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OfflineEnkidu
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About my daughter
    #27068892 - 12/02/20 09:47 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Shes less than a year.

Her mother has slowly removed me from being able to see her.

We broke up and she went from letting me see her all the time to 3 days a week and not allowing me to take her on my own.

This all happen recentky and i spoke to a lawyer. I told her i want a new areangement or id go to court and she said ok go to court you cant see your daughter anymore until then.

I love my daughter more than anything in this world.

What impact does this have on her and on her and our relationship?

The way i feel is impossible to put in words. It is such a deep sadness and pain, something of its own entirely.

I would feel better to know she is fine and that she hardly knows the difference but i feel as if my relarionship with her is being sabatoged

I will never get this time with her again. It is lost forever. I am missing my chance to bond with her as her care taker.

It hurts so bad to be robbed of this.

I miss her so much

I love her so much..

She means the world to me.

And im sitting here alone.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] * 1
    #27068904 - 12/02/20 09:51 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Do you have anger issues and/or on drugs?  That will be the deciding factor.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068909 - 12/02/20 09:53 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Fucking stupid man i swear to god

I have nothing

And in alone here. I have noone.

And all i can think about is how one day that will not be so

I will have everything i wanted and accomplish my goals and achieve my dreams and provide the best life i possibly can for my baby and my future baby

So fucking stupid and at the same time this low fucking point where i hardly own a singke fucking thing and i live far away from my home and family but really i am just hungry for what i desire

Strange

I am proud actually.

For being determined and i will not give up.

I feel strong at this very moment as if nothing can destroy me


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068911 - 12/02/20 09:55 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

No drugs.

Anger yes, at her but she has been equally angry toward me and physically violent and i called the cops on her not long ago because of it

Fuck yeah im angry bro

I get angry as fuck. At her.

She drives me fucking insane


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068913 - 12/02/20 09:56 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

At the same time im not malicious

I feel i could and should try to fuck her every which way but i wont.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068915 - 12/02/20 09:56 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

I just miss my daughter man enough to cry


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Re: About my daughter [Re: RobZombie68]
    #27068918 - 12/02/20 09:58 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

What’s the reasoning to mother keeping you distant? 

Bummer paying for the court. One friend spoke of how he offered to take all that that going to be court fees and put into account for school for that going to be a pretty penny.

If you got all your eggs in basket, court will surely be giving you your Easter Egg party allowing rights to child. Correct?  Or...

Best of Luck


Woh! 

Reading your last entries, I’d almost say take your court money and go vacation.  You’ll be wasting it in court.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: WhoManBeing]
    #27068925 - 12/02/20 10:02 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Why do you say that?

She wont let me see her because shes mad at me. Thats really all it comes down to

She wont agree to let me see her more snd she thinks the court will side with her

She wont let me take her outside of her home and she doesnt want me watching her in her home even though thats what she forces me to do


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068926 - 12/02/20 10:05 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Well its true. I was feeling sad as fuck for a minute and then it switched to feeling strong dor enduring everything i have been through and pushing forward.

And i have to be strong for my childrens sake. I think a lot of other men would have fell quite hard where i still stand


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27068938 - 12/02/20 10:11 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

I don’t know how that court plays out. Just saying with rough comments of hating your baby’s momma ain’t going to make you look like a well deserving father and yes this is not court but people are transparent and that which we speak lingers around as masks.

I figure, if you have well place of home and show can be support to child you can benefit to what bring to child. I do know of one fella who did get complete custody of child for fact the lady was crazy.

Your circumstance best understood to those exposing it too. Cursing at the momma here at shroomery not such a magical thing.

