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 Enkidu
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 About my daughter 
#27068892 - 12/02/20 07:47 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Shes less than a year.
Her mother has slowly removed me from being able to see her.
We broke up and she went from letting me see her all the time to 3 days a week and not allowing me to take her on my own.
This all happen recentky and i spoke to a lawyer. I told her i want a new areangement or id go to court and she said ok go to court you cant see your daughter anymore until then.
I love my daughter more than anything in this world.
What impact does this have on her and on her and our relationship?
The way i feel is impossible to put in words. It is such a deep sadness and pain, something of its own entirely.
I would feel better to know she is fine and that she hardly knows the difference but i feel as if my relarionship with her is being sabatoged
I will never get this time with her again. It is lost forever. I am missing my chance to bond with her as her care taker.
It hurts so bad to be robbed of this.
I miss her so much
I love her so much..
She means the world to me.
And im sitting here alone.
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RobZombie68
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 Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]  1
#27068904 - 12/02/20 07:51 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Do you have anger issues and/or on drugs? That will be the deciding factor.
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Enkidu
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068909 - 12/02/20 07:53 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Fucking stupid man i swear to god
I have nothing
And in alone here. I have noone.
And all i can think about is how one day that will not be so
I will have everything i wanted and accomplish my goals and achieve my dreams and provide the best life i possibly can for my baby and my future baby
So fucking stupid and at the same time this low fucking point where i hardly own a singke fucking thing and i live far away from my home and family but really i am just hungry for what i desire
Strange
I am proud actually.
For being determined and i will not give up.
I feel strong at this very moment as if nothing can destroy me
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Enkidu
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068911 - 12/02/20 07:55 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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No drugs.
Anger yes, at her but she has been equally angry toward me and physically violent and i called the cops on her not long ago because of it
Fuck yeah im angry bro
I get angry as fuck. At her.
She drives me fucking insane
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Enkidu
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068913 - 12/02/20 07:56 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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At the same time im not malicious
I feel i could and should try to fuck her every which way but i wont.
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Enkidu
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068915 - 12/02/20 07:56 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I just miss my daughter man enough to cry
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WhoManBeing
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What’s the reasoning to mother keeping you distant?
Bummer paying for the court. One friend spoke of how he offered to take all that that going to be court fees and put into account for school for that going to be a pretty penny.
If you got all your eggs in basket, court will surely be giving you your Easter Egg party allowing rights to child. Correct? Or...
Best of Luck
Woh!
Reading your last entries, I’d almost say take your court money and go vacation. You’ll be wasting it in court.
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Enkidu
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Why do you say that?
She wont let me see her because shes mad at me. Thats really all it comes down to
She wont agree to let me see her more snd she thinks the court will side with her
She wont let me take her outside of her home and she doesnt want me watching her in her home even though thats what she forces me to do
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Enkidu
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068926 - 12/02/20 08:05 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well its true. I was feeling sad as fuck for a minute and then it switched to feeling strong dor enduring everything i have been through and pushing forward.
And i have to be strong for my childrens sake. I think a lot of other men would have fell quite hard where i still stand
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WhoManBeing
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27068938 - 12/02/20 08:11 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don’t know how that court plays out. Just saying with rough comments of hating your baby’s momma ain’t going to make you look like a well deserving father and yes this is not court but people are transparent and that which we speak lingers around as masks.
I figure, if you have well place of home and show can be support to child you can benefit to what bring to child. I do know of one fella who did get complete custody of child for fact the lady was crazy.
Your circumstance best understood to those exposing it too. Cursing at the momma here at shroomery not such a magical thing.
I’m out of here. Best of luck.
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Enkidu
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Yeah i mean she does the same to me so thanks for your judgment
Have a woman tell you you cant see your kid and see how nice you speak of her
When i didnt even say anything bad about her besides that she pisses me off
And she has been physicslly violent toward me
And i said i WOULD NOT fuck her over the way she has done to me multiple times
So yeah gtfo and go hang out with her instead
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RobZombie68
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Quote:
WhoManBeing said:
I don’t know how that court plays out. Just saying with rough comments of hating your baby’s momma ain’t going to make you look like a well deserving father and yes this is not court but people are transparent and that which we speak lingers around as masks.
I figure, if you have well place of home and show can be support to child you can benefit to what bring to child. I do know of one fella who did get complete custody of child for fact the lady was crazy.
Your circumstance best understood to those exposing it too. Cursing at the momma here at shroomery not such a magical thing.
I’m out of here. Best of luck.
THIS! Ya gotta kill her with kindness brutha. Once you are truly kind to those you hate they will eventually respond with kindness.
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As I said in the other thread, you have a kid with this woman hate her or love her and the harsh reality is that when you have kids you have a way to see your kid and still be her father which she will need as much at 18 as at 1 and in the long run if you need to get a job and prove that bitch wrong that you can give your kids a dad that breaks his back to get back to her to be in her life. It sounds like your girl is the typical controlling type,never asked you about your feelings or how to work through them just gave up, that is because she really thinks you won't go out and get a job and step up to the plate. It is now your time to prove you can work just as hard as her and your devoted.
My brother had a bad deal happen much like you've explained and his daughter was 4 at the time when he was depressed out of his mind and popping pills because of what his girl was saying. Saying things like you'll never see her again, I'll never let you around us anymore, i will get custody etc. As I said very similar. After he served a months in jail he got sober and realized she was partly right that he needed to deal with his mental issues, get sober enough to be dependable when working, taking anger management classes etc. Before he went to jail and has been changing they had a horrible relationship and their daughter saw a lot of fighting for a decade or so and when he started not making excuses, showed he was going to classes to help his mental state, showed how much he was applying for jobs and mostly being honest and admitting what you did wrong and what you'll do to fix it not only ended in them being back together but the love between them and the communication is 180° night and day and he still can't see her legally but he's proved himself to where his girlfriend says if he keeps on this path they are back together and he will still be her dad in every way.
