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Bph
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To group sex or not....
#26922542 - 09/07/20 07:31 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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So long story short my girlfreind and I were set to be married this month. It got called off cause who wants to be married during all this bullshit? It put a serious strain on our relationship for the last month to say the least. We are pretty wild in the bedroom and often talk about having sex with other couples or whatever but its just that. Talk. Then last night she invited her lesbian "freinds" out for drinks. They were a cute couple just a little young. I'm 36 my fiance is 30. The girls were 24 and 26. After some drinks we were all having a good time so I invited them over to smoke. They both moved here from San Francisco last month and hadn't found smoke yet so they were happy to. After that shit started to get wild. One of them had too many drinks and the weed just put her to sleep so we wound up calling a cab for them but when they were gone my lady says I would have let you fuck both of them.... I didnt say shit to that but in my head I was about to explode with excitement. Now I'm sure if I put any effort into this it will happen. My delima is.. Is it worth risking my relationship for a night I'll never forget? Cause truth is we are both the jelous type. Someone's gonna get their feelings hurt, no doubt. But the relationship is on the ropes anyway maybe this will make or break it? Anyone out there had group sex and it not ruin the relationship? I mean damn. Having 3 girls is obviously something id love to be a part of but at what cost?
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Bph]
#26922573 - 09/07/20 07:54 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Be careful of STIs
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Bph
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Lol. Yeah that too.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Bph]
#26922797 - 09/07/20 10:39 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Go for it.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: bodhisatta]
#26922804 - 09/07/20 10:45 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well absolutely do it...forever is a long time to live with the regret of not doing it.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: bodhisatta]
#26922807 - 09/07/20 10:49 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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talk sober with your lady about what she is ok with. I had group sex with my fiance and two girls and we both decided only PIV for eachother but everything else was fine. some weird feeling for a few weeks after but good communication is the only way group/swinging stuff will work. good luck
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Bph]
#26922949 - 09/07/20 12:20 PM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Unless you're willing to let her get used by some thick salami then I'd say you're not in the right place to be doing such a thing. Especially if you're the jealous types. For all I know she was testing you by saying that.
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“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.”
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Telling someone they will regret not doing something is shortsighted when the result could very well be he ends up alone. This is called weighing your options. Saying, "You're damned if you do, damned if you don't" is something you say when you don't understand the gravity of a situation. Few things are equal. So, the question isn't "Should I or shouldn't I?" The question is "Can I handle any possible consequences?" Based on what he's said the answer is no.
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That quote is surely open to personal interpretation, which is what matters here-- if he does anything other than what he truly wants, he may very well wonder what he would have done had he not taken another's advice. No matter what man, you'll regret it if you don't do what you truly want and understand that that is what alleviates regret.
OP, do you want to check out of this relationship? From what you write, it seems like it-- calling off a marriage and then considering a 4-some at the perceived detriment of that relationship.
And if that is who you are, why are you hiding yourself from your potential life-long partner?
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Roflspammer] 2
#26927770 - 09/10/20 07:41 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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“I would have let you fuck them? “
Why would two lesbians want to get fucked by a guy?
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: koods] 2
#26927824 - 09/10/20 08:25 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's what I was wondering.
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Based on your narrative, I'ma go out on a limb and say it's probably good you didn't marry her. That being said, go make experiences that you want to have as memories.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Bph]
#26932880 - 09/13/20 05:57 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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If you guys talk about it more and she agrees then so be it.
If it just happens without talking about it some more, then you'll possibly lose her.
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I have a feeling she said she would let you fuck both of them, because she knew both of them are lesbians and wouldn't fuck you.