I’m out of here. Best of luck.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: WhoManBeing]
    #27068947 - 12/02/20 10:16 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Yeah i mean she does the same to me so thanks for your judgment

Have a woman tell you you cant see your kid and see how nice you speak of her

When i didnt even say anything bad about her besides that she pisses me off

And she has been physicslly violent toward me

And i said i WOULD NOT fuck her over the way she has done to me multiple times

So yeah gtfo and go hang out with her instead


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Re: About my daughter [Re: WhoManBeing] * 1
    #27069004 - 12/02/20 11:15 PM (3 months, 3 days ago)

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I don’t know how that court plays out. Just saying with rough comments of hating your baby’s momma ain’t going to make you look like a well deserving father and yes this is not court but people are transparent and that which we speak lingers around as masks.

I figure, if you have well place of home and show can be support to child you can benefit to what bring to child. I do know of one fella who did get complete custody of child for fact the lady was crazy.

Your circumstance best understood to those exposing it too. Cursing at the momma here at shroomery not such a magical thing.

I’m out of here. Best of luck.




THIS!  Ya gotta kill her with kindness brutha.  Once you are truly kind to those you hate they will eventually respond with kindness.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: RobZombie68]
    #27069068 - 12/03/20 12:02 AM (3 months, 3 days ago)

As I said in the other thread, you have a kid with this woman hate her or love her and the harsh reality is that when you have kids you have a way to see your kid and still be her father which she will need as much at 18 as at 1 and in the long run if you need to get a job and prove that bitch wrong that you can give your kids a dad that breaks his back to get back to her to be in her life. It sounds like your girl is the typical controlling type,never asked you about your feelings or how to work through them just gave up, that is because she really thinks you won't go out and get a job and step up to the plate. It is now your time to prove you can work just as hard as her and your devoted.

My brother had a bad deal happen much like you've explained and his daughter was 4 at the time when he was depressed out of his mind and popping pills because of what his girl was saying. Saying things like you'll never see her again, I'll never let you around us anymore, i will get custody etc. As I said very similar. After he served a months in jail he got sober and realized she was partly right that he needed to deal with his mental issues, get sober enough to be dependable when working, taking anger management classes etc. Before he went to jail and has been changing they had a horrible relationship and their daughter saw a lot of fighting for a decade or so and when he started not making excuses, showed he was going to classes to help his mental state, showed how much he was applying for jobs and mostly being honest and admitting what you did wrong and what you'll do to fix it not only ended in them being back together but the love between them and the communication is 180° night and day and he still can't see her legally but he's proved himself to where his girlfriend says if he keeps on this path they are back together and he will still be her dad in every way.

Work your ass off to get your kid back man good luck


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27069082 - 12/03/20 12:18 AM (3 months, 3 days ago)

Dang I am really stoned and I am really floored by this situation. So floored I actually needed to take a break before reading the rest of the thread.

I feel so bad for you OP. My 2.25 year old just starting bonding with me in the last 3-4 months and dang it is really the most satisfying thing ever. Being a parent really is the best.

I have no real advice for you other than try to get your relationship with your ex as good as you can. Get that lady candy when you see her, buy her a 6 pack when you come by (and offer to take the baby for the night), whatever. Fuck your morals and sense of justice; reward this crazy bitch with gifts if it helps you get in more time with your kid.

That shit hit me in the feels after such a good day with my baby after such a shitty 4 months...
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Re: About my daughter [Re: metalfaith]
    #27069313 - 12/03/20 07:21 AM (3 months, 2 days ago)

I have a job man

During covid i was paying for everything because she wasnt working

During the pregnancy she kicked me out blocked me i was bringing her money and she put a no contact order on me

I always do the right thing

I stayed here and tried to get on top of everyrhing

She dropped the attempted order and we got back together

Things were going pretty good and she wound up pregnant again with our second child and got back to her same absokutelt unreasonable unappreciative shit

I was working and coming home taking care of our daughter while shes at work doing as much housework as i could helping as much as i coukd waking up on the weekend taking care of our daughter and cleaning the whole house so she can sleep in

She just becomes a monester when shes prefnant or something idk

Blames everyrhing on me says im horroble and fails to see or admit all her wrongs and her side

Ill be fine

I just got a new job with a decent company

Started looking into what i need to get back in school and finish my degree

Ill do shit on my own if i have to and ill fight in court to see my kids if thats what it takes

I think she has no fucking clue what shes doing right now

Appreciate the words guys


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] * 1
    #27069365 - 12/03/20 08:34 AM (3 months, 2 days ago)

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WhoManBeing said:
What’s the reasoning to mother keeping you distant? 






