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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27719913 - 04/03/22 06:48 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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kreg said: I think a severely depressed person wouldn't even bother to ask let alone take extra steps to ask about it like you did with the op. You sound bored to me, have you tried going out and meeting someone fun for like sex or something ? Do you like any sports? ....memes?
Don’t catch 22 it. It can’t be so simple as if you ask for help you don’t need help. Don’t discount what she’s been through or how much strength it took to take steps to fight back.
-------------------- [quote]Asante said: You constantly make posts thatr fling middle school insults at people you don't like mixed in with maladjusted psychopathic comments about wanting to beat up the other poster with a crowbar. You know how shit you are, you just don't give a fuck for precisely that reason. I disendorse you.[/quote]
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27719918 - 04/03/22 06:54 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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Hmm that's interesting..am assuming you can be bored and severely depressed at the same time though. I lost interest in most things a long time ago. I've been out of the loop for 10 years as well, I'm not even sure exactly what a meme is or how I'd participate in it.
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020]
#27719941 - 04/03/22 07:29 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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I'm not invalidating anything vs acknowledging experimental illness data gathering via astroturfing and hot tagged words
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27720611 - 04/04/22 09:33 AM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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Sorry you will have to explain what you mean by this...I'm about to lose my rag as it seems like something I should be offended by and if it is you are completely WRONG. Apologies if I'm reading more into it than what you mean. Aren't you someone who thought you might be psychotic? In that case you can talk you've done exactly the same thing on here!
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020]
#27720613 - 04/04/22 09:38 AM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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You seem upset
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27720630 - 04/04/22 10:02 AM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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Do I have reason to be? I don't want to overreact, I'm just reading what you put a certain way and need you to clarify what you meant by it. What does "acknowledging experimental illness data gathering via astroturfing and hot tagged words " mean? Just let me know what you're getting at here that's all.
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TheFakeSunRa said:
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kreg said: I think a severely depressed person wouldn't even bother to ask let alone take extra steps to ask about it like you did with the op. You sound bored to me, have you tried going out and meeting someone fun for like sex or something ? Do you like any sports? ....memes?
Don’t catch 22 it. It can’t be so simple as if you ask for help you don’t need help. Don’t discount what she’s been through or how much strength it took to take steps to fight back.
Appreciate the support, thanks
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020]
#27720921 - 04/04/22 02:05 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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Im not sure what its called, but for what's going on with you whatever that may be I do not want to do negative reinforcement ? I really dont know what to call it. If you told me you were in physical pain i wouldn't point in your face and say pain, pain, pain my weird astroturfing comment- referring to a lot of things, for instance i think if you use a search engine for a certain term long enough eventually you'll get some weird ads
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27720953 - 04/04/22 02:28 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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kreg said: I think a severely depressed person wouldn't even bother to ask let alone take extra steps to ask about it like you did with the op. You sound bored to me, have you tried going out and meeting someone fun for like sex or something ? Do you like any sports? ....memes?
I think you are out of your element and should stop giving opinions and advice in this thread as its counterproductive to someone seeking help.
Therapy is an amazing tool.
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: mndfreeze]
#27720964 - 04/04/22 02:39 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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I was just reading a book by Solomon H. Snyder where he says studies showed that therapy had the same success rate as doing nothing
I think he’s in the all solutions are pharmaceutical camp though
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Thanks mindfreeze! I wasnt trying to hurt anyone, I want positive things for this person and I was maybe maybe going to ask about diet and exercise but sure man. God bless you!
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: kreg]
#27721056 - 04/04/22 03:53 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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kreg said: Im not sure what its called, but for what's going on with you whatever that may be I do not want to do negative reinforcement ? I really dont know what to call it. If you told me you were in physical pain i wouldn't point in your face and say pain, pain, pain my weird astroturfing comment- referring to a lot of things, for instance i think if you use a search engine for a certain term long enough eventually you'll get some weird ads
Oh ok, thanks for explaining, kind of... I was offended as I was reading it to mean you thought I was trolling or something. Must admit I didn't understand most of that sentence! My diets terrible and I don't exercise (but I'm normal weight), I feel like that stuff might've worked 20 years ago but I've had too much bad stuff happen and that's the focus unfortunately. Diet and exercise can't erase the past so that's why I thought therapy would be something that could help me deal with it right now.
Oh and I wish to god boredom was my biggest problem!
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020] 1
#27721232 - 04/04/22 06:05 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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My diets terrible and I don't exercise
That definitely doesn’t help
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020]
#27725930 - 04/08/22 03:52 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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It can be helpful to change the question to "Why am I miserable?"
