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#27031465 - 11/10/20 11:23 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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This is in reference to how long you think it's fair to keep someone (friends & family, specifically) waiting on a response to an electronic message (since we communicate in that manner so much in this day and age).
I think we all have varying ideas about how long you'd keep a friend waiting for a response. Say you get a text or an email from a great friend but you're busy/don't have the emotional bandwidth available to respond in that moment. What's the outside time you take to respond without it being rude? Hours, days, weeks, months?
I know that since the inception of COVID into our lives, a lot has changed and a lot of people have been under a lot more stress and pressure. Depression too, seems to be running rife. But I can't understand how some people can go six months and half a dozen attempts a contact and not say a single word in return.
I know when I get depressed, I find it harder to respond and so take longer, but my feeling about acceptable response times is clearly just different from other peoples, which is why I put this out there.
How do you deal when a really great friend just disappears off the radar completely, even though you know they're still alive and active? .
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I have friends in Texas who sometimes never text back, but they are far away so I give them slack, lots of slack. I wait a day or more sometimes, but not often. I try to get back to texts within an hour or so, or by the end of the day of working.
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I had a good friend years ago that would go radio silen on our whole group of friends, and his family. We all knew he would do this from time to time. I believe he had some type of mental/medical challenges that he was unwilling to talk to us about or seek professional help. When he would finally make contact, he acted like nothing had happened and we just spoke the day before. I had told him that I respect his privacy and will help him in anyway possible. We all just wanted to make sure he was okay. I asked him to at least let me know if he was going to check out for a while just as a courtesy to a longtime friend. He never came around and would be off the radar for weeks at tye least and was missing for 5 months on one occasion. I finally realized that I was unable to help him and it was too difficult to not know if he was safe. I ended up just completely cutting off ties. It hurts, but good relationships are based on trust, boundries, and mutual respect.
Sorry for the long rant. I do my best to get back with people as soon as possible. If I just don't have the mental or emotional energy for a specific person or topic, I just let them know I got there message and I will get back to them when I am in a better place.
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it really depends. if it's just some stupid shit, sometimes i won't reply at all. i'd say about 24 hrs for most things though. but i'm horrible at getting back, especially if i'm down. i think my friends/family get that about me. they are at least used to it by now.
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: wrestler_az]
#27032079 - 11/10/20 06:11 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am the worst at this for many people in my life. I ignore calls and texts from people and friends every day, and i selectively respond either asap or years later. I am 100% forgiving and no reason needed understanding of anyone who doesn't respond or takes their sweet time. Still applies if they go from immediate responding to seldom to never
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: trees]
#27032445 - 11/10/20 10:46 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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24 hours is way too long dude. Unless you are like really old and you just don't know how to use your fucking phone there is no excuse at all. Everyone looks at their damn phone at least twice a day but like really 99% of people look at their phones way more than just twice a day. Texting is a form of communication along with talking on the phone, email, social networking, and even snail mail. If you don't respond to a text within 24 hours I just think you are being rude. It takes like 5 seconds to respond to a text message so don't tell me you don't have fucking time. The only reason I can remotely understand as to why somebody would forget to respond to a text is if they are ADHD. I really hate these smartphones. It has caused people to take communication for granted. But yeah 24 hours is way too long and if you respond to a text really late you better be fucking apologizing to me for the delayed response and giving me a reason as to why it took so long. like if you had to go to the hospital maybe I would understand but other than that there's no excuse. some people should just throw their smartphones away and just get a landline instead.
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None y'all(except trex) responding to me so STAL ;P
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It's not always about not having time. I get a lot of anxiety when it comes to communicating. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out what I want to say, how to respond. Sometimes I just don't want to talk. I don't think you and I could be friends. You're way too clingy.
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: wrestler_az] 1
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As I get older I take more time to respond. I use to reply immediately when I was younger. Some times I just ignore messages all together these days.
It just depends on the urgency and person I am talking with. Some times I just don't feel like responding, or some times I am just busy and forget.
