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Anonymous #1
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The mother of my Kid Cheated on me
#27078445 - 12/08/20 09:21 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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It started end of October. She's 20. She met this 45 year old she smokes weed with and started hanging out with him some nights on the weekend and after baby and me went to bed at night. I had work on weekdays. This went on for few weeks, I started to get jealous and concerned especially since he never invited her and me along and when I met him the once, he seemed tweaking and threw a cig butt on my lawn. I remember a couple occasions she mentions people doing cocaine over there.. Eventually the talk of my concerns about her new friends gets her upset and she breaks up with me and continues living with us.
Get home on November 19th and she's moved her things and pets and some of baby's stuff while I was working. Trashed the place, muddy footprints, empty mess. She never told me until she came back to grab laundry and I saw on her phone it said "him" as contact. Still hasn't sat down to tell me what happened. No respect to even tell me I was right all along, sorry, I should have told you sooner, She's living with him and they are together. He has a history of Sexual assault and animal abuse charges!!! They are planning on moving somewhere out of town. That was fast. I shouldn't expect respect from a bitch like this apparently.. She was manipulating me the whole time. This isn't me it truly is her problem.
I was with her for five years. We just had our first daughter and she was about to turn 1. she dumped me on our 5th anniversary.
She has only had baby 3 nights now. There's no way she's taking her 100% time nor does she intend to. We've discussed 50/50 but she doesn't have her shit together, shows up late to pickup and never has groceries even though she had a week to prepare...
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Anonymous #2
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#27078465 - 12/08/20 09:31 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Do you have a court order for support and custody? If not you should seek to establish one before she moves, otherwise you will have to establish one in the jurisdiction she is moving to.
How concerned are you about him being around your child? Is he a registered sex offender? You might have a reason to seek sole custody as long as he is in the picture.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #2] 2
#27078490 - 12/08/20 09:50 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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classic drug addict behavior. cut your loss man. protect your kid from her.
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Anonymous #2 said: Do you have a court order for support and custody? If not you should seek to establish one before she moves, otherwise you will have to establish one in the jurisdiction she is moving to.
How concerned are you about him being around your child? Is he a registered sex offender? You might have a reason to seek sole custody as long as he is in the picture.

do this immediately
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Anonymous #3
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27078494 - 12/08/20 09:56 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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also, her leaving after hours to "smoke weed" with some dude twice her age was a huge red flag.
sounds like dude is giving her drugs to bang her (sorry to sound crass). i pretty much lost my ex the same way.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#27078578 - 12/08/20 10:52 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Reminds me on my own story. Had that same experience. Best is to do your own thing and bei there for your baby. Dont trust that woman and dont beleave what she is telling you. After a few years my daughter is now on the weekends with her mum... Good luck and all the best.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27078611 - 12/08/20 11:22 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #3 said: also, her leaving after hours to "smoke weed" with some dude twice her age was a huge red flag.
Yeah. How long was she doing that before you got suspicious?
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Anonymous #6
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #5] 1
#27078966 - 12/08/20 03:44 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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he seemed tweaking and threw a cig butt on my lawn.
this is where you should have beat the fuck out of this dude. also, your ex is trash, fuck that bitch.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #6] 2
#27078971 - 12/08/20 03:49 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Focus on the kids OP.
If the kids are ok you'll be ok.
Hang in there.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3] 1
#27079242 - 12/08/20 06:41 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #3 said: also, her leaving after hours to "smoke weed" with some dude twice her age was a huge red flag.
Yeah, the first time she goes out to smoke weed with some dude the relationship is over. I don't play those games with women, I don't play we're just friends nonsense. If you want guy friends to party with, it's over bitch.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #5]
#27080966 - 12/09/20 06:29 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #3 said: also, her leaving after hours to "smoke weed" with some dude twice her age was a huge red flag.
Yeah. How long was she doing that before you got suspicious?
