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    #27651526 - 02/08/22 09:18 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: encryptor]
    #27651670 - 02/08/22 11:51 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

I personally don't see a fulfilling marriage working out considering you're not overly attracted to her and you are not a fan of some of her flaws already only one year into the relationship. You guys obviously care about each other though. You do want to help her, but not sacrifice your happiness and desires in the process. You really have two options. You can either break up with her and go your separate ways as you would when she goes back to Peru or you can form an arrangement with her that you both agree on in order to help her and potentially grow your relationship in the direction you want it to be in such as better communication and understanding with one another.

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I think if I went to her country and hung out with her friends I'd get a better picture of how my gf feels about me around them.




How do you currently think she feels about you? Does her feelings for you not seem genuine?


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    #27652895 - 02/09/22 08:50 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: encryptor]
    #27652919 - 02/09/22 09:08 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

I would communicate with her about this. Let her know how you feel about her, the situation and all your concerns(respectfully of course). I would be extremely honest, including the green card, her weight in the sense of being healthy. Her reaction and responses will definitely determine her genuineness.

Worst case scenario you end up splitting like you are already thinking about. Best case scenario you know whether she is being authentic or not regarding the future of your relationship and efforts are made to make you both happy in the relationship.


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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
    #27656936 - 02/12/22 11:44 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

i would be careful. Marrying someone because you want to help them stay in the country is not the same as marrying because you are deeply in love. I think honesty from your part as to how you feel is the best way to get a sense as to where both, yours and hers, expectations and commitments meet.

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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: encryptor]
    #27657157 - 02/13/22 07:51 AM (1 year, 11 months ago)

Maybe you could just tell this all to her. Marry the girl under the stipulation that it's to keep her in the country. Say you like her and you want her to stay but you're not really ready for the commitment. Perhaps you could offer a prenup in good faith and if things worked out you could nullify the prenup as a sign of your commitment. You would then be helping without any real baggage and everyone is on the same page. If you really wanted to be a big boy about it you could even tell her that if it didn't work out you'd stay married so she could find someone else, that way you'd know you're not getting a desparate highlight reel version of her


The only complaints I'm seeing is she needs to lose weight but she's active so that could easily happen. Also you say you're not as attracted to her as you could be and you want to persue other women but I think everyone has this atleast as a passing thought even if they don't mean it. There are 8 billion people on this rock and dudes think with their dick. Are you thinking with your dick?


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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #27658748 - 02/14/22 02:12 PM (1 year, 11 months ago)

Posting anonymously because I'm gonna be a little blunt and a little crass, and mention things that I haven't really discussed very openly much.

In general terms, without discussing a specific country, I'd say visiting and meeting her family would be a bare minimum requirement before going any further.

But I think the nationality/ethnicity/background of the person in question is critical.

I've spent a decent amount of time in Peru, and around Peruvians.

You mention that her life in Peru isn't bad, and I'm wondering if she's like a middle-to-upper-middle-class girl from Lima. Total wild stereotypical guess, but I wonder if I'm right.

In my experience, Peruvians (ESPECIALLY Limeños) are just conditioned to always be working angles. They could be con artists, they could be ride-or-die salt-of-the-earth, but either way, finding angles is just part of the deal. And in terms of dating and marriage, that cuts all ways. Marrying someone to improve your economic prospects and social status is commonplace.
Having a residency permit for a North American or European country is an obvious upgrade. Having kids with a citizen of such a country is an even better one. On the other hand, playing the "I'm gonna get kicked out of the country" card to nail down a guy you really like, but feel pulling away from you, would also be par for the course. Coming full circle, the prospects he represents being part of the attraction would also be commonplace and unremarkable in Peruvian culture.

I found the few dates/flirtations I had in Peru, as an American, almost overwhelming. I didn't have the shadiness required to pretend I was looking to date seriously just to catch a little tail. But it was obvious that, as an American, I was never going to get away with dating casually. The focus from day one was the road to marriage, almost with a sense of "I'm going to lay a trap for you."

I seriously doubt she's "using" you for a green card. But there ARE some REALLY shady people in Peru, and the only way I could be sure would be to visit her people there and get a better sense of the vibe. Only trouble there is, you'll probably meet some of her friends and think they're way hotter.

The flipside to that is that proposing a marriage of convenience may really upset her, and amount to you "breaking up." Or she could agree to it just to keep the relationship going, with the thought that she'll be able to finagle it into a "real" marriage further down the line.

I don't know if that helps or not...hope it does.


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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: encryptor]
    #27671200 - 02/24/22 04:58 AM (1 year, 10 months ago)

Arequipa, alright, that tracks. Definitely felt like she had to be from the coast (and not the Andes or the Amazon). Makes sense that you'd end up paying for stuff, both economically and culturally. But yeah, Arequipa's a pretty nice city, not as much money as Lima, definitely more traditional, but also way more chill. And if she's a college student there, then her family's not destitute. Hell, I'd be tempted to at least hang on long enough to go visit.

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was she on a quest for true love or citizenship?




Yes.

It honestly sounds to me like she's on some super old-school shit. Find a man to take care of her while she looks after him. And what better way is there than to marry her, give her US citizenship, and make it so that she doesn't have to go back to Arequipa and finish school?

For some guys, this is their dream. For others, their nightmare....


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    #27676305 - 02/27/22 10:25 PM (1 year, 10 months ago)

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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: encryptor]
    #27676338 - 02/27/22 10:49 PM (1 year, 10 months ago)

I think you're making a wise choice based on the info you provided.


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Re: Dating A Foreign Girl - Marriage? [Re: r3volution.gurl]
    #27678244 - 03/01/22 12:49 PM (1 year, 10 months ago)

If you marry her on a k1  visa don't forget if you divorce you'll still be on the hook to support her for I think 10 or 20 years as long as she is in the states.

As someone who has gone down this path personally it's a lot of trouble and money if your not that into the gal.


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    #27679737 - 03/02/22 01:26 PM (1 year, 10 months ago)

Terrible idea. You are knocking her in a post to strangers.


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