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When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife?
#28050317 - 11/14/22 09:38 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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We've been dating for a month and a half.
I was thinking around the 6 month mark, maybe sooner depending on how our relationship develops.
He is willing to divorce her now he told me, however, it's almost Christmas and we just started dating so I'm a little uncomfortable with it right now. What if we go horribly wrong before the end of the year and his coparenting relationship with her gets completely ruined because of me? He's left feeling like shit. Idk, I would feel bad. At the same time, he told me I deserve to be happy(as does he) and he is ready when I am.
Why hasn't he divorced her long time ago? They have a 2 year old together and I think he just knows it's going to be messy and doesn't want to deal with it alone.
Questions? Thoughts?
I knew they were separated when we started dating. He sleeps on the couch when he stays overnight at the house to give some perspective.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? *DELETED* [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050324 - 11/14/22 09:46 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050332 - 11/14/22 09:51 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The question was when, not if.
And he left the decision of when practically entirely in my hands.. sure sounds like I'm a sidechick lmfao.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050338 - 11/14/22 09:57 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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A mushroom in hand is worth two in the bush
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050340 - 11/14/22 09:58 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Just because someone's marriage didn't work out doesn't make the man bogus or not genuine. He is genuine to me, that's all I care about and I know exactly why him and his wife aren't working out romantically. Sure, I might be missing her side of the story, but I can already sort of see her side just from knowing how he is so far.. some people aren't meant to be together.
Doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be happy.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? *DELETED* [Re: r3volution.gurl]
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050347 - 11/14/22 10:03 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I'm trash? Lmao says the loser who chooses to be anonymous because their intentions are disgusting and they know it.
It's pretty obvious who you are.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050360 - 11/14/22 10:07 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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So you're not anonymous? Weird. Sure looks like it.
Here comes the bullshit spewed warning me of stuff that never happens. In fact I've proven everyone wrong over and over and over and over.
If you're not going to answer the OP of when I should make this decision, then kindly fuck off.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050369 - 11/14/22 10:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fystbofahs said: I hope you're right, to answer your question, asap. Time is ticking. 
This post is a little bit off-topic, but I'm starting to realize humans aren't supposed to be monogamous. Have fun
Yeah so probably the new year then. I know it has nothing to do with me, but technically it does and I would have to be supportive. So I'm not really ready to deal with that yet myself.
I agree, I was in an open relationship for 8 years. I actually just got out of that relationship a month and half ago lol it was a total of 9 years though.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050371 - 11/14/22 10:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Lol phish head, how the hell can you be condescending to anyone when your taste in music is as abysmal as yours?
Quit your job and go follow them you dork.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050382 - 11/14/22 10:14 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fystbofahs said: lol fuck them. seriously, good luck

Honestly, if it doesn't work out, it's just another life experience learned, but it's very real so far and I've heeded previous advice of slowing things down because it's moving quite quickly.
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050386 - 11/14/22 10:15 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said:
Melt harder
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#28050396 - 11/14/22 10:20 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Don't forget to fuck yourself, honey!
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28050409 - 11/14/22 10:24 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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jack_straw2208 said: Don't forget to fuck yourself, honey!
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Re: When is the right time for my boyfriend to divorce his already separated wife? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28050416 - 11/14/22 10:27 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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How long have they been separated?
I dunno, it's a complicated legal issue, with a kid.. I don't think it should be on you to make that decision.
The question is how long before it's a problem to you?
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