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I'm quitting porn 4
#27032297 - 11/10/20 08:42 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've become really unresponsive to porn lately and I think I've really fucked up my head and my self image with too much porn and immediate self-stimulation. I'm quitting with watching porn and I'm going to try to avoid masturbating for a while. I want to get to know myself and hopefully find a healthy, meaningful relationship based on mutual companionship and love.
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Right on brother, best of luck to you!
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Thank you. Yeah, as they say, nothing changes if nothing changes.
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Yea porn isn't really good for your brain
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Re: I'm quitting porn [Re: twighead]
#27032945 - 11/11/20 07:57 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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twighead said: Yea porn isn't really good for your brain 
I was referring more to my way of thinking than my actual physical brain, but okay cool.
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Right on man!
My best friend was hooked on Porn. Still kinda is but has it under control for the most part. It can be very addicting and can mess with your head psychologically in a really strong, negative way. Its like a drug, but an endogenous drug brought on by "artifical" stimulation.
Abstinence from porn is always a good thing
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LogicaL Chaos said: Abstinence from porn is always a good thing 
Adding my voice to the many in agreement. It's not good for us.I consider it a necessary evil from time to time, when i just need to get off (I can't bring myself to orgasm without visual stimulation) but I hope to one day avoid it for good. I would need a female partner before it becomes a real possibility though.
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Definitely. Its easy to over-do it when you dont have a lady partner. It can be an addictive visual substance cause theres so much out there and the ease-of-access of it.
I limit myself with it so its only occasionally so I dont become addicted to it. All about that self-control and trying to find a "balance", thats what Ive learned...
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I don't really use porn a whole lot but it's not because I'm super virtuous or whatever I'm such a turbocoomer that if I watch a solo amateur vid for 20 seconds I get so horny I don't even need to keep looking at it if I'm already pretty horny then I just use my imagination like we all did as teenagers

gl to you OP
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Re: I'm quitting porn [Re: yeah]
#27034387 - 11/12/20 12:26 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah said: if I'm already pretty horny then I just use my imagination like we all did as teenagers
Some people never did this.
Important to keep some perspective brother; there's nothing ALL humans do apart from be born, breathe for a while, and die.
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You start to sexualize everyone when you're watching too much porn during a period of your life. If you don't masturbate, you'll need to do something to counter the sexual urge to cum. I don't know about you but I can't go more than like 3 or 4 days without jerking off without my genital region feeling like it is backed up and on fire. I can't explain it, it just feels like my balls and my dick and the whole area surrounding it gets this inner heat and I can feel it and it's there and it needs to be released.
Edited by OutsideOfMyMind (11/12/20 03:41 AM)
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Quitting porn was one of the best decisions I made in my entire life. I truly credit it with making me into the person I am today, who is living their dream, in a healthy relationship and no longer engages in self-destructive behaviors. Despite the occasional slip up, I don't use it as a crutch like I used to.
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How do you define an 'occasional slip up'?
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I'll post in the "someone you consider hot" or look something up for reference. Never masterbating to it.
I did however not look at any porn or masterbate for over two years though...that was more of what I was referencing in my post.
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I porned again. I got to feeling down and I was on Facebook scrolling through my news feed and started thinking how much I'd like to find a woman to make a secks with and to rowmants and I ended up looking up pussy eating techniques and ended up fapping. I'm pent up and got a lot of brain shit going on. I was locked up from March 28, 2019 until October 6, 2020, except for a spell from September to December when I was inpatient rehab and a halfway house. I haven't felt right since getting out. I relapsed while in jail by snorting suboxone while in jail and I hit the ground stumbling after jumping off the wagon when I got out. I'm on parole (yes, parole, not probation. I did 20 days in prison) til May, but that doesn't matter much. I just want to feel right and I want to find a woman to help me release this sexual energy. I don't want to rut like a horny bull, I want to help her cum as much as possible. I should also add, before I got arrested I was planning to od myself on smack and also, I've still never had a genuine sexual encounter...and I turned 29 a little over a month ago. Sorry if this seems like a troll post. It's not meant to be. I'm just a really confused, fucked up guy who wants to find some love like anyone else does. Every time I think I'm close, something goes wrong and I either read more into it than is there or I say something to fuck it up.
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Jesus brother, that's a real handful of a situation you've got yourself into right there. First off, are you clean off the gear? And secondly, are you waiting for a real woman/relationship, or are you at the point where it doesn't matter what it is, because you just need physical intimacy?
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Jokeshopbeard said: Jesus brother, that's a real handful of a situation you've got yourself into right there. First off, are you clean off the gear? And secondly, are you waiting for a real woman/relationship, or are you at the point where it doesn't matter what it is, because you just need physical intimacy?
You know, that's the question I keep grappling with. On the surface I feel like I just want physical intimacy, but when I think about it I feel like I want a real long-lasting love type connection. I have a friend who found both. He and his wife are one-and-onlies. I don't think my standards are that high, if I found a woman I'd just want to be the one she wanted to be with. I know I could be a good lover if I had the opportunity. I just...never get that far.
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It's fuckin hard man. I haven't got off in a couple weeks since I let this chick go. I have been put off from porn for a while. I have a love/hate relationship with it really. At times I feel like I need it so I don't depend too much on a woman just for sex, and also I feel like I am a more well rounded person if I have had that release. On the other hand it is VERY hard to limit porn use to an 'as needed' type of routine. I always feel that energy get built up and all I can think about is sex and it drives me crazy, then I use porn to get off and in the past I have gone from using it once in this kind of dire situation to using it daily just because it felt good and I can't get it out of my head.