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: christopera]
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#27032905 - 11/11/20 07:26 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I try to respond within reasonable time. Sometimes straight away as i get the message. Sometimes after couple of hours, when i feel settled. But ignoring messages for longer than 24 hours is rude in my books
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OutsideOfMyMind said: 24 hours is way too long dude. Unless you are like really old and you just don't know how to use your fucking phone there is no excuse at all. Everyone looks at their damn phone at least twice a day but like really 99% of people look at their phones way more than just twice a day. Texting is a form of communication along with talking on the phone, email, social networking, and even snail mail. If you don't respond to a text within 24 hours I just think you are being rude. It takes like 5 seconds to respond to a text message so don't tell me you don't have fucking time. The only reason I can remotely understand as to why somebody would forget to respond to a text is if they are ADHD. I really hate these smartphones. It has caused people to take communication for granted. But yeah 24 hours is way too long and if you respond to a text really late you better be fucking apologizing to me for the delayed response and giving me a reason as to why it took so long. like if you had to go to the hospital maybe I would understand but other than that there's no excuse. some people should just throw their smartphones away and just get a landline instead.
If it's a professional /work related situation I can agree, but in terms of socially, if you got that mad over it i'd just block you, good riddance
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: wrestler_az]
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wrestler_az said: It's not always about not having time. I get a lot of anxiety when it comes to communicating. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out what I want to say, how to respond. Sometimes I just don't want to talk. I don't think you and I could be friends. You're way too clingy.
But texting is not "talking." There's no non verbal cues with texting. How the hell do you get "anxiety" over sending someone a text? Take a damn xanax.
Does anyone here know what NON VERBAL communication is? Non verbal communication is actually 70% of our language and you can't see it while texting. This is why text messages always get misconstrued.
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85% is what is generally recognized for non-verbal.
However it's pretty unreasonable of you to project the fact that you don't struggle with it on to other people. And it's downright irresponsible of you to tell someone to take a benzo.
How about showing some compassion?
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wrestler_az said: It's not always about not having time. I get a lot of anxiety when it comes to communicating. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out what I want to type, how to respond. Sometimes I just don't want to communicate. I don't think you and I could be friends. You're way too clingy.
sorry, better? i often use the words as synonyms.
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: wrestler_az]
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This probably won’t surprise anyone but nobody texts me first and I rarely ever get a response from anyone.
When I get a text I’m either on it in seconds or I block it.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: There's no non verbal cues with texting. How the hell do you get "anxiety" over sending someone a text?
it's mostly about typing the wrong thing, or in a way where the recipient maybe misunderstands, or takes what i type out of context, turns the conversation into something i didn't intend. kind of like how you just did.
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Jokeshopbeard said: 85% is what is generally recognized for non-verbal.
However it's pretty unreasonable of you to project the fact that you don't struggle with it on to other people. And it's downright irresponsible of you to tell someone to take a benzo.
How about showing some compassion?
What I said about taking the benzo was sarcasm. You see on text-based communications you don't know what my tone of voice is so you don't know if I'm being sarcastic or not. if we were talking face-to-face you would be able to hear my tone of voice and you would know right away that I was just joking.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: What I said about taking the benzo was sarcasm. You see on text-based communications you don't know what my tone of voice is so you don't know if I'm being sarcastic or not. if we were talking face-to-face you would be able to hear my tone of voice and you would know right away that I was just joking.
another perfect example of why i might get anxious about a text.
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If you don't know how to word a text message so that you don't sound misconstrued then you should just call the person and talk to them with voice. literally tons and tons of text message arguments would have been completely prevented if the other person and I were talking with voice. People are just fucking stupid nowadays and don't understand communication.
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I will admit, the only people I don't respond to right away are either my boss or any of my co-workers because I don't want them to think that I'm the type of person that responds right away. This is because I don't want to have to take on extra shifts are cover shifts or any dumb shit like that. Sometimes I just won't respond at all and if they ask me about the text message I will tell them I never received a text from them. a lot of people have iPhones and iPhones are really not reliable with text messaging especially when they are sending texts to an Android phone. So that excuse actually does sound realistic.
When this happens usually they'll say hey did you get my text? I'll say what text? I never received it. I ask them if they have an iPhone and they always say yes. And then I say oh iPhones aren't really reliable with text messaging so that's probably why I never received your text. or I tell them oh you know iPhones are not reliable because they send a text as an iMessage and Android phones don't do iMessage so then the message never gets to them.
I think the best excuse to not responding to a text is just to tell the person that you never even received the text. Sometimes text messages just go into thin air and never get to the recipient.
