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Anonymous #1
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Fiance is in the ICU right now
#27273712 - 03/28/21 09:06 PM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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And things are not looking good. Just posting here because I feel like it'd be weird to post it in the pub or something in my name. I'm not around a lot and it might seem like attention seeking..
I came home from work Saturday and she was passed out in the bathtub, looks like she fell into it. She had her eyes rolled back in her head and wouldn't respond to anything, breathing was all fucked up. Called 911, had to do CPR until they showed up.
Got to the hospital, she's still not responsive and her blood sugar was over 600 so she was in a diabetic coma, I didn't know diabetics getting sick made their blood sugar spike but it does. She's been feeling a little sick the past couple of days.
That was yesterday, today they found out she's septic and her organs are shutting down. She's on dialysis now and she's been sedated and intubated since she got here.
The next 24-48 hours the doctor says is what's going to tell them whether she's gonna make it or not.
I'm losing my fucking find. She's my fiance, but we were already married for 15 years. I did some dumb shit, we divorced, I wasn't okay with that so I turned my life around and we just barely got back together 6 months ago. I've spent the majority of my life with this woman. I knew we were meant to be together the very day I met her.
And now she's on the cusp of death. I'm really struggling right now.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#27273724 - 03/28/21 09:19 PM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'm so sorry anybody would be broken by something like this losing a loved one is the hardest thing in life to think about. Idk how is ready but it's be something like that. I'm so so sorry and I will pray for her but seriously post this on the pub man u need the support. Threads like that are very helpful believe it or not I know from experience. I'm so sorry ma we love you and pm me anytime to shoot the shit I'll be on here and there
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #2]
#27273752 - 03/28/21 09:54 PM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'd say how am I supposed to dm you when you didn't even say who you were but I'm pretty sure I do know Anyways.
I really don't want to put it out publicly. I'm barely even here, and to me it would really make it seem like I was just looking for attention. Which I'm not. I'm just losing my shit and I don't know what to do. I only have a few people in my life I can even talk about this shit with. But it's not enough. I don't think anything will be, but at this point, I'm really struggling to not just completely lose my shit.
I don't know what to do. I'm not a doctor but I do know a lot about general things. She's in really bad shape. The doctor is fucking telling me she's really sick and she's the sickest patient on the floor.. none of the nurses or even him can tell me anything good... I know they're all trying to slowly prepare me for the bad news. I've flat out asked what good news they even have at this point and they're really struggling to come up with anything at all.
It's not my first time putting a loved one in the hospital and not pulling out of it, been here multiple times now. Been here done that. They're telling me shit without ever saying it. If there's not improvement by tomorrow. I'm really going to fucking lose it because I know what's coming next.
And we've had this discussion. I can't remember if she wanted to be kept on life support or not.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27273786 - 03/28/21 10:34 PM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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No words can aid you brother.
Be strong. All you can do is wait and pray.
I'm so sorry youre going through this. And so sorry for her as well.
Much love.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27275631 - 03/30/21 11:05 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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Sending some positivity your way.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #4]
#27275661 - 03/30/21 11:31 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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I hope she is ok.
Thats scary stuff
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #5]
#27276203 - 03/30/21 07:17 PM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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She's still in bad condition. They have her dka and sugar down, but that was just a side effect to whatever infection is going on. They don't know where it's coming from because the things they can test right now are all negative.. They need to do a spinal tap and CT scan but she's not stable enough for that right now. They're hoping all the antibiotics they're giving her will have some effect and she'll get better enough to do the tests. They can't find anything wrong with her kidneys or heart exactly, so they're thinking it's just the stress her body is under and that once she starts improving, they will too. She's on a hell of a cocktail of drugs to keep her going right now. They're keeping her out with fent. Nurse says she's probably going to be on the ventilator for a week, at least, and they're keeping her sedated until they're ready to ween her off it and remove it, so it's probably going to be a week before I even stand a chance to talk to her or find out if there was any brain damage.
