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Buckomcdoogle
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Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? 1
#26929266 - 09/11/20 01:24 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I haven't....
Anyway, I have this co worker that is deciding to go for it...
I hate being pessimistic and cynical about love.
But it almost feels like im watching a car crash in slow motion.
What are some experiences you've had with this?
My money is on this guy quitting/losing his job within a week or two.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Buckomcdoogle]
#26929272 - 09/11/20 01:31 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Fucking idiot, huh?
Being in a relationship is bad enough. Maybe if they are lucky they will work the same shift, move in together, and see each other 24 hours a day. Smart.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#26929343 - 09/11/20 04:18 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hasn't worked for me. I confessed my love for a coworker turned employee of mine during quarantine and she reciprocated. I had the most loving month of my adult life then she changed her mind overnight for various reasons and it got ugly. The friendship almost ended but now we're almost back to normal at work. Nobody has any idea what happened but us, and it hurts to see her every day. She's getting promoted out to another location and will have the same job I do, but it was a mistake for me to say anything. I'm glad I did and I'll always remember that time together, but I'd say don't do it if there's actual love involved.
If it's just sex and both of you are totally fine with that, go for it. But if feelings are involved keep your mouth shut or find another job before pursuing relations.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Newbie] 1
#26931224 - 09/12/20 05:02 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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They usually don't work out. Non-work relationships don't either.
So you might as well just go for it, enjoy yourself while you can, and don't delude yourself with thoughts about everlasting love.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Brian Jones]
#26931357 - 09/12/20 08:10 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I won’t say relationships don’t work out. My parents were co workers and they’ve been together ever since and I’ve never seen people as in love as they are. Same with other family that I have. It’s not common but it happens and they are proof that ever lasting love does exist.
Did I mention he was her boss also?
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Edited by poofdargon (09/12/20 08:14 AM)
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: poofdargon]
#26931411 - 09/12/20 09:06 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I tried it once, fwb with the office butterface. It was fun at first until she started talking about “us and we”. I never made any promises other then fwb. Anyway to make the long story short she went psycho at work and made a big scene. Although I didn’t get in trouble, I found another job. It was awkward as fuck seeing her every day. The moral of story is never stick your pen in the company ink.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Antigov]
#26931483 - 09/12/20 09:51 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Guess my parents were the exception than the rule. I would normally agree in any other instance, just avoid doing so.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: poofdargon]
#26931748 - 09/12/20 12:34 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Started working with a girl about 12 years ago, used to have a laugh. As a group we would go out on nights to the city drinking with other colleagues. Then started meeting for coffee and getting quite close.
Long story short, we have been together ever since, been married 6 years, we are best buddies and love what we have become as a family.
Must add that we haven't worked together for 5 years now as my wife is the main carer for our youngest who has health issues.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: herbie]
#26931871 - 09/12/20 01:47 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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That’s sweet.
I know what common wisdom says is right but there isn’t any hard and fast rule on what to do.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Buckomcdoogle]
#26934692 - 09/14/20 08:20 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but it's kind of awkward if the relationship goes south. There are some places where dating co-workers is against company policy or whatever, so that's definitely something to consider.
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Tight Lunchbox]
#26935693 - 09/14/20 06:07 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Buckomcdoogle]
#27073228 - 12/05/20 09:49 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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It's possible. However you kind of have to realize that any long-term relationship can be just as stressful as any work day. you kind of just have to mentally separate the two I've been in that situation before and it made for s***** work day working with someone you broke up with... And it goes without saying Time heals most things. you just have to look at it like a big kid and say hey it was worth a shot now I got to focus on work.. Or..... I met my wife 12 years ago at work. we worked together and dated for about a year and then she got pregnant and quit our son's 11 and work did suck without her. She was also batshit crazy like an ex-girlfriend for a while because of the pregnancy... Work at work, home at home. sometimes people don't really want to spend time with, end up having to be part of our lives whether we like it or not. I believe it all comes down to how well you're able to control your emotions and not do something like quit your job because you're new ex-girlfriend works there too. My wife and I are best friends a good team and we enjoy being around each other for those of us that have worked out for I guess it's best for us to remember that we are the lucky ones.
Edited by KentheGromp (12/05/20 09:52 AM)
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: KentheGromp]
#27074309 - 12/05/20 10:12 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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The vast majority of relationships don't work out. It's just that when the shit does hit the fan, if that person happens to be a co-worker it's a lot more inconvenient.
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split_by_nine
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Buckomcdoogle]
#27076370 - 12/07/20 12:06 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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i married my co-worker 4 years ago
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: split_by_nine]
#27080056 - 12/09/20 08:17 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tons of people meet at work. And when the relationship works they usually stop being co-workers. Which is not a big deal. It's just a job, you could lose your job for countless reasons, it may as well be for good sex...
I started dating my boss in 2017. I made a long thread about it here. Now we own a home together. The relationship worked out but the job didn't. She left the employer and I was promoted to her old position, which came with a 20% pay raise for myself. She moved on to a different employer where she is happier, and received a 30% pay raise. So I cant really say it didn't work out, even though there were some growing pains along the way...
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Re: Have you ever heard of a co worker relationship actually working out? [Re: Mojo]
#27080198 - 12/09/20 10:11 AM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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yeah thats what happened with me. soon after we married i stopped working there lol
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