The only legit times that I will ever completely forget to reply to a text is if I'm either high and I totally forget or it is due to my ADHD and I totally forget. Those are literally the only excuses. This whole "anxiety" crap is a load of BS. Learn how to communicate EFFECTIVELY.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: People are just fucking stupid nowadays and don't understand communication.
yes, this is me.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: I will admit, the only people I don't respond to right away are either my boss or any of my co-workers because I don't want them to think that I'm the type of person that responds right away. This is because I don't want to have to take on extra shifts are cover shifts or any dumb shit like that. Sometimes I just won't respond at all and if they ask me about the text message I will tell them I never received a text from them. a lot of people have iPhones and iPhones are really not reliable with text messaging especially when they are sending texts to an Android phone. So that excuse actually does sound realistic.
When this happens usually they'll say hey did you get my text? I'll say what text? I never received it. I ask them if they have an iPhone and they always say yes. And then I say oh iPhones aren't really reliable with text messaging so that's probably why I never received your text. or I tell them oh you know iPhones are not reliable because they send a text as an iMessage and Android phones don't do iMessage so then the message never gets to them.
I think the best excuse to not responding to a text is just to tell the person that you never even received the text. Sometimes text messages just go into thin air and never get to the recipient.
The only legit times that I will ever completely forget to reply to a text is if I'm either high and I totally forget or it is due to my ADHD and I totally forget. Those are literally the only excuses. This whole "anxiety" crap is a load of BS. Learn how to communicate EFFECTIVELY.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: I will admit, the only people I don't respond to right away are either my boss or any of my co-workers because I don't want them to think that I'm the type of person that responds right away. This is because I don't want to have to take on extra shifts are cover shifts or any dumb shit like that. Sometimes I just won't respond at all and if they ask me about the text message I will tell them I never received a text from them. a lot of people have iPhones and iPhones are really not reliable with text messaging especially when they are sending texts to an Android phone. So that excuse actually does sound realistic.
When this happens usually they'll say hey did you get my text? I'll say what text? I never received it. I ask them if they have an iPhone and they always say yes. And then I say oh iPhones aren't really reliable with text messaging so that's probably why I never received your text. or I tell them oh you know iPhones are not reliable because they send a text as an iMessage and Android phones don't do iMessage so then the message never gets to them.
I think the best excuse to not responding to a text is just to tell the person that you never even received the text. Sometimes text messages just go into thin air and never get to the recipient.
The only legit times that I will ever completely forget to reply to a text is if I'm either high and I totally forget or it is due to my ADHD and I totally forget. Those are literally the only excuses. This whole "anxiety" crap is a load of BS. Learn how to communicate EFFECTIVELY.
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Totally unrelated but it's like people who are obsessive compulsive. Some people have absolutely no reason for the obsessive compulsive things that they do. Other people like me have very specific reasons for doing the things I do and I know my obsessive-compulsiveness might confuse people so I always like to try to explain why I like things a certain way and why I don't like it other ways. That way they understand and they don't think I'm just some crazy OCD asshole.
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I've had people leave me waiting for all kinds of time, so I don't really think there's any accepted universal rule. I try to get back to friends and family within 24 hours, ideally within a couple of hours or within the same day.
But really, I've had people leave me waiting for days or weeks, so I really don't feel bad at all about leaving people waiting however long I feel like. The whole advantage of texting is the fact that it's asynchronous and you can respond whenever you want. So I think if we all just take a step back, breathe, and chill, we can let people respond whenever they want and not feel bad about it.
Having said that, there are some situations where it makes sense to expect an immediate response, but those are really rare. Where you're like "hey dude, I'm in the parking lot, where are you?" and then there's no response, when they were supposed to be waiting for you or something. Or if you say "hey do you want me to pick up food?" and they're like "yeah" so you say "okay, what do you want?" and then they never respond. Situations like that are different, but those are rare.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: I think the best excuse to not responding to a text is just to tell the person that you never even received the text. Sometimes text messages just go into thin air and never get to the recipient.
The only legit times that I will ever completely forget to reply to a text is if I'm either high and I totally forget or it is due to my ADHD and I totally forget. Those are literally the only excuses. This whole "anxiety" crap is a load of BS. Learn how to communicate EFFECTIVELY.
Jesus mate you're a piece of work.
You suggest that lying is an effective way to deal with people, and then shit on people that struggle with anxiety by calling it a load of bullshit.
Words cannot express the disgust I feel for the way you've conformed yourself here.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: I think the best excuse to not responding to a text is just to tell the person that you never even received the text. Sometimes text messages just go into thin air and never get to the recipient.
