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Alimash

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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: edgar1337] 4
#27146975 - 01/14/21 01:58 AM (3 years, 14 days ago) |
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I’m no ladies man I’ll preface this with that but I’ve never not been in a relationship since I was fourteen and that’s because I’ve never chased, what worked for me was looking at women more like friends or an equal not a prize or a goal, i never had the goal of sex but the goal of friendship and that’s always gotten me laid. Work hard for a life you’d be happy to live alone and someone will want a piece, they always do. Goodluck my friend.
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yeah


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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: Alimash]
#27149387 - 01/15/21 09:05 AM (3 years, 13 days ago) |
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I think I just had a girl tell me I'm hot for the first time ever and she lives in another country
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Alimash said: I’m no ladies man I’ll preface this with that but I’ve never not been in a relationship since I was fourteen and that’s because I’ve never chased, what worked for me was looking at women more like friends or an equal not a prize or a goal, i never had the goal of sex but the goal of friendship and that’s always gotten me laid. Work hard for a life you’d be happy to live alone and someone will want a piece, they always do. Goodluck my friend.
yeah that's cool and all unless online dating or cold approaching are your only options for meeting women
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: yeah] 1
#27149472 - 01/15/21 10:02 AM (3 years, 13 days ago) |
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Don't you ever go out with the soul intention of just meeting people?
Obviously in COVID world this wouldn't work but before that was our reality I could hardly go to a busy place without getting talking to a group of people and making new friends.
The trick is to learn to enjoy talking to anyone, and to look for any opening or opportunity to start conversation.
I didn't become skilled at this until I was in my thirties, but I'd wanted to be skilled at it for many years beforehand, as I'd always been envious of those I'd seen who could do it.
Point being, you can do it if you decide you really want it, and getting to be good with women is a wonderful side effect/bonus.
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#27149561 - 01/15/21 11:11 AM (3 years, 13 days ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: Don't you ever go out with the soul intention of just meeting people?
Nope. I pretty much only go out to train, shop, and walk. I don't even know what I'd go "do" if I was just trying to meet people. I don't drink and all the good shows are in LA. My new gym I train at has a lot more girls than the other gyms I've been at. I don't want to have a bad reputation at the gym for making them uncomfortable though so my mindset is to just be there to train. But now that I have that going for me and I just make friends with people there's always that possibility like you and others have said.
But there's also this:


The girl I just mentioned though is pretty cool even if it's just a long distance thing were doing. She got me feeling some kind of way but I'm trying to remain skeptical in case it comes to an end or whatever.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: yeah]
#27150180 - 01/15/21 05:26 PM (3 years, 13 days ago) |
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yeah said: My new gym I train at has a lot more girls than the other gyms I've been at. I don't want to have a bad reputation at the gym for making them uncomfortable though so my mindset is to just be there to train. But now that I have that going for me and I just make friends with people there's always that possibility like you and others have said.
A gym is an amazing place to meet people. Once you start seeing the same people regularly, nod/smile whenever you see them again. Once the introduction is made that way, start a conversation at the first opportunity; ask for a spot or perhaps even find out if/when they're training the same muscle group you're doing so that you might be able to train together at some point.
It literally is one of the easiest places to make new friends IMO. When I first moved here three years ago the gym was where I founded my whole friend group; to the point that we'll all (about a dozen of us, the 'core group' there) be hanging out after the gym tonight; eating pizza, drinking, smoking cigars, etc. Hell, when I make new friends outside of the gym I'll invite them to the gym to meet my gym friends!!
I've been so inspired by the community that can spring up around a gym that I've decided I'll be opening a gym myself one day!!
As for that graph - which looks like a very silly piece of confirmation bias to me - because after all, there's always plenty of single people, everywhere you go. As long as you're good at meeting people, then you'll meet who you need to meet. I've road tripped all across this country and I've met more single women women than I can count (and got involved with plenty of them too...)
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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mycot
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#27152583 - 01/17/21 01:58 AM (3 years, 11 days ago) |
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Wow, that's a crazy map. I wonder why single women dominate on the east ooast ?
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Kryptos
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: mycot]
#27153741 - 01/17/21 03:34 PM (3 years, 11 days ago) |
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Probably a bunch of other confounding variables.
Quick look at median age shows that the east coast is generally older than the west coast, and women have longer life expectancy. Note that they're counting "singles 20-64" in that chart. So I'd guess there's a lot of lonely old ladies.
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Re: I'm handsome, a body builder, and STILL can't find a woman [Re: edgar1337]
#27161049 - 01/21/21 09:52 AM (3 years, 7 days ago) |
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Edgar, all I can tell you is that based on this recent experience with a long distance lover...
just fucking move to Brazil. Rio or Sau Paulo. if a girl likes you over there you will know it's just American women, bro
fuck em
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