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TheShroomanizer
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Registered: 06/12/09
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Emotional shutdown
#26986397 - 10/15/20 03:24 AM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anyone else experience this?
My (now ex) we had what I believed was a good relationship, in fact we had talked about getting married with only financial reasons holding us back...I had always been good with expressing emotions and wanting to discuss them (especially as a guy from what I hear) but towards the end of our relationship (the last year) I noticed that she would literally just shut down...she wouldn’t show or express any kind of emotion...sadness, happiness, excited, nothing was expressed, she would acknowledge depression but only enough to go sit somewhere alone and never speak, not a single tear, just stare into oblivion...I used to blame myself for being unable to reach her on her level..I never got angry, just not that person, I was never pushy or demanding, but I had just never experienced someone so emotionally detached. I now believe that it was a defense mechanism she had learned from sufferings at an early age. Just wondering about others experiences and opinions
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ArthurFungarelli
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Registered: 08/29/20
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It does kind of sound like depression (full disclosure: I'm not a medical doctor or any other kind of doctor). I've read articles that indicate something like a third of the population (maybe just in the US, not sure where you are) might have depression caused, at least in part, by the pandemic and all the political stuff going on.
I've run into this in my own relationships and just tried to do what you've done by being supportive and trying to help. I think for my girlfriend, it's sometimes easier for her to talk to someone outside our relationship since she sees me every day, so maybe encouraging her to find some third part help would be a good idea.
I'm sorry I don't have a ton of great advice to give, just wanted to let you know you aren't the only one who has gone through it. Sending love.
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koraks
Registered: 06/02/03
Posts: 26,670
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Yeah, depression. Why, how, what exactly- we can only guess. But this is a fairly normal symptom of depression.
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