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OfflineDarwin23
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Could you forgive your kids?
    #26998295 - 10/22/20 04:40 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Long story short, my step-dad was a very good parent to his sons and has always had a close relationship with them. His parents and sister have always kept a good relationship with them as well despite my step-dad and his kids living in Philly and his family living in El Paso, Texas. When the divorce was being finalized, they were 21 and 19. They'd hang out here pretty frequently and we all got along well. After the divorce was finalized in 2016, his boys immediately cut contact with their dad, his side of the family and us (my mom, my brother and I). He, his parents and his sister have consistently reached out these last 4 years. Only once did he get an answer from his older son one Christmas. The son started crying and saying he missed his dad and seemed open to fixing things. He stopped responding after the call.

My step-dad will still randomly breakdown or at family events. It's really hard not to hate them for it. At this point, they're 25 and 23. Even if their mom is lying and manipulating things, they're old enough to think for themselves and question what she's saying. My step-dad has always said that he's angry but can readily forgive them if/when they open up to reconnecting. What he thought he could not forgive was one of his parents dying before ever hearing from them. Today, his mom was found dead in her bed after dying in her sleep from natural causes.

Would you be able to forgive them in the same situation?

Tl;dr Step-dad had great relationship with his adult sons. After the divorce his adult sons cut all contact with him and his side of the family. Today, his mom (their grandma) died of natural causes having not heard from or seen them in 4 years.


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Re: Could you forgive your kids? [Re: Darwin23]
    #27001004 - 10/24/20 09:07 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I don't have kids so I don't know what that relationship is like. But I would imagine with enough time and effort, most things are forgivable. It just depends on whether both parties are willing to try.


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Re: Could you forgive your kids? [Re: Ima Trooper]
    #27001008 - 10/24/20 09:09 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Also you do not live in their shoes. Maybe they have a reason? I'm not defending them by any means but people usually have reasons for things....


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Re: Could you forgive your kids? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #27001053 - 10/24/20 09:58 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

It seems like some information is missing from the story

You dont go from "great relationship" to completely cut-off without reason


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