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Anonymous #1
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Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself?
#27239829 - 03/06/21 02:10 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hey guys of the shroomery,
recently I got into the Tinder-thing, because of lockdown and the need to have the sex again - and yes, maybe to find someone for long term, who knows what can/will happen?
I had to face a huge problem: Fat women. I met four women and two of them just straight lied via their pictures about their body size.
Let's get to the core: One of those women would have been my favourite because of her extraordinary beautiful mind. But I dumped her, because I just couldn't find myself being attracted to that huuuuge body of hers.
Fat body is zero percent attractive to me. I tried, like I REALLY tried to find something positive about it and even watched some BBW-porn with really huge women, but that did not work.
Am I an arrogant asshole - or is it legit to say: No, that is a no-go, no matter how beautiful the mind?
Things come to my mind when thinking about big women like: It disgusts me the imagine all the food that went through her mouth and intestines. That bodyfat is so unhealthy and eventually will bring them to a early grave.
I mean everything I say. Judge me, if you have to, but I just need some input from outside.
In the next days I will have a date with another woman and since she only has pictures of her face online, I'm straight assuming she will be a big one, too. I'm afraid to ask her weight, since it's considered to be very rude. Although I think, maybe betraying a guy into dating via a haze is also rude. I dunno, dudes.
Thanks in advance!
Edited by Anonymous (03/06/21 02:16 AM)
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#27239846 - 03/06/21 02:51 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: Am I an arrogant asshole - or is it legit to say: No, that is a no-go, no matter how beautiful the mind?
If you don't find her attractive then tell her that you don't feel a connection and move on, there is nothing wrong with that and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Despite what views modern society tries to oppose on people, attraction is pretty simple and either you are attracted or you aren't. I don't want to get into the whole double standards thing, but you should ask yourself why men are shamed and women aren't shamed for being picky in modern society.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27239863 - 03/06/21 03:45 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fatness isnt attractive in todays society. It means the person is lazy, overeats, or both. (or obviously has a condition that makes them fat)
Its just a simple fact. Not moving around and having a higher calories in than calories out produces fatness.
You should get with who you want to get with. Them not showing accurate representations of themselves is a negative that they produced. You shouldnt feel guilt if they look different in person. Thats on them.
It is likely due to their insecurities but at some level they know what they are doing. They know they are trying to trick a guy into thinking they are more attractive than they are.
But I guess thats what makeup is.
Just fuck who you want. Fall in love with who you want.
Outrageous to think ANYONE should be shamed/guilt-tripped into being with someone. That is called rape. And you should have self-worth mate.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#27240402 - 03/06/21 11:48 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said: Outrageous to think ANYONE should be shamed/guilt-tripped into being with someone. That is called rape.
ps. fat chicks give the best blowjobs
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #4]
#27240489 - 03/06/21 12:49 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Most people don't like big girls. I think fat is a normal thing to be repulsed by, but it's also becoming more socially normal to not be. I remind myself not to give a shit about societal norms and remember what I want: a healthy chick. Doesn't mean I hate fat people, but I am not sexually attracted to rolling around with a big ole sloppy girl. Can't help that. And there's no need to force it.
If you get catfished your choices are to respectfully play out the date and don't call her back, or you can be a dick and let her know how you feel. I'm a fan of being honest, but that's a tough one. It's happened to me once, and my brain's response was not to hurt her feelings because she felt insecure enough to lie and hoped I would see her differently in person than she sees herself. Once again, I am not sexually attracted to big girls and I can't change that. It's not your responsibility to either. They'll find someone else if they want to, and so will you. Everyone has their taste in partner and I think it's stupid to placate somebody you aren't interested in just because someone might think you're rude for not wanting to fuck them.
Walk the line
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27240502 - 03/06/21 01:01 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said:
recently I got into the Tinder-thing, because of lockdown and the need to have the sex again - and yes, maybe to find someone for long term
This says it all. You're looking to get your rocks off and if it becomes less superficial than that, nice.
You have the same attitude to relationships as she has towards food, why spend an hour on a gourmet meal when a tub of ice cream hits the spot with zero effort?
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am I an asshole or just myself?
