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Anonymous #1
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Can't nut. :( 1
#27124981 - 01/03/21 11:25 PM (3 years, 24 days ago) |
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I can not nut with women, i got worked up before past hookups and to have sex with my current GF, when its happening it feels good but i also feel like i don't make any progress towards climax, it's starting to feel like a chore to even have sex. I've talked to a doctor and was told it was a porn addiction but honestly, im not sure that i agree, i haven't indulged in any 'odd' porn and i used to masturbate once a week (which doesn't seem a like lot to me) but i decided to not masturbate/watch porn or have sex for the next three months and i am currently about three weeks in and feel like ive made no progress. Getting hard isnt even an issue, only climaxing is.
seriously feels like ill just never be able too. What do i even do at this point?
Edited by Anonymous (01/03/21 11:26 PM)
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MycoBrainz
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Maybe your gay
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ShrooLetTheDogsOut
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I assume the doctor would have told you this, but some medications (especially antidepressants)can cause this issue.
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WildFungalGrowth
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Death grip masturbation and anxiety can also cause this. If you're circumcised then that may also add to the problem.
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LogicaL Chaos
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So you can only climax with porn? Have u ever orgasmed by a woman?
Im guess you're just disensitized or maybe some kind of performance anxiety maybe?
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oldfart
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You're not alone here. I've had that problem for a long time. It's not a physical or medication problem for me. I know it's all in my head because I have no problem climaxing when I'm alone. I'm bisexual and I have the same issue no matter if i'm with a woman or another man.
Relaxation techniques prior to sex and avoiding any alcohol before help a little. Every so often I can get off, but more often I don't. Sex in the morning is more likely to get me off. Testosterone levels are highest in the morning, so that's a good time to try if you have a willing partner.
I explain to a partner beforehand that I might not be able to get off and that it's not their problem or any issue with them. Some are okay with it, some aren't. That's life. An understanding partner will take some of the pressure off that you feel. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. That's easy to say, not easy to do. I know that from my own personal experience and I will probably always struggle with it.
Keep working on it and know you're not alone. Good luck!
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Re: Can't nut. :( [Re: oldfart]
#27127852 - 01/05/21 09:50 AM (3 years, 23 days ago) |
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Have you tried talk therapy?
The majority of sexual issues in young people are psychological in nature.
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How do you grip your dick when you masturbate? Do you have your whole hand gripping it and you sort of slide it up and down or do you put your fingers right on the underside of the head right where the special spot is? You might be desensitized. masturbate differently, use lube and do slower strokes. You also might want to get some sort of realistic masturbator or pocket masturbator or realistic pussy or something to practice with.
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Bosco15
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The biggest sexual organ in your body is your brain. Try talking with your partner and explain the issue you think that you have. Discuss the things that really turn you on. Plane old intercourse can become a little hum drum after a while, especially if it’s with a long term partner. Try and discover some new and exciting, for both of you, things that you might like to try. Spice it up in the bedroom. Risky sex in public places. The chance that you may be caught can be very exciting for both parties. The brain needs to be stimulated beyond what you are used to and it will reward you with a porn star cum shot!
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Can't nut. :( [Re: Bosco15] 2
#27170072 - 01/25/21 11:20 PM (3 years, 2 days ago) |
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Hydration has a big effect as well if you're not.
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PFwarrior
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You're not alone, I have had this problem. It is the most frustrating thing ever. 99% of the time it's psychological, past trauma and trust issues that hold you back. The other is usually medication, weed alcohol or pills those can stop it in a heartbeat. if you are with a partner that you have had trust issues with then it is absolutely that, sometimes drugs will enhance the problem.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Lots of suggestions/questions for you here OP, would be awesome if you'd respond to the queries above, and also confirm if you're on any kind of anti-depressant?
How long's it been this way for? How hard is it to climax solo? how much have you discussed this with said woman? Any past sexual traumas? How about your overall sensitivity?
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Anonymous #3
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If it's not exercise or some kind of mental hurdle/trauma then maybe your testosterone levels might be worth checking.
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