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Yukon Cornelius
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Well thank you everyone for your advice and contribution to this topic. Gave me some valuable insight into relationships and mental health.
However this thread has just become a slow spiral into the end of my relationship. It's unfortunate but that's the way these things go. She doesn't want to navigate a relationship while she's figuring out how to function on her meds.
There's some other factors that went into it, but that's ultimately the gist I got. Was a semi-amicable break up, and we're still friends. Small consolation for me since it will take me a long time to shake the fear of psych meds impact on relationships with any future partner.
Was willing to be patient but she felt that no matter what there would be a lack of reciprocation. I still blame the meds but ultimately her pursuit of mental stability isn't my choice to make.
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theRealrollforever
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I think 99 percent of cases of depression are circumstantial and also a sort of "learned helplessness" Science actually is starting to believe that CHEMICAL IMBALANCES result from a bad environment not vice versa. If you are psychotic I do believe medicating schizos and more severe medical disorders but I wish people would just try to believe they don't need a "quick fix" and to try some chemicals whenever they are bummed out. Life is up and down for everyone. Making it so you can never enjoy sex again is not a solution. I've seen when those meds are "effective" they just make the person numb to the reasons they are depressed. It's really sad. I commend you being a good guy but the mindset of switch from med to med to med that your girl has; I can say from personal experience that you are in for the long haul (miserable sometimes) after only a four month commitment I would steer clear man but I know how mesmerizing the pussy can be. Once sex becomes a problem in relationships they fall apart or become more of "live with the person" and coexist. There is no passion anymore.
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theRealrollforever
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Just read your post. You're better off man.
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Anti depressants are just a placebo that usually tend to make you want to think about killing yourself, whilst also screwing up with people's sex function.
That's why I don't bother with them, I already got both of those going for me
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theRealrollforever
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Re: Anti-Depressants and Sexual Dysfunction [Re: skOsH]
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Right
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Yukon Cornelius
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theRealrollforever said: I think 99 percent of cases of depression are circumstantial and also a sort of "learned helplessness" Science actually is starting to believe that CHEMICAL IMBALANCES result from a bad environment not vice versa. If you are psychotic I do believe medicating schizos and more severe medical disorders but I wish people would just try to believe they don't need a "quick fix" and to try some chemicals whenever they are bummed out. Life is up and down for everyone. Making it so you can never enjoy sex again is not a solution. I've seen when those meds are "effective" they just make the person numb to the reasons they are depressed. It's really sad. I commend you being a good guy but the mindset of switch from med to med to med that your girl has; I can say from personal experience that you are in for the long haul (miserable sometimes) after only a four month commitment I would steer clear man but I know how mesmerizing the pussy can be. Once sex becomes a problem in relationships they fall apart or become more of "live with the person" and coexist. There is no passion anymore.
While I agree with a lot of your post the thing that kept me from ending it at the first sign was the companionship. Sex is maybe 20% important for me in a relationship, the rest is crucial to be happy with a partner. How compatible we were is what kept me going.
Her switching meds was my suggestion anyway, because her psychiatrist was foolish in recommending SSNRI's as the first psych med for her to try. That shit is meant for very drug resistant cases of MDD, and she wanted it for mood swings basically. Then sabotaged her switch by not recommending a two week taper that's necessary to avoid the severe withdrawals people get from Effexor.
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theRealrollforever
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At least you know whatsup and are getting into. I was also dating someone on a lot of meds; albeit for completely different issues. How frustrating is it to have an MD know less than us? How the FUCK did they get their degree!? I damn near lost my mind with some of these docs
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theRealrollforever
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Sex is not everything but when it's MIA it is.
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theRealrollforever
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It's literally a physical NEED Like water or food.
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Nonagon Infinity
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Yukon Cornelius said: Well thank you everyone for your advice and contribution to this topic. Gave me some valuable insight into relationships and mental health.
However this thread has just become a slow spiral into the end of my relationship. It's unfortunate but that's the way these things go. She doesn't want to navigate a relationship while she's figuring out how to function on her meds.
There's some other factors that went into it, but that's ultimately the gist I got. Was a semi-amicable break up, and we're still friends. Small consolation for me since it will take me a long time to shake the fear of psych meds impact on relationships with any future partner.
Was willing to be patient but she felt that no matter what there would be a lack of reciprocation. I still blame the meds but ultimately her pursuit of mental stability isn't my choice to make.
Glad to hear you made the difficult, but correct choice for yourself (and probably for her). I ended a relationship on a pretty similar arc a while ago, and I think the personal growth I've gone through since that breakup has made it all worth it. Good luck, homie
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