Quote:

Enkidu said:
She wont let me see her because shes mad at me. Thats really all it comes down to







You keep mentioning that, that she's doing all of this because she's mad at you...why is she mad at you?

I can't imagine she'd go through all that trouble just because she's pregnant, feeling bitchy, and having a few bad months...


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27069653 - 12/03/20 11:31 AM (3 months, 2 days ago)

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Yeah i mean she does the same to me so thanks for your judgment

Have a woman tell you you cant see your kid and see how nice you speak of her

When i didnt even say anything bad about her besides that she pisses me off

And she has been physicslly violent toward me

And i said i WOULD NOT fuck her over the way she has done to me multiple times

So yeah gtfo and go hang out with her instead



I agree, but the court won't see it that way if you use the same words you did in there. There's blatant sexism and women will get the kid most of the time. My mom has schizophrenia, is a danger to herself and others and my dad only got custody of my siblings (I was already of age when that shit went down) because she was out of the country for 2 years. You need to seem PERFECT and get all the evidence you can against her together.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: RobZombie68]
    #27069664 - 12/03/20 11:43 AM (3 months, 2 days ago)

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Once you are truly kind to those you hate they will eventually respond with kindness.




Good does come from taking this course of action but the response is not always kindness returned.  Some eventually will just leave you alone after discovering that they are not getting an angry response in return.

OP, I am sorry that you are going through this.  I went through similar circumstances years ago.  I finally left my wife after being tired of being cheated on and lied to and having all my money spent and staying together for years "for the kids".  You don't want to give her any fuel to have her talking badly about you to the child.  I didn't not handle situations with my wife in anger, but my wife and her family told horrible lies to my kids about me when we got separated and I have been spending the last 15 years proving myself to them that I was and am not that person that they have been telling them I am, and I may not successfully, fully clear my name.

I wish you the best in this and stay strong but not bitter.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27069680 - 12/03/20 11:54 AM (3 months, 2 days ago)

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Shes less than a year.

Her mother has slowly removed me from being able to see her.

We broke up and she went from letting me see her all the time to 3 days a week and not allowing me to take her on my own.

This all happen recentky and i spoke to a lawyer. I told her i want a new areangement or id go to court and she said ok go to court you cant see your daughter anymore until then.

I love my daughter more than anything in this world.

What impact does this have on her and on her and our relationship?

The way i feel is impossible to put in words. It is such a deep sadness and pain, something of its own entirely.

I would feel better to know she is fine and that she hardly knows the difference but i feel as if my relarionship with her is being sabatoged

I will never get this time with her again. It is lost forever. I am missing my chance to bond with her as her care taker.

It hurts so bad to be robbed of this.

I miss her so much

I love her so much..

She means the world to me.

And im sitting here alone.




Does your ex wife have an drug issues or does she lead a toxic life and posts it online? Build a case against her without her knowing and then take her to court for custody.

You have to be on the straight and narrow the entire time. You also have to understand this could bite you in the ass and you may have to start paying child support.

Is there no way you can work it out with her? Do not play the short game either. Think long term the entire time.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Cracked Egg]
    #27069687 - 12/03/20 12:00 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

Sorry, I just read everyone else's comments.

My bro in law went through the exact same thing. He ended up convincing her to let him take his daughter out to eat, but then just went home with her and didn't give her back. By law he was aloud to have her. The courts were not involved.

Thing is, you have to keep the child's mental health in mind as well. Ripping her out of her home can really cause damage.

