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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #26993294 - 10/19/20 04:31 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Not as actively and directly as I could, but I do what I can to make people laugh because I've always found laughter to be helpful in adding levity to the day to day strangeness that is life. I like people, even though I'm not always as good to myself as I should be. Bringing laughter to people helps me by helping them.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Camwritesgonzo]
    #26993348 - 10/19/20 05:23 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I don't necessarily spread positivity, but I don't spread negativity either. With people I interact with I'm always kind and considerate, my outlook is positive. I find that many people are really in a very dark place though and spreading any positive energy on them is pissing in the wind. Best to let them be.

I even see it in modern films. Last night I watched a 2020 flick and almost every character wasn't very nice, just generally shitty people. It was billed as a dark comedy but it was far from funny. So many people irl match the stereotypes they portrayed it was more of a modern asshole cringefest.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: gopher]
    #26993777 - 10/19/20 10:35 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Also I live in a place where you ask 'how are you doing' and you either don't get a reply or people say 'I am fine' even though you can clearly sense that they aren't.





When I was in a mental hospital the nurse asked me how I was, and I said fine, and he said FINE stands for, Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional



I woulda said "well you're a male nurse" haha, what a faggot.

lmfao jkjk


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: BANANA.MAN]
    #26993861 - 10/20/20 12:20 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

i would've just said "fine. i'm fine then." and smiled.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: gopher]
    #26993897 - 10/20/20 02:33 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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When I was in a mental hospital the nurse asked me how I was, and I said fine, and he said FINE stands for, Fucked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional




And if the patient says this is normal, that will be used as evidence they are crazy... Time for more drugs.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26994110 - 10/20/20 08:11 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I try my best to do so, but sometimes people get in the way, lol. Jk
Anyways, to anyone reading this, everything's gonna be alright, i promise :grin:, and if you have shrooms, then it's going to be better :mushroom2::mushroom2:


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion] * 1
    #26994282 - 10/20/20 10:27 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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i will be blunt.

i absolutely despise hearing "how's your day been?".

hear me out!

every time i hear that, i will answer with "fine." or "ok i guess."

ask me if i'm living the dream" and you're likely to get a "nope, i'm not casting any spells or having adventures, so i'd say i'm not living the dream at all."

see, the thing is...i really, really hate mundane day to day crap. i don't want to talk about the weather. i hate small talk. i hate sports. i hate talking about cars, about girls (especially since i'm into guys <_<), about work... what i like to talk about, is the unusual.

the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it. i love learning new things, and discussing them with you, and comparing them to other things i've learned about! the world is full of interesting things!

but, gods, please, don't bore me with small talk. you won't cheer me up. you'll simply get a roll of the eyes. tempt me with your stories, and encourage me to tell my own, and you will bring a sparkle to my eyes in a way no simple "hows your day going" ever will.




"Small talk" is a social thing to do. Why be so negative towards something that is the average way of just being social and getting along in a social setting with random strangers around you? Why does every single conversation  have to be about what YOU like or consider important and full of interesting things? Why is it such a waste of time to be human and just relate on a surface level? Why can't that possibly lead to a phone number exchange and a possible friendship maybe even a mate? Why the fuck do people have to be so hard and into themselves when out in public?


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Camwritesgonzo]
    #26994366 - 10/20/20 11:26 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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Not as actively and directly as I could, but I do what I can to make people laugh because I've always found laughter to be helpful in adding levity to the day to day strangeness that is life. I like people, even though I'm not always as good to myself as I should be. Bringing laughter to people helps me by helping them.



Yes! Same here. I try it in here a lot too. I'm pretty much the same in here as in person. I may say some things or divulge some info I wouldn't in person until I know you better, but I'm the same in person as in  here.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26994549 - 10/20/20 01:09 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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the latest science discoveries. philosophy. stories. interesting hobbies you've picked up. newness, even (and especially) if it's weird. i don't care if your new thing is wiccan rituals, for crying out loud, so long as its not about trying to convert me and simply discussing the background and culture of it.




"Small talk" is a social thing to do. Why be so negative towards something that is the average way of just being social and getting along in a social setting with random strangers around you? Why does every single conversation  have to be about what YOU like or consider important and full of interesting things? Why is it such a waste of time to be human and just relate on a surface level? Why can't that possibly lead to a phone number exchange and a possible friendship maybe even a mate? Why the fuck do people have to be so hard and into themselves when out in public?