I'm spending my whole day just sitting there in her room, even knowing there's nothing I can do. I don't know what else to do. I need to be there to get the updates as they happen. I'm missing work to be there.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27276720 - 03/31/21 06:27 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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Have faith, I've been declared brain dead after no active pulse for 45 mins, still here. Best of wishes.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #6]
#27276723 - 03/31/21 06:31 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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You are doing everything right op.
Shes in the best hands possible
Take care of yourself tho, go get a hot meal somewhere and take some time to sit outside.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #5]
#27276773 - 03/31/21 07:09 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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If you are in USA you need to file for FMLA you get 180 a year they can not fire you for missing. you can get it for yourself if your partner is in such a situation I believe.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #6] 1
#27277694 - 04/22/21 04:07 AM (2 years, 9 months ago) |
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She's alive. It was really bad for awhile. She spent 2 weeks intubated and completely sedated. Her kidneys still aren't working and we don't know if they're going to come back. She might be on dialysis for the rest of her life. She can't come home until they set up Medicare and they're not doing that until they determine if it's chronic or acute kidney failure. And they're saying it's going to be at least a week before they decide that.
Everything else with her is good or getting better though. She started being able to walk a couple days ago but she gets tired easily. She finally has her normal voice back.
At one point her doctor flat out told me she could die, he hopes for the best but he's expecting the worse. She was on so much shit to keep her going. And improvement was very slow. They were expecting her to make the turn for the worse or start getting better in a day or two.. she pretty much stayed in the same exact state for 9 days.
For two weeks I really didn't know if she was going to be leaving that hospital alive, now it's just a matter of when she does.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#27282982 - 04/26/21 05:25 PM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: She's alive. It was really bad for awhile. She spent 2 weeks intubated and completely sedated. Her kidneys still aren't working and we don't know if they're going to come back. She might be on dialysis for the rest of her life. She can't come home until they set up Medicare and they're not doing that until they determine if it's chronic or acute kidney failure. And they're saying it's going to be at least a week before they decide that.
Everything else with her is good or getting better though. She started being able to walk a couple days ago but she gets tired easily. She finally has her normal voice back.
At one point her doctor flat out told me she could die, he hopes for the best but he's expecting the worse. She was on so much shit to keep her going. And improvement was very slow. They were expecting her to make the turn for the worse or start getting better in a day or two.. she pretty much stayed in the same exact state for 9 days.
For two weeks I really didn't know if she was going to be leaving that hospital alive, now it's just a matter of when she does.
Thank god for that mate. The entire time this website was down I had you guys in my thoughts.
I'm not a religious man or believe in any magic. Just glad you two can continue to be together.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#27284095 - 04/27/21 04:39 PM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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I appreciate it. The last month has been a total nightmare but they declared her in end stage renal failure today. Which means now they can get the Medicare and shit set up and she'll be coming home. She's gonna have to get on the list for a transplant.. and she'll be on dialysis until then.
She's probably going to get disability as well.
I'm just glad she's gonna be coming home. They're trying to get the hospital bill taken care of cuz we have no insurance. I bet it's at at least 500,000 by now.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27287514 - 04/30/21 06:37 AM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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I really really really hope things get better.
That is so scary to go through, maybe resting in her home environment will help for the better too.
Sending positive love prayers whatever words you use for it
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #7] 4
#27289568 - 05/01/21 07:56 PM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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She came home today. Spent over a month in there but they finally released her.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27289902 - 05/02/21 04:16 AM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: She came home today. Spent over a month in there but they finally released her.
<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 Youre blessed bro
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27290350 - 05/02/21 12:23 PM (2 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hey man, really glad your fiance pulled through.
Good friend of mine died recently. He just suddenly dropped dead at the age of 33 from a heart attack. Apparently, he may have had a defect, but they aren't sure.
They managed to keep him alive in the hospital for a few days, but once it became clear he was braindead, they let him go.
