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rustygrape
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Accepting depression?
#27020135 - 11/03/20 07:44 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm so tired of trying to fix myself and my depression.
Seems like everyone has their 2 cents on depression, and I'm tired of reading and hearing about what people think it is caused from.
I've been trying to improve myself for the last 5 years.
Lately, I've thought about just accepting depression will be in my life forever. There's a certain relief to that, because there's no fight in what you have accepted.
It's just the prognosis is very dismal, ya know. And I really want to experience joy on a more daily basis.
I don't know what to do.
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Re: Accepting depression? [Re: rustygrape]
#27020197 - 11/03/20 08:04 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Life changes, sometimes its better or worse, nothing lasts as long as we like to tell ourselves. Keep working on yourself. Be water
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skOsH
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That's how I currently feel, and how I imagine how my state of mind needs to be for the next...year or so, assuming everything doesn't go to crap and I lose my job again. I was so ready to get a new place, and then work on my self more often, and possibly become less depressed.
I think accepting depression could be a good approach, I guess those of us suffering from it will never be "let down" more than we already do get let down.
Sometimes I think the universe is really just shitting on me all the time, taking fat dumps, and it's so much, that I just have to be indifferent to all of it. Otherwise, I am just sending myself on a downward spiral and then I'm constantly upset
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Re: Accepting depression? [Re: rustygrape] 1
#27020514 - 11/03/20 11:35 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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“Compassion is but another word for the refusal to suffer for imaginary reasons.” - Sri Nisargadatta Mahara
The moment you abandon hope you are dead in spirit. Sometimes it takes a major change in life or a significant experience for you to realize all of the things you're taking for granted. Accept the present and most importantly, love.
-------------------- "An ignorant man is lost, faithless, and filled with self-doubt; A soul that harbors doubt has no joy, not in this world or the next." -Bhagavad-gita 4:40
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skOsH
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Re: Accepting depression? [Re: kneesocks]
#27020631 - 11/04/20 02:12 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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My spirits been dead for so long. I honestly think whatever my mind made in terms of a soul is completely shattered. I cannot even love myself, so I don't even know how to get started. Yes, I could he grateful that at least I have a roof over me and other things. Even accessing internet. But...I just feel...stuck. I'm not sure how else to explain it. I don't feel like progressing. I have many talents that I feel aren't good enough for the world so I do not pursue them that much. I've been writing a song, I guess it will be a single because I am just wanting to write one song, but I've been writing it for a year now. Most days I do not write, inspiration doesn't strike. That rhymed but it's not going in the song lol I am far too critical of myself to even create anything for others or whatever.
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tryptkaloids
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Re: Accepting depression? [Re: skOsH]
#27023575 - 11/05/20 04:25 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, the thing that has helped me the most is finding and building genuine connections with people, especially women because they are great at supporting their friends.
-------------------- "Remember, kids, the difference between science and screwing around is writing it down" -adam savage Flowchart for Recommended plan of action. Learn the tried and true way to grow mushrooms Use the Damn search engine After you know what you're doing, take a break Pick a book, Make some chips! Josex said:Don't take the site seriously bro, ain't worth it.
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skOsH
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I would love to be able to know how to do that. Lol
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tryptkaloids
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Re: Accepting depression? [Re: skOsH] 1
#27024009 - 11/05/20 09:03 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Start small, complement strangers on the sidewalk, become a regular to coffee shops and bars, become familiar with the staff, engage in pleasantries, ask them how their family is doing, just be pleasent. Get them to want to know who you are.
I got my current job and probably my favorite so far by becoming friends with my barista who became a manager at my favorite bar.
Always gift others with even as little as a smile and a wink.
Quote:
seek first to understand, then to be understood
- Stephen covey - the seven habits of highly effective people
-------------------- "Remember, kids, the difference between science and screwing around is writing it down" -adam savage Flowchart for Recommended plan of action. Learn the tried and true way to grow mushrooms Use the Damn search engine After you know what you're doing, take a break Pick a book, Make some chips! Josex said:Don't take the site seriously bro, ain't worth it.
Edited by tryptkaloids (11/05/20 09:04 PM)
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Hikeadellic
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I love your post. That's how I managed with going through mental shit. Stuffs been tough the last few months with current events making being genuinely social with people difficult
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