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Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? * 2
    #26977697 - 10/09/20 10:03 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I Was just thinking about this. Every day I go to work I ask every single co worker I walk into how their day has been.
I notice most people are depressed/tired and always keep to themselves but since I've been working and being positive(even tho deep down I am not but I'm trying my hardest) everyone's mood as a whole has slowly been lifting. I'm going to keep positive no matter what happens and treat every person I meet with respect and kindness to follow in my fathers footsteps. It really is infectious. It has taken a couple months but I really am noticing a positive change in the community because of my actions. I hope it causes a chain reaction of positivity that reaches everyone :shroomeryhead:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26977713 - 10/09/20 10:12 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I come back to watch this video every once in a while, it helps to lift my spirit


the uploader isn't actually the one in the video, he just compiled some good clips from the original youtuber Hamishpatterson high frequency tribe


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Kelazam]
    #26977722 - 10/09/20 10:21 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

:highfive1:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26977725 - 10/09/20 10:26 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Nah


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan] * 1
    #26977729 - 10/09/20 10:32 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Yea i do, even if people seem pissed or expectng conflict you can say just one considerate thing for them and see their tone of mood switch to green instantly


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26977772 - 10/09/20 11:34 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Nah



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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26977777 - 10/09/20 11:48 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

That would be negative, bro. What happened to the positivity


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26977802 - 10/10/20 12:24 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

No, not as actively as possible. That would be an indiscriminate expenditure of my own vitality. You can't help anyone until you help yourself.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26977810 - 10/10/20 12:30 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Well, I want to after coming down from mushrooms and during the following days.
It is important what you do I think. Reminds me to be less selfabsorbed.
I do try to spread some positivity though, but maybe my methods aren't the best


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: yeah]
    #26977812 - 10/10/20 12:32 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Being positive is a good thing. But I don't see the point in forcing a smile on my face, when I am in fact not feeling positive.

Also I live in a place where you ask 'how are you doing' and you either don't get a reply or people say 'I am fine' even though you can clearly sense that they aren't. I stopped asking because I don't see the point.

However, if you mean doing positive things  even though it's not your day I am totally with you.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Fridgedoor]
    #26977837 - 10/10/20 01:17 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Yes I do as much as humanly possible partially to make up for not feeling positive internally. I know things can be positive and so I spread that but don't feel it sometimes. Also when bad shit happens I'm not annoyingly positive


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26977868 - 10/10/20 02:10 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I used to, but since the quarantine began, I barely see anyone in person anymore. No real opportunity. God I can't wait for this shit to be over.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26978246 - 10/10/20 09:57 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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That would be negative, bro. What happened to the positivity



I knew you were going to say that lol


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: yeah]
    #26978248 - 10/10/20 09:58 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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No, not as actively as possible. That would be an indiscriminate expenditure of my own vitality. You can't help anyone until you help yourself.



I didnt say help :p I said just ask how they are. It's the smallest gesture yet it makes them feel like they matter.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26978589 - 10/10/20 02:04 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I spread very little
I mean I try to be kind to people I interact with, but outside of my friends and family, when not at work I really prefer not to have to see people much


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: yeah]
    #26979385 - 10/11/20 01:42 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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No, not as actively as possible. That would be an indiscriminate expenditure of my own vitality. You can't help anyone until you help yourself.




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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: koods]
    #26979398 - 10/11/20 02:35 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Positive reinforcement is sometimes hard for some people on the receiving end of it. Especially when you are around toxic people as the messenger. I always try to give people solid advice. Now that I'm not strung out from being in a toxic environment, I'm not sure the message is as clear since it's not coming from a place of distress and experience. It's way easier to accept people where they are, however. But if I know something you don't, it's doing a diservice to the person and anyone they associate with if I withhold that information.