Absolutely awful. I've been helping the family as much as I can but there's only so much I can do. Nothing will bring him back.
Life is too short.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Fiance is in the ICU right now [Re: Anonymous #8]
#28136343 - 01/12/23 08:11 AM (1 year, 16 days ago) |
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Important to note I'm on probation and can have no contact with her (or was, not anymore).
This is long, sorry. But it's pretty much the missing part of the saga my wife nearly died for real. It's got kind of some back story.
I probably should've updated this long ago and I'm very sorry. She was on Dialysis waiting on a transplant but they started working again. Everything's back to "normal". She's still not healthy. She's on a lot of meds. But she was that way before.
And y'all really don't know the half of the stress I went through. Short story me and my wife were sperated for domestic violence and divorced. They of course put a restraining order on me and realizing what I'd done and likely going to prison and losing my family it really snapped something in me. So we ended up back together and it took a lot of work,I mean years starting as friends. But I proved myself.
Anyways, her sister, has never liked me. Her sister has never liked her. She pretends to but she does not. They almost never even talk. So I made a Facebook post on my (now wife's, again) Facebook to tell everyone what was going on. The sister immediately inserted herself into it. My son was 16 and I worked. She wanted me to let him go live with her. I said no. He's not a little kid and I'm home every night. He didn't want to go with her anyways. She kept pushing the issue and pushing the issue and making all kinds of different pleas and tactics and I finally said I'm done, the answer is no, he's my son, you meet him once. It's not happening.
So the next day I get a call while at work. It's CPS. They told me they got a complaint my son is abandoned and not being cared for and is in danger. So they have to come do the investigation. Have to explain wife and ask the usual shit. Have to tell her my criminal past and that me and my wife are back together. I don't want to lie, it's the worst thing you can do. So she says she's gotta do some back ground checks and shit and call my boss and my PO (FUCK! IF SHE TELLS HIM MY WIFE IS HERE I'M FUCKED).
Next day she calls me. Tells me everything is good. Son is obviously well cared for and he's more than capable of handling himself while in at work. Also tells me that my PO told her my restrictions including I can't be with her, but she chose not to say anything. It was obvious this was a positive family and breaking it back up would be a crime (was a huge gamble to just come clean and explain my story than try to hide but damn did it work).
So next day I go to hospital to visit her and check in and go up. As soon as I step off the elevator security/cops is there. They pull me back out of the ICU. This dumb bitch went and told them my wife has a restraining order on me. They start asking me all kinds of shit, ask for my id. THE RESTRAINING ORDER EXPIRED A COUPLE MONTHS AGO but I was still on probation with restriction. The cop calls the court house to run the restraining order, it comes back expired. HE DOES NOT run my name through any other database or ask about probation, warrants etc. He hands it back, apologizes, hospital apologizes. I am in full legal with the paperwork immediately made medical power of attorney and her sister is banned from coming anywhere near us or asking the hospital anything about her.
I have to tell you. That was stress on a whole new level. My wife might be dying and a cop just asked for my ID AFTER I GOT LUCKY WITH to get the greatest CPS caseworker ever (she was mad at the sister lol). I'm going to be sitting in jail while she's dying and I can't be there.
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Anonymous #1
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I forgot I updated this post already came to do it but then realized something could really nail home how bad this was..
This was her. This isn't just a bunch of monitoring equipment. In the pic you can see the heat thing they'd use when the temp dropped (like dangerous/moderate hypothermia drop). And then they had a cooling blanket for when it would shoot back up to 104+ half an hour later. On the right is dialysis. Behind her and to the left, is so many different drugs and drips they had to bring in an extra rack. I can't even remember half of what they had her on.
Some of these were administered in extreme doses, like dangerous but risk vs reward. And they barely managed to keep her going. One was for the weak heart that could fail at any time. They were giving her "racing fuel" (that's how they described it) to get her heart back up and it was still just barely working.
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