far from perfect in the personal accountability and responsibility department. At the same time, I really love and care about him.
It's very complicated and chaotic really because he wants another kid in the near future so I think he is hesitant to divorce because he knows despite being separated, his wife will never ever leave him and would give him another child if he doesn't divorce her.
My living situation and finances are fairly independent from him.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Patchouli_Savage] 1
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r3volution.gurl said: We've been dating for a month and a half.
I was thinking around the 6 month mark, maybe sooner depending on how our relationship develops.
He is willing to divorce her now he told me, however, it's almost Christmas and we just started dating so I'm a little uncomfortable with it right now. What if we go horribly wrong before the end of the year and his coparenting relationship with her gets completely ruined because of me? He's left feeling like shit. Idk, I would feel bad. At the same time, he told me I deserve to be happy(as does he) and he is ready when I am.
Why hasn't he divorced her long time ago? They have a 2 year old together and I think he just knows it's going to be messy and doesn't want to deal with it alone.
Questions? Thoughts?
I knew they were separated when we started dating. He sleeps on the couch when he stays overnight at the house to give some perspective.
Hi R3v,
Here's what I would say to any friend I knew personally if she was asking me for advice on this:
I think it's a red flag that he is putting this on you. He's saying he's "willing to do it now" but then expects you to make that decision for him, a decision that affects HIS ex-wife, and THEIR child? Divorcing his wife should be between him and his wife. Their co-parenting situation should not have anything to do with you, either. It's up to them to work out the best situation that benefits their child. Everything else should be secondary. I don't see how their co-parenting situation can be ruined "because of you."
Also, if they're separated and he wants a divorce, then I don't understand how things are ruined for him if he files for divorce soon and you two don't work out? If they are already not together, then why does it matter if he gets divorced without being partnered to you? Kind of makes it sound like he's just holding onto the marriage in case he can't lock down a different relationship.
For him to put choosing the timing on you looks like he's trying to lay the groundwork to blame you later on if things don't go well, or if things get messy, or if he has financial issues related to child support or other legal costs. "Well YOU told me to get divorced and now this *insert unfortunate drama* is unfolding."
Red flag.
Also, and this is no offense to you, but even if you are dating, this divorce isn't about you, so really if he wants the divorce I don't think it's your comfort he should be prioritizing when taking the timing into consideration, considering there is a child involved and he needs to consider co-parenting and whatnot. (If he was REFUSING to get divorced EVER but still wants to date you, then obviously your comfort would take precedence, but it sounds like that is not what is happening here.)
If he can't go through his own difficult situation independently and has to wait for a new girlfriend to make big decisions for him, then that is a red flag. Life is hard, relationships are hard, and it's normal to want support, but to drag your feet in sorting out your own affairs until someone comes along to pull the trigger for you shows a lack of personal accountability and responsibility. I can't help but wonder if that lack of accountability and responsibility is evident in other areas of his life as well?
Red. Flag.
I understand that he is telling you that what he is asking you to decide is "when" to get divorced, not "if" he's going to get divorced, but the fact that he wants to and hasn't already doesn't sound like he's as willing to get divorced as he makes if sound, or he would just rip the band-aid off and get it over with already instead of having his new girlfriend tell him "when" to file.
If you were a friend that I knew personally in real life asking me for advice on this, I would say "Tell him to figure it out for himself like an adult, get his affairs in order, and file for the divorce he says he wants like a grown-ass adult."
The only people who decide how messy this is going to be is him and his wife, and if he still sleeps over there and co-parents despite their separation, I'm not sure how officially filing for divorce is going to make things that much messier?
Either way, you do you, but make sure you've got your own finances and living situation squared away first and foremost so if his shit does get messy, his messy doesn't ruin your life somehow. (Also something I would tell any of my friends.)
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB]
#28057582 - 11/18/22 06:33 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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BikerB said: You got out of a 9 year relationship and started another right away with a guy who's not really available?
Those were my thoughts too.
What is the rush, OP? Why not just be alone for a bit and look for someone who doesn't make you question the fact that they are still married?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Tight Lunchbox] 1
#28057592 - 11/18/22 06:44 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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It's gonna be messy regardless.
Omelettes and eggs and all that shit. Try to hurt as few people as possible OP.
Love freely, hope for the best. The divorce is kind of just a formality, unless your a side piece unbeknownst to you.
Time will tell. Have faith I guess, good luck.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl] 1
#28057634 - 11/18/22 07:12 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: The question was when, not if.