I'm absolutely more positive at the shroomery in general than elsewhere though because it's easier to digest and articulate what I mean.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Shiithead] * 3
    #26979438 - 10/11/20 03:53 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

i will be blunt.

i absolutely despise hearing "how's your day been?".

hear me out!

every time i hear that, i will answer with "fine." or "ok i guess."

ask me if i'm living the dream" and you're likely to get a "nope, i'm not casting any spells or having adventures, so i'd say i'm not living the dream at all."

see, the thing is...i really, really hate mundane day to day crap. i don't want to talk about the weather. i hate small talk. i hate sports. i hate talking about cars, about girls (especially since i'm into guys <_<), about work... what i like to talk about, is the unusual.

the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it. i love learning new things, and discussing them with you, and comparing them to other things i've learned about! the world is full of interesting things!

but, gods, please, don't bore me with small talk. you won't cheer me up. you'll simply get a roll of the eyes. tempt me with your stories, and encourage me to tell my own, and you will bring a sparkle to my eyes in a way no simple "hows your day going" ever will.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion]
    #26979480 - 10/11/20 05:18 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

^^ this is beautiful. I love that approach.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion] * 1
    #26979889 - 10/11/20 11:51 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah i definitely get much more of the impression that people are just doing it for their own sake when they are trying to 'spread positivity' to me. Dont wanna deal with their gay ass hippy small talk just so they feel better about themselves. Them asking me how my day has been is nothing short of an awkward inconvenience, not a mood lifter.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26979892 - 10/11/20 11:52 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Motherfuckers accept my love :kingcrankey:


Edit: some of you need jesus.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26979896 - 10/11/20 11:56 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

My God is a God of positivity


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26979898 - 10/11/20 11:57 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Some people are genuinely kind and happy, though, a lot of people impute & project their own self state into the mix and are unable to see it.
I applaud the happy people, anything haters say is usually a reflection of themselves & not generally true of a genuinely  happy person.  :cheers:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: The Blind Ass]
    #26979904 - 10/11/20 11:59 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I think being happy is the key to living. If you are happy now you will be even happier later.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26979909 - 10/11/20 12:02 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Ever heard that song,

"you were sent from up above, but ment never to have love"

FU (whoever wrote it)


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26979913 - 10/11/20 12:03 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Being content & joyful about that contentment regardless of situational changes - not being complacent, nor high, nor low  - is more what I’m referring to.

If your happy in an earthly way, you will also eventually be sad in an earthly way - and Vice versa.  I’m not talking about that.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: The Blind Ass]
    #26979981 - 10/11/20 12:56 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Same. If you are happy in the moment you will be even happier when the moments get better.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion]
    #26979986 - 10/11/20 12:58 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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i will be blunt.

i absolutely despise hearing "how's your day been?".

hear me out!

every time i hear that, i will answer with "fine." or "ok i guess."

ask me if i'm living the dream" and you're likely to get a "nope, i'm not casting any spells or having adventures, so i'd say i'm not living the dream at all."

see, the thing is...i really, really hate mundane day to day crap. i don't want to talk about the weather. i hate small talk. i hate sports. i hate talking about cars, about girls (especially since i'm into guys <_<), about work... what i like to talk about, is the unusual.

the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it. i love learning new things, and discussing them with you, and comparing them to other things i've learned about! the world is full of interesting things!

but, gods, please, don't bore me with small talk. you won't cheer me up. you'll simply get a roll of the eyes. tempt me with your stories, and encourage me to tell my own, and you will bring a sparkle to my eyes in a way no simple "hows your day going" ever will.



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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26980159 - 10/11/20 03:07 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Motherfuckers accept my love :kingcrankey:




Keep your love to your friends and your loved ones. Leave everyone else the fuck alone


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26980298 - 10/11/20 05:16 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I was just pressing your buttons lol but seriously I'm not being so happy it is sickening. I'm just saying a general positivity about things. Most people are down and you can see it. If I show them that I am not down at least I am not adding to their downness.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26980309 - 10/11/20 05:23 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

sometimes i spread love. other times dont fucking speak to me... it goes either way


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26980318 - 10/11/20 05:32 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

No, spirit... that is a cry for help.  You need to press harder now more than ever.  Penetrate him with your love.  Show him everything will be okay.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: 1234go]
    #26980563 - 10/11/20 08:30 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I got you bro. Everything is gonna be ok :shroomeryhead:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: 1234go]
    #26980571 - 10/11/20 08:38 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

i'll be blunt.