She started doing this every night after she met the dude again after going to get breakfast for us. Start of November. I started to get jealous and express my feelings towards this but she played the "I am allowed to have friends/social life" "You don't know them they are good people"
Funny... (not really) at one point she was reassuring me: "He's old enough to be my dad.. " :P
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Anonymous #1
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27080975 - 12/09/20 06:35 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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She told me today "Next time you try to opt out maybe be successful." Because I said "Stop Threatening me with the police when you want your way. I know you don't want them around because of your pedophile boyfriend."
She tried assuring me that he isn't a pedo and I shouldn't use someone's past against them.. LoL! I have reason to be concerned when you are bringing my daughter there!
Here's the creep
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Anonymous #9
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27081207 - 12/09/20 08:56 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: She told me today "Next time you try to opt out maybe be successful." Because I said "Stop Threatening me with the police when you want your way. I know you don't want them around because of your pedophile boyfriend."
She tried assuring me that he isn't a pedo and I shouldn't use someone's past against them.. LoL! I have reason to be concerned when you are bringing my daughter there!
Here's the creep
Anyone who could harm a dog intentionally is just no good.
A few things come to my mind. Dont let what I say get you down. Its just what I have come to understand.
Perhaps you got too safe in the relationship and the sex started being very quick and very for you. Also the emotional side. Maybe not enough dinner outings. Not enough sweet things.
Then youve got the 40 year old. With a better view of the world than a young girl. I for example... am 30. I could easily EASILY trick an 18 year old into falling in love with me. It would be wrong to do so. Then you add into it the component of drugs. God it would be like taking candy from a baby. If you KNOW she is smoking weed. Then I guarantee she is doing other things.
If I REALLY wanted to go full psychopath. I could smoke laced pot with an 18 year old mother of someone elses child. Or I could put a little bit of benzos in a drink. I could make her think the calming effect was when she was with me. Not have it have anything to do with the drugs that were slowly becoming more and more addictive. I could EASILY make any guy she was seeing seem like a terrible choice. "Look at that. He went through your phone. Where is the TRUST???" "Wow he wont let you go out and do things alone? Youre your own person!" "You dont need to go home tonight. Stay here. What is he? Your father?" "Youre WAY more mature than he is."
Just a constant reinforcement from the 40 year old... who knows he is going to die.... and knows how to be on it. VS the 20 year old boyfriend who is preoccupied with work, with a child, and who believes in love still.
This is NOT to say she is not to blame. She made the mistakes. And its such a common set of mistakes in girls her age. Its just a shame that someone so twisted got a hold of her. You cant save her now. I reckon this is going to be a long difficult set of years coming up.
I feel for you brother. Just put the child at number 1 slot. And honestly I think the quicker you move on and find a new girl the better. Even if its just a girl to fuck for now. You need to not care about this ex. The only way to do that is to be fucking someone else.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #9]
#27081277 - 12/09/20 09:48 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thank you Anon#9... I don't know what to say other than thank you. I feel like you layed it out pretty well.. I wish it were different 4
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Anonymous #10
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27088788 - 12/14/20 12:34 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Classic
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Anonymous #11
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #10]
#27089470 - 12/14/20 08:01 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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This is why I try to sleep with women who have their shit together exclusively. No ifs about them taking my child to bang town in coke city with a pedophile abusive mayor
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Anonymous #3
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #11]
#27089475 - 12/14/20 08:05 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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lolz
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Anonymous #12
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27091283 - 12/15/20 09:57 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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If your name is stated as the father on the birth certificate just take your kid and run. Don't look back.
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Anonymous #13
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27094503 - 12/17/20 04:16 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sounds like the plot to an episode of springer. Get your shit together and find a different crowd
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Anonymous #14
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #13]
#27112550 - 12/28/20 03:11 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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i normally wouldn't give such an advice, but it's dangerous for you and your daughter, so: face the hard truth and act immediatly. get the hell outta there and don't look back, like number 12 said.
this is the moment you have to man up and do what has to be done, otherwise these poisonous people will puke all over you. no time for feelings and compassion, you can take care about that afterwards.
you are now a single dad. face it. accept it. you have to protect your daughter. face it. accept it. you have to take action. think about the options and then act with 100% focus.
you can do it!