And he left the decision of when practically entirely in my hands.. sure sounds like I'm a sidechick lmfao.
You are.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: jack_straw2208] 1
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jack_straw2208 said: Lol phish head, how the hell can you be condescending to anyone when your taste in music is as abysmal as yours?
Quit your job and go follow them you dork.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: jack_straw2208]
#28057640 - 11/18/22 07:14 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Jewstress] 1
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Literally. That 9 year relationship they need divorced from is probably me.
So if it’s a 6’5 man with a plain tattoo and country boy tattoo; tell him call his baby momma.
He got child support to pay too.
If he doesn’t have that, you’re an emotional side chick for a buster (yeah bet) busted ego. He is probably hoping time blows things over and he can go back to his marriage and you’re what fills the void.
Honesty; you’re pouring a lot into something that is so new. That isn’t healthy either.
Take it from personal experience. I went through 10 years off and on again domestic violence and identity theft/fraud with my baby daddy because I was too forgiving and open despite red flags like that.
Walk away and actually date.
Y so serious?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Patchouli_Savage]
#28057847 - 11/18/22 09:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Im with Patchouli_Savage on this one. I think your boyfriend is just too afraid to make any permament decisions like getting a divorce. Maybe cause of the kid and the damage it might cause. Maybe cause he still has some feelings for his seperated wife. Maybe for finanical reasons. Who knows.
Perhaps in 6 months he will make a decision. Or maybe in 2 years. Its really up to him to make that difficult choice as he is the one who is legally married.
Only time will tell
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28057982 - 11/18/22 10:00 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Im with Patchouli_Savage on this one. I think your boyfriend is just too afraid to make any permament decisions like getting a divorce. Maybe cause of the kid and the damage it might cause. Maybe cause he still has some feelings for his seperated wife. Maybe for finanical reasons. Who knows.
Perhaps in 6 months he will make a decision. Or maybe in 2 years. Its really up to him to make that difficult choice as he is the one who is legally married.
Only time will tell 
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Jewstress]
#28058008 - 11/18/22 10:19 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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She might be in Politics or a Celebrity?
I never thought of that!
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28058042 - 11/18/22 10:45 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I met his kid for the first time two days ago. He brought him to my place for a bit.
I think it's fair to say men don't introduce their kids to side chicks.
He made very clear that my opinion matters in regards to when he will divorce. Which doesn't mean I'm going to abuse that power. It is his choice, but next year will have to be the time or I have to move on.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28058077 - 11/18/22 11:13 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Imachavel, go back to the romper dude. Holy shit. You're like the master of twisting words, it's fucked up.
I've always had one boyfriend, who is now an ex. I've had multiple sexual partners. Had, past tense. I now have a new boyfriend. Singular boyfriend and 0 other sexual partners.
I was working on a self sustainability project on 12 acres of land with my ex boyfriend which I paid for majority of. He has no ability to pay me back for anything and I have no reason to want to continue the project at that location anymore so I GAVE it to him.
That's two easily identifiable false craps you shit out ignorantly like you always do. Stop being a weirdo or continue, I don't give a shit.
You don't give a shit?
You spend 99.99% of your life on here talking about all the different people you have sex with and how you can't get the correct advice in your life on who to date next or what to date next. You spend most of your time defending yourself and then insulting people who can't get their facts straight on what your life is or give you the correct advice.
Believe me I never want to be in one of your threads ever again being called a "weirdo."
Firstly you don't just have "one boyfriend" when you spend 99.99% of your time on here talking about all the different people you're involved with and then saying you're only involved with one person. Having sex with one person in one year is being involved with one person. Having sex with more people that you can count on your fingers and toes is not having sex with one person. Maybe you should stop following people around and going into the Romper Room and all these other places and every time somebody mentions the word "whore" you start defending yourself talking about how you're not this person and everyone needs to stop stalking you around.
Your own extreme guilty conscience portrays the life you lead and the decisions you make. If you are with "one person" and you love that one person you won't need to keep coming on asking for advice on what to do about all these different people you've previously had sex with that you can't figure out what to do with now. It's not "spewing garbage" to constantly quote you and ask you what the f*** you're actually talking about??????? every f****** five f****** minutes.
