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tangoking
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Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help
#27607408 - 01/04/22 10:47 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have an upstairs neighbor that hates me. She's an old divorced woman, bitter, about 70 years old, and sensitive to every little noise, smell, and move I make. I'm about a 50-year old single guy. The past four tenants have complained about her. Some examples:
1. When I make any noise: walk, bump something, etc. She will stop on the floor in response to the noise. Consistently... I'd say about 80% of the time she retaliates 2. She slams doors in anger 3. She goes through my mailbox. She actually had her mailbox REMOVED out of spite, and has hung signs for the mailman not to put her mail in my box. I complained to the Postmaster general, but nothing. 4. She curses at me through my door. "You M*****F**** son of a ***** etc... 5. If I have company over she's even noisier, making guests uncomfortable 6. When I cook, she doesn't like the smell, and drops things on the floor above me making a loud BANG 7. She also sprays cans of air freshener in the hallway because she doesn't like the smell 8. She looks in my windows, and gives me the finger
I've written letters to her, stating that I'm willing to talk. I've given her may email and phone number, complained to management, called lawyers... nothing. I'm powerless.
QUESTION: Do I have any recourse other than moving?
Specifically, can I get physical with her? She's driving me nuts. Not saying I'm going to break her jaw or do any really fucked up shit to her, but can I grab her by the hair and shake her up? Physically give her a good kick in her fat ass? Get in her face and push her against a wall?
My fear, of course, is that she'll march straight down to the PoPo and file charges if I do that.
I really don't know what else to do. Thanks.
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: tangoking]
#27607421 - 01/04/22 11:00 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Dont get physical in any way
Be more obnoxious than she is
Play pornography at max volume
Play this full blast on repeat at the same time along w the porn
Be the bigger person
Slayer will also help drown out the sound of pissed off old ladies
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Edited by Faustian (01/04/22 11:13 PM)
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nooneman
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: tangoking] 1
#27607445 - 01/04/22 11:54 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you can move, then you should move.
Aside from that, I'd try ignoring her.
If that doesn't work, then I guess being 1000x more obnoxious than she is, be as loud as humanly possible 24/7, blast annoying music full volume, and somehow make it clear that this will continue until she stops her bullshit. Also ignore all of her shit while you do this. Learn about active ignoring; make it clear that you are actively ignoring her whenever she does any unacceptable behavior.
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Blackrainbow2
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: nooneman] 2
#27607470 - 01/05/22 12:40 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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she probably wants to fuck ya..
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: tangoking]
#27607528 - 01/05/22 03:06 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hahaha definitely don't get physical, but I'm sure you already know that.
I agree with everyone else, just be so loud you can't even hear the bitch banging around. Give her something to really complain about!
Hopefully you can drive her to move out.
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: Notarealguy] 3
#27609951 - 01/07/22 03:09 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Best thing to do is move.
Another option is to play some sounds only when you are not home - like typical living sounds, but loud enough for her to hear - but only in the hours that are non-quiet hours. Then stop playing them when you get home. That way when you are actually there it'll be pretty quiet by comparison, and she'll direct her anger at you when you are not around, and be pleased at the relative peace and quiet when you are around.
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Notarealguy
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27610872 - 01/07/22 07:16 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Lmaooo this is a funny ass idea. Honestly really smart haha
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: Faustian] 1
#27616868 - 01/13/22 02:15 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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That captain album is incredible.
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: Markamello]
#27616927 - 01/13/22 04:56 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Blender sounds 247 ๐๐
-------------------- W e a r y o u r l o v e l i k e h e a v e n [quote]Enlil said: Maybe you should rat the site out in exchange for a sandwich.[/quote]
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Re: Upstairs Neighbor - Tormenting Me - Lashing out - Help [Re: oursoulsinmotion]
#27626068 - 01/20/22 04:35 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Wow tangoking, your neighbor sounds like a real POS. When I started reading I wasn't expecting it to be that bad
Sounds like you've been reasonable and tried to make friends with her so that's not gonna work It can be really difficult to "out-asshole" the asshole and things just escalate when people start that
Is there anything in your lease (and presumably hers also if you have the same landlord) about not disturbing other tenants? I used to own a small apt building and always put this in the lease
"...tenant(s) must conduct him or herself in a manner that will not disturb a neighbor's peaceful enjoyment of the premises."
If your lease has anything like that, you'll probably have to be up the landlords butt about it, but it's on them to deal with her, not you Another good thing if she has something like that in her lease is that they can threaten to fine and evict her for disturbing her neighbors
If you feel like your landlord is in violation of their lease with you for not keeping things peaceful, you can withhold rent. There's a right way and a wrong way to do it and it may very depending on where you are. Around here, you have to put the rent in escrow (basically a neutral 3rd party that holds it for you) and file notice with your landlord that you are withholding rent for them breaking the terms of the lease and notify them that the rent is in escrow. They can't evict you if you have your rent in escrow, that's the important part
Check out this article, it might help https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/new-jersey-tenant-rights-withhold-rent-repair-deduct.html
If all else fails, record her and call the cops for disturbing the peace. Nobody likes it when they come knockin
Good luck, that situation sounds horrible
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