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I'm not talking about the quarantine. I just feel alone, even when with people.
The sad part is that I at least do have people. I have a girlfriend, who I'm not totally in love with, but she is my best friend. I have a few friends I've been able to get together and play poker with. It just feels like every little thing irritates me.
I dunno; I have a few issues I've been working through in therapy and whatnot. I'm just curious if anyone else struggles to really connect with people.
Re: Does anyone else feel horribly alone? [Re: Anonymous #1] #26885845 - 08/17/20 11:37 PM (1 month, 1 day ago)
Yes, is the bottom line answer. But I can offer zero words of wisdom. I had a dysfunctional childhood and have also had some counseling which has helped. But I feel different from other people. They go out, laugh (at ridiculous things, IMO) dance, go to concerts (well, before COVID), and do all sorts of social things... I guess I'm just not a very social person. I'm an introvert who likes to think about things deeply and have meaningful discussions, so my friends think I'm kind of a drag. It's okay. It's not great, but I'm getting through. I figure eventually I'll find some people more like myself. Maybe then I'll be happier, I dunno. Good luck to you.
Re: Does anyone else feel horribly alone? [Re: Anonymous #1] #26885884 - 08/18/20 12:23 AM (1 month, 1 day ago)
My guess is that you are very empathetic and somehow translate the lack of empathy others show you as a feeling of isolation.
Expect nothing from others, as the vast majority of people are very selfish, anything you do recieve be thankful for, if you can get used to training your feelings in this way, you will always feel content.
Keep in mind my diagnosis is not nearly as important as my prescription, which is a healthy dose of joy right down in your heart.
And I am never alone when the joy is in my heart.
Re: Does anyone else feel horribly alone? [Re: Anonymous #2] #26885934 - 08/18/20 01:56 AM (1 month, 1 day ago)
Quote: Anonymous #3 said: My guess is that you are very empathetic and somehow translate the lack of empathy others show you as a feeling of isolation.
I like this, thank you for your insight. I was an incredibly empathetic as a child, almost to a fault, and although I feel like I've lost some of that it's likely I still give more empathy than I get in return. I should adjust my expectations accordingly, as you say.
I will do my best to cultivate joy in my heart, even when it is most difficult.
Re: Does anyone else feel horribly alone? [Re: Anonymous #1] #26918957 - 09/05/20 10:56 AM (14 days, 6 hours ago)
Yes, even before quarantine I was isolated. Now people are afraid to leave their homes and stand 6 feet away from another. Being close to your inner circle, there is anxiety you will get them sick or vice versa. The politicization of every problem is slamming the stake to further divide us. Being an introvert on top of it is tough. You're not alone.
I -highly- recommend a book- Quiet, The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking, by Susan Cain. It really helped me.