Honestly I would just take it to court and fight fight fight. Work 2 or even 3 jobs. Don't go out. Focus on only getting your daughter.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Cracked Egg]
    #27070300 - 12/03/20 06:16 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

Like i said i am not malicious

I think she is willing to work something out now actually


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] * 1
    #27070343 - 12/03/20 06:48 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

Enkidu :hug:

Your daughter is not going to be impacted by this much at all. Kids grow up in spite of it and a 1 year old will not remember this. In my experience they start to establish memories they will keep somewhere mid way through 3.  Even then it will be blurry for them.

Now take a deep breath :hug:

You love your daughter, you must put aside the hate for her mother.
Your one and only focus must be your daughter's well being.
You must recognize that hurting her mother will hurt your daughter and acknowledge that you are responsible for that and swear off such thoughts.

You must be patient and ask yourself if what you are doing is best for your daughter, let that guide your decision making.
Her mother being a petty bitch and showing up to your time late? Deep breath, all that matters is that your daughter is safe and you will see her soon.

I suspect that if you can do this her mother will slowly stop the petty shit as she sees that she isn't getting a rise out of you. You have every right to have a relationship with your child. Family court will always try to make that happen.

You have to also recognize the difference between what you want and what is best for your daughter. You want to see your daughter because she makes you happy, that is for you, that is what is driving the emotion. You need to get to the point where you are doing things for her first and the happiness will come to you.

Best of luck. Deep breaths. Welcome to parenthood


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Sugabearcrisp]
    #27070435 - 12/03/20 07:48 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

Thank you man

I do not hate her mother nor do i want to hurt her

Yes i miss my daughter but my main issue is the worry that not seeing her during this stage will impact her knowing me and trusting me to care for her

You have good advice. Thank you


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27070439 - 12/03/20 07:50 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

I already pay child support by the way

Always will be more than willing to provide for my children every way i need to

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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27070456 - 12/03/20 08:00 PM (3 months, 2 days ago)

But you are right. The important thing is my childs well being and it makes me feel a lot better to know me not seeing her now is not detrimental to our relationship

I just need to remind myself of that i guess


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] * 1
    #27071155 - 12/04/20 05:18 AM (3 months, 1 day ago)

I have much sympathy for your pain, Enkidu.

Sadly you will have to take this crazy cunt to court if you ever want to maintain your relationship with your daughter.

Be warned!

She very well may do some shady shit in court.

Like, accuse you of molesting your daughter to keep you away forever.

Crazy bitches will do crazy shit.

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No drugs.




good

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Anger yes, at her but she has been equally angry toward me and physically violent and i called the cops on her not long ago because of it

Fuck yeah im angry bro

I get angry as fuck. At her.

She drives me fucking insane




When you got the cops involves, you called them on her yes?

Can you get a copy of the police report?
This may be handy when you go to court.


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At the same time im not malicious

I feel i could and should try to fuck her every which way but i wont.




Don't do anything to her.

I would call a good lawyer today and set up an appt.

Let him know that she may do some crazy shit just out of spite.

Don't contact her again!

Let your lawyer be your only contact with her from here on out.

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She wont agree to let me see her more snd she thinks the court will side with her




And she's right.

If you don't mind your P's and Q's you could easily lose your daughter forever.

Getting a good lawyer is, sadly, your only option now.


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And she has been physicslly violent toward me




Can you prove this in court?

That would make you look really good and her look really bad.

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I think she is willing to work something out now actually




NEVER trust this woman!!

Get a lawyer and get an agreement in writing with her regarding your parental rights.

If not, she will continue to use your kids as a weapon against you.

I'm no lawyer, but I've seen several friends get hosed down by their child's mother when it comes to visitation rights.

Hire a good lawyer and take her to court to settle this issue now before it turns into something nasty.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27071803 - 12/04/20 02:45 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

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I already pay child support by the way

Always will be more than willing to provide for my children every way i need to

Thank you for the comments and advice everyone



Hey, so glad what I said made sense to you.

If you are paying child support I would think that you have a court order that should describe what the custody and visitation expectations. You should be able to get that online or in person with the court in which it was filed or with the state child support enforcement agency that is overseeing your support.