The only legit times that I will ever completely forget to reply to a text is if I'm either high and I totally forget or it is due to my ADHD and I totally forget. Those are literally the only excuses. This whole "anxiety" crap is a load of BS. Learn how to communicate EFFECTIVELY.
Jesus mate you're a piece of work.
You suggest that lying is an effective way to deal with people, and then shit on people that struggle with anxiety by calling it a load of bullshit.
Words cannot express the disgust I feel for the way you've conformed yourself here.
There's a huge difference between a white lie and a full-out lie. I've heard the whole anxiety excuse from a lot of other people regarding text messaging. I don't understand it. The world is not going to end by sending someone a text. Texting has been around since like 2004 or 2005.
People don't know how to communicate nowadays sorry it's not my fault.
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for me it depends on the form of communication and on how close I am to said person. If it's a text, 1 day is enough to make me feel guilty. If it's an email a few days seems ok to me as I only check my email 1-2 times a week anyway
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Re: Reasonable response times [Re: Ezuma]
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Maybe they just don't particularly like you.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: People don't know how to communicate nowadays sorry it's not my fault.
Maybe they just don't particularly like you.
That's not the problem. Young people don't know that you're supposed to look people in the eyes when talking to them. They don't understand sarcasm, they don't know how to take a joke. These are things people who grew up in the 90s are well versed in.
This modern technology is tearing the fabric of society to shreds.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: There's a huge difference between a white lie and a full-out lie..
So telling someone 'I didn't receive the message that you sent (that I actually did receive) is a white lie is it?
Doesn't sound like it to me. White lies are by definition to avoid hurting someones feelings; is that what you were doing or were you just acting in a self-serving manner?
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OutsideOfMyMind said: I've heard the whole anxiety excuse from a lot of other people regarding text messaging. I don't understand it.
So you don't struggle with anxiety? So you don't understand what it's like to live with that demon?
Neither do I, so I sure as fuck wouldn't judge anyone that does.
Maybe you should try walking a mile in their shoes before you start casting your judgments over the millions that fight that beast. Asking questions and intently listening to the responses will help you get close to that walk.
Perhaps you should try and understand the human condition better before you act like you know what's best for all those stuck in it?
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I've had a lot of negative experiences with texting so everything I've said in this thread is just a reflection of that.
Work is different from everyone else. Frankly I liked it better when everyone had landlines when you never gave anyone your cell phone number except for your best friends. Frankly if I'm not scheduled to work that day, nobody from my work has any business texting me on my days off. I thought a white lie was basically just a small lie rather than a big one.
I do experience very mild anxiety from time to time but since doing psychedelics regularly I don't really get much anxiety anymore.
I know a couple of you people in this thread probably hate me now but please understand I've just had a lot of negative experiences with text messaging and so I have formed my own opinions on it. I didn't mean to offend anyone on here. I can be very blunt sometimes.
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Jokeshopbeard
Humble Student

Registered: 11/30/11
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Loc: Deep in the system
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Compassion man. Just like what we discussed in S&R the other day where you assumed that a single media source held the truth of any given situation; neither does your own experience hold the truth of any given situation.
Please try and understand that your truth - your experience - has very little reflection on the truth as it is for everyone else.
This human condition is so subtle and nuanced when considered from 8 billion different POV's. You'll learn so much more and become a far better/nicer/wiser person if you hold a space for that rather than projecting your stinking judgements over everyone.
Please, listen more.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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OutsideOfMyMind
LSD Self Administrative Director



Registered: 10/05/20
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Jokeshopbeard said: Compassion man. Just like what we discussed in S&R the other day where you assumed that a single media source held the truth of any given situation; neither does your own experience hold the truth of any given situation.
Please try and understand that your truth - your experience - has very little reflection on the truth as it is for everyone else.
This human condition is so subtle and nuanced when considered from 8 billion different POV's. You'll learn so much more and become a far better/nicer/wiser person if you hold a space for that rather than projecting your stinking judgements over everyone.
Please, listen more.
Yeah it is taking me a long time to become self actualized. The older I get the easier it becomes. But I've had a long fucking journey to get to this point. You're right. I should learn to stop looking at things only through my own eyes. I'm pretty good with empathizing but some of the negative experiences in my life have really jaded me. A lot of my negative texting experiences have been with stupid ex-boyfriends or stupid men that I've dated in my life. That's probably why it pissed me off so much.
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