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Bph said: Cause truth is we are both the jelous type. Someone's gonna get their feelings hurt, no doubt. the relationship is on the ropes anyway
You have your answer, my friend. That's a hard and fast no.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: PsilyZee]
#26984589 - 10/14/20 07:06 AM (3 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well. If anyone is interested we didnt go through with it. I let her know I was more than a little atracted to the young Mexican girl and that was the only reason I was even entertaining the idea. The fact is I was already a little upset and distrusting simply because you even brought them into our life. The only thing we all had in common is sex drive. I'm a 40 year old from the Southern sticks they were 24 year olds from Southern California. I lived there for most of my 30s but my wife has never been out of the hills. The most exotic place she has been is dollywood lol. I'm just not comfortable enough to watch my girl be pleasured by another person. No matter how hard the thought makes me the reality will fuck me up in the head. Quote:
PsilyZee said: I have a feeling she said she would let you fuck both of them, because she knew both of them are lesbians and wouldn't fuck you.
Sexuality is a spectrum and girls are often closer to the middle than guys are. Everyone was def trying to fuck eachother but I know myself. Once I cum I come to my senses. Shit I still hold a grudge against a girl in high school that cheated on me. Not that I want too just when I see her in town all I think is "fucking nasty whore" lol. We are cool and I act accordingly but in the back of my mind I cant let it go. I wish I was diffrent but I am who I am. Keeping my faimily together is more important than what I'm sure woukd have been the best sexual experiance if my life.
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Not sure why it posted anonymous LOL doesn't do a lot of good when your first post isn't anonymous
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Its never too late to go Anonymous 
OP, sounds like you are the jealous type. In that case, it was a good call not to go thru with the orgy experience. U would probably have PTSD by now
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So many people have so many STDs and STIs now. Everyone has sex with everyone now because it's so easy to get laid online more than ever. According to statistics, all of the top best looking bachelors are getting laid with a different person nearly every single day of the week. A lot of them are even having multiple hookups in one day. People nowadays have no pride in themselves. It's no wonder so many people are depressed nowadays and have self-esteem issues.
Edited by OutsideOfMyMind (11/05/20 12:56 AM)
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Who keep those kinds of statistics
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: koods]
#27022512 - 11/05/20 01:34 AM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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koods said: Who keep those kinds of statistics
Tinder and other app and online "dating" or hookup platforms. I know PornHub keeps statistics on what different demographics people search for. They have statistics showing millennials are not as interested in breasts as generation x and baby boomers. The millennials that do like tits tend to search for fake tits whereas the older generations usually watch videos with natural big tits.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: According to statistics, all of the top best looking bachelors are getting laid with a different person nearly every single day of the week. A lot of them are even having multiple hookups in one day.
Riiight. No.
Don't be silly.
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Quote:
OutsideOfMyMind said: So many people have so many STDs and STIs now. Everyone has sex with everyone now because it's so easy to get laid online more than ever. According to statistics, all of the top best looking bachelors are getting laid with a different person nearly every single day of the week. A lot of them are even having multiple hookups in one day. People nowadays have no pride in themselves. It's no wonder so many people are depressed nowadays and have self-esteem issues.
This is same kind of rhetoric I see from many who seem to have 0 success at getting laid. It normally goes something like this:
1. Women are all dripping in STD's 2. All women lie and cheat 3. There's some kind of special breed of uber-jocks who get all the women they want and there's nothing left for anyone else 4. Being a nice person means women will walk all over you 5. All women get fat the moment you settle down with them 6. Etc, Etc
Please don't go any further down that path OOMM, it's ridiculous.
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OutsideOfMyMind
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Quote:
Jokeshopbeard said:
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OutsideOfMyMind said: So many people have so many STDs and STIs now. Everyone has sex with everyone now because it's so easy to get laid online more than ever. According to statistics, all of the top best looking bachelors are getting laid with a different person nearly every single day of the week. A lot of them are even having multiple hookups in one day. People nowadays have no pride in themselves. It's no wonder so many people are depressed nowadays and have self-esteem issues.
This is same kind of rhetoric I see from many who seem to have 0 success at getting laid. It normally goes something like this:
1. Women are all dripping in STD's 2. All women lie and cheat 3. There's some kind of special breed of uber-jocks who get all the women they want and there's nothing left for anyone else 4. Being a nice person means women will walk all over you 5. All women get fat the moment you settle down with them 6. Etc, Etc
Please don't go any further down that path OOMM, it's ridiculous.
