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NipFantasy
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How to relax?
#27099802 - 12/20/20 06:48 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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This year has been particularly difficult following or being sent home to work in March. I think anxiety came to play and I had so much more time to think about things that’d happened, including several times now it has been implied at work I might be gay. I do want to be rid to this anxiousness and be able to relax, how to achieve lasting rather than temporary though?
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anatomality
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Hey man, do you have access to therapy? You can look into mindfulness and meditation. Just a couple minutes everyday of breathing exercises can be a good place to start. I read a book called 'feeling good' that helped me a lot at one point. I'd also recommend regular exercise. You can start anywhere really, starting is what matters though.
-------------------- “The strength of a person's spirit would then be measured by how much 'truth' he could tolerate, or more precisely, to what extent he needs to have it diluted, disguised, sweetened, muted, falsified.”
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NipFantasy
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anatomality said: Hey man, do you have access to therapy? You can look into mindfulness and meditation. Just a couple minutes everyday of breathing exercises can be a good place to start. I read a book called 'feeling good' that helped me a lot at one point. I'd also recommend regular exercise. You can start anywhere really, starting is what matters though.
I appreciate the information and advice you have shared, I will take it.
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I'd recommend very long walks, preferably in nature but in a neighborhood can be fine too. Also, avoiding caffeine.
As for lasting versus temporary: I think it's about building habits over time that teach you to de-stress. You can't de-stress all at once by force of will, you have to acknowledge that the anxiety, stress, fear, whatever it is, is energy in your body that needs to be acknowledged, felt and moved skillfully. Life is stressful and uncertain and will continue to be so. But over time you can get better at remaining calm - or at accepting that you're not calm and finding ways to both accept the state you're in and make that energy move on from your body and mind.
-------------------- “Strengthened by contemplation and study, I will not fear my passions like a coward. My body I will give to pleasures, to diversions that I’ve dreamed of, to the most daring erotic desires, to the lustful impulses of my blood, without any fear at all, for whenever I will— and I will have the will, strengthened as I’ll be with contemplation and study— at the crucial moments I’ll recover my spirit as was before: ascetic.”
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NipFantasy
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Wow that is true that couple minutes everyday of breathing exercises can be a good place to start. I got it from the article I read last night! https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/your-health/treatments-for-severe-illness.html Thanks to you and your positive help to me.
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anatomality
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NipFantasy said: Wow that is true that couple minutes everyday of breathing exercises can be a good place to start. I got it from the article I read last night! https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/your-health/treatments-for-severe-illness.html Thanks to you and your positive help to me.
Yeah man! I've been getting lots of fresh air and exercise, I can cope with lots more than I used to.
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You have to make an effort to not think about things too much--ironically the more you try the harder it is-- let things roll off you. Don't take life too seriously. Be like water. Flow state and you'll be more relaxed. Listen to some upbeat jazz or lofi hiphop, or rain sounds. Whatever works. Turn off all the lights in your place and watch a black and white movie, Don't care what others think. People reading rumors about you have nothing else to do and likely aren't happy. Just be you
Don't even give your coworkers the time of day if they have a problem with your sexuality. Do your tasks, and leave work immediately when you can.
Find a place in nature where you can be alone and at peace. Meditate there and do deep breathing
Also do meditation whenever you have time 
Edit: fixed horrific spelling errors, added more advice
Edited by skOsH (01/20/21 12:23 PM)
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NipFantasy
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Re: How to relax? [Re: skOsH]
#27114834 - 12/29/20 07:43 PM (3 years, 30 days ago) |
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I will take this and always remember that Life is stressful and uncertain and will continue to be so. But over time you can get better at remaining calm - or at accepting that you're not calm and finding ways to both accept the state you're in and make that energy move on from your body and mind.
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AtlasDashiell
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Yoga and meditation helps. And go grow more plants!
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NipFantasy
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If you can recommend a yoga or meditation, that would be appreciated. What plants do you grow?
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Make a fist and squeeze as tightly as you can. Hold it for 30 seconds. And then release & recognize what relaxation feels like, is, and does for & to you.
After you’ve familiarized yourself with the above, apply the same principle but to your entire body & mind ( in a way that works for you ) .
Play around with it, experiment, and find how to apply the principle in a way that you can use whenever you choose.
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Any kind of yoga to get the body moving in sync with the breath. Ashtanga is a set sequence and can be adapted to make it easier. Set sequence has benefits in that no thought needed to make your own routine.
Foam roller and hard ball for feet are great, have to almost force myself to do it but afterwards it helps a lot to relax.
Massage feet with some oil, sesame oil is cheap. Nice way to unwind, hot foot soak.
Bath with Epsom salts, it really does work wonders.
Mantra on a rosary, om Mani padme hum, say it out loud. Its like brain washing. Can't think of those stressful things if its full of mantra. Give monkey mind a job, it likes that, part time job though not full time, not too bossy, make friends with breath and mind.
Take a break from all media/screens for a few days, its really difficult the first day or two, but that's a major stressor for me, though its good to connect with people / dilemma...
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