when i'm cashiering at the check out line, risking my health by dealing with hundreds of customers a day, many who aren't wearing their masks properly by covering their freaking nose along with their mouth, or gods forbid, trying to throw the medical condition excuse to avoid wearing anything at all, i don't want to hear thoughts and prayers, or how brave i am for working at this time, or how everything will get better soon, or positive thinking crap.

i want to hear about you shanking our local GOP (or any corrupt politician, i don't care what their party is, just pointing out the elephant in the room) politicians in the back.  that would make my day.:cujo: ...ok ok, that's probably not going to happen. so i'll settle for you voting them out of congress, or at least calling them and screaming in their ear to fucking raise the minimum wage, getting them to employ and support safety measures to get this pandemic under control, and stop putting money over people's safety.

the government is there to serve the people. the people are not there to serve the government. no amount of positive vibes are going to change the world. if they did we'd be running our power grid off positive thinking. it's hard work and action that get things done, and such things are spawned by necessity, generally caused by, you guessed it, discontent.

you may not like it, but right now, i'm looking at this virus and giggling madly at the chaos it's causing, even while i hate the damage it causes to innocent lives, because i know that this is going to ultimately lead to a massive upheaval for the better in the long run, even if people won't see much of the benefits for years to come. as it is, it's likely going to cause a serious discussion in universal basic income.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion]
    #26980669 - 10/11/20 10:18 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Of course someone randomly turns this into a covid rant lmao


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Near Dylan]
    #26980695 - 10/11/20 10:51 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)



...sorry I had to, as this pops up in my head everytime I see this thread.

But in all seriousness. I am all for being positive. I just think it's not always possible to keep that mindset (at least for me). I feel there must be a balance in everything. Without negativity how can you know/feel what positivity is. Or would you even be able to appreciate positivity for what it is?

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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Fridgedoor]
    #26980763 - 10/12/20 12:04 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I live with an 85 yo man who has [undiagnosed] onset dementia. He asks the same question like 10 times in a 3-5 minute span and he's real moody and he has what I call obsessive compulsive personality disorder where it affects his ability to enjoy life because he's too focused on trivial mundane details and making everything perfect.

He complains about a lot of things but I try to get him to see 180° in a different way. He is slowly becoming more patient. He used to yell a lot more than he does now but I have gotten him to communicate a little more effectively by getting him to slow down for a second by not telling back and telling him to please communicate more effectively.

I used to be negative all the time so I understand the cycle. I appreciate people with empathy when I can.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: OutsideOfMyMind]
    #26992595 - 10/19/20 09:37 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

@near Dylan, you were right man. Being nice is tiring. I straight up told everyone I worked with last night I'm done being nice and not to expect me to ask how their day is going anymore cos at this point me asking everyday like clockwork has pavlov's dog'd them so now they are expecting it and I could tell the tripped out faces when I didnt ask lol

Edit: I'm fairly certain me trying to be as positive past few months was me projecting. I am not ok. I think I'm trying to fool myself into thinking that I am.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26992840 - 10/19/20 12:01 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

At work I have real easy method of communicating if I'm feeling positive, or if I'm pissed off/just want to bust ass.  They are called headphones.  If they are in, fuck off unless it is an emergency, if they are out or only in one ear, i'm open for some inane chatter.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Fridgedoor]
    #26993248 - 10/19/20 03:58 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Also I live in a place where you ask 'how are you doing' and you either don't get a reply or people say 'I am fine' even though you can clearly sense that they aren't.





When I was in a mental hospital the nurse asked me how I was, and I said fine, and he said FINE stands for, Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26993294 - 10/19/20 04:31 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Not as actively and directly as I could, but I do what I can to make people laugh because I've always found laughter to be helpful in adding levity to the day to day strangeness that is life. I like people, even though I'm not always as good to myself as I should be. Bringing laughter to people helps me by helping them.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Camwritesgonzo]
    #26993348 - 10/19/20 05:23 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I don't necessarily spread positivity, but I don't spread negativity either. With people I interact with I'm always kind and considerate, my outlook is positive. I find that many people are really in a very dark place though and spreading any positive energy on them is pissing in the wind. Best to let them be.