I actually was not going to get any further at all. But it looks like you got ahead of me.
Actually when it comes to tinder, only the most attractive people are finding hookups because the apps have become saturated with only good looking people. These apps have been around for a long time now so only the most successful users have continued using it. Average and below average people have stopped using those apps. Tinder and online hookup apps are basically playgrounds for std's.
Edited by OutsideOfMyMind (11/07/20 02:15 AM)
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bodhisatta 
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That's simply not true at all lol. Ive got gnar dudes in the shipping department that successful use tinder.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: bodhisatta]
#27027310 - 11/07/20 05:46 PM (3 years, 2 months ago) |
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Bro there is more than one version of "attractive." Sure its normally distributed but you're living in a heterogenous population so everyone is an outlier
Anecdote: I was asked to be the third party on a tinder threesome last week. All I did was swipe left and a bombshell foreigner and her boyfriend invited me to explore their sexuality. Was really fun-- you just have to be straight up and avoid hiding your true sexual self
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OutsideOfMyMind said: Actually when it comes to tinder, only the most attractive people are finding hookups because the apps have become saturated with only good looking people. These apps have been around for a long time now so only the most successful users have continued using it. Average and below average people have stopped using those apps. Tinder and online hookup apps are basically playgrounds for std's.
What absoluute and utter nonsense. Nothing could be further from the truth.
You've fallen for #3 on my list it seems..
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Jokeshopbeard said:
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OutsideOfMyMind said: Actually when it comes to tinder, only the most attractive people are finding hookups because the apps have become saturated with only good looking people. These apps have been around for a long time now so only the most successful users have continued using it. Average and below average people have stopped using those apps. Tinder and online hookup apps are basically playgrounds for std's.
What absoluute and utter nonsense. Nothing could be further from the truth.
You've fallen for #3 on my list it seems..
To be honest I got my information from a vice episode so I wouldn't really be surprised if it is completely wrong.
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LOL, don't you think it kinda... dumb.. to listen to a media source and then parrot it like it's gospel without having at least checked in some way if it's even remotely valid?
This world would be a lot less confusing if everybody who does that stopped doing it. I know many that do just that; and that's right what 'they' want us to do.
I used Tinder on and off for a couple of years so I can tell you from first hand experience that if is absolutely nothing like you've been told it is.
Oh and just to add; I was very successful in my time on Tinder (and I'm average looking BTW) and tests confirm not one STD.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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I'm sure it doesn't apply to every single person who uses tinder.
I guess my sources are a little biased.
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But the way you said it; with such certainty, even though you had no firsthand experience...
Imagine you say that to a youngster that doesn't know any better and doesn't question it; they take it on board, their confidence gets knocked, and perhaps then they don't even try to use it and so miss out on some amazing experiences and confidence boosts, all because you read an untruthful source and repeated it like it was truth.
Do you not see how it is inherently harmful for you to do that?
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Well I have used grindr which I have not used in at least a few years. I was never into that sort of stuff so I just stopped using it.
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Re: To group sex or not.... [Re: Bph]
#27084829 - 12/11/20 11:15 PM (3 years, 1 month ago) |
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A group encounter "can" only enhance what you already have. If it's bad it will go all wrong. If you have a healthy trusting relationship and have good communication with your partner it can enhance and empower your relationship. That is only through the act of sharing selflessly. Set boundaries ahead of time and do not ever cross those boundaries. If you handle things in a respectful and fair way you may have many opportunities to explore and reset boundaries.
My advice is talk to your partner. Especially talk to your partner about fear of jealousy. Also leave alcohol completely out of the situation. If you need it for something like that you'll potentially end up with regret and puking isn't sexy. Trust me, you want to remember encounters like that.
Good luck and follow your heart always.
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Freedom is not the right to do as you please, but the liberty to do as you should. ~Emerson
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