Yes.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #6] 1
#27240564 - 03/06/21 02:03 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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When it comes to sexual relationships....you gotta have some attraction. You're not an asshole at all imo
that line about watching BBW porn in an attempt to enjoy fat women made me giggle
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27241987 - 03/07/21 02:14 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Nah, you're not an asshole. Everyone has their preferences. I dont like big women neither. Petite BBW's is as big as I wanna go. Ive been with a big woman before. Luckily they weren't huge. It was not that enjoyable. Full regret. Oh well, life goes on.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#27242046 - 03/07/21 03:04 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tinder is super hard for finding a hot chick with little baggage/not an absolute loser/or psychotic. YMMV Best I've done is like fairly attaractive and good personality. Never have I ever had a date with a super sexy chick with a good/compatible personality off of tinder.
Edited by Anonymous (03/07/21 03:06 PM)
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #9] 1
#27242049 - 03/07/21 03:06 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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i bet the same goes for you for even using tinder.. the baggage and loser status, i mean.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #4]
#27242103 - 03/07/21 04:05 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm doing ok anyway tho. I got myself a good one Not from tinder lolol
Edited by Anonymous (03/07/21 04:05 PM)
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#27243411 - 03/08/21 02:20 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Guy is on a drugs site but he’s repulsed by what fat chicks are putting into their body.
It’s okay not to like fat chicks, but there’s a good chance that your dumbass isn’t a model of health either
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #10]
#27244524 - 03/09/21 07:14 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Health is totally different for different people. Some people are super grossed out watching someone stuff their face, and eating mushrooms and smoking cannabis to complete excess are far less appalling than becoming obese. Think about all the nasty shits they have to take to maintain that gross body of theirs? If they didn't pipe all that shit into their body they wouldn't be fat
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #9]
#27244630 - 03/09/21 08:28 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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The definition of health isn’t variable, stupid
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Anonymous #11
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27251564 - 03/13/21 04:14 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said: Fatness isnt attractive in todays society. It means the person is lazy, overeats, or both. (or obviously has a condition that makes them fat)
Why can i just not be biologically attracted to fat? Blaming everything other then your self is also unattractive.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #10]
#27251820 - 03/13/21 08:29 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #10 said: The definition of health isn’t variable, stupid
What is health to some is nonsense to others, pull your head out of your ass and wipe the poop crust from your eyes and you may be able to see others that are not cardboard cutouts of you....
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #12]
#27251914 - 03/13/21 10:24 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #12 said:
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Anonymous #10 said: The definition of health isn’t variable, stupid
What is health to some is nonsense to others, pull your head out of your ass and wipe the poop crust from your eyes and you may be able to see others that are not cardboard cutouts of you....
Naw I think you are objectively wrong. It is not healthy to be overweight. Even by 10 pounds. The further over you are the less healthy you are. Its just science bud.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27251916 - 03/13/21 10:25 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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And if fat is something youre not attracted to theres nothing you can do about it.
Just like gays be interested in the same sex. Or any of the other sexual interests.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27251918 - 03/13/21 10:26 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Its so sad that we cant just state facts in this world. What is the world coming to? Meh.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: Heavy-sized women - am I an asshole or just myself? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27251951 - 03/13/21 11:06 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said:
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Anonymous #12 said:
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Anonymous #10 said: The definition of health isn’t variable, stupid
What is health to some is nonsense to others, pull your head out of your ass and wipe the poop crust from your eyes and you may be able to see others that are not cardboard cutouts of you....
Naw I think you are objectively wrong. It is not healthy to be overweight. Even by 10 pounds. The further over you are the less healthy you are. Its just science bud.
So who gets to determine what 10lbs overweight is? Your perfect weight is not my perfect weight. The problem with "medical science" is that you must concede a certain set of facts before you can even have a meaningful discussion on the topic....just like religion.
True science is scarce in the medical industry, in fact it is so scarce that they have needed to change the name of their industry to "Healthcare" instead of medical treatment. This is blatant indoctrination, and most people who argue otherwise are those that have been successfully indoctrinated.
Like any of those people really give a shit about anything but reaffirming their world view and obtaining more of whatever it is they believe has value. The medical industry is a for profit industry. You believing that there is a certain "healthy" weight for everyone that fits your own personal world view exemplifies your indoctrination in their schemes.
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