I even see it in modern films. Last night I watched a 2020 flick and almost every character wasn't very nice, just generally shitty people. It was billed as a dark comedy but it was far from funny. So many people irl match the stereotypes they portrayed it was more of a modern asshole cringefest.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: gopher]
    #26993777 - 10/19/20 10:35 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Also I live in a place where you ask 'how are you doing' and you either don't get a reply or people say 'I am fine' even though you can clearly sense that they aren't.





When I was in a mental hospital the nurse asked me how I was, and I said fine, and he said FINE stands for, Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional



I woulda said "well you're a male nurse" haha, what a faggot.

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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: BANANA.MAN]
    #26993861 - 10/20/20 12:20 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

i would've just said "fine. i'm fine then." and smiled.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: gopher]
    #26993897 - 10/20/20 02:33 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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When I was in a mental hospital the nurse asked me how I was, and I said fine, and he said FINE stands for, Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional




And if the patient says this is normal, that will be used as evidence they are crazy... Time for more drugs.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26994110 - 10/20/20 08:11 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I try my best to do so, but sometimes people get in the way, lol. Jk
Anyways, to anyone reading this, everything's gonna be alright, i promise :grin:, and if you have shrooms, then it's going to be better :mushroom2::mushroom2:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion] * 1
    #26994282 - 10/20/20 10:27 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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i will be blunt.

i absolutely despise hearing "how's your day been?".

hear me out!

every time i hear that, i will answer with "fine." or "ok i guess."

ask me if i'm living the dream" and you're likely to get a "nope, i'm not casting any spells or having adventures, so i'd say i'm not living the dream at all."

see, the thing is...i really, really hate mundane day to day crap. i don't want to talk about the weather. i hate small talk. i hate sports. i hate talking about cars, about girls (especially since i'm into guys <_<), about work... what i like to talk about, is the unusual.

the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it. i love learning new things, and discussing them with you, and comparing them to other things i've learned about! the world is full of interesting things!

but, gods, please, don't bore me with small talk. you won't cheer me up. you'll simply get a roll of the eyes. tempt me with your stories, and encourage me to tell my own, and you will bring a sparkle to my eyes in a way no simple "hows your day going" ever will.




"Small talk" is a social thing to do. Why be so negative towards something that is the average way of just being social and getting along in a social setting with random strangers around you? Why does every single conversation  have to be about what YOU like or consider important and full of interesting things? Why is it such a waste of time to be human and just relate on a surface level? Why can't that possibly lead to a phone number exchange and a possible friendship maybe even a mate? Why the fuck do people have to be so hard and into themselves when out in public?


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Camwritesgonzo]
    #26994366 - 10/20/20 11:26 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Not as actively and directly as I could, but I do what I can to make people laugh because I've always found laughter to be helpful in adding levity to the day to day strangeness that is life. I like people, even though I'm not always as good to myself as I should be. Bringing laughter to people helps me by helping them.



Yes! Same here. I try it in here a lot too. I'm pretty much the same in here as in person. I may say some things or divulge some info I wouldn't in person until I know you better, but I'm the same in person as in  here.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26994549 - 10/20/20 01:09 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it.




"Small talk" is a social thing to do. Why be so negative towards something that is the average way of just being social and getting along in a social setting with random strangers around you? Why does every single conversation  have to be about what YOU like or consider important and full of interesting things? Why is it such a waste of time to be human and just relate on a surface level? Why can't that possibly lead to a phone number exchange and a possible friendship maybe even a mate? Why the fuck do people have to be so hard and into themselves when out in public?




Bolded relevant part of my quote since you seemed to have missed it.  I don't make the conversation all about me. What I DONT care for is having 5he conversation be all about the exact same conversation I've had all day with a different name swapped in. I like variety in my mental diet, not "complaint about the weather #144". I'm more interested in the delights you've seen.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion]
    #26994729 - 10/20/20 02:40 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I did not miss it. I just don't understand why you would expect some random person to go real deep to a level of conversation that might not be what that person wants to talk about at the time or maybe they want to know someone a bit better before revealing some insight into their personality or thoughts. Small talk is a social way to traverse a social setting and if a person can't be bothered by another conversation about the weather or any number of small talk surface things then why would they even bother going into a social setting that could possibly lead to some small talk?

