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OfflineShrooms4menow
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Autism and sex
    #27745809 - 04/21/22 08:41 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

I am currently working on finding a sexual partner but due to my having autism and no social connections I am bound to have a hard time. So I started thinking, what if I reverse engeneered a possible andacceptable scenario for sex? What stands inbetween me and sex and what can I do to nullify those issues?

1. I don't like being touched

2. I am extremely shy in social situations

3. I am not a very physical person. I exercise but my coordination is bad and when I am focused on anything i cannot direct my movements properly- I dont think I could thrust into someone for 30 minutes straight

4. I am extremely sensitive when it comes to sexual ideas- sometimes I feel dysphoric after masturbating, I dont feel guilty just vulnerable. And if I had sex I would probably cry. Worse, I would embarass myself as I would be unable to provide my partner with stimulation.

5. I dont have aggressive fantasies. In fact, I barely fantasise at all- what turns me on is the idea of someone finding me attractive. (This has the advantage of meaning that if someone isnt into me, I am not interested in them as a consequence since they are thereby unable to fulfil my desire to be desired)

Some users have recomended I find a girlfreind who is into bdsm and I see why. Bondage, dominance, submission, and sado-masochism would be built into the act given my nature.

However, it is very frustrating for me as what  want is a smart and interesting but assertive and independent girl, the kind who could choke you to death. And I dont want to control her or be the center of her life- many of the things people take for granted are simply beyond my comprehension. i would need a weirdo.


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: Shrooms4menow]
    #27745935 - 04/21/22 10:42 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Yeah maybe getting involved in the kink/bdsm community could be good for you. If you’re lucky you’ll find yourself dating a domme :wink:


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: Shrooms4menow] * 2
    #27745972 - 04/21/22 11:09 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Instead of just looking for sex, try to get a girlfriend, and don't worry about the sex. Meet women, get to know them, try to date. You'll encounter a lot of rejection and failure, so be prepared for that, but just try to date some women and find someone who cares about you and vice versa. If they care about you, you can work through this stuff together.


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: nooneman]
    #27746050 - 04/22/22 12:39 AM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Yeah but heres he deal though, the requirements for that kind of relationship are exactly the things that turn me on. So although sex isnt a requirement for a relationship for me, when I think of the kind of relationship I want, I ineveitably think of a kind of person I would want to sleep with.

Im kind of in a confusing situation here- Im having urges and instincts bt nothing to do with them. It isnt even so simple as getting a girl, I could never have sex with someone who I didn't love and who didn't enjoy it, and efectively I would need to be submissive


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: Sagescruffy]
    #27746051 - 04/22/22 12:40 AM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Probably but Im not sere where to go


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: Shrooms4menow]
    #27746070 - 04/22/22 01:10 AM (1 year, 9 months ago)

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Shrooms4menow said:
Probably but Im not sere where to go




Use fetlife to find munches in your nearest major city. Make friends and eventually you’ll have made a place for yourself in your local scene. Gl!


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Re: Autism and sex [Re: Sagescruffy]
    #27747331 - 04/22/22 08:16 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

it requires a phone number. Also Im afraid of sex, so I need to find someone I can trust


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