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Enkidu
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I fucking hate my ex
#27200349 - 02/11/21 08:50 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just wanted to get that out
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu] 2
#27200425 - 02/11/21 09:40 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Don't let the hate consume you. You have to forgive as much as you can and move along.
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Rebelutionss
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I know the feeling dude. Holding onto that hate really does just leave more space in your head for that girl than I’m sure she deserves. Let go and say fuck it. You’ll be a happier man for it
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I still dream about my ex. The last one was me finally telling him it's over and leaving him. Hopefully the dreams will subside. 20 years is a LOT of memories to wrangle subconsciously. He's always fucking me over in the dreams too, lol. Actually it will be 6 years next month since I saw my ex or talked to him last.
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If you’re with someone for twenty years I’m sure they’re always gonna have a piece of you. That’s a pretty long time to be with a partner
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It was on and off, moved out 4 times, 30yo to 50yo and the final breakup was when I just turned 50.
Take it easy OP, reflect and learn. Time heals all wounds, and you'll have bad days maybe, but learn and grow.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27200602 - 02/11/21 10:45 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: Just wanted to get that out
Is she hawt?
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Enkidu
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: longbus]
#27200921 - 02/12/21 05:58 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah shes very beautiful.
I prolly love her but i hate her right now too.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27201522 - 02/12/21 12:23 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I feel you OP. It’s really nice to feel something like this, that feeling of nostalgia and separation from a history of your past, but that’s what happens. Things, people and even ideas or wants and needs don’t really stay for long in our lives, it is natural. It is also natural to long for a beautiful relationship with a beautiful person from your past, be aware about that feeling though for ehat it is, a feeling that will soon fade and your memories will soon be warped and distorted and less relevant to your current affair of things in life. Enjoy the cries and find stuff about yourself in what makes you hurt, but enjoy the rest of it too, because you can’t really control when disasters happen and when they don‘t so you gotta keep yourself in awareness and on your toes on how much time you want to dedicate to the past/future, when you could enjoy everything you have right this very instant. There’s plenty bitches fam, no worries and they all have pussy.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Milk-away]
#27201527 - 02/12/21 12:26 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have a crazy ex that is issuing police to find me. She thinks I stole her shitty phone when I moved out, but she must have lost it or something while trippin’. Now I still love her, but not like that, I wouldn’t get too close.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Milk-away]
#27201529 - 02/12/21 12:27 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would find it hard to have too much love for someone that would call the police on me. That completely crosses the line
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My ex is engaged to someone now. Makes me realize how long I’ve been a shitbird.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Zombi3]
#27202052 - 02/12/21 04:21 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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We have a daughter together and shes pregnant with my son right now.
So shes in my life for good now.
Which makes it 10 times worse and more difficult to try and move on from it
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202099 - 02/12/21 04:49 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fix it?
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No, don't "fix it"! Last thing we need is Shroomery on Dateline.
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Enkidu
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Ive been trying for 2 fucking years
This is the second time weve broken up, while she was pregnant
She doesnt even try and she doesnt want to work things out.
So im just stuck dealing with it
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu] 1
#27202114 - 02/12/21 04:55 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Shes done so much fucked up shit and ive gone through hell trying to be there and make it work and not give up just for her to hardly try then give up
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202116 - 02/12/21 04:55 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well, that's completely different! Good luck and take care of you and the little ones as much as you can/need to.
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Enkidu
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Thanks <3
Certainly will
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202154 - 02/12/21 05:24 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tell her you want to make super babies.
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202175 - 02/12/21 05:44 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Enkidu said: Just wanted to get that out
Here here I've got that hate too
12 years n a young daughter to fuel it
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202196 - 02/12/21 05:49 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hopefully it goes away
Maybe once i find a new woman it will be easier to move on
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202226 - 02/12/21 06:03 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Y’all convinced me to never have kids.
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Enkidu
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Zombi3]
#27202228 - 02/12/21 06:04 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Naw my kids are the best thing ever man
Wouldn't change a single thing if it meant giving my daughter back and im sure ill feel the same about my son
Kids are a blessing
Amazing life changing blessing
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202243 - 02/12/21 06:10 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I just needed to vent and got noone to vent to
I think she will be a decent mom and shes a good cook so at least mt kids have that going for them.
