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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: Shrooms4menow]
    #27716119 - 04/01/22 06:25 AM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Men dont have to be the Dom and women dont have to be the sub, that's sexist yo


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: gopher]
    #27716545 - 04/01/22 01:09 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

I didnt say that. I said that this is acultural assumption built around biological reality- women do not express sexual dominance as men do- if anything men are more likely to feel ashamed about their dominant tendencies.
Social or personal dominance is different- Im not talking about simply beating the shit out of me but a person with psychological power- I am attracted to certain mindsets, not the ones conventionally seen as dominant. Lets call this Emotional Dominance.


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: gopher]
    #27716554 - 04/01/22 01:17 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

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The primary issue here is that I do not have a strong sex drive yet have a disproportianate desire for it. I remember reading Simone de Beauvoirs discourse on the differences between mens and womens attitudes towards sex and I noticed early on that I approach sex more the way she describes women as approaching it and as women have been described to approach it. This is not, however a gender identity but the structure of my sexuality- much of the misunderstanding of Beauvoirs ideas comes from this.

According to beauvoir, sex costs women something as they are generally passive. Men experience their bodies as the acting-upon their desires whereas women experience their bodies as something to be acted upon. Hence their sex drives are externalised in the form of preferences, they are "picky." This is because sex costs them something it does not cost men due to the arbitrary nature of their biology. Beauvoirs whole project is framed as a struggle against biology.

So in addition to their hymens making sex physically hurt the first few times, they also have to deal with a general fear of sex, guilt over their more submissive desires, being conflicted over sex yet agreeing to it, and an increased rate of post coital dysphoria.





This is bullshit, I'm a very anxious person, all the girls I've been with have been more comfortable with the whole flirting and sex thing then me, anything saying one gender is this way, and another gender is that way is bullshit cultural shit, culture is changing yo, its not the 1950s




Thats kind of my entire point.

People forget that the eraof gender stereotypes was also the era of sexual repression, which Freud theorised to be the cause of neuroses. Many of the criticisms of Freud are actually misunderstandings coming from a failure to understand this fact-
If you read 19th century literature and philosophy you will find that we were actually more accepting of male vulnerability then- male sexuality was not seen as it i today. I mentioned the relatively high prevelence of post-coital dysphoria, but Schopenhauer actually refers to this as a metaphysical phenomenon. We have always had the archeypal neurotic. A man who is not only sexually submissive but sexually repressed and in general emotionally and socially submissive.

In contemporary culture we look past this, partly because these men were not held up as ideal then, they were simply tolerated. However now Beauvoirs criticisms have been transformed into absolute knowledge- muc of what she does in "the second sex" is simply attempt to dispell many of the claims about sexuality made by freud-


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: Shrooms4menow]
    #27716561 - 04/01/22 01:22 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

I am not refering to the aggressiveness of the acts themselves but to their direction- I probably have the capacity to be physically aggressive myself, but like I said catatonia and mutism are big issues in autism- I would have no capacity to communicate my desires and would automatically obey any command given (as automatic obedience to simple commands is symptomatic of catatonia)- what this means is that my potential partner would need to decide how to do it, which in turn means I would need to be in a position to trust them.
This may even mean that I do all the acts, just as long as she/he directed me, maybe even positioned me which could become necessary due to waxy flexibility. The caveat being that once started I would experience myself as existing through the act and I can only imagine what this would be like with sex as I know myself to feel vulnerable and sensitive after masturbation.

Come to think of it the earlier recomendation of finding someone whose into bdsm may make sense- no restraints needed i guess


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: Shrooms4menow] * 1
    #27716605 - 04/01/22 02:07 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

I dont know what your saying exactly but bdsm is all about consent and knowing yourpartners boundaries


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: Shrooms4menow] * 2
    #27716617 - 04/01/22 02:20 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

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Im still a virgin so I intend on getting sex soon, I just cant think of anyone who it would make sense to ask. WI mean its so fucking stupidbut whenever I ask this people give me the same meaningless responses- asif sex were some divine essence to bu studied- how in the fuck is this stuff supposed to happen?
Look, Im here, youre here, evidently people had sex for this to happen, and it sure as hell wasnt spontaneous, it happens SOMEHOW. So, now that we have established this obvious fact: how does sex happen?



You should let it happen naturally- let the girl come along on her own later. Just nerd out while you can and if anyone laughs you must laugh back, you absolutely must. I'm not saying go full soyboi but man I was so fucking eager to lose my V card when I was in middle and high school..
          Didn't make any sense I was just following the stupid "hurr it would be cool if you did" thing. When I did, I hated it, the girl was awful, the sex was awful. Just really embarrassing experience I wish I could have shared with someone I actually loved so I could have really enjoyed it.
                      Good luck OP. Don't eat too many tide pods out there(assuming you're a zoomer)


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: gopher]
    #27716851 - 04/01/22 05:08 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

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I dont know what your saying exactly but bdsm is all about consent and knowing yourpartners boundaries




yeah I guess they've been redefining it then- Im just trying to fiure out the logistics of this garbage


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: Shrooms4menow] * 1
    #27716856 - 04/01/22 05:11 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

Modern BDSM is women fantasizing about being victims of domestic abuse so they can go around playing victim "He hit mee wwaaaahhhH!" :smirk: But no really there are some (delusional) women that think tricking a man into hitting them is the same thing as BDSM, it isn't


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: kreg] * 1
    #27716870 - 04/01/22 05:18 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

:dominatrix:


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Re: Who would be a safe option for casual sex [Re: kreg]
    #27716999 - 04/01/22 06:58 PM (1 year, 9 months ago)

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kreg said:
Modern BDSM is women fantasizing about being victims of domestic abuse so they can go around playing victim "He hit mee wwaaaahhhH!" :smirk: But no really there are some (delusional) women that think tricking a man into hitting them is the same thing as BDSM, it isn't




Yeah. I wouldnt know. Ive never had fetishes.


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