Work your ass off to get your kid back man good luck
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27069082 - 12/02/20 10:18 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dang I am really stoned and I am really floored by this situation. So floored I actually needed to take a break before reading the rest of the thread.
I feel so bad for you OP. My 2.25 year old just starting bonding with me in the last 3-4 months and dang it is really the most satisfying thing ever. Being a parent really is the best.
I have no real advice for you other than try to get your relationship with your ex as good as you can. Get that lady candy when you see her, buy her a 6 pack when you come by (and offer to take the baby for the night), whatever. Fuck your morals and sense of justice; reward this crazy bitch with gifts if it helps you get in more time with your kid.
That shit hit me in the feels after such a good day with my baby after such a shitty 4 months...
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Enkidu
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I have a job man
During covid i was paying for everything because she wasnt working
During the pregnancy she kicked me out blocked me i was bringing her money and she put a no contact order on me
I always do the right thing
I stayed here and tried to get on top of everyrhing
She dropped the attempted order and we got back together
Things were going pretty good and she wound up pregnant again with our second child and got back to her same absokutelt unreasonable unappreciative shit
I was working and coming home taking care of our daughter while shes at work doing as much housework as i could helping as much as i coukd waking up on the weekend taking care of our daughter and cleaning the whole house so she can sleep in
She just becomes a monester when shes prefnant or something idk
Blames everyrhing on me says im horroble and fails to see or admit all her wrongs and her side
Ill be fine
I just got a new job with a decent company
Started looking into what i need to get back in school and finish my degree
Ill do shit on my own if i have to and ill fight in court to see my kids if thats what it takes
I think she has no fucking clue what shes doing right now
Appreciate the words guys
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] 1
#27069365 - 12/03/20 06:34 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
WhoManBeing said:
What’s the reasoning to mother keeping you distant?
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Enkidu said:
She wont let me see her because shes mad at me. Thats really all it comes down to
You keep mentioning that, that she's doing all of this because she's mad at you...why is she mad at you?
I can't imagine she'd go through all that trouble just because she's pregnant, feeling bitchy, and having a few bad months...
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27069653 - 12/03/20 09:31 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Enkidu said:
Yeah i mean she does the same to me so thanks for your judgment
Have a woman tell you you cant see your kid and see how nice you speak of her
When i didnt even say anything bad about her besides that she pisses me off
And she has been physicslly violent toward me
And i said i WOULD NOT fuck her over the way she has done to me multiple times
So yeah gtfo and go hang out with her instead
I agree, but the court won't see it that way if you use the same words you did in there. There's blatant sexism and women will get the kid most of the time. My mom has schizophrenia, is a danger to herself and others and my dad only got custody of my siblings (I was already of age when that shit went down) because she was out of the country for 2 years. You need to seem PERFECT and get all the evidence you can against her together.
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Quote:
RobZombie68 said:
Once you are truly kind to those you hate they will eventually respond with kindness.
Good does come from taking this course of action but the response is not always kindness returned. Some eventually will just leave you alone after discovering that they are not getting an angry response in return.
OP, I am sorry that you are going through this. I went through similar circumstances years ago. I finally left my wife after being tired of being cheated on and lied to and having all my money spent and staying together for years "for the kids". You don't want to give her any fuel to have her talking badly about you to the child. I didn't not handle situations with my wife in anger, but my wife and her family told horrible lies to my kids about me when we got separated and I have been spending the last 15 years proving myself to them that I was and am not that person that they have been telling them I am, and I may not successfully, fully clear my name.
I wish you the best in this and stay strong but not bitter.
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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
#27069680 - 12/03/20 09:54 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Enkidu said:
Shes less than a year.
Her mother has slowly removed me from being able to see her.
We broke up and she went from letting me see her all the time to 3 days a week and not allowing me to take her on my own.
This all happen recentky and i spoke to a lawyer. I told her i want a new areangement or id go to court and she said ok go to court you cant see your daughter anymore until then.
I love my daughter more than anything in this world.
What impact does this have on her and on her and our relationship?
The way i feel is impossible to put in words. It is such a deep sadness and pain, something of its own entirely.
I would feel better to know she is fine and that she hardly knows the difference but i feel as if my relarionship with her is being sabatoged
I will never get this time with her again. It is lost forever. I am missing my chance to bond with her as her care taker.
It hurts so bad to be robbed of this.
I miss her so much
I love her so much..
She means the world to me.
And im sitting here alone.
Does your ex wife have an drug issues or does she lead a toxic life and posts it online? Build a case against her without her knowing and then take her to court for custody.
You have to be on the straight and narrow the entire time. You also have to understand this could bite you in the ass and you may have to start paying child support.
Is there no way you can work it out with her? Do not play the short game either. Think long term the entire time.
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Sorry, I just read everyone else's comments.
My bro in law went through the exact same thing. He ended up convincing her to let him take his daughter out to eat, but then just went home with her and didn't give her back. By law he was aloud to have her. The courts were not involved.
Thing is, you have to keep the child's mental health in mind as well. Ripping her out of her home can really cause damage.
Honestly I would just take it to court and fight fight fight. Work 2 or even 3 jobs. Don't go out. Focus on only getting your daughter.
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