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Always been an introvert and tried to fight against that but can't it's in my nature so no matter how much I wanted to be outgoing and have loads of friends, my nature always won out.
A lack of human connection is the most common source of misery.
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." Henry David Thoreau
Many millions suffer due to a lack of close relationships. Myself included.
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I don't know how to be "normal".
I see no future, most of my family are now gone and all I feel is sadness and very alone.
For the past 10+ years I've really hated life . . .
I carry a lot of guilt . . .
I find life so dark and morbid . . .
I find no joy in life at all
I'm the most negative glass-half-empty person you will ever meet
The most dog-eared marked up books in my library are about the nature of self-aggression and self-loathing. It takes some work to uncover what is fueling such a bleak negative outlook and attitude. Compassion for yourself is essential. You need psychological tools to neutralize this brutal onslaught of self-hatred.
Consider you may not have a medical problem, and that you are simply miserable.
Below are a couple of sources that have helped me a lot. Even just reading the first chapter or two can help shift and expand your perspective. Notice the negative things your mind is saying as you simply read the names of the titles below. Books are dumb. My neurochemistry is defective and books won't help me. I feel so emotionally disturbed I can't possibly read anything. and on and on and on ...
Compassion and Self-hate: An Alternative to Despair by Theodore Isaac Rubin
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff
Message me if you'd like. I feel your pain.
Take care
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Re: Is this depression? [Re: Rache2020]
#27726077 - 04/08/22 06:01 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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This sounds really similar to what I’ve dealt with but like others have said, you shouldn’t take advice on here (so I won’t give it) and talking to a professional would be way better. However, I’ll give you my view: I’ve always been stuck in a negative, depressed mindset. I’ve been to the psych ward, put on meds, self medicated, had therapists and everything and none of it really helped besides the therapy. I did find confiding in someone that didn’t know me helped release a lot of tension but you have to find the right therapist It’s like I was addicted to that negativity and until I truly wanted to get rid of it, it wouldn’t happen. All that stuff just made it worse.
So, after going through all kinds of shit that made me think about suicide, truly consider it, I realized that I was doing a lot of this stuff to myself. Not saying you are, but I was. So, when I actually was thinking about suicide, I had to get real honest with myself. “Man, you can’t kill yourself. It’s not fair to others and this isn’t what you want in reality. Push through one more night.” Then the next day when I felt bad I’d tell myself the same.
Then I got to considering what I ate, what I do in my free time, how I get into thought loops, what triggers me. And honestly, after considering those things and others that popped up, I realized there were a bunch of tiny things I could do to make things better that weren’t being recommended by doctors and whatnot. Anytime I’m able I eat more healthy or not as much since that brings me down. Instead of sitting around waiting for bs to pop into my head, I force myself to do chores. Literally anything it doesn’t matter as long as it’s productive. If I start thinking about shit I don’t want to I literally tell myself “nope think about something else”.
I know these things may sound corny but they truly help. Like people saying “just be positive” always pissed me the hell off. However, when I started really trying, and not just once and then back to doom and gloom once it backfired, it’s helped a lot. I out loud state positive things that can come from the negative shit in my life. Sometimes even to people around me.
Over time these little things add up and eventually you’ll make it way long than you’d have imagined without depression and anxiety. Another thing, don’t take yourself too seriously. The things you mentioned are rough but they don’t define you. Joke around with people at work, cut up, dog on yourself a little. Laughing and joking with others really brings a lot of joy and more and more people will want to be around you.
Which brings me to my next point: being alone isn’t always bad. That’s time you can be learning more, doing a hobby, or literally anything with no distractions. Just make the most of it because it won’t last forever. Plus, a lot of people suck so not having many friends can be a wise thing. I only have a few I can really trust and I’m still alone 99% of the time. No drama that way.
And last I’d say to find a hobby. Something you’re truly passionate about. Mine for instance is guitar and it took me WAY too long to get serious about it because it’s helped me so much. I listen to music constantly and am always looking for and getting into new artists and styles that it just fits. I play my guitar pretty much constantly now and even though I don’t even plan an necessarily showing it to anyone, I want to make an album. It’s just a long term goal I’ve set for my serious hobby. And that’s what it is a hobby. Something I’m not trying to force or anything just have fun and get better for myself. I think it’s what’s helped the most honestly.
This is just a few things that I think about and do on a daily basis and it’s helped so much. I still have bad days but that’s all the importance I put on it. Just a bad day. No reason to bail. Plus I want to prove to myself that I’m strong enough to make it through this shit. I don’t want to bounce cause it got a little tough. Fuck that.
I have plenty more I could go on about but I’ll stop here. If you want anybody to talk to or anything then I’m here whenever. You can rant anytime to me friend. Take care.
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