I mean, why waste energy on feeling that way? Why be that way? Do you realize that if you act like a sullen person that may change someones happy mood into a bad one? Some people may be fragile and just got the nerve up to go out and decided to talk to people that day and then run across a person with an attitude like yours and sense some snarkiness or whatever you might say or how you act toward that person and then it ruins their day in a way. Obviously a really happy person will just think "have fun with your anger/crappiness/shitty attitude etc..." (which is what I do) Why waste energy and time on something that is so easily alleviated?


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26994754 - 10/20/20 02:55 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Small talk stops the masses from knowing I'm one of "the other". Without it I would surely he tried for depraved and lascivious thoughts, then hung in the town square. Metaphorically speaking of course.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Northerner]
    #26994793 - 10/20/20 03:14 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I know!:smirk:
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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26995340 - 10/20/20 08:26 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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I did not miss it. I just don't understand why you would expect some random person to go real deep to a level of conversation that might not be what that person wants to talk about at the time or maybe they want to know someone a bit better before revealing some insight into their personality or thoughts. Small talk is a social way to traverse a social setting and if a person can't be bothered by another conversation about the weather or any number of small talk surface things then why would they even bother going into a social setting that could possibly lead to some small talk?

I mean, why waste energy on feeling that way? Why be that way? Do you realize that if you act like a sullen person that may change someones happy mood into a bad one? Some people may be fragile and just got the nerve up to go out and decided to talk to people that day and then run across a person with an attitude like yours and sense some snarkiness or whatever you might say or how you act toward that person and then it ruins their day in a way. Obviously a really happy person will just think "have fun with your anger/crappiness/shitty attitude etc..." (which is what I do) Why waste energy and time on something that is so easily alleviated?




shitty attitude? anger? lol. that's definitely not how i come across irl, as far as i can tell, nor anyone who meets me. i'm generally regarded as the person who makes other people laugh at work. i don't do it with small talk though - i do it because i don't bother with small talk. i get people to talk and open up about themselves - the things they like to do, the things they saw or did that day...stuff! maybe i'll see them buying a bunch of things and open up with "hey, is that a quiche you're making? i haven't had one of those in ages!" (and they'd be surprised at the lucky guess, leading to them talking about their cooking hobby and the fun new recipe their trying out.) or mentioning how labradorite is one of my favorite gemstones after seeing the stone in their pendant, leading to them talking about their rock collection.

it's just much more productive than talk of the weather, i find, which almost always leads to a dead end. or comments of how ones mood is, which is even worse. it either leads to "fine" or a torrent of complaints and negativity. venting can be good for the soul, but generally that sort of thing works better when you're venting to a close friend who can offer you emotional support and a long discussion to help you out, not a random cashier who's not able to offer you any lengthy discussion without the boss giving him the stink eye. <_<;;;


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26995592 - 10/21/20 01:01 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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@near Dylan, you were right man. Being nice is tiring. I straight up told everyone I worked with last night I'm done being nice and not to expect me to ask how their day is going anymore cos at this point me asking everyday like clockwork has pavlov's dog'd them so now they are expecting it and I could tell the tripped out faces when I didnt ask lol

Edit: I'm fairly certain me trying to be as positive past few months was me projecting. I am not ok. I think I'm trying to fool myself into thinking that I am.



Yeah man pretending to be something youre not and having people see u as the 'nice guy' aint never helped no one. Be who you are and do what you feel. Nothing is more respected than being genuine, and nothing puts people off more than phoniness. The hardest people to connect with are the people who are constantly trying to be as positive as possible. The world aint so sweet. Nothin is more relatable than some honest 'negativity'. It brings people together. Fake positivity only sets up a barrier. And makes people feel like they cant be themselves when they are around u. That shit is just non-human tbh. Like talkin to a used car salesman


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