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Anonymous #15
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #14] 1
#27112709 - 12/28/20 04:27 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Let the bitch walk Shes doing u a favor
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Anonymous #3
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #15]
#27112713 - 12/28/20 04:28 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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a favor? far from it.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27113300 - 12/28/20 11:49 PM (3 years, 30 days ago) |
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Thank you so much Anon#14
I've been doing better. Having such a big support group, Including her family means a lot. I feel like I am being heard and taking priorities seriously.
Now, there was a situation that had unfolded on Christmas Eve.. I was out at a Pharmacy getting just paper towel with my friend. Around 6pm and we were pretty drunk and on a bit of Crystal.
As we literally exit the front doors this 45 Y.O pulls up, Barely parks. There was a younger lad in the back of his Honda. He gets out chirping definitely Aggravating and taunting me.. Comes up Chest puffed up bumping me.
I literally lose control. I deliver a sucker punch to the face.. "Motherfucker.." he utters holding his face..
We grab each others shoulders and do the grapple for control.. Its icy here in Canada so we slip and go down sideways.
Next thing I remember, I'm over him feeding right hooks while his arms are up trying to hit me and block.
My ex jumps on my back yelling stop as if its her Pet I'm pummeling. Shoved her off me, Got up and looked back at my friend who was signaling to leave. I remember when I got up and snapped out of it, there were numerous civilians with groceries and a shocked expression on their face..
In short, I talked to the police in the parking lot as I knew I should wait. They accepted I took self defense and have been following the situation so have reason to as he's been seen on neighbours camera threatening me.
This felt amazing the night of.. I got to release some of the anger I have for the creep.. But I know I won't get off scott free for assault all the time. I got off scott free beside some small scratches on my face from his blocking.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27113333 - 12/29/20 12:30 AM (3 years, 30 days ago) |
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Wtf is wrong with you? You have a daughter that needs you and you are going to be drunk and take crystal? Thats just shit. Wtf dude whats wrong? Get a life
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Anonymous #9
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #4]
#27113351 - 12/29/20 12:50 AM (3 years, 30 days ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: Wtf is wrong with you? You have a daughter that needs you and you are going to be drunk and take crystal? Thats just shit. Wtf dude whats wrong? Get a life
I agree with Anon 4. Dont care bro. You can do better.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #4]
#27115199 - 12/29/20 11:13 PM (3 years, 29 days ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: Wtf is wrong with you? You have a daughter that needs you and you are going to be drunk and take crystal? Thats just shit. Wtf dude whats wrong? Get a life
I'm not turning my life into a person that goes around getting into fights trying hard drugs...
I did find myself in that situation and it was crazy. I'm not that kind of person.. I haven't been in a fight since before high school. I unfortunately recently tried methamphetamine because I had been drinking a lot meeting new women.. I'm not much of an amphetamine user or addictive drug user. My curiosity got the best of me.
I care about my daughter. The Ex has been with her 10%, Me 40%, my mom 50% of the time. Every exchange turns into problems involving communication she never responds, her phone is being intercepted by this creep. We know we need to get the ball moving from our end, but during this Covid pandemic it is not as easy. Waiting for calls back.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #1]
#27115206 - 12/29/20 11:20 PM (3 years, 29 days ago) |
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drink less
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Anonymous #16
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Re: The mother of my Kid Cheated on me [Re: Anonymous #3]
#27117147 - 12/30/20 09:39 PM (3 years, 28 days ago) |
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That what happens when you have a kid with a slut...start plan b..
Edited by Anonymous (12/30/20 09:41 PM)
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