Lawyers will tell you that they can work miracles as long as you pay per hour, do as much as you can for yourself and only bring them in when you cant help yourself like court dates. 

Good luck again.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Sugabearcrisp]
    #27071804 - 12/04/20 02:46 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

No we just agreed on an amount and i write her a check

We havent done a single thing involving the courts yet


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27072039 - 12/04/20 04:42 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

RECORD-FUCKING-EVERYTHING

She's loosening up, but she'll probably always work against you; hope for the best, but document everything in case she tries to skip town or some other shady shit. I have a buddy who got a crazy bitch pregnant and he's been fighting her for the past 3 years.

Try to be amiable and polite, NEVER EVER MAKE THREATS, but always document (record audio ideally) any nasty/crazy shit she says to you even if that's not how you normally treat people. You need to get the drop on bitches like this, and you need to take the high road. Unlike any of that feminist bullshit narrative stuff these days would indicate, this is an ACTUAL, STRUCTURAL CASE OF TOTAL SEXISM: the courts default to "don't take a baby away from a mother", so it's an uphill battle for dads, sadly enough. Even if the mother is a no-good fuckwit, if she isn't into hard drugs or violent and crazy, they'll take her side on most things.

Like a poster above said, focus on your love of your daughter, don't let hating the mother consume you. Also, make sure your shit is airtight and that you're able to prove beyond doubt that you're financially, situationally and emotionally stable enough to raise a kid.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: THT] * 1
    #27072045 - 12/04/20 04:45 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

Thanks ill take this all to heart

She went crazy last pregnancy then she chilled out

So im kinda thinking that will be similar this time

I think things will be ok

I honestly dont think she is going to do anything crazy, once shes no.longer pregnant.

Last time things were worse and they worked out


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27072065 - 12/04/20 05:03 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

Yeah I hope so...it's literally a change in neurochemistry and some it affects women differently.

Nevertheless, you're insuring your future with your daughter by keeping something of a shit-file on her mother. Keep it all under wraps as your "Plan B" in case being reasonable and competent aren't enough proof for a courtroom. We're rooting for you! Be a good dad for your daughter above all else and good vibes.  :awesome:


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Re: About my daughter [Re: THT]
    #27072069 - 12/04/20 05:08 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

Absolutely man thank you

I honestly dont think she is like that

I think its just mainly a mixture of pregnancy and stress and the issues weve had between each other

Im definitely not perfect ya know

I think she will let me have a relationship with my kids and that is definitely priority one, the wee ones.

Got a lot of shit i need to do personally to prepare to provide


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu] * 1
    #27072262 - 12/04/20 07:08 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

Hey man, I have no kids myself, but I do have two divorced parents who fought like cats and dogs for many years but are friendly now that I'm an adult, and I can pass on what I've learned from that now that we're all past it.

If you think your time with your daughter might be threatened, then go see a lawyer to help you address that threat, even if your relationship with your ex is mellowed right now. You don't have to take action, but you can learn about your legal options. You can make an informed decision about what actions you want take to avoid being at your ex's mercy after that. That'll help you protect time with your daughter in the future, and that time matters as much as the present time does. Don't loose sight of that because you're caught up in bullshit with her mom. That bullshit should stay between you and her mom, and leveraging your daughter in that fight is unfair to you and your daughter. Having a legal agreement with your wife will put a 3rd party in the mix incase something like this happens again, and it'll give you a way to help protect you and your daughter to some degree. You should stand up for the time you spend with your daughter and feel no shame for doing it. Both my parents tell me it was worth it, and I agree completely (I love them both to peices). Do it for yourself and for your daughter. It'll set a good example for your kid, and she'll get to see that example and learn from it since you'll be there to help her.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Mr.GuessWork]
    #27072390 - 12/04/20 08:17 PM (3 months, 1 day ago)

I agree, thanks man


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27073761 - 12/05/20 05:35 PM (3 months, 8 hours ago)

Yeah man. Just got back hanging with her as you advised. Wasn’t all too happy with her either.

