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Exstortion
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: babasau]
#27013914 - 10/31/20 02:01 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hopefully they come back around.... 😂 I was really looking at these pics deciding if I liked them or not for about 20 mins. I heard u swipe right to like someone but my dumb self though I started from the right and swiped. That’s a swipe left! Fk me 🤦♂️
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babasau
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LOL
try facebook dating bro
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Exstortion
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: babasau]
#27014131 - 10/31/20 03:45 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I’m gonna let it ride.. I have one date already setup for next week
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babasau
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Oh foreal? Congrats bro!
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Exstortion
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: babasau]
#27014296 - 10/31/20 04:57 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yea we will see if it happens. But if I got one in the first hour or 2. I’m not trying to sound like a douche but statically in a week I should have more. ( I’m not good with numbers)
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babasau
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Hell yah man! You def got a better record then me already! LOL
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Exstortion
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: babasau]
#27014699 - 10/31/20 09:41 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wish I didn’t ex off all those women that I did like at first... now that I think about it I was swiping right to the women I didn’t like 🤦♂️
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babasau
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LOL; well you got one date bro; that's 100% better than me right now! Proud of you cuz! go in there and just be yourself, if you're luck synchronicity will occur and she will be the one
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Exstortion
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: babasau]
#27015387 - 11/01/20 09:26 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Aye thanks I appreciate it. Keep on trying.. you will find someone if you put yourself out there.
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Jokeshopbeard
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I think dating apps are a curse, personally. There's a dynamic they add to the whole act of meeting someone new that is tainted with.. bad energy, IMO.
I've been plenty successful using them, but after a couple of years of doing so - in hindsight - I wish I had never picked the things up and instead focused my energies elsewhere.
Of course though; I totally get how much they can help in getting over a deep relationship. But after my experiences I would never recommend turning to them. Far more to be gained focusing on oneself.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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openmind
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Exstortion said: I’m 29 and I just got out of a 7 year relationship. I feel like I’m ready to start dating someone.....
Maybe it's just me...
But when I've been in a relationship for a while (several years) and break up with the person, I like to take some time to just be "alone" and be with myself and focus on myself for a while instead of trying to jump right back into the dating game and another relationship soon after I just got out a long relationship.
I find it super strange when people that have just got out of a long relationship try to start dating and looking for another relationship right after.
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Exstortion said: ....I was really looking at these pics deciding if I liked them or not for about 20 mins.
How do you decide if you like someone or not merely by looking at pics of them for 20 minutes? You've never met or talked with them before and you know nothing about them at all, how can one possibly like or dislike someone based off pics alone? Is that really how these dating apps work?
Pics of someone doesn't convey much...I'd never be able to figure out if I "like" someone or not just by looking at some pics of them.
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Jokeshopbeard said: There's a dynamic they add to the whole act of meeting someone new that is tainted with.. bad energy, IMO.
As someone who has been out of "the game" for a long while and doesn't even know where to cross paths with potential dates...
...I have considered trying a dating app....
....but it feels so damn artificial to me and takes away a tremendous amount of the "magic" and "thrill" and "unknowns" of meeting someone randomly and flirting and sparking up some energy and feeling the chemistry vibing then taking the guts to ask the person for their # and/or out on a date. What gets my heart pumping and butterflys fluttering and gets me all giddy are those first moments of chemistry between myself and another that lead up to one asking the other on a date. I feel like most of that would be non-existent if I was just flipping through a list of ladies to choose from and then I meet with that person and we both already know that we're looking for a date. The date is already happening and there hasn't even been any magic or chemistry happening. I dunno, the whole thing feels ass-backwards and artificial to me.
And the impression I get is that most dating apps are just people looking for casual hook ups & casual dating.....and that's not what I'm looking for. I'm not trying to hook up with someone after going out for just a single night. And I feel there is sometimes expectations of having sex with those dating apps.
I know some people have found their "soul-mates" through dating apps...but to me they just seem very plastic/artificial and I feel they would take away all the magic and thrill out of meeting someone new for me.
Also...the type of ladies I'm interested in, I highly doubt would be using a dating app.
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: openmind] 1
#27015785 - 11/01/20 01:43 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Totally agree with you, I want to meet real people not profiles
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Exstortion
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But how do you know if u like a person? First it’s visual attraction then getting to know the person
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Jokeshopbeard
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openmind said: And the impression I get is that most dating apps are just people looking for casual hook ups & casual dating.....and that's not what I'm looking for. I'm not trying to hook up with someone after going out for just a single night. And I feel there is sometimes expectations of having sex with those dating apps.
In my experience of these apps many are looking for much more than that; a good 20% of the profiles that I recall reading would stipulate that they were looking for something 'serious', which was an immediate turn off for me; for IMO it is a non-sequitur to look for something 'serious' through that medium. I feel it belies emotional instability and an unrealistic and entitled POV to state that from the get go.
The problem with someone of that mindset on an app is that one then gets considered like an applicant for a job; one is being sized up rather than being part of an enjoyable and magical meeting of hearts and minds.
my conclusion after my experiences is basically the same as yours; that the kind of person I am interested in meeting is simply not the kind of person that would use a dating app. The more successful I got at it the more I realised that most women that use them are really quite emotionally unstable people. Which is fine if you just want a fling but bad news if you want anything more than that.
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Exstortion said: But how do you know if u like a person? First it’s visual attraction then getting to know the person
I think the overt focus on looks is a big part of what adds to the toxicity of these platforms. People that have been using them for some time seem to become only more jaded by doing so. Approach with caution sir!!
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: openmind]
#27016253 - 11/01/20 07:24 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Im totally with you man. My girl and I have been together 4 1/2 years and I’m absolutely in love with her. We’ve had a really hard time too. Most people would’ve split up already but we don’t want that. I’d be totally devastated if I lost her and it would be a really long time before I could even imagine being with someone else.
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Exstortion
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It’s just wild with my ex. She told me yesterday I need to give her space but then she is calling me in the morning saying she bought a gym pass. So we went to the gym at about 7am. When we met I was a gym rat then I fell off. She seen me in the gym today and was making nice comments. So I don’t know with her but I’m still gonna play the field as a plan b
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Fiery
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You mean that people still want to have face to face with random strangers?
Ugh, back in the day you could literally throw up in someone's mouth and have them come back to kiss you
Now a days that means a possible herd immunity to the rona or the FASTLY evolving flu.
This whole thing is just a virus.
Everyone settle down.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Dating apps? [Re: Fiery]
#27016676 - 11/02/20 02:37 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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That' not even remotely relevant to this conversation.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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drinkkykeon
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Dating apps help date outside your social circles. I've found that people sometimes get trapped in a social circle and panic when they can't find anyone in there they want to commit to.
I met women I would have never encountered in my normal lifestyle. Often when you live a somewhat big city the grind of working to afford capital to survive is intense. The old ways of dating are no longer applicable to our society. A true blind date is impossible to achieve, too little courage left among our worrisome populace. The pursuit of true love on a dating app is a monumental task. Like Zizek says you "if you have reasons you love someone you don't love them".
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