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OfflineGene Hackman
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Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] * 1
    #27040533 - 11/15/20 12:58 PM (3 years, 2 months ago)

My brother and I buy each other a gift every year for Xmas, always have since we were young pups. But last year his girlfriend sent him over to my house with a very serious complaint:


Bro: My girlfriend is angry/upset that in all the years we've been a couple you have never bought her a gift!

Gene: To counter that complaint, I would like to add that she has never bought me a gift either, and furthermore we have never even discussed giving each other gifts.

Bro: Any gift I give you is from both of us and she expects something in return.

Gene: Well then you can consider any gift I give you as a gift for both of you!


This month my brother visited and told me to get his girlfriend a gift this year because she doesn't like watching the two of us exchange gifts and she has nothing to open.

It reminds of Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry is constantly battling polite society, specifically the episode on paying for dinner (see below). My brother's girlfriend contributes nothing to the gift such as thought or money, adds her name to it and expects something in return.



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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Gene Hackman]
    #27040571 - 11/15/20 01:22 PM (3 years, 2 months ago)

I had to go with STAL as I don't know what she's like as a person. If she was a fairly decent and understanding human being I would talk it out with her and come to a beautiful understanding.

I have no idea what I'd do were she an entitled strumpet. Probably some version of the same but with less concern about the beauty of the situation.

It's a bloody interesting conundrum you've found yourself in though; I give you that. I just can't understand Christmas/expectations.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 2
    #27040754 - 11/15/20 03:10 PM (3 years, 2 months ago)

It's nasty when people create bullshit drama/manipulation like this.

Maybe rather than letting your brother be the man in the middle messenger you should actually speak to her? Tell her that you've always exchanged gifts with your brother, but if she likes you'd be happy to exchange gifts with her too. Make it personal and friendly and take your brother's relationship out of the equation. Otherwise you are stuck in a lose lose situation.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Gene Hackman] * 3
    #27041887 - 11/16/20 09:11 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

This is why I hate Christmas, the people who make it about being owed gifts. I joke that the gift exchange in my wife's family should be that everyone brings $20 and passes it to the person on their right. But people would still be bitching that the one they got was more worn or something.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Gene Hackman] * 3
    #27041927 - 11/16/20 09:31 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

Gene Hackman said:
Bro: Any gift I give you is from both of us and she expects something in return.







Is she pretty difficult to be around in general?

Tell her she gets the gift of giving in return.
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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: 1234go]
    #27042030 - 11/16/20 10:35 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

You could pick any of the contributions of the SHIT KING 2020 election, have it printed to poster format, frame it and gift it to her. If she is dismayed tell her you gifted her a picture frame despite the fact that it is pretty shitty to be coerced to hand over a gift.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Asante]
    #27042047 - 11/16/20 10:44 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

If you want to be more polite, charities like Heifer.org will gift animals like chickens, goats, livestock etc to third world families who can help develop themselves with it, a very good thing, and Heifer.org even gives out gift cards so you can give a friend a gift card so that they can choose, with their budget, what they give away to people actually in grave need.

Go to a place like Tiffany's, ask if they have any spare jewelry cases (some take the jewel but not the box, put the gift card in there, tastefully wrap that in quality paper and you will give her a gift that exceeds her wildest expectations :awesomenod:

...and you do something fucking awesome for a family too poor to scratch their asses in a far away land - which is a wonderful good deed.


I just want to emphasize that in my view you are sort of being pressured to give a gift. I respond very poorly to that myself.

A gift coerced is not a gift at all.

Make her feel it, if ever so politely.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Gene Hackman]
    #27042054 - 11/16/20 10:47 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

get neither of them gifts. problem solved.


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Re: Gift Etiquette In Polite Society [POLL] [Re: Gene Hackman] * 1
    #27042117 - 11/16/20 11:34 AM (3 years, 2 months ago)

Dude. You're fk'n Gene Hackman. Net worth 80 mil. 2 Academy Awards and 4 Golden Globes.

Get her a damn gift


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