More than i could say growing up
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202286 - 02/12/21 06:31 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: Naw my kids are the best thing ever man
Wouldn't change a single thing if it meant giving my daughter back and im sure ill feel the same about my son
Kids are a blessing
Amazing life changing blessing
Yea what ends up killing you are the "why doesnt mommy love you anymore" or "I want to live with you daddy"
The saving grace is that womens value decreases like cars as they age, men are more like houses
Women are raised to place no value on the nuclear family. Hence they're the catalyst for 70% of divorces and our children suffer because of it
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202303 - 02/12/21 06:35 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I cant stand it dude
And her mom encourages it which is infuriating
A family is meant to stay together. Make it fucking work.
And she wanted to get married and wants to be a wife?
Cant even commit for a year
Dips soon as it serves her best
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu] 1
#27202344 - 02/12/21 06:52 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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It's a real shitty dichotomy for fathers who love their children
Not to mention the bias they recieve from the courts. It's a fucking joke
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202358 - 02/12/21 06:58 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tell her you do mushrooms she’ll think you’re hella cool
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202378 - 02/12/21 07:06 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: Just wanted to get that out
Hating your ex is part of the ex experience.
The rides include jealousy, resent and hatred.
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I'm not interested in rekindling anything
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202418 - 02/12/21 07:22 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Patlal said:
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Enkidu said: Just wanted to get that out
Hating your ex is part of the ex experience.
The rides include jealousy, resent and hatred.
Dont forget anger
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stzacrack said: I'm not interested in rekindling anything
At this point i dont think i do either.
I gave my all for two yeara and went through so much fucking shit and stuck it out.
She cant hang
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202515 - 02/12/21 07:58 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I wont say dont be angry because I'll be angry the rest of my life but try not to beat yourself up over it
The kids will realize when they're older who's stupid whore fault it is
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202520 - 02/12/21 08:01 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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My man is still reaentful huh
Ill get over it and ill get over her for sure 100%
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202535 - 02/12/21 08:05 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: My man is still reaentful huh
Ill get over it and ill get over her for sure 100%
Yea I'm cursed with holding grudges for mannny years
Ill never forgive this one as I perceive it as a direct attack on my child's quality of life and upbringing
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27202547 - 02/12/21 08:11 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah i feel that bro
Sucks having to accept someone elses decisions that have a huge impact on your life
Thats part of my anger
Cant stand that her choices impact my life
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202548 - 02/12/21 08:11 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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If i could walk away its be a bit different but i cant.
Fuck her
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Enkidu
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202600 - 02/12/21 08:42 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Honestly im very bi polar about it
One second i hate her and have so mich anger toward her
The next i feel compassion and understanding see good things she did
Annoying
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27202607 - 02/12/21 08:47 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: Honestly im very bi polar about it
One second i hate her and have so mich anger toward her
The next i feel compassion and understanding see good things she did
Annoying
its a trap dont fall for it. That's what I did with my ex but she turned out to just be a garbage person
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Enkidu
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I think that ship may have sailed for good
Her loss
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27203372 - 02/13/21 10:23 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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I changed my mind.
I dont hate her
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: psi]
#27203429 - 02/13/21 11:00 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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My advice to any single parent is simply focus on the kids. If I was in that situation my goal and priority would be to be in a position that is realistic were I to come across a situation where you can end up with the kids. A 3 bedroom place, all the stuff they need and a little money saved up. If child support sets you back then do the math, if you ended up with the kids she'd end up paying support anyway. That would be your money back plus her payments. Easily an extra grand a month I'd imagine. Especially if she's actually a shithead then it's only inevitable she gets herself in hot water. Document everything, figure out your rights. Find a woman that will treat them like her own. You gotta play that long game, while she's focused on the short one.
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Enkidu
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Yeah my goals and priorities are centered around my kids
Naw shes not that bad. Shes pretty good
But yeah
Just needed to vent really
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: Enkidu]
#27203788 - 02/13/21 02:32 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Enkidu said: I changed my mind.
I dont hate her
I hope you dont let the roller coaster affect your self esteem dawg
If you didn't experience those feelings of compassion I'd be more worried (cause of the kids)
The hard part is finding that place in the middle, and my experience is the happier I am with myself the less intense any feelings of desire, jealousy, envy etc are regarding her specifically
The pain is isolated for the most part towards that loss of a family dynamic for my daughter
I kicked subutex cold turkey late October after ten plus years of heroin/subutex addiction and that's helped rekindle alot of my confidence
TLDR you sound like a good man, you love your kid and hopefully everyone will be for the best
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Re: I fucking hate my ex [Re: stzacrack]
#27203824 - 02/13/21 02:51 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah im definitely good just been angry and resentful but trying to let it go
Appreciate ya man
Thats great you got out of that shit
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