I'm going to repeat some advice I gave you a while ago I'm pretty sure I'm the one that I said this and I'm pretty sure that you're the one I said this to I'm pretty sure I was the one that said this and I said this to you so I'm going to repeat it:
Both of the above pics make it think that you both are having many anal sex acts. The penis in the asshole on another submissive female is good, right? Well it could be the cause of a massive spread of the anti promiscuous anal sexual acts community. If monkey pox is only spread by body contact, it must be someone grinding cock and body on one another, right? This is the new STD. STOP blowing random dudes for sure, and STOP having sex with random dudes too.
there's the only advice you will ever need for your "one boyfriend" problems. If you only actually have one boyfriend then you probably won't be having so many problems. With guys. They want to f*** you even when their girlfriend is around who you've been best friends with for so many years. Probably because of a previous sexual act. If you stop having sex with so many people all the time you can probably keep one boyfriend without having to ask so many questions about why so hard to keep one boyfriend. I wish you the best of luck
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: imachavel]
#28058085 - 11/18/22 11:22 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Dude, everyone has their own way of contributing to the community. Don't hate on mine because it isn't ideal for you. Everyone can't be the fkn same and shouldn't. Also who the fuck made you the judge of how many boyfriends I have?
Also why do you care so much regarding the number of people I've hooked up with?
Genuinely asking. How does it negatively affect your life?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28058154 - 11/18/22 12:22 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I simply answered your question. And I hate to answer your next question with another question but
Why indeed would I care what you do with your life?
When did I say I do?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: imachavel]
#28058155 - 11/18/22 12:23 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sometimes it's best to just not say anything. For fear of....
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Well yes I agree
What a brave yet humble anon
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: imachavel]
#28058165 - 11/18/22 12:27 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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It just seems like you care because it's all you talk about to me
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28058172 - 11/18/22 12:32 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Im with Patchouli_Savage on this one. I think your boyfriend is just too afraid to make any permament decisions like getting a divorce. Maybe cause of the kid and the damage it might cause. Maybe cause he still has some feelings for his seperated wife. Maybe for finanical reasons. Who knows.
Perhaps in 6 months he will make a decision. Or maybe in 2 years. Its really up to him to make that difficult choice as he is the one who is legally married.
Only time will tell 
He loves his wife and I would hope anyone would love and care for the mother of their child, but romantically I know for a fact they are done. I wouldn't say he's afraid, but I think he is just waiting for the right time for everyone.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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Well, if he still Loves his wife, even if platonically/non-romantically, i think him divorcing her is pretty unlikely.
But I'll guess we'll see in the near future
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28058258 - 11/18/22 01:46 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I think it's possible to love someone and not want to be with them.
For example, I still love and care for my ex, but as far as being together, I can't.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
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So like, what would you like to happen?
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#28058314 - 11/18/22 02:27 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: I think it's fair to say men don't introduce their kids to side chicks.
I think it's fair to say that you don't really know men if you think that. Some men wouldn't have a problem with that at all.
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Yes all men are the exact same right.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Roflspammer]
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Roflspammer]
#28059200 - 11/18/22 09:57 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Roflspammer said: Play stupid games, get stupid prizes.
Being inlove is stupid now?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28059576 - 11/19/22 07:13 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Yes all men are the exact same right.
You're the one that catagorised all men as the same while I pointed out that some men would introduce them to a side chick.
You do seem to struggle with comprehension at times, so right back at you.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB]
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r3volution.gurl said:

Yes all men are the exact same right.
You're the one that catagorised all men as the same while I pointed out that some men would introduce them to a side chick.
You do seem to struggle with comprehension at times, so right back at you.
It was a thought of mine, not a claim or categorization. I forgot to put "some" infront of men. Holy shit.
You guys are assholes.
Doesn't matter what forum.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl] 2
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Well rev, I'm sorry to see the dogpiling and unfair attacks against you in this thread. I don't want to assume things, and I usually don't infer maliciousness, but I'm sure that sexism has something to do with it.
There are plenty of posters here that talk about having loads of sexual partners, and they are congratulated about it in most cases. If they are criticized, it is not brought into unrelated threads to attack their character. But in your case, just because you have talked about open relationships in the past, people are trying to use that as some kind of discredit to you. It's just the demonization of female sexuality. How many of the people who are criticizing you are monogamous themselves? They seem to think having sexual experience is good so long as you are male.
And I see a lot of people in this thread who do make good points, but others are twisting reasonable arguments and stretching facts to be as insulting as possible. And I can't help but feel there's a sexist underpinning of this. I'm not usually one to imply some kind of systemic issue behind things, but it seems obvious here. Posts from guys talking about dating partners with strange situations - divorced, with kids, etc - are not met with this kind of character attacks. I don't know 100% that sexism is involved, and I can't know others' intentions, but it looks like a double standard to me. Where are the male shroomery members being criticized for having multiple partners? Does that even happen?
