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If only he regularly applied heavy makeup and spent 4 hours on self care per day
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r3volution.gurl



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flugelizor said: If my wife told me to color my hair because I let myself go I would feel hurt too. If she said "color your hair because I have a kink, do you want a BJ?" I would say "sign me up, what color?"
That's really not that different than what my purpose is with the makeover so to speak. Where were you yesterday cause I would've said that lol. I hear you and you're not being negative, you're just misunderstanding me, which is ok.
Long story short he's been growing his hair out for a viking braid he's never going to actually do from the looks of it. His hair has been long enough for the braid for a while now(at least 3 months) and I'm over that look honestly because his hair has just been neglected at this point. He's had his grey beard and hair for at least 2 years now and it's making him look and most likely feel older. I just want him to feel good about himself. We are both going to the hair salon this week because I need a trim myself and I'm taking him clothes and shoe shopping.
That quote isn't really regarding physical appearance, but I understand your point.
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flugelizor
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I also wanted to say if my line worked, then I earned a BJ. But anyway, joking. Wishing you both peace and harmony because I can tell you love him from your posts.
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Haha it would've definitely been useful yesterday
Thank you eh and I appreciate your advice especially regarding men and hair dye.
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TheStallionMang
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OMFG I couldn't read more than the first post How much shit do you think a man would take for posting some bullshit like this about his woman?
Do him a favor and get out of his life
Every week you reach a new low...
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r3volution.gurl



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Thestallion has no partner and is a complete loser, what do you expect lol
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Edited by r3volution.gurl (05/01/22 11:28 AM)
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Lynnch
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SharaVabdas said: This is a very simple request from one partner to another that, “hey, I’m here for you but I also need you to be here for me. Here is something simple I want that you can provide for me that will show me you’re still engaged with ‘us.’”
Sure.. but that should be like "Hey can you make time for date night once a week" not "I'm sick of how you look, change it" Keeping up with themselves is like, making healthy and smart choices. Everyone gets gray hair though, we all get old (if we're lucky).
I'm honestly conflicted here.. I think I take exception to the idea that letting his hair go gray is the same as neglecting himself. You're saying everyone his age looks their age, but he looks older? Lol, no, that's not how that works, he is his age and looks like himself. Also, I thought you were all about sustainable living and stuff, its really odd to me that you care about superficial shit like ironed shirts or whatever. 
That said, there was a time in my life that I looked like total shit, grew out nasty sideburns and never took care of my hair. I look back at pictures and wonder "why the fuck did noone tell me????" There are friendly ways to go about it like "Have you ever tried ----? It would look really good on you!"
But at the end of the day, is this maybe more of a you problem than a him problem? Are you maybe projecting some insecurities about aging onto him? You might want to reflect on that a little.
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Re: Question [Re: Lynnch]
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 I just don’t like using that many words to make it sounds pretty
Rev, why so quick to jump to name calling? If my words sting a lil it’s because a part of you knows I’m right
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Re: Question [Re: Lynnch] 1
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Lynnch said:
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SharaVabdas said: This is a very simple request from one partner to another that, “hey, I’m here for you but I also need you to be here for me. Here is something simple I want that you can provide for me that will show me you’re still engaged with ‘us.’”
Sure.. but that should be like "Hey can you make time for date night once a week" not "I'm sick of how you look, change it" Keeping up with themselves is like, making healthy and smart choices. Everyone gets gray hair though, we all get old (if we're lucky).
I'm honestly conflicted here.. I think I take exception to the idea that letting his hair go gray is the same as neglecting himself. You're saying everyone his age looks their age, but he looks older? Lol, no, that's not how that works, he is his age and looks like himself. Also, I thought you were all about sustainable living and stuff, its really odd to me that you care about superficial shit like ironed shirts or whatever. 
That said, there was a time in my life that I looked like total shit, grew out nasty sideburns and never took care of my hair. I look back at pictures and wonder "why the fuck did noone tell me????" There are friendly ways to go about it like "Have you ever tried ----? It would look really good on you!"
But at the end of the day, is this maybe more of a you problem than a him problem? Are you maybe projecting some insecurities about aging onto him? You might want to reflect on that a little.
We have plenty of date nights.. did you read the thread at all? I answered and explained majority of what you've commented on. His friends actually shave their beards. They have the same greys in the same spots, but they actually take care of themselves appearance wise so they look their age while he looks much older. I've reflected and it's not just me around the both of us feeling the same way about how he takes care of his appearance.
I'm trying to understand how you can correlate caring about appearance to not being interested in off grid and self sustainability.. we are currently living in the city and will not being going off grid this summer. I've gotten the advice required already so anything from here on out is really not asked for. Ironing a shirt isn't superficial, it's taking care of clothes that otherwise would become waste earlier if they aren't taken care of. Thanks for coming out.
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TheStallionMang said:
 I just don’t like using that many words to make it sounds pretty
Rev, why so quick to jump to name calling? If my words sting a lil it’s because a part of you knows I’m right
No, it's actually because you're a piece of shit lol. You've never been right. Ever.
Also, your words don't sting, they are just meaningless and have 0 value to me.
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Edited by r3volution.gurl (05/01/22 11:31 AM)
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TheStallionMang
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r3volution.gurl said: your words don't sting, they are just meaningless and have 0 value to me.
Well you’re on the right track and that’s nice to see
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Lynnch
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SharaVabdas said: I would never choose to be with someone I was not physically attracted to, even if I used to be. Would you?
Do you think you'll maintain that attitude in 10 years? 20 years? 30?
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r3volution.gurl



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r3volution.gurl said: your words don't sting, they are just meaningless and have 0 value to me.
Well you’re on the right track and that’s nice to see

Lol
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flugelizor
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SharaVabdas said:
I would never choose to be with someone I was not physically attracted to, even if I used to be. Would you?
Yes, definately I would! Love is all you need!

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My GF hates my balding hair, but loves my shaved head. I have no problems shaving a couple times per week because I know it makes her more attracted to me and thus I feel more attractive as a result. Our sex life is better as a result as well. But that said, I wouldn’t want the maintenance of dying my head or beard. Finding a compromise that makes you both happy should be the goal.
I think the key is just how you express it.
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Lynnch
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I dunno man, are you planning on having kids? Your wife gains some baby weight, are you going to drop her? (I would hope not) My point is just that, along with making changes for your partner, it can be necessary to overlook superficial things in the long term. I think that's in line with what you're getting at talking about emotional connection.
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