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Anonymous #1
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Re: Ideas on a breaking marriage due to ineptitude [Re: anatomality]
#27935398 - 09/05/22 01:30 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks guys, you’ve really helped. I wasn’t expecting this. It’s the two fold of a failing relationship and a failing life that has hit really hard.
I’ve been trying so hard around the house like you wouldn’t believe, but it’s never enough.
The time apart was hard, and I think it definitely made being together again difficult. With the lockdowns everywhere just seeing friends and family was difficult. I don’t think I’ve ever recovered and in a new country knowing no one, isolation kicked in.
Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I really shouldn’t drag this thread on longer. You are all awesome and I hope to see you out there in the ether
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Ideas on a breaking marriage due to ineptitude [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27935444 - 09/05/22 01:56 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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It does, however, look like I’m taking advantage. That is how she feels at least. I know it isn’t, but words are pointless.
Yeah words are pointless when the actions speak louder. You can't say it isn't if she feels it is and the world around you sees that it is as well, pretty clear cut case of you being in denial.
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In every objective measure this country is a step down.
Go home then
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WhoManBeing
PsychedelicYogi



Registered: 09/01/13
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Re: Ideas on a breaking marriage due to ineptitude [Re: Anonymous #2]
#27937123 - 09/06/22 11:54 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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On flip side.
Hi5! for all the work to PhD! I am sure you could find something out there where that is of value to ongoing work. I like to think there something out there when go looking for it, just need really keep sharp eye on what looking for. AS a eagle looks for prey over the land.
What is it called when work along someone for no pay as a possible work to be had if boss likes you?
That maybe something to get doing, for seems as that field of work...
Hey, check this one out. iapwe.org it's some writing thing that can make money doing articles for. Some seemed easy enough and other seemed as difficult. For you field of studies, I think all of what offers be a breeze and ease, and pay out well. Check it out! Like to know what you think and if worked for you.
Ride the wings of the heart and enjoy the flight, everything be alright.
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badchad
Mad Scientist

Registered: 03/02/05
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Re: Ideas on a breaking marriage due to ineptitude [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27941458 - 09/09/22 04:52 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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In the broadest sense, marriage/relationships are two people making a go through life. From that perspective, a job is kind of a necessity. Part of the journey of marriage is figuring out "how" you want to live your life. What is it that you value? Some people want lots of money, others want to travel, some want kids etc. etc.
Shit happens. A minimum wage job may be a bump in the road and temporary. However, you and your wife need to figure out if you're on the same page in life.
As an aside, its depressing your PhD advisor didn't help you secure a job. Even a postdoctoral fellowship should pay more than minimum wage.
-------------------- ...the whole experience is (and is as) a profound piece of knowledge. It is an indellible experience; it is forever known. I have known myself in a way I doubt I would have ever occurred except as it did. Smith, P. Bull. Menninger Clinic (1959) 23:20-27; p. 27. ...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely. Osmond, H. Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Ideas on a breaking marriage due to ineptitude [Re: badchad]
#27952776 - 09/16/22 12:21 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Time to look into alternative ways of making money...
Trade crypto or stocks.. start an online business.. do affiliate marketing.. sell shroom grow supplies.. something..
Of course that will take hard work and a strong business plan, but what doesn't take hard work.
Or you can start praying to a higher power to help you find a job against all odds, and redouble your efforts.
Or accept that your marriage is doomed.
Your call.
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