That's not to say there hasn't been some good measured advice in this thread, because there has been.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28059667 - 11/19/22 08:23 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: You guys are assholes.
Doesn't matter what forum.
Now that's the pot calling the kettle black.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: CreonAntigone]
#28059736 - 11/19/22 09:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks CreonAntigone
I agree, both with the unfairness(myself in general related to sexuality) and the useful advice provided in this thread as well.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB]
#28059738 - 11/19/22 09:12 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: You guys are assholes.
Doesn't matter what forum.
Now that's the pot calling the kettle black.
How so?
When have I been an asshole to anyone that wasn't already to me.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BikerB] 2
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Hello R3v,
I'm not going to quote everything because I always screw up the formatting, but I think it's a red flag too that you think he might be clinging to the marriage because he wants another child and he knows that his ex-wife will give him that if someone else doesn't. I think it shows that he sees women (or perhaps all people) as means to an end, so please be sure to protect yourself if you continue to be involved with this guy.
I think examining these questions might help you decide how much of yourself you want to pour into this relationship:
Do you want to have kids with him in the near future, or at all?
Do you see the relationship working out if you don't have kids together?
I think it's really good that your finances and living situation are separate from him, and would encourage you to keep it that way. If you can, please set up a bank account that he doesn't know about and throw some money into it in case of emergency.
There is nothing wrong with being in love, but in new relationships it is so easy to downplay or ignore serious red flags. From an outside perspective, I would consider this guy's red flags to be serious, and that is why I'm bringing them up; not to criticize but to try to reel you back in a little. If he lacks accountability and personal responsibility, and seems to treat people like means to an end, then any problem that arises in this relationship will always be someone else's fault (most likely yours) and if you don't give him what he wants when he wants it, who is to say he won't string you along just enough to keep you as backup (like what he seems to be doing with his wife) while he searches for someone else to fill whatever void he feels you don't fill?
It sounds like you've got a boundary set as far as when he needs to file for this divorce and that's good. Have you informed him of this boundary yet? I think his response will be telling. When it comes to the deadline you have set, I hope you remain firm and pay attention to whether he meets your deadline without issue or if he doesn't meet the deadline and then gives you a bunch of excuses as to why he COULDN'T meet your deadline.
Some people have encouraged some time alone after a long term relationship. That is good advice and I am a firm believer in this myself. I'm coming to the end of a year of voluntary celibacy and honestly it has been a game changer in my life, how I relate to myself, and how I plan to date when I do decide to start dating again. If you ever have questions about my experience with it, my PMs are open but I don't want to make this thread about me.
Also, I agree with Creon on how other people are treating you in this thread and am happy she has come in and shared her observations - these people need to keep that shit in OTD or RR instead of S&R. Thank you Creon.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Patchouli_Savage] 2
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Patchouli_Savage]
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I am not sure if the second child with his wife is really an option anymore. He mentioned to me recently in related conversation that he can't and doesn't see her sexually at all which would explain why he is sort of giving me talks about me being a mom. I explained to him I don't want kids, also I am fairly certain I can't conceive anyways. I will get that checked out for sure next month.
He is a narcissist, however he has fulfilled every promise he has made so far.
From what I understand in regards to what went wrong in their marriage was that she never trusted him and was always invading his privacy. He is extremely flirty like myself and we are pretty similar in that regard in respecting privacy and being more open about sexuality.
I honestly can't say if me not wanting a child if I can conceive would be a dealbreaker for him and I agree this will probably be an issue in the future, but as of right now I'm not too worried about it as he is still married and he genuinely makes me happy.
I had planned to be single once I moved out of my exes. This kinda just happened(randomly overlapped) and it's something I don't want to turn away from just because I just got out of a long term relationship.
Thanks for your advice Patchouli, much appreciated.
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Yeah I was thinking he sounds like a narcissist but I try not to just throw that term around and accuse everybody who sounds like a bit of an asshole of being a narcissist. The thing about narcissists is they're so perfect in the beginning. They're also never at fault for the breakdown of their previous relationships, but don't worry, we (as in their new partners) are always SO much different and better than their exes were.