Bolded relevant part of my quote since you seemed to have missed it.  I don't make the conversation all about me. What I DONT care for is having 5he conversation be all about the exact same conversation I've had all day with a different name swapped in. I like variety in my mental diet, not "complaint about the weather #144". I'm more interested in the delights you've seen.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Psion]
    #26994729 - 10/20/20 02:40 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I did not miss it. I just don't understand why you would expect some random person to go real deep to a level of conversation that might not be what that person wants to talk about at the time or maybe they want to know someone a bit better before revealing some insight into their personality or thoughts. Small talk is a social way to traverse a social setting and if a person can't be bothered by another conversation about the weather or any number of small talk surface things then why would they even bother going into a social setting that could possibly lead to some small talk?

I mean, why waste energy on feeling that way? Why be that way? Do you realize that if you act like a sullen person that may change someones happy mood into a bad one? Some people may be fragile and just got the nerve up to go out and decided to talk to people that day and then run across a person with an attitude like yours and sense some snarkiness or whatever you might say or how you act toward that person and then it ruins their day in a way. Obviously a really happy person will just think "have fun with your anger/crappiness/shitty attitude etc..." (which is what I do) Why waste energy and time on something that is so easily alleviated?


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26994754 - 10/20/20 02:55 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

Small talk stops the masses from knowing I'm one of "the other". Without it I would surely he tried for depraved and lascivious thoughts, then hung in the town square. Metaphorically speaking of course.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: Northerner]
    #26994793 - 10/20/20 03:14 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

I know!:smirk:
:nursemaryjane:

I often find myself staring at chubby middle aged men in business suits wondering what they look like naked.


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26995340 - 10/20/20 08:26 PM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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I did not miss it. I just don't understand why you would expect some random person to go real deep to a level of conversation that might not be what that person wants to talk about at the time or maybe they want to know someone a bit better before revealing some insight into their personality or thoughts. Small talk is a social way to traverse a social setting and if a person can't be bothered by another conversation about the weather or any number of small talk surface things then why would they even bother going into a social setting that could possibly lead to some small talk?

I mean, why waste energy on feeling that way? Why be that way? Do you realize that if you act like a sullen person that may change someones happy mood into a bad one? Some people may be fragile and just got the nerve up to go out and decided to talk to people that day and then run across a person with an attitude like yours and sense some snarkiness or whatever you might say or how you act toward that person and then it ruins their day in a way. Obviously a really happy person will just think "have fun with your anger/crappiness/shitty attitude etc..." (which is what I do) Why waste energy and time on something that is so easily alleviated?




shitty attitude? anger? lol. that's definitely not how i come across irl, as far as i can tell, nor anyone who meets me. i'm generally regarded as the person who makes other people laugh at work. i don't do it with small talk though - i do it because i don't bother with small talk. i get people to talk and open up about themselves - the things they like to do, the things they saw or did that day...stuff! maybe i'll see them buying a bunch of things and open up with "hey, is that a quiche you're making? i haven't had one of those in ages!" (and they'd be surprised at the lucky guess, leading to them talking about their cooking hobby and the fun new recipe their trying out.) or mentioning how labradorite is one of my favorite gemstones after seeing the stone in their pendant, leading to them talking about their rock collection.

it's just much more productive than talk of the weather, i find, which almost always leads to a dead end. or comments of how ones mood is, which is even worse. it either leads to "fine" or a torrent of complaints and negativity. venting can be good for the soul, but generally that sort of thing works better when you're venting to a close friend who can offer you emotional support and a long discussion to help you out, not a random cashier who's not able to offer you any lengthy discussion without the boss giving him the stink eye. <_<;;;


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Re: Do you spread positivity as much as possible irl? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #26995592 - 10/21/20 01:01 AM (3 years, 3 months ago)

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@near Dylan, you were right man. Being nice is tiring. I straight up told everyone I worked with last night I'm done being nice and not to expect me to ask how their day is going anymore cos at this point me asking everyday like clockwork has pavlov's dog'd them so now they are expecting it and I could tell the tripped out faces when I didnt ask lol

Edit: I'm fairly certain me trying to be as positive past few months was me projecting. I am not ok. I think I'm trying to fool myself into thinking that I am.



Yeah man pretending to be something youre not and having people see u as the 'nice guy' aint never helped no one. Be who you are and do what you feel. Nothing is more respected than being genuine, and nothing puts people off more than phoniness. The hardest people to connect with are the people who are constantly trying to be as positive as possible. The world aint so sweet. Nothin is more relatable than some honest 'negativity'. It brings people together. Fake positivity only sets up a barrier. And makes people feel like they cant be themselves when they are around u. That shit is just non-human tbh. Like talkin to a used car salesman


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