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Ekstaza
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What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness
#27972358 - 09/28/22 02:16 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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So, I’ve been living with my current girlfriend for almost a year now, and her daughter and son live with us. The son is 19, doesn’t have a steady job, has a relatively moderate cannabis habit, and has been having delusions involving imagined conversations, of a sexual nature, that are causing A LOT of uncomfortable instances.
Sending him to live with his father is a bad option, as his dad is an opiate and meth addict. That is the only option he has right now, though.
Adding an even bigger wrinkle to this dilemma, I have a small monotub grow going. I’m not sure what he might do if we get firm with him about getting a job, or finding another place to live. He dropped out of high school, so he doesn’t have a diploma, making finding a job that much more problematic.
What’s everyone’s thoughts on how to proceed? Scrap the grow and lay down the law, or keep letting things slide? It’s possible that he could blow everything up if we upset him too much, but I know that I have to do something.
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: Ekstaza]
#27972755 - 09/28/22 07:00 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Share your shrooms, help him get a girlfriend and have the best experience in his early twenties. You could be his hero.
Poast the awkward things that happen and let us critique.
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: Ekstaza] 2
#27972782 - 09/28/22 07:19 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Ekstaza said: So, I’ve been living with my current girlfriend for almost a year now, and her daughter and son live with us. The son is 19, doesn’t have a steady job, has a relatively moderate cannabis habit, and has been having delusions involving imagined conversations, of a sexual nature, that are causing A LOT of uncomfortable instances.
Sending him to live with his father is a bad option, as his dad is an opiate and meth addict. That is the only option he has right now, though.
Adding an even bigger wrinkle to this dilemma, I have a small monotub grow going. I’m not sure what he might do if we get firm with him about getting a job, or finding another place to live. He dropped out of high school, so he doesn’t have a diploma, making finding a job that much more problematic.
What’s everyone’s thoughts on how to proceed? Scrap the grow and lay down the law, or keep letting things slide? It’s possible that he could blow everything up if we upset him too much, but I know that I have to do something.
IMO step one is getting him psychological help. Someone experiencing ongoing delusions likely won't be able to hold a job for long, so that probably shouldn't be the priority. Most of the time these issues get progressively worse if not addressed early
Also probably best to scrap the tubs if he's the type that would ever rat you out. Having someone who is mentally unstable and potentially resentful knowing where you manufacture drugs is walking on thin ice
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: Ekstaza] 3
#27975613 - 09/30/22 05:15 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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I agree with Feevers-- mental help is first and foremost.
Reduction/cessation of cannabis is also quite important. THC is a horrible drug for people to be using that are experiencing psychotic symptoms. Often they will use it to treat symptoms only to experience worse and worse rebounds. Too often people think weed is practically health food but it can be quite harmful for some experiencing mental health challenges.
Finally-- didn't you say it was you girlfriend's son? Why are you making the decisions and delivering the message?
P.s. I'd also get rid of the monotub. Not worth getting pinched over.
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: pslyke] 1
#27976427 - 10/01/22 10:04 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Wouldnt be the first schizophrenic having his first episode triggered by weed.
Get him help.
Possibly abused.
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: Asante]
#28010138 - 10/22/22 12:15 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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i lost my last button at 18-19. and it was a long process of getting my mess together. but im also a very complicated person. with many complications. maybe try to understand his complications? if at all possible?
Maybe suggest construction? To me its better than a kitchen job. I couldnt even formulate sentences at 19... i failed a lot of jobs because i couldnt fit in. That doesnt so much matter in construction... construction employers will try to keep him even if hes not all together. I know every kitchen i ever worked in fired me for the simple fact that i was awkward to be around. I feel i had more personal problems at 18 than what i think some of them would see in most their life.
We all have a different experience in life.
Good luck.
God be w/ you
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split_by_nine
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: Ekstaza] 1
#28028940 - 11/02/22 04:14 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Ekstaza said: So, I’ve been living with my current girlfriend for almost a year now, and her daughter and son live with us. The son is 19, doesn’t have a steady job, has a relatively moderate cannabis habit, and has been having delusions involving imagined conversations, of a sexual nature, that are causing A LOT of uncomfortable instances.
are the daughter and son close? if they are, it might serve well to channel your help thru her if he trusts her more than you or mom.
but, if the boy is really hallucinating it's best to get him professional help asap. these things dont go away left untreated, they only get worse
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Re: What to do when a family member shows signs of mental illness [Re: split_by_nine]
#28028953 - 11/02/22 04:53 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sounds like a tricky situation. I'd scrap the grow for now though to start. Him going with the dad sounds like a bad idea (obviously). If you push too much and he leaves that won't help (him) much either though. It can be hard to force someone to get help sometimes. You said he doesn't have a steady job, but he is working some? I'm wondering how he's paying for weed...
Who is he having these imagined conversations with, and how often?
It sucks it has to be your issue, but I'm sure nobody in the house knows exactly what to do about it at this point. Being mom's bf could complicate things if you have to be the one to lay down the law with him as you said. Make sure his sister and mom are on the same page with you as far as what's going on, good communication will be crucial.
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