Enjoy the ride R3v, just make sure you are making yourself the priority here and maintaining your independence, boundaries, and freedoms.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28060109 - 11/19/22 01:29 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: I met his kid for the first time two days ago. He brought him to my place for a bit.
I think it's fair to say men don't introduce their kids to side chicks.
I'm not convinced that he has left his wife completely. How old is the child? Can the child comprehend the concept of a side chick? Although this gives the impression of him being honest, it doesnt. I had a friend who would take his kid to a bar and refer to the bar as the park to his young child. When they went home and the mother spoke to the child, the child would say they went to the park.
having Have you met his wife? For me, this would be the only way to judge if the situation/relationship is genuine.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Markamello]
#28060148 - 11/19/22 01:58 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Rev the reason we give advice is because you ask for it, and based on seeing many stories like this, the outcome of your decisions are statistically predictable. Of course, statistics are never 100%. You could be the 1%. But why waste time betting on being the 1%? You are as free as you'll ever be, and I extend my hope that you don't waste your precious life on a loser.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Markamello]
#28060184 - 11/19/22 02:19 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: I met his kid for the first time two days ago. He brought him to my place for a bit.
I think it's fair to say men don't introduce their kids to side chicks.
I'm not convinced that he has left his wife completely. How old is the child? Can the child comprehend the concept of a side chick? Although this gives the impression of him being honest, it doesnt. I had a friend who would take his kid to a bar and refer to the bar as the park to his young child. When they went home and the mother spoke to the child, the child would say they went to the park.
having Have you met his wife? For me, this would be the only way to judge if the situation/relationship is genuine.
... he hasn't left his wife completely, they are still married.. so they are separated coparents.
Toddler. We weren't lovey dovey around his kid because that would be super disrespectful in my opinion.
I have not met his wife no. She knows I exist though. She heard us talking on the phone one time and thought I was his ex girlfriend.
@rolfspammer
I disagree it's 1% and he's not a loser, thanks for nothing.
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Toddler. We weren't lovey dovey around his kid because that would be super disrespectful in my opinion.
I have not met his wife no. She knows I exist though. She heard us talking on the phone one time and thought I was his ex girlfriend.
I agree that it's best to get the kid familiar with you without showing overt affection to each other at this point.
I hope the mom can be as mature and won't make it difficult for the kid or you.
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I said you are as free as you will ever be (make your own choices) and I hope you don't waste your life on a loser (not that he is a loser). I'm extending you love.
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Roflspammer said: I'm extending you love.
That's my euphemism for an erection...
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Roflspammer said: I said you are as free as you will ever be (make your own choices) and I hope you don't waste your life on a loser (not that he is a loser). I'm extending you love.
My mistake, thank you
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Toddler. We weren't lovey dovey around his kid because that would be super disrespectful in my opinion.
I have not met his wife no. She knows I exist though. She heard us talking on the phone one time and thought I was his ex girlfriend.
I agree that it's best to get the kid familiar with you without showing overt affection to each other at this point.
I hope the mom can be as mature and won't make it difficult for the kid or you.
Me too.
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... he hasn't left his wife completely, they are still married.. so they are separated coparents.
Toddler. We weren't lovey dovey around his kid because that would be super disrespectful in my opinion.
I have not met his wife no. She knows I exist though. She heard us talking on the phone one time and thought I was his ex girlfriend.
@rolfspammer
I disagree it's 1% and he's not a loser, thanks for nothing.
So to be clear, he hasn't actually broken things off wih his wife? To be seperated would be, to be no longer romantically involved in any way. The divorce part is purely the legal side of things. Raises a lot of questions.
Does his wife think they are together? Does she wear a wedding ring? Does he wear a wedding ring? Why did he not correct her when she thought you were an ex?
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Markamello]
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I don't know if she does, but he never wears a ring.
You're asking questions regarding someone I don't know at all.
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r3volution.gurl said:You're asking questions regarding someone I don't know at all.
Fair enough but youre in a complicated relationship and ththe way his wife feels is important to the future of your relationship.
My first thought is that your bf is bullshitting you and he hasnt actually seperated from his wife. I mean, he may not love her and doesn't want to be with her but does she reciprocate the same feeling? Are they actually seperated or does she feel like they're just in a rough spot and they're going to come good? There are a fuck tonne of guys who don't have the guts to end things with a woman. I just get the the vibe that you're being played here.
The divorce is just a piece of paper. It really means nothing. The separation or break up is what's important. I wouldn't stress about a divorce unless you want to make some sort of financial commitment together or you're hoping to marry.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Markamello]
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He sleeps on the couch. I understand it's not believable, but he'd have to be a master manipulator piece of shit to lie about that and he's not.