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Re: About my daughter [Re: WhoManBeing]
    #27073836 - 12/05/20 06:39 PM (3 months, 7 hours ago)

:lol:

That was funny

I always try to do my best to do what i think is right man

I think everything will work out in the end

And if it doesnt, ive been told it aint the end


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27074253 - 12/05/20 11:19 PM (3 months, 2 hours ago)

Yea man.

Get all your dockets in a bucket and make what’s best for all involved.

Best of luck.


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Re: About my daughter [Re: WhoManBeing]
    #27075411 - 12/06/20 04:30 PM (2 months, 30 days ago)

Maybe relationship counciling is the real answer?

If not you should have a court approved agreeement with a mediator in place, a court order if mom is non cooperative.

I will hope for the first though


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Sugabearcrisp]
    #27127308 - 01/05/21 02:33 AM (2 months, 23 hours ago)

Sending you good vibes here. Sorry to bring up a month old post but how you doing over there?


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27127340 - 01/05/21 03:20 AM (2 months, 22 hours ago)

Take her to court get that shit made official


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Re: About my daughter [Re: stzacrack] * 1
    #27127544 - 01/05/21 07:20 AM (2 months, 18 hours ago)

Hey appreciate it. Doing good.

Weve been getting along


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27128321 - 01/05/21 03:44 PM (2 months, 10 hours ago)

OMG OMG!! That warmed me right up reading that!!


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Re: About my daughter [Re: TigerStrike]
    #27128610 - 01/05/21 05:55 PM (2 months, 7 hours ago)

Yeah its definitely nice.

Kinda had the feeling or hope it would statt getting better and it has


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27128627 - 01/05/21 06:02 PM (2 months, 7 hours ago)

You were seeking the change you became. Are you surprised? Awesome job.


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    #27128676 - 01/05/21 06:28 PM (2 months, 7 hours ago)

I appreciate that but i think part of it is we both eventually try to do right and be better and not give in to that normal hatred and bitterness people sometimes fsll victim to

I appreciate you :heart:


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27129674 - 01/06/21 06:40 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

Quote:

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Yeah its definitely nice.

Kinda had the feeling or hope it would statt getting better and it has




You have to take your ex to court

She can just pick up n leave whenever she wants otherwise


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    #27129676 - 01/06/21 06:42 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

I dont think she would do that


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Re: About my daughter [Re: Enkidu]
    #27129680 - 01/06/21 06:48 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

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I dont think she would do that




I didn't think my ex of 12 years who I've known since 1st grade would take my daughter and move in with a black dude
Yet here we are
I'm on your side, and for your daughters health and benefit, hopefully your ex in on your side, mines not on my side


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    #27129686 - 01/06/21 06:53 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

Yeah that fucking sucks man. I feel for you.

I guess i rather hope for the best and try to create that and not give in to fear or create a sort of self fulfilling prophecy making things worse by taking actions i dont feel are currently needed


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    #27129694 - 01/06/21 07:00 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

Stay strong my dude.

Your daughter is the most important thing.

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    #27129771 - 01/06/21 08:22 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

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Yeah that fucking sucks man. I feel for you.

I guess i rather hope for the best and try to create that and not give in to fear or create a sort of self fulfilling prophecy making things worse by taking actions i dont feel are currently needed




For what it's worth I carry myself very similarly

Doesnt mean others will

In the beginning I counted on her graciousness
A judge was the only one who could compel her to allow my little cossack daughter to be with her father- a role which is especially ignored/crippled/undermined in this wonderful new world we live in


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Re: About my daughter [Re: stzacrack]
    #27129852 - 01/06/21 09:59 AM (1 month, 30 days ago)

Yeah man thats horrible.

Im fortunate because even if at times when we were fighting and she was angry at me and maybe threatened it, she has never prevented me from seeing my daughter and seems to want to do what is best for my daughter, which is for her ro have a healthy relationship with her father


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