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How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? *DELETED*
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HilltopHood
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: ShiroiTora] 3
#27859572 - 07/12/22 05:31 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Jesus Christ there's a lot to unpack here!
NOFAP is the cringiest bullshit ever, if you need to jerk off do it ffs. There's absolutely nothing sexy about going bloody insane because you don't want to rub one out every now and then.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: HilltopHood]
#27860011 - 07/12/22 02:35 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Shiroi, you need to talk with your girl about this instead of trying to impotentate yourself.
Are you really sure she doesn't enjoy it? You said it's just by looking. You're just assuming? Has she said anything? Lots of people might look like they're not enjoying something but they are.
If she experiences genuine pain and severe lack of sex drive, there are treatments for that. Yohimbine is used by some as a treatment for SSRI impotence specifically due to its selective serotonin agonism and antagonism. There are also talk therapy approaches, new positions, toys, the backdoor, and a million other options. TALK TO HER ABOUT IT. See what she wants. I'm very willing to bet it's NOT the case she never wants sex. She just, probably, wants sex that is slightly better, but there are many ways to work on that. You two should work on it. A sex therapist could help if your talk seems promising but you need ideas.
If you start SSRIs there's no guarantee you'll get the sex drive effect, it impacts only a small percentage. And sometimes it lasts even after the med is stopped. Would you really want to have no sex ever?
I'm sorry to say, it sounds like you are bringing back your old problems regarding sex into this new relationship and letting them spiral. You need to treat this problem on its own; this relationship is this relationship. And it is two, not one, so you should see what she thinks of all this. I highly doubt she can never experience any pleasure, so there may be some things you can do. Heck, if it takes a large vibrator as an additive, that might be what it takes. If she experiences no feeling at all, it sounds like something a doctor should look into. But one thing I would not suggest is you taking it out on your sex drive, as this issue has nothing to do with that.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? *DELETED* [Re: HilltopHood]
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: ShiroiTora]
#27860471 - 07/12/22 09:21 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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ShiroiTora said: Yes I would honestly say sex has caused me more pain than it's ever improved my life, and I doubt it will ever change. And yes you are correct, I hated my sexuality before the relationship and I still hate it now. The juice is just never worth the squeeze, and it's never been.
I'll talk to her, awkward as it may be, but the "you never initiate" convo is pretty rough on relationships I would imagine. The vibrator is a good suggestion, I'll try that one.
Her not initiating doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't enjoy it. You say you yourself struggle to initiate, maybe she can relate to your concerns?
Does she feel any pain, or just a lack of sensation? If it's the latter, it could be fixed by technique. I'm not the one to ask about this, the last person really, but I have read accounts of similar problems being improved by just changing things up.
If sex is a problem for you, it might be good to take a break for your own sake, since it sounds like part of the issues do not just relate to your dynamic with her, but your own past. Asexuality is a spectrum. A person can have a sex drive and still not desire sex all that much, or not desire the realities of sex even if they want the fantasies.
Meditation will work better than any kind of pill at killing a desire that has become excessive or out of proportion.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: ShiroiTora]
#27860666 - 07/13/22 02:09 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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I think you have a lot to work on within yourself. I recommend trying to find a good therapist. Shop around and try a few until you find one you like.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: ShiroiTora]
#27860734 - 07/13/22 04:41 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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ShiroiTora said: "There is so much to unpack here!"
"Just masturbate lol"
Right!? It's a start though!
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: HilltopHood]
#27869794 - 07/20/22 02:25 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Op you’ll still want sex, your dick won’t work. That’s what SSRI’s do.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: koods]
#27869991 - 07/20/22 07:46 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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They usually don't cause ED. They cause ejaculatory delay.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: Brian Jones]
#27870286 - 07/20/22 12:25 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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When I was on psych meds in the 90s they killed my libido.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: BlueAndOrange] 2
#27870364 - 07/20/22 01:26 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Just get married. 
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: CapSlinger]
#27872405 - 07/22/22 04:06 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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But seriously, for OP and anyone else that might be reading this.
This is an issue that can lead to bigger problems that are harder to fix if you don't work on it now. You also don't have the tools needed to deal with it yourself. If you value the relationship find help, from a sex therapist. Start by telling your partner how sex makes you feel, explain that you value the relationship and that this is not a problem with them but a problem with both of you that you'd like to work on. MAKE SURE THEY UNDERSTAND THEY ARE NOT BEING BLAMED OR PRESSURED.
I wish I had had this experience about twenty years ago.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: BlueAndOrange]
#27873851 - 07/23/22 08:00 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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BlueAndOrange said: When I was on psych meds in the 90s they killed my libido.
Which meds?
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: Brian Jones]
#27874329 - 07/23/22 03:38 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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I dont get it ; Has an intense desire for intercourse, Juice is never worth the squeeze?
These are bipolarized thoughts. If you want to have sex and like it how is it not worth it or give you problems?
It's a relationship mang, if she values being with you enough to let you fuck. Just fuck. Enjoy it with her. Be more intimate ND kiss her instead of trying to pleasure her if she can't get it any.
Relationships of any kind are always a (hopefully) pleasant give ND take this is one of your takes, just let her know you appreciate it and make it worthwhile to her.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: Brian Jones]
#27875518 - 07/24/22 03:43 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Brian Jones said: They usually don't cause ED. They cause ejaculatory delay.
That's what Lexapro did to me. It was especially hard to nut if I had a couple drinks in me, if not impossible.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: Brian Jones]
#27875985 - 07/24/22 10:26 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Brian Jones said:
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BlueAndOrange said: When I was on psych meds in the 90s they killed my libido.
Which meds?
At the time, I went through every antidepressant on the market except MAOIs. All the SSRIs killed my libido. Every one. Ruined my 20s.
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Re: How effective are SSRIs for killing sex drive? [Re: BlueAndOrange]
#27895344 - 08/09/22 12:25 AM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Well I've just started on an SSRI for my depression which I never expected so I'll post. I now have trouble getting horny and it's difficult to orgasm. It's not nice, trust me.
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