I personally think she believes it's a rough patch(a really long one), but they aren't romantically involved at all. I hear their phone conversations when him and I are together, it's all about the kid, I have never ever heard an I love you in there.. ever. It's not intimate at all, just a coparenting relationship from my perspective.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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Heres a hypothetical question for ya. I know some places in Canada allow poly-marriages. What if he married you in the near future and kept his seperated but legal marriage with his "ex" wife (for the sake of the kid)? Would that suit you at all?
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Yeah.. no lol I deserve a lot better than that honestly.
It's not like I expect him to not spend time with her at all or marry me anytime soon. She's apart of his life forever because she's the mother of his child. I don't even want to conceive children.
My ex had an ex wife and two kids who are older. I'm familiar with the dynamic(s). Not a big deal or difficulty if people behave like adults right.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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r3volution.gurl said: Yeah.. no lol I deserve a lot better than that honestly.
Yeah, you do. You seem to have a good handle on the situation.
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You should ask that question on Quora. There's always lots of really random and strange questions on Quora that are (as a joke a % of the time) asked by people.
Also, my answer would be.. when they stop having feelings for each other.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: thirtygoats]
#28065258 - 11/22/22 08:52 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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BikerB said:
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r3volution.gurl said: Yeah.. no lol I deserve a lot better than that honestly.
Yeah, you do. You seem to have a good handle on the situation.
thank you
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thirtygoats said: You should ask that question on Quora. There's always lots of really random and strange questions on Quora that are (as a joke a % of the time) asked by people.
Also, my answer would be.. when they stop having feelings for each other.
I don't use Quora.
Well one person has definitely lost feelings for the other lol
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: thirtygoats]
#28065301 - 11/22/22 10:01 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sometimes i ask Bing or Google a very specific question and one of the results is a Quora question asked by a person online. Its a trip.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl] 2
#28071893 - 11/27/22 05:14 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Heres a hypothetical question for ya. I know some places in Canada allow poly-marriages. What if he married you in the near future and kept his seperated but legal marriage with his "ex" wife (for the sake of the kid)? Would that suit you at all?
Canada allows like wife swapping clubs but no polygamy. Some of the Mormons do it anyway but one one wife is legal the rest are under the table. I'm okay with banning it those baby machines are all on welfare
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Why hasn't he divorced her long time ago? They have a 2 year old together and I think he just knows it's going to be messy and doesn't want to deal with it alone.
As someone who puts shit off and avoids legal conflicts like the plague I can see remaining married out of desire to avoid having to go thru all that shit. Divorce with children is going to be a bitch. That's a decent reason. You could probably light the fire under his feat with motivation, but if you two just split up in a few months its kind of a dick move to force him him to spend all the money on divorce. I would say if you two are meant to be he'll motivate himself.
I wouldn't care if a chick was separated and super slow on the divorce but my motivations are different than yours as I give zero fucks about getting married. I lived with a chick like five years who never got divorced, I think she's still married to this day, though they never got back together. I liked her husband we got along fine. I guess every situation is different, I'd have to meet all 3 people can't tell from the internet. And I'm no Dr Phil.
You should run away with that Asian Uber driver. There's my bad advice
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: viraldrome]
#28071927 - 11/27/22 05:37 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The dude will hang on to his separated wife/life up until he finds something worth more than that. It's an easy tell for rev to see how serious the dude is. You know it's real when he serves divorce papers. Up until that point, she's just a side piece. Guy gets his to have his cake and eat it
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Ice9] 1
#28113425 - 12/26/22 09:39 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Update:
It's happening

He told his wife today he's dating me and they are getting a divorce.
I can't believe it honestly, can't stop smiling
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28113489 - 12/26/22 10:38 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Its official! Congrats on update
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28113536 - 12/26/22 11:34 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Thanks so much logical chaos
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28114042 - 12/27/22 01:19 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Interesting that he hadn't already told her that you guys were dating. It'll be even more interesting to see how long it takes for this divorce to play out and finalise.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Markamello]
#28151387 - 01/22/23 01:29 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Ive been in your situation and all I can say is that I wish you all the best. Thats really a hard spot to be in and I hope it works out better for you than it did me. be good to yourself.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: BeefSupremeJr]
#28151708 - 01/22/23 08:36 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Thanks, yeah me too
So far so good on that front
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