But yeah it is hard. I myself really want to find a way to focus this energy in a productive way. It just seems like clockwork though once I hit the 1-2week mark from the last time I got off, its like small sexual thoughts that used to be way out on the edge of my mind that could be dismissed easily, they just become the only thing I can think about and eventually someway some how they start controlling my days. Like the other night I pulled up tinder on my phone... hadn't touched that shit in forever. Seems impossible to stop this shit from happening, it is crazy how strong your subconscious desires are.
But OP, if I were you I would try going out getting a coffee somewhere that chicks of your type frequent. something like that. Or I don't know what your work situation is but if you are not employed just go get a job somewhere that coworkers seem to be able to intermingle a lot.. I think that is a sure fire way to get into a relationship haha. And while you wait for the right chick to get hired in or for you to meet a chick that is already at the job, it will keep you busy and will be good for you.
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IMO it's probably better to just look at nudes rather than porn videos.
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Re: I'm quitting porn [Re: NOUS333]
#27059543 - 11/27/20 01:01 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah, I've tried the limiting method, but at some point I go back to snapping one of daily. When I was in jail, I'd go a couple weeks to a month without whacking it, but then I'd start getting emotionally backed up and start feeling more depressed until I finally did again. Luckily I always had my own cell. But yeah, I definitely have to get out and mix it up more. I got a lot of stuff to put in order first with this parole shit and my finances. Small towns are a real bitch for trying to meet people. I might have a prospect though, if I play my cards right.
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Camwritesgonzo said: Yeah, I've tried the limiting method, but at some point I go back to snapping one of daily. When I was in jail, I'd go a couple weeks to a month without whacking it, but then I'd start getting emotionally backed up and start feeling more depressed until I finally did again. Luckily I always had my own cell. But yeah, I definitely have to get out and mix it up more. I got a lot of stuff to put in order first with this parole shit and my finances. Small towns are a real bitch for trying to meet people. I might have a prospect though, if I play my cards right.
Yeah.. first and foremost get your own shit together and get your self where you want to be. A woman will only hold you back from doing that unless she is one of the rare few who will help you. Honestly, I am 100% convinced that it is much better to watch porn or get yourself off when you really feel you have to instead of relying on a woman for that. If the only reason you want a woman in your life is to quell the loneliness you feel when you really wanna get off but don't want to watch porn/masturbate... just give yourself a break and get one off.
I've learned the hard way that if you approach a relationship with a woman and your dick having company is anywhere in the forefront of your mind.. that relationship is gonna destroy you... You'll never be the man you want to be with that woman because all of us men reduce ourselves to someone we aren't in order to get pussy. Facts. I spent the last 2 years playing a fuckin charade, essentially acting to get pussy thinking I was getting one over on this chick and in the end.. I only got one over on myself. Who knows who I could be right now if I just stayed home and watched porn and didn't feel bad about it.
I still think porn is bad and I'll never feel awesome after fucking myself, but if that is what it takes to keep a focused mind and keep my life on track, so be it.
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Re: I'm quitting porn [Re: NOUS333]
#27060251 - 11/27/20 02:02 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, it's not so much wanting to get off that I'd like to be like to find a woman for. I truly do want someone to share my heart and soul with, to find intimate companionship with mentally, emotionally, and then physically. I definitely don't want to put on a façade just for the sake of getting laid. I'd rather find a woman who accepts me for myself.
But before all of that, I want to try to love and accept myself as much as I can, which has always been my biggest struggle.
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Last night I had a fucking strange mushroom trip and I threw out all of my sex toys because they have a high addictive potential for me and I felt disgusted at myself with the addictiveness. I wasn't disgusted by the sexual aspect but more at the addiction aspect. I was literally peaking on mushrooms while at the same time gathering my sex toys into a bag and going outside to throw them in the dumpster. There are some days where I just spend the day getting high and looking at porn and jerking off with sex toys and it is really not good for me. I need to reset my dopamine. God what a strange fucking trip last night. The whole trip was like a physical and emotional Purge. I felt strange the whole fucking time.
Anyway, those pocket masturbaiters and realistic masturbaiters are really addictive especially when you get the ones with more intricate textures. You can feel the dopamine getting sucked out of you.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: Last night I had a fucking strange mushroom trip and I threw out all of my sex toys because they have a high addictive potential for me and I felt disgusted at myself with the addictiveness. I wasn't disgusted by the sexual aspect but more at the addiction aspect. I was literally peaking on mushrooms while at the same time gathering my sex toys into a bag and going outside to throw them in the dumpster. There are some days where I just spend the day getting high and looking at porn and jerking off with sex toys and it is really not good for me. I need to reset my dopamine. God what a strange fucking trip last night. The whole trip was like a physical and emotional Purge. I felt strange the whole fucking time.
Anyway, those pocket masturbaiters and realistic masturbaiters are really addictive especially when you get the ones with more intricate textures. You can feel the dopamine getting sucked out of you.
Isn't that amazing though. I mean that is a story for the people who scoff at mushroom use and assume it is just some delusional hallucinatory nonsense... "Take mushrooms and throw out your sex toys" lol.
There is a lower self, and a higher self and mushrooms connect our spirit/heart with the higher. For sure.
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